WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2024
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Lisa-Love the corner drawers!!! I wish the people who remodeled our kitchen would have used those!
Rori-Message received and replied to. Hope to meet you soon!
I'm all for meeting in Tasmania! Need to find a business reason to go though.
Went to a yoga class today for the first time in many years. It was a good one. I joined for a month so I can try to get into a regular routine. It's just so helpful with flexibility. The bonus is that I also get a 2 mile walk in to get to/from the studio. Hopefully I will stick with it.
Now I'm listening to the rain. It's been coming down at a decent rate for about an hour.
Tina in CA
Tasmania in March (early Autumn) is really nice.
Warm with usually fairly settled weather.
Machka in Oz
Me in northern Tasmania on March 3 last year.
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Michelle in NV-
I totally understand. My MIL is very nice to people until they see the real side of her.She can only fake being nice for a short time.
We have hired a lady to come help but that didn't work-The second day dh got to the house and the lady was sitting in the corner , shaking and couldn't get out of the house fast enough. I think she would have left earlier if she had a way home. Dh drove her home.
Like your mom, MIL is capable again(she fell and did need the 24/7 care for a few months, does not need it now but demands it) She cooks for herself, can shower alone, takes her pills if they are in the pill case.. DH does need to do her bills and shop for her. She can go shopping once in a while but doesn't want to. She has something she wants him to pick up every day. Most days she doesn't want to cook so expects him to pick up food, then complains because it is the same old stuff(she is very picky on what she wants-complains about what he brings, tells him not to bring anything then is mad if he doesn't).
For a while she only wanted food from sit down restaurants then would only eat a bit and toss the rest or not eat any of it-won't eat left overs.
I wish we could hire someone or put her in a home and rent our her house to help pay for it. I don't want to sell the house as I am hoping we can rent it to our son cheaply(he is 25 and lives at home, works full time but regular rent here is too high for him)
Something needs to change. It was so bad around Christmas that dh was pushed beyond his breaking point- kept talking about driving off a cliff. Wouldn't go get mental help for himself.
It has calmed down for now. Too much stress and he brought it all home.
Debbie
Napa Valley CA5 -
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Heather - I think you’re right that people think if they can’t do a big sum they should do none. I also think a couple people think they should give up and not try further because the financial risk is too high.
Kaitlyn is better at accepting the No than I am, I guess because it’s not for me.
“Don’t take it personally” is very hard, but I must do it.
I’m so happy you are able to enjoy baths again. I have a bath every evening. When Rodger is at work I always have my phone handy in the event I fall or something. Sometimes he gets a lovely picture of my legs. 😂
Michelle - I’m sorry you’re treated that way by your Mother. You are so right family relationships are complicated.
I bought my Son-in-law a Sodastream a few years ago for Christmas he loves it.
Ginny - those work decisions are so difficult.
I would tend towards the European side too, but then I don’t know if I could ever afford it.
Ireland has always been on a list of places I would love to visit. England never used to be, but I would love to visit Heather’s area and and sit with her to have a tea. (I mean a cup of tea, not dinner).
I’ve had to drive through some miserable weather, I always fight tears the whole way. One time I remember I was on a secondary highway in Alberta, my first time travelling it, there were no hotels or anything around, I had no choice but to keep going. I ended up pulling over into people’s driveways a couple of times to convince myself to keep going. It was a 4 hour drive home and should have been 1.
The absolute worst drive I had was in NB. I wasn’t even driving I was the passenger, it was so foggy that the driver had her head out the drivers window trying to see the yellow line, mine was out the passenger trying to see the white. There were points we couldn’t see the emblem thing that were on older model cars.
Lisa - I just love you.
Our temperature is the same this morning.
It’s nice to hear that you are feeling better with the acupuncture. Chronic disease is terrible to deal with.
Annie - I don’t like birds and most animals. I must have been in my 20’s or 30’s when I realized that vultures were real and not just on a cartoon from Saturday mornings. I would be terrified to have one around! Crows we have.
Glad your sister made it home safely.
Your dad is probably feeling pretty lost after everything is said and done. A puzzle might be a good idea.
Betsy - what a blessing to your granddaughter that you are able to go help. My grandparents were a blessing to me when my girls were young. Well, always really.
Pip - I will look for that book.
Rita - I don’t knit but for some reason brought my grandmother’s handwritten patterns. I’m not sure she had one for fingerless gloves, I know she had a mitten pattern with a trigger finger though (for a chainsaw, not a gun) for my grandfather. He swore mittens were warmer than gloves.
Joy - it sure felt nice today compared to the last couple weeks.
I hear so many complaints about the rural service. My Son in law had to come here a couple of times to write exams during Covid because he couldn’t trust their connection.
They are out in the Sandy Beach area.
Barbara - it’s a deep clean time of year. I have managed to get the craft/spare room 90% organized. I need to get my wall done before it will be 100%. Then I’ll dust and scrub.
I just got out of a hot tub, am curled up under my throw with my foot on the ice pack. I overdid it a bit today.
Allie - I hope Tracy gets some peace soon.
Michelle - what a thing for your mother to do. I will never understand some things. How a mother can treat a child this way is one.
Michele - I’m not sure what they could be jealous of, what do you mean?
After cleaning the craft room today and making supper I talked to be BF and sorted the albums that belonged to my FIL. I had them all organized by moved them for Christmas and decided to arrange them another way. I had a footstool cube storage box, so I went and bought another.
One box I put albums that I’m sure DH or I either one would be interested in. Hank Snow, Hank Williams, Wilf Carter.
In the other one I put, the last few that didn’t fit in the first one, gospel albums, mixed albums (think K-tel) rock and Christmas. I love old 60’s and 70’s country so I kept Charley Pride, Kenny Rogers, Loretta, Merle Haggard, Dolly, so I put those ones and others that I like, plus my own albums that I owned into a decorative wooden box so I can get an them easily to play. It was a project! I am hoping to clean the bathroom tomorrow. I need to do laundry and homework.
I received marks for the assignments I had this week, 3 journals and one big assignment and I got 100% on each. The journals are usually 100%, it’s our opinion and as long as we can explain that we know what we’re talking about we get the marks.
Thank you ladies for listening to me.
Tracey in Edmonton11 -
@dlfk202000
It sounds like your husband is overwhelmed. He certainly has got a lot on his hands. My mother is only in this predicament because she keeps falling and breaking bones. When she gets close to being healed, she does something like take her walker on a hike down the stairs. I'm not saying she hurts herself on purpose, but if she wants to get better, she needs to stop doing things she's not supposed to.
All the food drama your MIL causes should be easy to fix. (Should be, of course) Give her one thing to eat and be done with it. If she throws it away, it's gone. Try again tomorrow. The only thing she can do is try to starve herself. I know, she just might. Well, that's my two cents. No big help.
Tell your husband I feel for him, and he's not the only one out there dealing with a hateful mother and dead siblings.
@Snowflake1968
Oh, I need to clean my craft room something awful. I make jewelry. I have wire, tools, and tens of thousands of beads. Hubby thinks my craft room is a storage shed, and every day there is something new to climb over.
Michelle in NV4 -
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Regarding bad winter drives ...
First ... I'm sorry that a few of you have had really bad winter drives recently but very glad that you made it home all right. It is such a relief.
During 2007 and 2008, I was driving between Red Deer and Edmonton to go to University. One or two of you will know that main highway!
I was able to stay in Edmonton some of the time which was a good thing ... reduced the number of drives I had to make. But there were a number of white knuckle drives, usually on my way to Edmonton, to University because I was on the road in the dark and would reach Edmonton just as things were coming light.
The worst one, however, was a day when there had been snow, then it had warmed a little and the snow had melted a bit on the highway, then the temperature dropped and the highway was a sheet of ice. For those of you who don't know, it is a dual carriageway highway with quite a wide grassy (or snow covered) meridian in between. The area is fairly flat, empty, and wind-whipped adding to the slipperiness of the highway.
Red Deer to Edmonton is about 150 km, depending on where you're going. I had started early and was crawling along in my lane at about 60 km/h rather than the usual 110-120 km/h. For a long time, I was the only one out there which suited me just fine. Occasionally vehicles would come up behind and then pass me in the other lane and that suited me just fine. They could go the speed they wanted to go.
About 20 or 30 km south of Leduc, which is about 30 km from the University, someone came up behind me and glued himself to my butt. It was like he wanted me to go faster but I just wanted him to pull around and pass. He had a whole entire lane and wide shoulders to do that. So he was kind of annoying me ... I don't like drivers that close, especially not when it was that slippery.
I'm not sure how it is there now, but there were two curved overpasses as the highway went past Leduc. Overpasses tend to be extremely icy. I slowed right down for the first and eased over it with my tail right behind me. I could tell it was super icy!
I guess the person behind me finally got annoyed by my slow speed, so as we went up the next overpass, he pulled out to pass me and increased his speed. When I topped that overpass, I was met with quite a sight. There were vehicles everywhere ... on the road in the ditches! A semi was partially jack-knifed on one side of the road. Vehicles were embedded into snowdrifts to the top of their doors and people were trying to get out. The person who had been behind me was the only vehicle on the move, and he was not in control. Brakes flashed on, he swerved to one side of the road and then as neatly as you please slid across the road and wedged himself under the semi.
By that point, I realised I was sliding down the overpass out of control too, but because I was going so slowly and hadn't hit my brakes, I was sliding in a relatively straight line. I nudged the steering wheel a few times so that I slid a little way up an off-ramp and stopped. Then I backed down, and returned to the highway. I wasn't sure what to do as it seemed I was the only vehicle around who had "survived" and was still on the road in some semblance of control.
Then I saw the red and blue flashing lights partially buried in the snow off to the left and saw the police officer squeezing himself out of his car where it was lodged in a drift. "Ah good." I thought. "The police are on the scene." ... and I kept driving to University.
Machka in Oz
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Today’s gratitude: Power and internet stayed up after pineapple express switched to Nor’easter.
Lanette the tooth procedure isn’t til March as have to be off the foxamax for 3 months. This week is Mohs surgery on my face, ;{ Ditto for being at ground zero, quick like a flash. ;}
Michelle in NV sounds like you’re doing the best you can in a tough situation. ((hugs))
Michele in NC Bahams, Caribbean, sure. Greece, Costa del Sol, Hawaii, Taz, anywhere the sun is shining and it’s over 70 F.
Tracey you’re right about it being a deep clean time of year. I overdid a bit too, and the ice pack hasn’t calmed the shoulder so I took an ibuprofen (and two glasses of red wine
) Will sleep on the ice pack tonight and join you in cleaning the bathrooms tomorrow. Putting the declutter/DUSTing [shudder] off til Monday, the last possible minute ;} Con VERY gratulations on your high marks. Very well done!
Machka WOW! What a white knuckle drive story. So glad you stuck to your slow and safe way.
Think I’ll pass on church tomorrow, using rain and wind as an excuse, but real reasons are to skip the annual meeting and make progress on the bathrooms. BTW, tried Heather’s all purpose cleaner on a stain in the shower that has been there forever. Two treatments and a little scrubbing and the top half of the stain is G O N E. Thank you Heather!1/20: Move: ZERO sets PT , Jeopardy walking. Steps: 6900Later, lighter, lovelies!
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=23 CI<CO net=587 vits=1
Live: Joe, readings, BP, ptT, ptS, vacuum recliners and edges, scrub chopping block, prep vegs, make pasta e-fageoli, make Heather’s AP cleaner and try on shower. Wt:132.9
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
January: Move more: dailyish PT, play with dogs, more steps than yesterday.
Fuel better: less sugar, CI<CO, dailyish vitamins. more AF days than not.
Live NOW: dailyish time with Joe, dogs, readings, Hebrew, meditation.
Open heart and mind before mouth.
2024: Strengthen: body, mind, heart-connections.
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A rise in temperature has brought rain 😝 High winds forecast for later.
Laundry, and a little declutter this morning, then will Skype with family after lunch. I live such an exciting life 😂 I aspire to peace and tranquility.
Vicki: I can imagine how you felt. When I was at college in the late 70s, we had a freak blizzard late one February afternoon. It took me 2 1/2 hours to drive home nose to tail, (normally a pleasant 30 minute drive). My arms and back ached from concentration. There were several pile-ups as we seldom get such weather in Northern Ireland. I can still remember the relief when I finally pulled into our driveway.
Tracey: I have learned not to be disappointed by the actions of one or two of my family. It’s just the way they are. I’m certainly not going to let their behaviour wound my composure. I just limit my contact and expect nothing from them.
Age has brought wisdom about past wrongs. Despite her treatment of me, I feel an enormous compassion for my mother, as she must have been a very bitter and unhappy person. Both my brother and I limited our contact with her as adults for our own peace of mind.
I have fought my demons, and lived to tell the tale 😝 I choose to be happy, and grateful to be who I am, where I am.
🤗🤗🤗 and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.
🙋♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.
☘️ Terri
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Insomnia, insomnia, insomnia, insomniac. Here I go again. It's only 2:00 AM, and I've been up since 11:00 PM reading and writing. I'm not tired yet, and I've almost broke down and eaten something. NES, symptom six: Believes one must eat to go back to sleep. Irrational, but true.
I sometimes sit up and type so I can stay away from hubby. He can get a better night's sleep this way, instead of me being restless next to him. Would you believe that I've taken a sleeping pill every night this week and nada, nothing. Here I am, still up typing away. This condition is no joke. Arrrgh.
I've decided to clean up my diet. The first to go is yogurt replaced by sugar-free plain Greek yogurt. I like plain vanilla, but it has sugar in it, so I'm going to plain. I need to get the sugar out of my diet, since my doctor told me that now I am diabetic.
Of, course, I'm a soda addict, so I have to get rid of that. I'm going to try that soda making machine. Next, I need to limit pasta. That's all I can do is limit it. If I try taking it away completely, I would be taking away too many meals from the family. So I'll eat the meals I really like, and have something else on plain spaghetti night. I would much rather eat pasta on Clams and Linguine night or Broccoli and Pine Nut Pasta night. Also, I need to take out bread. I Love Bread! Maybe I won't take it out completely. I could just have it once a week. Finally, I need to scrub the white rice and cook up brown rice or other grains for my lunches and dinners. I can't think of anything else right now, but if I find some, I'll cull it out too.
Does anyone have ideas for good snacks? I eat lots of fruit (which I need to limit), soybeans, tuna, cheese, sometimes a Luna or other bar (not often, but sometimes,) and cereal (mostly Grapenuts.) Of course, there was more before I took them out in the last paragraph, lol.
Michelle in NV
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Variety is not the spice of life when it comes to my food.
My week day ...
No breakfast
11:30 am snack - cheese & crackers
2:00 pm lunch - chicken, rice, steamed veggies
3:30 pm snack - yogurt
4:00 pm snack - apple, mandarin or some other fruit
4:45 pm snack - cheese & crackers or fruit
7:00 pm dinner - steamed veggies & ... whatever else my husband makes
8:30 pm snack - ice cream
Sometimes I'll have a spoonful of our honey before bed.
Weekends are slightly different.
Machka in Oz5 -
Michelle in NV-snacks are tough to figure. The Luna and other bars often have a lot of sugar and calories so I try to avoid them. Nuts are good. I make sugar free jello in individual cup servings (can't stand the premade ones in the store). The no sugar added fruit cups are good too-not many calories, travel easily. For something crunchy and salty I typically go with pork rinds-gets me protein and they are low carb.
Tracy-sometimes the fog in Maine was horrendous-especially close to the coast (and even inland). Very scary!
Very productive day on work projects yesterday (not so much on the home front). Did get laundry done, a pot roast cooked, check book balanced and bills paid. Will finish ironing this afternoon. Have a load of dishes swooshing in the dishwasher. Will tackle litter box and bathroom when I get off here. Must get stretches in, go to drug store later. Need to run in grocery then and pick up coffee. I am going out in the sunshine even if just a 30 minute walk, In between, chunk away at work stuff.
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio3 -
Sunday --
- Finished putting the Christmas decorations away
- Dusted
- Rearranged some furniture now that the Christmas tree isn't there
- Cleaned some of the bathroom
- Read
- Coloured
That's about it.
M in Oz7 -
Good morning ladies!
I was blessed with generally good and loving parents. I still have issues with my father, though. Six inches of snow on the ground and he has to drive to church. Scary. That and he is a terrible roommate. He fills every flat surface in the house with his stuff that he won't put away. I have to clean up his dishes before I can cook. But those are just petty little things.
We also have geese in the big field behind our house. Sometimes hundreds of them. Usually Canada geese but sometimes the white snow geese come through. They might be scary if they got closer, but they like to keep a distance from
the dogs.
Have a great day ladies!
Annie in Delaware7 -
My dad made it home from church safely. So that's good.
Annie in Delaware9 -
Betsy - Traveling grace, and many hopes for a wonderful time with family as you provide the kind of support that you are so good at. Bad time of year to go north, but baby's don't pay much attention to arrival times...
Tracey - Love you back, girlie. Those of us with a skewed sense of humor tend to be drawn together.
I have been totally skiving off this weekend, just had to restart the dryer AGAIN (or as I call it, the big iron) so all the clothes won't be completely wrinkled. Or cold. It's still only 14 out there this morning (10C). That's OK, it's supposed to come up to the edge of freezing tomorrow, just in time for four inches of snow to mix with a bunch of rain... with the temperature sliding along at two to three degrees below freezing and two to three above. it's going to be a horrible slushy, icy mess. Blech.
Been reading along since yesterday, didn't keep a whole lot in the forefront of my mind, but hope everyone's doing well. OK... there goes the dryer alarm, and Corey will be needing that second cup of coffee soon. Hope it is (or was) a lovely, peaceful Sunday.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR3 -
Good Sunday!
Those with good parents are truly blessed. I am thankful more of you have shared your experiences with not so good parents. Like Terry, I feel sorry for my mom as she has missed out on so much due to her behaviors. But, I too distance myself for my peace of mind.
Michelle in NV Small changes are easier to maintain IMHO. Start with one, maybe two. Sodas are a great place to start. Keep proteins high. Go for full grain pastas and breads. Still limit, but better choices. I started with vegetable based spaghetti noodles as DH was reluctant to go wheat. Now I alternate between wheat and veggies noodles. DH is pre-diabetic. I only buy wheat bread, but we aren't big bread eaters. I too struggle with snacks especially when I need to take something with me. Nuts, yogurt, hard boiled eggs, fruit and cheese cubes, peanut butter on graham crackers or celery. We eat little processed foods though I admit to uncle Ben's 90 second rices. DH is not a rice fan, but will eat if I make it. I didn't make cookies for Christmas this year as neither of us needs them. Remember small changes and keep commenting here! NES.....I had to look up. Funny that for years I always ate something if I woke up in the middle of the night. Usually chocolate. I put grapes in an open container in fridge for easy access which helped. If I don't go to bed hungry it helps. I can see how that could be a problem though!
DH was bored yesterday! He was a grump butt from the word go. We were slow. I did some online training walking in place at computer, then switched to my phone and walked the showroom for 90 mins. Got steps in and some training done! Listened to DH grump about me walking. SMH! I had already vacuumed and stocked. Whatever. The evening was better. We met with friends for dinner at Ford's Garage in Cincinnati. Yep again with the driving, but this time friend drove our truck. On way home, we stopped at an old fashioned ice cream parlor for dessert. I had hot tea since I had some key lime piecat restaurant. Was a pleasant evening. Came home, got comfy, cut nails really short (3 broke way low and kept catching even though they were already short), repainted. Just relaxed.
Slept until 6. Caught up on Bible reading, read some book (3rd this January), journaled, and caught up with y'all. DH cleaned up some snow and fixed my bathroom door that wasn't latching.I "Should" do something productive with quiet day.
Oh!Oh! My youngest granddaughter (14) is performing at the Musical Theater completion in CA in February. She has a singing solo and......she sent in an audition tape for a pull out (solo) in the big production of "All that Jazz" and won a spot! This was viewed by Broadway producers! So she will be doing that as well. She really is our triple threat. I wanted to share the videos of her practice singing and audition but her momma didn't make them sharable yet. I am happy for the opportunities she has been presented with.
Anyways, off to do something productive I reckon.
Margaret ((HUGS)) as you take the next path in your life's journey.
Hugs to those who need.
Healing thoughts to those with injury or illness.
Congratulations to all the small steps being taken on the journey of being the best we can be!
Much love,
Kylia in Ohio where it was 3°F this morning, but the snow is pretty.
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Thank you Barbie! I copied the pattern onto a notepad and will try next. I do have circular needles and have done that type of knitting before so should be a breeze! (I think!)
Thanks again,
RVRita3 -
dlfk202000 wrote: »anmlmzdiet wrote: »
Families are complicated. I feel and understand your pain. I am the oldest of three. My younger siblings are deceased. My mother and I have struggled with our relationship for years. At this time, and she is getting up there in years, she has made comments about how she wishes one of my siblings had not died instead of me. She tells people she is writing me out of her will, which she hasn't done yet, and that my girls are to get nothing. She says she wants everything, including her doll collection, to go to her grandsons.
I still go and visit her, she doesn't know that I have family members jumping to tell me what she says. I'm kind to her, but factual. I don't play into her fantasies, and I think it bothers her. I can't change her, and no one can figure out why she continues to be this way. There's so much more I could say here, but suffice it to say, it's pretty unfair. Family? You'll never understand all of their motives. It's enough that I have my husband and children.
Michelle in NV
Michelle- sorry you are dealing with the way your mom is treating you. My husband is dealing with the same thing with his.
So much the same as what you wrote-
His brother(her favorite) was killed in an accident. The day after he died, his mom looked dh in the eyes and said "Wrong son died, huh!". We found out that day that she really had taken him out of her will. She had always said she was going to do it after he married me but we didn't know she had. She didn't understand why it upset him- he was going to get everything anyways. That was 12yrs ago.
Now she goes from saying she is giving everything to her niece who has said she is going to come here(from Osaka) and take mother in law back with her. Or she was giving everything to the bums on the street, Anything so dh, our son and I don't get anything.
The bad part is that a year and a half ago, she fell and he had to be there 24/7. She is better but still demands that he goes over there twice a day, every day, to bring her food(can't be food I make-if he does that she tells him to throw it in the garbage. She also comments about him eating "the garbage" at home), and makes sure she takes her meds. She can do these things herself but thinks she deserves all this attention.
He is the only family she has. She tells everyone, even her doctors, that she is all alone(while he is standing next to her)
She truly is the meanest women I know.
She hates him and he hates her and the tension is too much for him sometimes. He has never learned to tell her no.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
Maybe I’m mean, but if I was doing for her what you and your husband are, the minute she told me she was changing her will to the niece from Osaka, I would have bought her the one way plane ticket there! (Refundable of course) Maybe if she sees her threats are taken seriously,——then again, if she was always that way, she would probably wait until the last minute and not get on the plane! Or thrown off from the way she treats the stewards/stewardess’s (what do they call them now??)
Just venting a little. I’ve been in a crappy mood lately. With all my medical stuff hitting at once, and family baloney, not feeling the best. If I was in this mood when I was told I was useless, I probably would have turned off my phone gone home or on a trip for a month, then see what the person thinks of me!
RVRita in slightly rainy (was to be snow but not) Roswell, N<7 -
I did too! I was wondering if anyone would see that! 😁
UFO/Teleporters I’m just in the mood to contact my alien friends to get on their UFO fly around and pick everyone on here up and visit each of our living areas for the trip of our lives! Maybe even the alien home world? 👽🛸🌎🌍🌏🗺️
RVRita waiting for my signal!!📡 in Roswell
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