WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2023

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  • kymarai
    kymarai Posts: 3,702 Member
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  • LisaInArkansas
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  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,847 Member
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  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,713 Member
    Well folks, I went online to book my train tickets for tomorrow and found that they are on strike! I don't know how that info escaped me! Good job I looked and didn't just turn up at the station tomorrow morning. So I've informed my friend and I've cancelled the lunch booking. The restaurant were very nice about it and obviously knew before I even said anything.
    That's the second cancellation for this meet up. :o
    DH'S cricket friend and his wife are taking us out to lunch in Brighton on Friday. They will park here and get the bus in with us. It's to celebrate his 70th. So maybe it's a blessing! I am not personally disappointed, but I had psyched myself up for it. I was just about to wash my hair. :p

    DH took the car around the corner for a service this morning. Literally around the corner. He brought the car new 6 years ago and paid upfront for 5 years service. This is the first time he has had to pay for it. He thinks they are very nice and they didn't charge too much for two oil changes. They brought the car back. I suppose a very local firm depends on its local reputation. It's a tiny little place.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,817 Member
    Kim - Ooouuuffff!!!! What a journey! Sending the biggest hugs.
    I think there are different friends for different occasions. Some are practical, some are a listening ear, and others are good time gals. Horses for courses. :p I was of no practical use at all for my friend L when she lost her partner, and had a hip operation, but I was able to listen to her crying down the phone and I know it was a help to her.
    People can only give from the resources they have inside them. I have learnt not even to expect DH to be able to always show up in ways I would like. Some things he just can't emotionally do. Others he is super good at. For others he needs reminding! I think it's good to have a range of friends and not to expect everything from the same person. Why not go out on the town with your avoidant friend! Like in a movie. :p

    I hope you get a chance to draw breath and recuperate before some other demand comes up. I agree with Tracey's meme. All we can change is our response to crisis and suffering.
    Much, much love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    I understand this so much! I too have specific friends and family I open up with problems I'm dealing with. I can just text "sneaker wave" and my eldest sister will call me. She too calls me when she is overwhelmed. I am grateful we have that connection now. 🤗💖👍🏼
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,097 Member
    Bless poor Miles he slept for 3 hrs ,its nice and quiet ,no screaming or yelling ,the cats and dog are sleeping and all is well.
    Im taking Dan to visit a friends after taking care of Miles..i grew up with her mom ,it is my friend Doris' granddaughter and great granddaughter we are going to see..
    Then home to put stuff in the dryer..
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,192 Member
    edited May 2023
    Kim, I am so happy to hear your mom has healed enough to go home and you have survived! I understand there were times you didn't know how you would.
    I sure wish dh would speak up to his mom and not continue to let her bully him. 6/10 will be one year since her fall and he is still over there at least twice a day for well over an hour or close to two hours each time. At least he isn't there 24/7 like he was the first 5-6 months, what ever it was.
    She no longer physically needs him there twice a day but she wants him there, serve her meals, do the chores she is more than capable of doing. If it only affected him I would say- hey, he is a grown man at almost 60 yrs old. He needs to put his foot down or just deal with it and shut up about it. Problem is that he brings the stress/bitterness/anger home. Every single thing revolves around him and him being at his mom's.


    edit- wrote this last night and forgot to submit I guess.
    Hoping for a calmer day but doubt it. He said he has to spend the whole day over there trimming her bushes and trees so she doesn't have to pay someone to do it. She threatened to go out and do it herself if he didn't do it. 87 and on a ladder. He fell for the threat and is heading over.
    She says it is his fault she has to hire someone because he didn't take care of them sooner and they are too big. She told him last week there was no rush and now this. Always the same

    Tracey- not a fan of the language but oh, the meaning sure is true. (That is the language he uses all the time even though he knows it really bothers me-the more mad he gets the more he does it and the louder he gets)

    Finally get to go walk the wetlands after a four day break. Weather should be cool but hopefully not too windy at 65degrees at the warmest today.
    Have a lot of things around the house that should get done and I will work on something but a big procrastinator today(and always it seems)

    Have a wonderful Tuesday.

    Debbie
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  • 1948CWB
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  • pipcd34
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    auntiebk wrote: »
    Note to self: do not eat an ounce of salted peanuts on the way to arterial ultrasounds. They take your blood pressure 😮 and rat you out to your PCP 😡
    Barbara AHMOD 🐶

    I took pcp?
  • dcresider
    dcresider Posts: 1,272 Member
    Hi all. Would love to join this group. Will there be a "WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2023at some point?
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,659 Member
    edited May 2023
    bwcetc wrote: »

    Sitting in an infusion center with my son. He’s suffering again from migraines … they’re affecting his work attendance and that has to stop.

    Very dry here near Buffalo. No rain in the forecast for awhile means watering a few plants tonight. The grass is going to go into hibernation early. You should see the masses of “helicopters” the Maple Trees are producing and releasing! Going to need a shovel to clear the driveway!

    Not doing well with my eating… I think I’m just giving up …

    Beth

    Beth - our maples started helicoptering last week and it's been pretty wet. I think our PNW drought is about to start though.

    What type of infusion are they giving your son for his migraine?

    Did I ever post the Bob & Brad featured video about using an ice pack on the carotid to stop migraines? I thankfully haven't had one in ages but it seems it would help. I remember I had a cold pack on the back of my neck and on my forehead/over my eyes when they'd get bad. Who knew I should have put them on the side of my neck?

    Lanette
  • Vickil57
    Vickil57 Posts: 1,882 Member
    Mary--What a mess. I understand how you feel about what they might do next. I pray they leave soon and that is the end of it.
    Karen--Great picture! I remember when you were working with him, so glad to hear he is doing so well now. You had a lot to do with it.
    Kelly--Sending big hugs and prayers for you and your sister. Glad DH was able to help. Given a chance most the time they do well. I know my DH tries when I give him the chance. Giving up control is not easy.
    Pip--good job and puppy looks so happy.
    Rori--Glad you are home and had a good trip.
    Ginny--What a neat message with the humming birds.
    Allie--I have been wondering this for awhile. But so much attention is given to Miles. Neg attention is better than no attention. Just a thought. Threats are nothing to mess with and at this point they all need to take it serious. And they know how to keep you by not facing facts and dealing with them. It will always be something. I have been there and it comes a time when you have to do what is best for you first as they won't until you drop over dead.
    Tracey--Congradulations on winning the prize. What a nice surprise.
    Debbie--HUGS!! and prayers for Destiny and her family.
    Kim-- Happy dance for you and all you have learned. I know you are a stronger person now and have no regrets.
    Beth--Don't give up, just take things one day at a time.
    Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE <3
  • Rosemarie2972
    Rosemarie2972 Posts: 493 Member
    Skimming through. The blog moves so fast. Too tired to take notes. Worked with the cats this morning and will again tomorrow morning. I have the grand dog a black lab and he is well behaved. Thursday I have to be on the van early to get to the Atlanta airport. Wish I wasn't so tired. About to lay down for a nap.....at 5:16 pm.....and hope I have some energy when I wake up. Thinking about everyone and wishing every one the best.

    Best,
    Rosemarie from Georgia
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,899 Member
    Flea - I'm so sorry that your mother's death had to be accompanied by strife from the family. Your energy is so precious, it shouldn't be split this way. It's why I went to the effort to establish the trust. Right now, neither feels they want anything from us, but who knows what a decade or two can bring. This way, everything belongs to the trust, nothing to our kids. This way, hopefully there won't be acrid arguments and demands, and their relationship will continue after we're gone. Deaths somehow bring entitlement out of the woodwork.

  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,606 Member
    B) Just passing through!

    Carol in GA