WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR NOVEMBER 2023
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Good morning ladies!
Machka - does all honey crystallize? I have some I bought years ago, theoretically from bee keepers within my area, that is still very liquid. And I have a couple quarts of local honey I bought just last year that are crystallizing! I'm starting to wonder if the liquidy stuff was adulterated with corn syrup. It doesn't have an intense honey flavor either.
Make it a super day!
Lanette
SW WA State
Yes, I believe that all (or maybe 99%) raw honey crystallises although the time varies. Our first batch took a matter of days to start to crystallise, while the second batch took about a month.
My first guess with the liquid honey is that it may have been pasteurized. Most likely still OK to use but the goodness is gone. My second guess would be that it was mixed with something.
https://www.rockymountainhoneyco.com/blogs/bee-blog/the-misunderstanding-of-crystallized-honey
"Real, raw honey crystallizes.
The crystallization of honey is often misunderstood by the consuming public. Many assume that crystallized honey has been adulterated, is of poor quality or unnatural, or has spoiled or gone bad. This is simply not so. And actually, the exact opposite holds true.
If a honey does not crystallize for a long time, with the except of certain types of honey that naturally crystallize slower or not at all (such as Acacia or Tupelo), it is often a clear indication that the honey has been adulterated, diluted, or pasteurized.
The crystallization process is natural and spontaneous. Pure, raw and unheated honey has a natural tendency to crystallize over time with no effect on the honey other than color and texture. What's more, the crystallization of honey preserves the flavor and quality characteristics of your honey."
https://www.naturenates.com/honey-turned-solid-its-real/
"Did you know that real honey crystallizes? Raw and unfiltered honey, made by our favorite buzzing buddies, tends to take on a white, solid appearance over time – sometimes a short time! It may look hard and crunchy. Or maybe it has turned completely solid. No worries. It’s still good and tells you you’re buying the real deal, not some honey-flavored fructose disguised in a cute little bear bottle."
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Annie- we had Hospice for my FIL they are a God Send for the whole family honestly...
They take the whole family into consideration..I would definitely contact palliative care and ask and or social services..in the meantime..One hour at a time my friend...
Carol- it took my brother and I from the end of January until beginning of December the year my dad passed to clean out his house,with the same situation as yours..
Im going to get dressed.rake the leaves in my patio.and meeting my friends for pizza at 1 this afternoon.4 -
Betsy in NW WA0 -
Tina - So very sad about your friend. Our friends are so important to us.
Annie - Good discussion with your sister. You can have hospice at home, but it is a huge strain. I personally would not consider it, but you may feel otherwise.
I have filled in the self-referral form for physio at the hospital. I'm not getting too excited, but you have to start somewhere!
I have also, this week, gone back to editing my book. It feels so good to be working on it again. Huge shift in mood.
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Detachment and taking it one day at a time are good suggestions for today. They don't solve the problem, but they relieve the worrier of a lot of pain and suffering. 3
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Tina - I'm so sorry about your friend. Remember to take tissues with you to the game, the memories will come flooding back! I think it's a great way to memorialize your friendship.
Annie - Hugs and more hugs. I'm sure you've thought of this already, but is it possible your mom doesn't want to eat or drink because she's ready to leave, or nearly ready? I'm glad your sister is there.
Heather - I'm glad you're back to editing your book, it seems to be a deep need for you, working on a book at one stage or another. Hope the medicos get it together and get you the physical therapy you need soon.
Allie - Hope the phone issue works out and it doesn't cost you too much. Don't know if you remember me saying I'd been scammed, that a site that told me they were charging me $1 popped up with a $29 charge... At the time, they backed off and just charged the original dollar after I protested the bigger amount. I was fine with that, I had agreed to pay the dollar. Well, they came back again this month, trying to charge me on that same card for a $29 for a "subscription" that I never agreed to, so I worked with the card company, canceled the card completely, and they're reissuing me a different number. Luckily, it's not the card that I have all the monthly automatic payments on for phone, internet, trash, electric, etc., so I don't have to reset everything, just my Amazon account. So frustrating to have to protect ourselves so much from these scammers and thieves. Hope your lunch with your friends is lovely.
Carol - Taking small bites of massive tasks helps a lot. It took all summer for me to go through the house and the storage room and get the things that weren't used out to donate or out to the trash. Just take one room. Just do something today, or clear one box a week. It really doesn't matter. It's when we look at things as a whole that we get overwhelmed. Heather's way of doing it one drawer at a time is a great way to clear that kind of clutter.
Rosemarie - I'm sorry your house, too, is in chaos while you're waiting for the junk haulers. My head tends to look like the inside of my house, as well, so it's very discomfiting to have things chaotic and messy in a central space. Hope they do what they're supposed to in a reasonable amount of time.
More later...
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR, where it's sunny, but barely above freezing... Egg was a little dubious this morning about my fire-making skills, as you can see... I tried to explain that all fires start somewhere...
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Love all the ways to say NO. Need this. With husband in such ill health and friends and family busy with their own lives. I have had to ask what is important to me and why. The group I paint with because we support each other's creativity, volunteering in schools to get around children in a positive way since no grandchildren, singing in my church choir, taking time just to sit and reflect, seeing my son weekly, letting go of the things that are no longer a part of my life, gardening. I find myself still trying to accommodate others at the expense of these activities. I still have many times I can still get together if it works with their schedule great if not that is just the way it is.
I did have a wake up call yesterday...I did have trouble remembering what I did with a friend a few years ago. I told her that was a very traumatic time in my life as many of you know because you were right there with me. She laughed when I couldn't remember even after I said how traumatic that period was for me. I realize I need to stand up for myself and not let things like that slide like I have in the past. I only train her to disregard my feelings that are important to me. I needed to say it is NOT funny and your laughing makes me feel disrespected!
The wake call is I have more work to do in healing my trauma and to be more authentic and honest in my feelings.7 -
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2023 New Ways November
Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate yogurt and bananas for breakfast.26. Try out a different radio station or new TV show. Did this.
Meditation: daily. 18/30 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%)
Feeling sick all month. Colitis crap!
Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min 15/23
Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
Balance 5 days 10 min /20
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%,100%).
96 days SOBER!
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 6521,6471,5327, 5211, (7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%,-6847,98%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 (10,00%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 220/208—(733%,100% My mom called me for a change.)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)98/96 100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2, 173.2 (600%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 15/23. (681%,100,100)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 47/12
(100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 11/12—(100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (100%) I put the money in, but end up taking it out.
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0,0
500%) This has stopped. Spending too much.
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met 81%
August met—met 99%
September met——99%
October met —90.7%
November met—
December met—
1. Make a list of new things you want to do this month. 1. Start Christmas shopping, 2. Work on my happiness, 3. Walk the mall at least once. 4. Read a new book
2. Respond to a difficult situation in a different way. I will see what comes up, but the daily readings I do have helped a lot already! Did this!
3. Get outside and observe the changes in nature around you..Supposed to be in the low 80’s (f) here today and the week to come so will have plenty of time to do this. Didn’t do this today, sick.
4. Sign up to join a new course, activity, or online community. I’ll have to look around for this. Thinking about something to do with MCC. I joined 2 new groups on FB.
5. Change your normal routine today and notice how you feel. Will do!
6. Try out a new way of being physically active. I will have to think about this. Maybe do a YouTube video. Did not do this.
7. Be creative. Cook, draw, write, paint, make or inspire. I will Zendoodle. I tried out my DH’s suggestion for mirror letters.
8. Plan a new idea or activity you want to try out this year. I have a water color set. I will experiment with that.
9. When you feel you can’t do something, add the word ‘yet’. I need to remember this.
10. Be curious, learn about a new topic or an inspiring idea. I learned about Alonon and downloaded their app and read through it.
11. Choose a different route and see what you notice on the way. I did this on my walk today.
12. Find out something new about someone you care about. Research time!
13. Do something playful outdoors - walk, run, explore, relax. Took a walk.
14. Find a new way to help or support a cause you care about. Have to think about this.
15. Build on new ideas by thinking “yes, and what if…” I will remember this!
16. Look at life at someone else’s eyes and see their perspective. According to my therapist, this is called empathy. I do this but not enough. Will try to do better.
17. Try a new way to practice self-care and be kind to yourself. Staying in bed and resting today.
18. Connect with someone from a different generation. I do this most days at the park.
19. Broaden your perspective: read a different paper, magazine, or site. Will do!
20. Make a meal using a recipe or ingredient you haven’t used before. My DH does this all the time! He does all the cooking.
21. Learn a new skill from a friend or share one of yours with them. Hmmmm Did not do this.
22. Find a new way to tell someone you appreciate them. I will!
23. Set aside a time to pursue an activity with your love.
24. Share with a friend something useful you learned recently. I do this on MFP
25. Use one of your strengths in a new and creative way. I will need to think about this.
27. Join a friend doing a hobby and find out why they love it. I’m not sure who I will do this with, maybe my neighbor and not sure what to do yet. Thinking about it.
28. Discover your creative side. Design a friendly greeting card.29. Enjoy new music today. Play, sing, dance or listen.
30. Look for new reasons to be hopeful, even in tough times.
RVRita in Roswell, NM
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Clicked a unrelated post to me , walked away with 2 inspiring quotes. Well played ladies.1
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »Rita - I try to live my life with 'loving detachment'. I don't always succeed because I am an empath.
Most spiritual principles require practice and discipline, and they get easier with practice. I am still practicing. 
Love Heather, still recovering from her empathy with the poor pigeon. UK xxxxxxxx
I'm more of an "apath"
Although I feel more empathy toward animals than people.
But you took me by surprise. From your posts, I would have put you slightly closer to the apath end of the "empath---apath" scale than to the empath end. Of course, I don't know you in person.
M in Oz
I had to look up the difference between apath and empath. I think you are correct, I try to have empathy, I used to be good at that until the divorce, and some other things that happened during that time. That pushed me more toward apath. I am now trying to get my empathy back. Being on 3 depression/anxiety medications takes a lot of feeling away….
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Good morning, ladies.
DH is dealing with a gout flare up. He hasn't had one in awhile and yes, Machka, we are both meat eaters. It is sugar that is the cause of his flare ups though. He has a prescription that he takes as needed but is cautious with taking them as they create havoc with his stomach. We have to go to the bank this afternoon to arrange for a bank draft and the bank we are dealing with is a hour drive away so hoping he will be o.k. We are purchasing a mobile seed cleaner for our farming operation. Found a new one in Saskatchewan that a dealer has and it is just the right size for us. Dealer said it is too small for bigger farming operations but would be good for a smaller organic farm. We were hoping to buy a used one but they are hard to come by.
Tracey, sorry to hear that your last market didn't turn out very well. I wonder if people just don't have as much disposable income. Good that your wall is being finished. I'm sure you will come up with something to make it blend in with your Christmas decor...you are so creative.
Lisa, your fire looks inviting.
Annie, thinking about you and your ongoing struggles. Good you are able to talk with your sister.
Tina, sad to hear about your friend. Such a tragedy. Hope they catch the driver.
Joy
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Today is compassion day! fits the conversations lately! Have some French toast with that compassion. LOL
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Annie ~ So sorry for the further bad news regarding your mom's health and so glad your sister will be there to help you through this tough time.
Lanette ~ Good news that Thelma and Glady's are producing eggs again. Hope your tarp works for the snowy conditions.
Tina ~ Sorry to hear about your friend's passing. Glad that you have been able to sort through your wardrobe. I looked at myself in my old baggy jeans and t shirt yesterday and thought I really need a makeover. Don't know if it will every happen.
I took my overcooked tough old hen and put it in the pressure cooker this morning. Yielded a large bowl of meat that we can freeze for whatever!
Worked on my husband's new laptop yesterday and this morning and finally seem to have it setup! He has made so many sarcastic remarks over the years because I had to take some computer courses when still teaching and now I think he may be realizing that I am able to help him. Researching on Google is a God Send!
Carol in GA7 -
"Those who are not grateful soon begin to complain of everything."
–THOMAS MERTON
Thoughts in Solitude5 -
Annie, Kylia, Rita, and others in need of hugs...sent your way!
What makes a sad day a bit better? Seeing all the pics of the kiddos in your lives! Thanks for sharing your families.
Back to the kitchen. Baking and cooking make me feel better.
Tina in CA
Sorry about your friend.
That kind of hit me because of what I went through a little over 5 years ago with my husband ... and the man across the ward from him who didn't survive his severe brain injury.
I'm very sorry. I guess I should have put in a trigger warning and in a spoiler.
Tina in CA
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Picked both the girls up. I went home first with Edie because she was planning to bake some cupcakes for her friend's birthday tomorrow. John followed on because Bea likes to play in the park.
Here is Edie baking. She is very good, but I had to curb my tendency to interfere!
The machine she was using was not user friendly.
The cakes are in the oven and she is soon off to Cyclo-cross.
My thigh survived perfectly today. A mystery.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »Picked both the girls up. I went home first with Edie because she was planning to bake some cupcakes for her friend's birthday tomorrow. John followed on because Bea likes to play in the park.
Here is Edie baking. She is very good, but I had to curb my tendency to interfere! The machine she was using was not user friendly.
The cakes are in the oven and she is soon off to Cyclo-cross.
My thigh survived perfectly today. A mystery.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx
I can't wait to see Edie as an award-winning chef on the Food Network.
Tina in CA6 -
Tracey - I kind of love the idea of the giant Christmas present, but there is one more option with your wall - and that's to mud and tape it yourself... it's not hard... especially when it's a wall and not a ceiling! It's just like making mud pies when you were a kid. Put some mud on the seam between the drywall sheets, lay tape over the mud, and then smooth the mud over the tape until the edges disappear. You can buy the mud pre-mixed, even. The hard part is sanding it afterward, so the smoother you get it, the easier the sanding. You've got a neat hand with your painting of your crafts, and I don't think you'd have an issue with it, dear heart. It needs 24 hours to dry, at the very least, so give yourself some time. There are lots of YouTube videos out there on "how to mud and tape drywall."
Margaret - Thank you to both you and Machka for the reminder on saying "no." It's helped me remember that I don't always have to answer the phone, either. It is no longer necessary that I be at the end of the phone just because someone has decided to call me. If I'm not in the mood to answer or am busy, I do not have to pick up the phone. Nor do I have to apologize later, or tell them why I didn't pick up. Please note, if I hear the phone, I always pick up my husband's calls... he still hasn't fully rid himself of the worry from the last few years, and I honestly love hearing his voice. The calls are short, just a good morning call, a noon call to decide on dinner, and an evening call to say he's on his way home. They make me feel cared for and provide a structure for my day (and his, most likely). But those, as well as all other calls, are optional. My option, my choice.
Lovely, quiet day here. Thinking about dinner... something with chicken and potatoes, I think.
Later, y'all,
Love from Arkansas,
Lisa
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Today is running lots of errands! Boxes to pack for sons, cards to be mailed, need to find something small for the baby's first Christmas! I am choking down coffee, with my new sweater on. It was too crystal looking on the roads this morning, so husband didn't dare drive to the gym. There are some major hills and our car is as light as a feather. We slip if there is anything on the road, whether its just a frosty road, or any water on a cold morning. We just wait until the day progresses on and warms up.
I have been dealing with a sore gum issue. Just one tooth that, though not angry looking, its exposed the root abit, and the gum below is bruised, like a canker sore area. Need some good mouth wash! Husband was looking in my mouth with a flashlight. The dweeb. 😂😂
Yesterday was Monday and so that is the day my youngest calls! He is getting really good with that, and I'm so happy he's learning that communicating with his momma is key to her mental and emotional well-being. We always video chat a good hour or so. So many stories, and engaging conversations! I love this adult! He does say the f word, but that's just the Navy coming out. He says its lizard season so they are everywhere, so he's having conversations with them, "move please sir so I can open my door". Some a foot long! He seems well, and he's still organizing his leave request.💖
Enjoy the day all!
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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So sorry, Annie. I am thankful your sister is there to help you think through options. I also advocate for hospice. They serve the patient and the family.
Much love.
Flea
Willamette Valley OR4 -
Rebecca--I agree with the others and glad you are going to give your son the ramen plushie. It's someting meaningful to both of you.
Tracey--Hugs for you and Roger. Glad you were able to talk and share your feelings. I saw that video and loved it. Did make me tear up. What a great gift of understanding.
Kylia--Our kids have the power to hurt us. Our youngest son did not come to Thanksgiving dinner. When I asked his sister why all she would say was not her story to tell. So not sure what we did wrong now. I am not looking forward to Christmas with them if they would show up. Thankful for my son and famiy as they had us over and we had a good time. The kids do not celeabrate together since they are adults. The youngest and daughter our husbands kids, but we have always gotten along so not sure what the problem is. He is the son that keeps runnig around on his wife and this last time I said I would not listen anymore that they had to figure it out.
Katiebug--Glad to see you posting, have missed you.
Rosemarie--I do not think anything is wrong with bringing precut apple slices. A lot less hassle.
Annie--I am so sorry about the news for your mom. Sending prayers and hugs. Glad your sister is coming and can help with your day.
Flea--I am sending hugs as anything I would say would not be nice about DH's thinking. The lights are very pretty. I enjoy watching Christmas lights.
Rita--Good for you.
Tina--So sorry to hear about your friend.
I am all caught up. time just seems to be flying by. This last weekend DH decided to put up our new tree and decorate the house inside and out.I wasn't in the mood so let him do it. Inside is done and he has a couple things to finish outside.I did get my Christmas done and mailed and that is my favorite part. I have been just not feeling well and tried. Today I only have a whisper for a voice and everyone who calls wants to talk about it.
Take care dear ladies.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE 10 -
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Rosemarie-I may be late, but if the apples are going on fondue forks, you should consider not peeling them and cutting them into large-ish chunks. They will keep more of their integrity and stay on the forks as they are dipped in what I presume to be thick chocolate sauce or cheese. If you slice them thinly, they will keep falling off the forks. Cut them and squeeze lemon juice over them and they should not brown as much.
My 2 cents.
Tina in CA5 -
Prayers and Good Wishes for All of You Going Through Tough Times!
I have read and read but can't respond because I have been so busy trying to get my computer problems figured out for the last few days. I have had to reset my computer and fight with my internet provider to get my wifi settings corrected. Think I finally got it done today.
Annie ~ I laid awake last night thinking about your dad dealing with the possible loss of his beloved wife. I pray that he will be given the help he needs when that time comes.
Pip ~ Your decorations are beautiful! Everything looks so neat and orderly!
Barbie ~ Love your OWL.
Rosemarie ~ Your efforts to clean out your storage rooms are great! You would be aghast at all the things in our home that need to be dealt with. A basement full of old things from an antique shop and estate sales that never got rid of, 3 generations of family furniture, nick knacks, and clutter. I cringe to think what my son and his wife will have to deal with at some point. I and my husband have clothes from ourselves and parents that are probably 25 yrs old.
Tried to roast a 6 lb hen tonight and it was as tough as could be. Will put it in the pressure cooker tomorrow to try to get some of the meal. Won't buy any more hens! LOL
Carol in GA
Carol
Regarding those clothes ... I know your husband doesn't like you to throw anything away of his, but can you go through your stuff and toss, give away or sell it?
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Worked then stopped at the church for my lector book since I’m supposed to lector Sat. and the book only goes up to Nov. 26. Anyway, the gal wasn’t there so I went to Sam’s. Needed gifts for the ceramic Christmas party, got some hors duerves (or however it’s spelled) cookie dough to make for Jess to take to the party (I just don’t feel like making it from scratch). Used our Sam’s bucks so only paid $33 for 3 party gifts, 4 boxes of hors duerves, container of cookie dough, and these cocoa bomb things that Jess might like. Went for my boob squeeze today. Then stopped at the Salvation Army (natch)
Tracey – we’re having our Christmas Eve on the 23rd, too, because Jess and Colby are flying out to Idaho on the 24th
Barbara – I don’t mind cleaning, but for some reason, and this I can’t explain, I just procrastinate making beds. But I do it and afterwards feel good about doing it So why do I procrastinate? I don’t know. It’s not like it’s a big deal
Ginny – I can’t help thinking that Denise has an “entitled” feeling. Also, I admit that there may not be anything to worry about, but I worry anyway (that’s a mother’s job, huh?). We know that Pete abused her cat, even tho neither of them admitted it. The SPCA told us when they seized the cat, he threw the cat to them. I do worry because someone who will abuse an animal is very likely to abuse a person. I also know that there’s nothing I can do about it. One of the signs of an abuser is that they separate their victim from their family. Is this what’s going on? I don’t know.
Annie – my car won’t start if I don’t have the key. Would your father get very upset if only YOU had the key? Regarding your daughter, remember “you only hurt the ones you love”
Well, we have all of the trees up (all nine). Vince has most of the lights on them. We started decorating outside this year early (like I’ve been suggesting we do for years). Now Vince is saying that he is going to try not having any commitments (MD appt. dentist appt) during Nov. and Dec. Guess he sees the wisdom in getting things done early. Also have most of the Christmas gift shopping done. Or at least I do, which is like 90% of the shopping.
Heather – how sad for that pigeon
Rita – a piece of cardboard works to keep the frost off? I think we have a cardboard sunshield that we don’t use (not sure why Vince insisted on keeping it) that I could probably use. I’m so not used to this frost on the windshield stuff. Really wish Hyundai would get their act together
Tina – I’m so sorry to read about your friend. Absolutely, go to the game. He would have wanted you to. I wouldn’t be surprised at all if he was at that game, too
Lisa – that pic of Egg and the fire looks like something out of Norman Rockwell
Oh Annie – how I wish I could be there to give you a real big hug. But since I can’t, just take the virtual one that I’m sending. My neighbor just had in-home hospice and it seemed to work out quite well for them. Of course, everyone is different
Joy – does your husband take uloric for his gout? Vince takes that
Rebecca – could there be a silver lining in your gum issue – you don’t want to eat????
They’re celebrating the birthdays at ceramics. To be honest, I really don’t care to. But I got some pigs in the blanket to take with me tonight. Vince will eat whatever is left over.
Michele NC3 -
OK, it made me laugh. I think those of you who do these things are wonderful, and I haven't given up yet, I swear!
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Annie: You are so brave and compassionate to begin palliative care for your mother. I have had only amazing experiences with hospice care. I suggested it my friend Amy's husband in Poconos, but it was too late. She passed in the hospital ICU. 😥
Tina: My sympathies on the loss of your dear friend.
Rori
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