WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MAY 2023
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(((hugs))) to those who need them.
Oh shoot, Debbie. I am so sorry. I watched the video from the George Marks Children House. It looks absolutely lovely and made me cry.
Of course, I've been doing a lot of that this weekend. It's Shawn's 8th angelversary and this one hit me hard. Not sure why unless it's because Kolten is a teenager now. It's all gone so fast. It doesn't help that it's always the day before our wedding anniversary and I was hoping to spend today with hubby and he goes off fishing. lol Mind you, he did bring home flowers and take me out to dinner last night, so that was wonderful. Just thought we might do something today since it is a holiday. So, I'm feeling a little sorry for myself.
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN11 -
Carla I am sorry that you are hurting at the loss of Shawn💕 when you love deeply, you also hurt deeply💕(((Hugs)))
💕Mary from Minnesota/Arizona6 -
A little birdy told me I had been missed. I apologize for any concern and appreciate to reach out! I have been crazy busy with activities and work (trying to stay caught up or catching up to enjoy weekends!)
May 7th, despite the rain, we went to Lawrenceburg, IN to a car show for ALS. In spite of the rain on the way, we had a wonderful time!
Mother's Day weekend was full of my favorite things....
Rainbows at our house
Iris blooms for the first time since transplanted from MIL's old flower beds, plus the other flowers hung and planted
Ignore my toes, but this butterfly really liked me!
I felt this one the next day-oops!
The following weekend was the Shelby show in Nashville, Indiana. Oldest granddaughter went with us. It was hard for me to remember that she is 20 y/o! We had lots of fun in the sun!
Her first time here she didn't even reach half way up this owl!
Doing what she loves!
After missing two days of work, still behind heading into this weekend, but headed to Indianapolis to go to the Indy 500 with my brother and some friends. First Indy race ever! Was thankful someone else drove to and from track! Had a blast! If went again, would not only stay the night before, but also the night after. Was a long 2 hour drive home last night after race.
I haven't weighed. I am doing better drinking water. I am walking lots. I AM GOOD!
I will try to read to catch up but really need to do some paperwork, I don't know where May went but the weekends were FUN!
Love to all!
Healthy thoughts!
Hugs just because!
Kylia
In Ohio avoiding work
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Kylia ~ So nice to see you! Yes, it sounds like you have a wonderful busy month. Thanks for the pics. Your front of house looks marvelous with all the pretty blooms
Carol in GA1 -
LisaInArkansas wrote: »Snowflake1968 wrote: »I washed my windows outside today, DH bought an extension washing system. It was quick and easy. I washed all of the inside as well except the bedroom and craft room.
Tracey in Edmonton
Tracey - Can you post an Amazon picture or link for the extension washing system? I truly despise washing windows, and anything that makes it easier would make me happy. When son John still lived with us, he and Corey washed the outside windows and I did the insides, but that was at least three years ago and possibly four. I was seriously thinking about hiring someone to do it, I hate it so much.
Lisa in AR
Here it is. I just put vinegar and water in a bucket and went to it. I also hosed most of the windows first to get a layer of dust off. My outside windows hadn’t been done in too long to mention.
Tracey
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So sad about Destiny. I’ll keep everyone in my thoughts and prayers.
2023 Mindful May
Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate all the people who died in war so we could be safe and free.28. Do something special and revisit in your mind tonight. Called my mom and considered the conversation.
Exercise goals added
Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 1/15 100%,100%,80%,73%)
Walk 7,000 every day 18/31 (84%,86%,94%,93%)
6 min HIIT -1x a day start April 1- 0/31 (93%)
Arm weights twice a week 0/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow, hurt my shoulder 30%,50%)
Meditation: daily. 13/31 (82%(started Feb)94%,100%)
Feeling overwhelmed this month. Taking a break from the list above until I feel more in control. I am also having a bursitis/arthritis/tendinitis attach this month. Doctor prescribed something for me to try.
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 8/8–(100%,100%,0%,0%,0)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 10818, 8171, 8856,8315, (7,700,100%-9851,100%—9526,100%—-9,559,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 3/2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 64/208/ —(100%,100%,100%,50%should be 86 by June1)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)40/94 (100%,100%,100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4 (100%,100%,100%,0%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 16/15 (100%,88%,100,100%,100%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 20/12 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——5/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 )(100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200 (100%,100%)
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met
June met
July met — met
August met
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—
1. Do something kind for someone you really care about. I need to think about this and plot! I gave my son a gift card to Netflix. He needed something to make him smile.
2. Focus on what you can do instead of what you can’t. I will try. Did this.
3. Take a step toward an important goal no matter how small. I have to think about this. I did not buy beer today. Working on not enabling my DH.
4. Send a friend a photo of a time you enjoyed together. DONE!
5. Let someone know how much they mean to you and why. It’s my brother’s 59’th birthday today. Going to call him. We never really call each other.
6. Look for people doing good and reasons to be cheerful. Will do! And found them all over all day!
7. Make a list of what matters most to you and why. Did this in my journal.
8. Set yourself a kindness mission and help others today. Do this every day
9. What values are important to you? Find ways to use them today. Will try.
10. Be grateful for the little things, even in difficult times. It is hard right now but trying.
11. Look around for things that give you a sense of awe and wonder. There is plenty here at the park. Wondering how a cave could turn into a lake.
12. Listen to a favorite pieces of music and remember what it means to you. I will try to remember to do this. Did not have time.
13. Find out about the values or traditions of another country. Sounds like fun! I looked up Canada and specialty Quebec where my family originated.
14. Get outside and notice the beauty in nature. I love doing this!
15. Do something to contribute to your local community. Helped a homeless man today.
16. Show your gratitude to people who are helping to make things better. Will watch for this. Did this to school group’s surprise visit to the park.
17. Find a way to make what you do today meaningful. I try every day by helping people find campsites in emergencies.
18. Send a hand written note to someone you care about. To be completed. Did not finish.
19. Reflect on what makes you feel valued and purposeful. Did a grateful meditation on the Balance app this morning which helped me do this.
20. Share 3 photos of things you find meaningful or memorable.
21. Look up at the sky and remember we are a part of something bigger. For sure! I walked the dog at 3AM and looked up at the vast night sky. I was able to see the Milky Way and billions of stars. Awesome view.
22. Find a way to help a project or charity you care about. To be reviewed
23. Recall 3 things that you’ve done that you are proud of.
24. Make choices that have a positive impact on others today.
25. Ask someone else what matters most to them and why. Will try to remember. I asked my daughter this.
26. Remember an event in your life that was really meaningful. I have, a bad one, but a good one right behind it!
27. Focus on how your actions make a difference to others. This happened yesterday when a camper experienced a medical emergency. I was there to help and comfort the wife and assist with the husband.
29. Today do something to care for the natural world. I watered my plants. Does that count? [spoiler
30. Share a quote you find inspiring to give others a boost.
31. Find three reasons to be hopeful about the future.[/spoiler]
RVRita in NM
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The hospital where Destiny is did a prom for the kids a few weeks ago.
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I am on page 33, but skipped to 69 to catch up a little more....
Allie You have to stay strong for you. It is so hard to let our children be adults. I have one that is appreciative for little things and one that just doesn't show appreciation at all! It is frustrating. I did provide childcare for the first grand for two years. My youngest daughter worked nights and her DH was in the Navy on a carrier. Every few weeks I would say time out and she would make arrangements with friends. She was easy and I was younger! I couldn't do it now.
Destiny Prayers continue. She has put up a long, hard fight.
Work really is calling my name, but now so is window washing! LOL!
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Hi All.
I've just been reading along and trying to keep up. Admittedly, I'm doing terribly.
Debbie, So sorry about Destiny. How heartbreaking.
Kelly, Hugs
Allie-You are in a terrible situation. I have no advice. I do know several girls who were sexually abused as children. I don't know Carmine's situation and it may not be that at all, but it very well could be bullying or some other type of abuse. I agree that psychological pain is so much harder to deal with and it sticks around. Hopefully the family will find help soon.
Tracey-I'm glad you are getting a break for work. That's a tough situation. I've been there and quitting was the best thing I did for myself. Take care of you.
Thoughts and hugs to others that need them.
Tina in CA
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To the Ladies in Canada. We are considering a trip to Calgary and Banff. Any recommendations for what areas of the city (near Scotiabank Saddledome preferably) are nice to stay for tourism? Also, any resort recommendations in/near Banff? We will probably stay 4-5 days in Banff and a couple in the city.
Thank you!
Tina in CA about to go east where there is hopefully some much-desired and needed sunshine.
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Afternoon ladies
Im still here after a load of laundry,and got dressed and did my pills for the week.
But lordy being at that picnic yesterday sent my nose and head into fits.. im sneezing and all.stuffed up..I guess I could take a benadryl, but not really supposed to take much of that..and there is a breeze blowing..I could go outside but would have to wear a mask.
Very tired today..
Kylia- so great to see you we have missed you...
An adorable pic of Destiny im praying for a peaceful transition for her..I wonder if there is any make a wish thing she would want.2 -
Thanks, Tracey!0
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Snowflake1968 wrote: »LisaInArkansas wrote: »Snowflake1968 wrote: »I washed my windows outside today, DH bought an extension washing system. It was quick and easy. I washed all of the inside as well except the bedroom and craft room.
Tracey in Edmonton
Tracey - Can you post an Amazon picture or link for the extension washing system? I truly despise washing windows, and anything that makes it easier would make me happy. When son John still lived with us, he and Corey washed the outside windows and I did the insides, but that was at least three years ago and possibly four. I was seriously thinking about hiring someone to do it, I hate it so much.
Lisa in AR
Here it is. I just put vinegar and water in a bucket and went to it. I also hosed most of the windows first to get a layer of dust off. My outside windows hadn’t been done in too long to mention.
Tracey
Thanks for posting this Tracey. Having a hard time washing my windows from the outside trying to balance on a ladder. This is exactly what I have been looking for. Just ordered it.
Joy3 -
I told you we decided to sell our house. We were in a rent to own contract with our tenant. She has first option. She will get close to $8000 toward her down payment. My question for everyone here is that we made the contract with her only. Last year her dad made the comment to my husband that if she couldn’t buy it, he would buy it on a VA loan. Since we don’t have a contract with him, he would not legally get the $8000 towards his down payment. Or, what would you do? Remember, this whole family has been extremely mean and rude to especially me. My husband thinks that we should give him something off. I think it’s karma catching up with them if she can’t get it on her own.
💕 Mary from Minnesota/Arizona3 -
So sad to hear about Destiny. Praying for a miracle.
Hugs and prayers to those who need them.
My Fitbit AltaHR bit the dust mid morning I have replaced it with an Inspire 3. It was dead easy to set up wirelessly.
☘️ Terri3 -
How I love my coffee station
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grandmallie wrote: »Afternoon ladies
Im still here after a load of laundry,and got dressed and did my pills for the week.
But lordy being at that picnic yesterday sent my nose and head into fits.. im sneezing and all.stuffed up..I guess I could take a benadryl, but not really supposed to take much of that..and there is a breeze blowing..I could go outside but would have to wear a mask.
Very tired today..
Kylia- so great to see you we have missed you...
An adorable pic of Destiny im praying for a peaceful transition for her..I wonder if there is any make a wish thing she would want.
Destiny did have something in the works from Make a Wish. The first was a trip but her brother and sister couldn't go so they didn't do it. The second was to meet a star from one of her favorite tv shows. Don't think that happened and now it sounds like it is too late.5 -
Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 2hrs 3min 46sec, 89elev, 2.98ap, 81ahr, 103mhr, 6.20mi= 610c
Strava app = 759c
Zwift home spin bike- strava stats- 1hr 6min 22sec, 140aw, 892elev, 18.6amph, 116ahr, 137mhr, 20.53mi= 465c
Strava app= 534c
Zwift stats- 1hr 6min 23sec, 895elev, 140aw, 59arpm, 20.5mi= 535c
Total cal 10752 -
So sorry for Destiny and her family. Praying that they approach this situation with wisdom and as much grace as possible. I cannot imagine.
Flea
Willamette Valley, OR3 -
Anniesquats100 wrote: »Margaret,
My dad's church does a pet blessing every year and he always wants to take my little Teddy. I went once, and the animals were all uneasy to terrified. Too many bodies at once and no personal space, like a zoo with no cages and the animals two feet apart. I stayed on the fringe, and never went back.
I trimmed the long hair off Teddy's ears but I missed a lock. It looks like a little rat tail. He wiggles a lot and I'm scared the scissors will poke his eyes. His ears are so tiny now! But I got the mats out. Next I will tackle his little armpits.
My new laptop behaved well for my zoom last night. Yay! I was quite nervous about it. Now to decide what to do with the old one. I should reset it and wipe the hard drive clean, but that would mean destroying my book. I stopped working on my book over a year ago, and I don't think I will ever go back to it. But wiping it out is so final. I had about two chapters of a murder mystery.
Well, today I need to exercise, and maybe clean up my room a bit. And figure out dinner.
Have a great day ladies! And in the US, remember those who died in service to our country. And enjoy the holiday!
Annie in Delaware
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Hi Gals,
Well, Friday late afternoon the chapter of having my Mom living in my home finished. My nephew and his girlfriend came and picked up Mom and her stuff and took her to her home.
I had a drink with a friend, she fixed me her mom’s favorite cocktail, a “Dirty Mother” which is a shot of tequila, shot of Kahula, and a shot of milk – sounds awful, but was good and VERY strong.
Saturday, Sunday, and Monday I have done the things I want to do, which was some laundry, a ton of yard work, a long hot shower, and meals when I wanted and what I wanted.
This chapter started on March 1 with a fall, March 2 surgery, March 21 move to my home, and May 26th move home. A lot of learnings, some changes, and I will never be the same.
Silver Linings and learnings
My sister and I are back in communication. I understand the dysfunction within my family at a brand new level.
I have learned to quickly and with kindness set up boundaries – some with family (those are harder) but with others (my mother has friends with no respect – and they were quickly set straight – this household doesn’t accept calls or texts at 1 and 2 am for anything short of an emergency).
I saw the best most caring side of some of my friends. I also developed a new understanding of the care giving role and how much those folks should be supported. I was asked “what can I do to help” more than once and rarely could come up with anything. The 2 things that helped the most were a friend saying I am out doing errands I will be at these 4 locations do you need anything from there – specific clear and let me mentally go through the list and say yes. Also was the call saying I am bringing you frozen soup, is there anything your mom can’t eat? (we know each other well enough she knew my eating habits) I will do these when it is time for me to offer support.
Changes-
I have lost 7lbs, some of it tied to stress, but much of it tied to every meal being home cooked. No pre made anything… and while that is my “normal” what was different is that I only ate 3 meals in 10 weeks that I did not cook. And my Mom doesn’t get enough nutrition via food, so the meals were heavy on veggies, light on carbs and heavy on proteins. She spent some time at every meal making sure that I knew how fat I was so I often left the table hungry. I did get good at fitting in extra veggies to help with the hunger and they were easier to get by my food police mom. Some of this will be hard to maintain, but I will be trying!!!!
I have fit in exercise a lot more in daily things, no loading my arms up when bringing in groceries. 4 bags = 4 trips. Any way I could make an extra trip, bend down an extra time, march in place while waiting, even do wrist circles or other stretches. Standing up with out pulling on something or pushing off of something has become natural.
While I saw the best in some friends, I saw the worst also. So that will need some reevaluation. I have a friend that went “underground” when she found out I was caregiving and would text every 3ish weeks, when she heard that I was still caregiving went back into silent mode. Yesterday she texted and I told her mom had gone home, it was suddenly do you want to go do something? Never once in the months did she ask how Mom or how I was doing…. I learned a lot about that friendship. I am sure I will learn more as I have time away from the intensity of the time.
I have been mentally cheering for each of you as this time has gone on. It will take many months to recover emotionally and financially, but I will recover stronger.
Smiles,
Kim in N. California
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Kim - So glad you're back to being Kim, and I know you are too. I know your recovery isn't complete, but I'm glad you're able to begin.1
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Kim I am so happy that you are able to rest. I hope you’ll find time to recover as the days go by. ❤️. (((Hugs)))
Katla0 -
Kim- so glad you can get back to being you xoxo
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Kim-glad you are on the other side. I think it is excellent the way you are examining what was learned/gained from the experience. Even in the bad we can find good. Concentrate on you now.
Machka-no ideas on power queries. They do sound rather interesting though. I mainly deal with straight money/financials/budget.
Kylia-you have been having some fun! Was thinking I would have to head over that way and track you down but given no last name, business name, street, nope-won't happen! Plus not overly familiar with Bellbrook.
Tina-sometmes keeping up on this is tough! Don't beat yourself up over it.
Mary-I think your deal was with the tenant-not the family. Do you think you will have trouble selling it to someone else?
Annie-why not save book to flash drive and copy it over on new lap top? Do Windows computers let you deal with cloud? You could save it there also. But for sure no reason to lose the book,
Not much new here. Fairly productive long weekend. Had good visit at SIL cookout yesterday-mainly visiting with nephew who I love dearly. Unfortunately he is a drinker and it has a real hold on him. He is aware of it and doesn't cover it up. Great guy-just sick. But we had some laughs together he remained pretty coherent.
Off to get ready for bed. Short weeks at work always mean busy.
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio
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My DH commented on two things today. He appreciated that you all were talking about window washing which put the thought into my head (even if it was procrastination from work paperwork). The second was that I felt "motivated" to actually do it!!!! He assisted by cleaning the screens and moving some furniture out of the way. Then he did 3 of the windows while I was at massage. I am happy tonight.
This may seem like not much for most, but for me, it is monumental! In the past month I have maintained a routine of face washing and moisturizing both day and night. I did this by finding a makeup that I like and using it most days. I have dusted and vacuumed the house. I stripped, washed, made up, re stripped and re-washed the linens on the beds that my brother and his friend slept in. I am not putting back on until we have guests again. Just made with the comforters. My windows and screens are clean for the first time in two years (usually done twice a year). I may not have things "perfect" but I feel pretty good today. You have all been my backbone even though I wasn't checking in as I should. I knew you were there!
Kim I have read to be specific in requests in times of trauma, illness, and or grief. I need to get better at that! Congratulations on completing that leg of your life's journey.
Much love,
Kylia feeling content in Ohio
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Ginny You would have and are welcome to check in anytime! Last name Wilson, Work is Centerville Gravely in Centerville right off of 675 and rt 48. That is where I am most of the time. We do live outside of Bellbrook in the country. Funny...my DH asked why my FB page has so many names on it. My response was that I have friends and family that have known me through each name change so Kylia Givens Jordan Wilson it is. It makes finding me easier. I also understand about short weeks being busier, yet I haven't prepped for that yet- oh well.4
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Off to take my walk, but first want to be sure that it will continue to be cloudy. Weather.com says that it will
Happy Memorial Day to everyone in the US
This is absolutely ridiculous. Memorial day and we have the heat on. Stupid. Can’t wait to get in my pool. Watch that it turns hot really, really fast.
Made more of the fudge for Vince.
Allie – my heart goes out to you. You are doing as much as you can (and probably should) do.
Carla – happy anniversary
Kylia – lovely house you have. Thanks for the pics, you and hubby look great. I, too, have one child who doesn’t show appreciation at all. Doesn’t even check her mailbox to be able to tell me if she got a gift from us or not (I won’t mail any more). Now Jess calls almost every day.
Speaking of Make a Wish, Newcomers is collecting gift certificates for them. I gave them a gift certificate to – guess where – yup, BK.
Kim – how wonderful!!!!
Off to watch some TV then take a shower.
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When my neighbors husband was ill/dying, they had family coming in. She was very stressed about getting things cleaned up as she was spending most of her time at the hospital. I went over and stripped all the beds, started laundry at their house and mine, and remade the beds. Washed all the towels and cleaned the bathrooms. The cat had gotten accidentally locked in the pantry and had bags and cans everywhere. Fortunately, I love to organize so I went to town and organized the pantry. Two other neighbors came over then and I left them to sweep and mop the floors and dust. We all cooked a few things to load the fridge up. When she got home that night she said she sat down and cried because her
house smelled good and was clean.
Okie in the TX Hill Country
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