WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2023
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »
cityjaneLondon wrote: »Yes, I try to remember to compliment DH often. And I always thank him for every small thing he does for me. So important. I try to give him the same respect that I would with a valued guest. This morning, that involved coming down from the top of the house to give him a hug and say goodbye and wish him well.
With my first husband, I was neglectful of all that. I allowed criticism to be a way of life. When I went on a course which told us to spend a week without criticising our partner, (he didn't know about the instructions), he told me that he felt so much better at the end of that week.
Contempt is the biggest killer of a marriage.
Making small 'bids' towards your partner, noticing when they make a 'bid' and responding to it. Appreciating their love language. Yesterday DH said that we should go out for a meal one day this week. That was his bid to say, we need some 'close' time to do something together.
Sometimes it really does work to 'fake it till you make it'. If I make the effort to be loving, it usually turns out that I am.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Heather - Insightful * Inspiring * Like * Hug
Accountability:
Tomorrow is "accountability" day. If anyone wants to be added to my post, please message me today.
I have changed my criteria. I have often said, I don't care if the scale shows I weigh 800 lbs, if I can fit comfortably in my favorite pants, that lying scale be d@mned. I mean it.
I'll keep tracking how close or far I am from my goal range just for data, but not obsess over that pound or two up or down.
I'm starting to feel the same way about the tape measure. How can my waist be an inch or two larger than last week and my pants fit comfortably around the waist? Same with the hips - loss of an inch, ten years ago would have been great. Now, still tight - I guess I'm not taking into account the extra baggage in my saggy rear, lol. Gravity.
Have a great Sunday, peeps. Hug the one you love. Love the one you're with and all that.
Lanette
SW WA State
Our shapes do change as we age.
In 2015, when I dropped to the weight I had been in my early 20s, and I got out the clothes I had been hauling around since then (my skinny clothes), I couldn't wear some of them because although I was the same weight, my shape had changed.
It's natures way of telling us to update our wardrobes.
I didn't gain a bit during my trip, but I have edged up just slightly since I've been home ... I haven't been moving much. Back to work tomorrow, and it will likely drop again.
Machka in Oz5 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »Can I post a video from my Facebook on here that you could see? Or do I have to make it public first?
I've found that Facebook videos don't play well with MFP. But you could try. And yes, it would have to be public.0 -
dlfk202000 wrote: »SophieRosieMom wrote: »Debbie - I didn't get anything from you, so I just messaged you. Hopefully you got it and can hit reply. Somewhere in outer space is a whole lot of messages that never made it to their destination.
Lanette
I don't see any messages from you(or anyone for that matter)- It should be where the bell is, right?
No ... click on the blue words at the top that say "myfitnesspal" and when that opens, look for messages.1 -
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dlfk202000 wrote: »SophieRosieMom wrote: »Debbie - I didn't get anything from you, so I just messaged you. Hopefully you got it and can hit reply. Somewhere in outer space is a whole lot of messages that never made it to their destination. Lanette
I don't see any messages from you(or anyone for that matter)- It should be where the bell is, right?
No ... click on the blue words at the top that say "myfitnesspal" and when that opens, look for messages.
thanks!!
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Machka - I’m sure I’ve said this before. I started reading this group just after your husband’s accident. He was in a coma for probably the first 2 weeks I was reading along. I kept coming back to find out how he was doing and was amazed at how you were handling it while holding a job, having to travel back and forth to the hospital.
It amazes me how far he has come. I’ve always looked for your posts because I admired how you were getting through.
The first thing I do when I come through the door.
Usually it involves taking the bra off. 😂
We have a peninsula in our counters just as you come in the door. Everything gets piled there. Including whatever I have in my hands when I walk in the door. I tend to clean it when I get home because if that’s clean the rest of the house looks clean.
Heather - enjoy your day while DH is at Cricket.
Ginny - I cook more like you than Heather.
Lanette - in 2000 my brother and his wife moved in with our Grandmother to help her out. He set up his computer and we had a video call. She told me later on the phone how exciting that was for her, she was born in 1913 and told me the story of having to hitch up the horses to go across the river to get the doctor when her brother was needing an emergency appendectomy. She thought it remarkable that she could see and talk to me from “all across the country”.
As a side note, my uncle’s surgery was performed on the table that I now have and sat at last night setting up my laptop.
Kelly - I would be very appreciative if Rodger locked a moth in the bathroom for me as long as he was going to deal with it himself in the morning.
I’ll do it, but I don’t like it.
Rita - I wouldn’t like the being woken part of my camp duties. Do you ever get days off?
Heather - wise advice about how to treat your husband.
Rosemarie - paint sprayers are what most professionals use now. I would love to have one myself.
My toilet paper doll was bright pink. I still have one of those black roasting pans.
I kept getting a suggested ad that I could purchase the Reba concert recorded earlier from Madison Square Garden. I had never used this site before but it’s actually Live Nation so it was well produced.
It cost almost $30 Canadian, but I probably will never get to see her in concert live. I’ve also found I don’t like concerts as much as it’s hard to see and hear the artist because of the audience.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Lovely Tracey. She will adore it.
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Good Saturday!
Yes, the Bronco is fun. It rides and drives wonderfully. Yes, the insurance is the awful part of owning so many. They are all low mileage though which will help if we decide to downsize-haha!
Machka I am glad your husband managed. It does bring some peace of mind to us as well. I won't forget the trepidation I felt when leaving my DH for a week the first time even though his mom lived next door! His "friends" were suppose to take him to dinner a couple of times. No shows, but he didn't tell me until I came home. He didn't starve as I had left things he could microwave plus fresh milk and cereals. I don't worry so much now. I think it is good for caregivers to be able to have some alone time even if it is business.
So I made a not happy discovery this morning....
I have always been a member of the IBTC. About 10 yrs ago I got a bra fitting after loosing a lot of weight. I wasn't sure whether to hug the lady or smack her when she told me I wasn't an A cup but a C with side sag! Well, this morning, I noticed sagging boobs! When did that happen? I realize I am 60 but it seems to have occurred over night! Husband says they are fine
I started this on Saturday and here it is Sunday evening! I am glad I saved it!
Lisa Great Job on rooms!
Allie Self care is important! You have continued to be a trouper in spite of all things. Just because you accept it doesn't mean you necessarily have to like it.
Rita I hope you are feeling better today! Scary!
Machka Thank you for the brain injury explanation. My DH was in an awful Jeep accident when he was 19. Head vs tree. 9 skulls fractures and partial cut of the optic nerve on the right eye (hence the very limited sight on that eye.) He told me when we met that the injury had affected his way of life and thinking. Your explanation helps me to understand better. Since I didn't know him before, I just know him as he is now.
Tracey Congratulations on the computer! I need to set up my new tablet.
Rebecca Keep posting pics! I had a wonderful salad yesterday that I was unsure about but tried. Spinach, Grilled portabella mushroom, grilled chicken, black olives, tomatoes, red onions, cajun spices, and ranch dressing. It was wonderful!
Rori I am so excited for you!
Well, Happy Monday!
Made it through the weekend, unfortunately not unscathed! Went to the local Dairy shed last night with a bunch of friends. We were there an hour and I got stung on the back of the right leg by a yellow jacket. I pulled out the stinger and we headed right home. Ice, Benadryl, and Tylenol. Swollen larger than my hand this morning, so will head to doctor. Everyone wanted me to go to the ER but no need this time as no trouble breathing.
I stirred up a hornets nest with my youngest daughter again.......unintentionally.....
I was busy cleaning off my desk (yay- it is done!) When I realized that both my daughters have anniversaries this month. I wished her a happy anniversary, and apparently it was her older sister's not hers. I missed hers on the 9th. I apologized and said happy belated anniversary. She still went off on FB about her family forgetting all about important dates with them. Whatever.....I have always sucked at dates....even more so when I am overwhelmed, which she should relate to. I have bent over backwards to help them. Some people are never happy. We were even at their house on Saturday night and had a good time visiting. Oh well......
My accomplishments this weekend were clearing off my desk that was overflowing. It is so nice to not see it piled up. I also moved the shredder from the guest room to the side of my desk. Maybe I will get less pile up.Also finished up our reservation for this coming weekend in TN.
I overpaid on our cabin for September....oops....like $1600 dollars over. Owner is offering refund or keeping it as credit for next year, per my suggestion. As I have already paid that credit card I am good either way. She said she would have caught it next week when she did the books for the month.
Hugs to those that want or need them (((HUGS)))
Congratulations to victories both with the scale or NSV!
Love and gratitude for all of you,
Kylia in Ohio
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Phew, Kylia, that is some overpay!
For some reason, nobody does other people's anniversaries in our family. We do our own, but no-one bothers about other people's.
Well, things are still chaotic at my son's house. I'm not sure when they came back, but DDIL asked if she could leave Max with us this afternoon while she collects the girls. Not sure where from.
Anyway, he's coming over. We had scheduled a painting session, so he will arrive at the end of that.
Then my son texted that they need us to have all the kids overnight and could we feed them. The beds sre still made up, so it's not too difficult.
So I dashed off to the Co-op round the corner and bought gluten free pasta for Edie, goats milk for Bea, Weetabix for Bea's breakfast, gluten free rolls for Edie, bacon, salted caramel ice cream and strawberries. Should be fine with all that.
My son is hoping all will be well by Tuesday night!
Glad to be of service. It must be a nightmare with no electricity or WiFi. Especially for a 12 yr old boy!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx8 -
Adventures in air conditioning: 🙃
So, I ordered a window A/C unit from Amazon on August 1, to replace the old one in our bedroom, with the thought that we'd move our little mechanical A/C unit into the guest bedroom before the kids get here on the 25th.
In the meantime, I forgot I actually ordered it and ordered another one from Walmart (brain glitch). Which arrived here on the 7th, and Corey installed this weekend. Rather than return the Amazon one, which still hasn't arrived, we decided to just use them both... which was a good thing, because when Cor started to remove the old one from our bedroom window, it fell about eight feet from the window to the stone outside. Not good for a mechanical thing, that.
Corey being Corey, he had to take the old one apart to see if he could fix it, and when he opened the case, I literally gagged. There were hanging strings of mold and growth everywhere, and smears of mildew and it was just honestly the most disgusting thing I've ever seen. Please note, I've cleaned whatever I could reach on that thing, with cloths and long swabs dipped in bleach, but it was not effective in the slightest, obviously. Good grief.
Amazon is slipping:The Amazon A/C unit still hasn't arrived, so I went looking online, and supposedly it's stalled out somewhere in Little Rock (about a three hours drive away). There was some small print, though, that said if I wanted to get a refund, I could. So I chatted online with them this morning to try to find out what was going on, and it was a distributor issue--in other words, it wasn't stalled out, they were out of stock and trying to get one in to send it to me. Could take weeks...
So, while I was on the chat with them, I opened another browser window, ordered another one from Walmart and it will be here tomorrow. And I got the full price of the Amazon one refunded. Pleased with that--and with the fact that I'll have an air conditioner in and working before my company gets here.
Amazon really is slipping on getting stuff to people. I've learned if I need it quick to order it from Walmart. Arkansas, if you didn't already know, is where the Walmart mother ship resides - about an hour and a half away from us, up in Bentonville, so their distribution here is absolutely spiffy, as long as it's sold by Walmart and distributed by them. Just got to read the small print!
Last week was getting everything placed and where I wanted it. This week is deep cleaning. Luckily, I did most of it as I was shuffling stuff around from and to the workroom, storage room and spare bedroom/exercise room. So all that's left is the bathroom, kitchen and our bedroom. Ceiling to floor cleaning... I wish I enjoyed cleaning, I really, really do.
Later y'all,
Love,
Lisa9 -
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The hummingbirds here in Illinois are gone & I miss them. They’ve headed to warmer places for the winter.
Katla in Illinois4 -
When we bought our current house in 2011, the furnace was on its last legs and we decided that it was best to replace the furnace immediately rather than waiting to see how long it would last and end without heat in the middle of winter. In spite of the cost We decided to buy a heat pump along with the furnace so we'd have cooling in the summer. We bought at just the right time when an interest free loan was available. We had to be frugal for the three years it took to pay it off interest free,, but it's the best thing we've ever bought. What a delight to have air conditioning all over the house on days like yesterday when it got up to 90 degrees and heat in the winter when it gets down into the teens. Barbie in NW Wa
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Today's little experiment. I wanted to do something colourful.
Before that I pencilled out a picture of Max, to paint another day. Too embarrassing to do it while he's here !
Max here, girls on the way.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx7 -
Quick Question ...
What is something or are some things you do or would do to make travel easier, more comfortable and less stressful.
Might be physical things like your favourite sleep headband/eye mask that you can hook up to music ... or noise cancelling ear buds.
Might be your favourite sarong to wrap yourself in or your favourite pillow.
Might be arriving at the airport 2 hours early.
Might be travelling less than 6 hours a day, then spending the rest of the day relaxing somewhere.
What makes travelling an enjoyable experience for you?
M in Oz0 -
MFP Accountability Post for August 14, 2023
Debbie in CA - Still at 152.2 this week. 25 lbs to loose.
Walked 5 days, Zumba two nights. One day a total of just over 20,000 steps.
Need to track foods more.
Kylia in Ohio - actually stayed at 124.3 all week. really weird! so no change. 9.3 pounds to goal.
Lanette SW WA – no change, 5# to goal range. Able to start fitting into some of my favorite jeans and sweats – waist not so tight. Not real comfortable, but wearable. What seems to be helping: cutting way way back on processed food/junk carbs and added sugars/treats. Delaying breakfast for 12-14 hours, until I’m real hungry.
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Kylia - I bet when you do decide to downsize vehicles, having the low mileage will help immensely. That Bronco sounds like a sweet ride.
My mom was a stickler for remembering anniversaries, birthdays, etc. It used to irk me that when we moved out here and away from the family gatherings, she'd make it a point to call or write and say "your brother's anniversary is next Monday, don't forget to send a card," or " nephew's birthday is next Friday, don't forget to send a card/gift." I think the family was secretly glad when she got dementia and forgot her motherly reminder duties. Now, the only cards I send are Bday cards to siblings and their spouses if I remember, and a little $ to niece and her family - who've been good at keeping in contact with me and at least saying "thank you." And a few Christmas cards.
Barbie - what a blessing to have A/C these days when we get the unusual super hot weather for this area. I opened the windows early this morning to try to get some cool breeze flowing through the house before the sun came up.
I discovered one good way to keep cool is to NOT look at the thermometer or listen to the local news "Another super hot day for the county, hot all week. Breaking records! The hottest it's been for two centuries!" I'm exaggerating a little, lol. Yesterday, I covered up the display for the outside thermometer with a post-it. I tend to worry about things I can't control, this took care of it. Even with the A/C set at 74, I still keep a fan going in the living room. The house remained cool until around 1 pm when the A/C kicked on.
Lisa - good job getting the extra Air Conditioner and good job catching up on the cleaning!
This supply chain stuff has me taking inventory of things I might need/replacements. After our old heat pump died during a hot spell a few years ago, I bought a couple spare fans - I was going to give them away but think I'll hang on to them, the current fan I have going plus the old box fan I set in the doorway are probably 25 years old. Glad Walmart came through for you. When I was in there shopping last week, I did see a big display of smaller window units and they didn't seem that expensive.
Yesterday I watched a series of ZOE presentations on YouTube. They covered interesting aspects of nutrition and health. There are plenty more for me to watch today.
I'm keeping the chickies as cool as I can. The sun really doesn't hit their run until around 10 - huge trees on the east side keep them in the shade. Yesterday I dumped a couple buckets of water in their run so they could scratch around in cool, wet dirt, and gave them a few "popcicles" - frozen ice cubes with peas and corn. Last evening when it got shady, I let them out of their run scratch around, eat some grass and weeds and peck fallen apples. Thelma followed me around, panting. She let me pick her up and I dunked her feet and belly in a bucket of water for a minute. She didn't fight me. When I let her go, she ruffed her feathers and marched off. Her dignity was wounded but I think it helped her cool off a little.
Stay cool, ladies!
Lanette
Sunny SW WA State4
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