WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2024
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Kylia - I have completed an Advance Directive to state my wishes if I am no longer able to speak for myself. My doctor has a copy and both my sons. I do not wish for any medical intervention if I am not expected to make a complete recovery. That includes antibiotics. Of course, I hope to be able to make my own decisions for as long as possible. That includes not going into a home. I also support and campaign for assisted dying for terminal illness, and incurable suffering. I'm with you.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Good morning ladies!
Machka decision making is different in every family. Maybe I'm biased because both my mother and father had dementia. My mother was diagnosed Alzheimer's but my father is not diagnosed. My father also has undiagnosed depression which may fade as he grieves. But he between that and his hearing, he needs help with decisions. I guess there are very few cases where the patient is totally capable or the family is totally informed and unbiased. Everything is a compromise.
We are going to the bank today to wade through paperwork.
Everyone have a marvelous day!
Annie in Delaware7 -
Good morning, my dears, from the pre-dawn dark of the Arkansas River Valley... another half hour before the sun comes up on another clear and sunny day,
It got up to 77 degrees (25C) yesterday! In January!
I so enjoyed being able to walk down and get the mail and take out the trash without having to throw on a coat and boots... On the weather front, it looks like our West Coasties are going to get hit by yet another atmospheric river... batten down your hatches and pull the rubber boots out girls, so your tootsies stay dry! ☔⛈️🌦️
Rori and Tina - I didn't even catch that it was our Tina! Hope it was a wonderful visit, love those smiles. Rori, I think you win hands down on the "How many MFP women have I met in person" award. Too bad they don't have one of those for our profiles!
Heather and Machka - Love the Bibis, both the flowers and John's note!
Lanette - I've got four bonsai tree sets of seeds soaking in the kitchen, and will plant them in the pots where the basil very stubbornly refused to grow. Only the traditional sweet basil and a couple others deigned to even try, but it left me with four unoccupied pots for the bonsai set I picked up at Hobby Lobby yesterday.
Kylia - My headaches are driven by pressure, too, but not to the migraine level, thank goodness! Bless your heart, knowing they're coming is a mixed blessing, isn't it? You get to not only have them, but dread their arrival, and then have headache hangovers. Sounds awful. Glad your DH's birthday was good, and hope yours is too!
Machka - The aged care act in Australia sounds very humane. Corey and I put our advanced directives together when we established the trust and the wills. I hope the medical people pay attention. My niece, the EMT, said that often in emergency situations, people don't know their parents' wishes, so the elderly are treated whether or not they want to be. Unfortunately, most people don't make those decisions while they are still capable of making them, and it becomes a tough situation for family, in the end, while emotions are running too high for rational thought. Saddening and maddening.
Ginny - Traveling grace winging your way, glad the compressions are helping.
Tracey - Love the card, can't wait to see the next one! Thanks for the advice on the VA application process. It's how I usually am able to look at things, I'm just being a big fat dreader again. Sorry the fund has stalled out, but I hope $10,000 can get them going on their next try.
Betsy - I know you'll miss the grands and great-grands! Sounds like a wonderful visit. Sorry your sis is not feeling well, and hope the next appointments go very well. It will be nice to have the time with her, I know. Traveling grace for you, too, as you make your way home... and best to Ella.
Vicki - I'm sorry about the shoulder strain - we don't know how much we use a particular joint until we hurt it, and we find every moment involves almost our entire body...
More later, possibly. Pleased that, for January, I'm exactly one pound heavier at the end than the beginning, and both are in my maintenance range - 151.8 to 152.8. Happy with that. Acupuncture at 1:30, and beginning that benighted paperwork this morning--at least I can do it online... For our newbies, don't forget, Barbie will post a link later to move us into a clean slate for February. keep an eye out for it!
Love y'all!
Later,
Lisa4 -
Rori and Tina: Two lovely ladies! Glad you enjoyed your visit together.
Rori: Sorry your family member were ill.
Pip: Love the work you and Kirby have done in the bath and in your home.
Carol in GA3 -
Morning ladies
Woke up around 6:30 ,fed the cat and took my meds but having tummy troubles and just feeling a bit under the weather.. so going back to sleep for a bit..adios xoxo2 -
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Rori and Tina - How fabulous that you got to meet up in real life. Yeah!
I had a go at two watercolour brush pen greetings cards today. The first one was OK, but I did like the next one I tried. I liked it enough to send the design off for printing 10 cards.
The colour is more vivid in reality. 4x6 ins
Having a Zoom with my schoolfriends in 30 mins.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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We have been dumped on with snow galore. Anchorage got more than Wasilla but we got more than we wanted. Today Wasilla. Tomorrow Anchorage and Friday NW Wa.
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Barbara: Hope your recovery from the Mohs surgery goes well.
Rita: I had floaters after my cataract surgery and still do. The dr. seemed to think it was a usual thing and nothing was wrong.
Machka: I have been a long time fan of Nora Roberts, Mary Higgins Clark and Sandra Brown. Also like Patricia Cornwall, Fern Michaels, and Lisa Regan (although some of hers have gotten old).
Heather: Sweet note John sent to Bea!
Michelle in NV: Love the effort you are making to get the Dr Peppers out of your life. I wish I could get my love of wine in the evening gone.
My husband and I have been suffering with colds for the last 7 days! Ready for this to be over.
Carol in GA
Carol, I had the floater checked and my doctor too said not to worry about it. I asked him where they come from, I’ll put it more delicately than he did: ‘as we age, the jelly in our eyeballs, ‘curdle’ or thicken and cause lumps causing the floaters. They don’t go away and can multiply. We can laser them but they will just come back.’ He was lost on how to put the “old” part! 😁 I said, “so, it’s because I’m old?” He turned and practically ran from the room and said yes as he went. I think he was scared to admit it. I said it just to tease him as he is in his late 50’s early 60’s. LOL 😂
Vicki I was getting those flutters too and had to wear a test monitor for a week. Never got one then. Turned out it was anxiety and once I got that under control, no more flutters. I actually wore the monitor twice, once in TN right after some traumatic family things, and again in NM, not long after I made RV living the real thing. I hope you find a simple reason like I did!
RVRita in Roswell, NM
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Hi all-
Whidslander. I appreciate your reading assortment. I'm more chaotic about my selections, but lately I've been going old school and picking up titles from Vonnegut I had not previously read. He was more prolific than I expected. There are a lot to choose from. For mysteries....I like Alafair Burke. She does crime procedurals. I also like Tana French's books. Alafair writes some with Mary Higgins Clark, in case you liked those and want to see a combination. (I used to sell books...I'm quasi reset to that mode without thinking.)
Agree with Matchka that all sleep matters. I am happy living by myself in that I don't have to make excuses for my time management in some respects. As long as I am keeping my work hours in good order and the pooch has her necessary outings in a timely manner, I have a lot of ability to freestyle how I catch my zzz's.
Yesterday I was able to put on a pair of jeans that have been too tight for over a year. They fit great. I'm surprised I didn't get rid of them in one of my decluttering purges, but also glad to be able to slip them on and see the upside of my efforts.
Hope all of you get to enjoy a victory like that here and there. Cheers to all who are looking for ways to be healthier this year and making the dream happen.
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There seem to be a lot of "long term" colds around. The weather doesn't help. I hope all get better soon.
Safe travels to those traveling.
Ginny When I had my thumb surgeries I alternated pain med with Tylenol which kept the pain at a dull level. It worked well. I too feel like I have been busy, but can't say what I got accomplished. I will say that I am still foggy brained and not feeling charitable still today. I NEED sunshine!
DH had a good birthday. His best friend took him to the casino and lunch during the day. No winning, but good time. Then my youngest daughter and family joined us for dinner and picked up the tab! It was relaxing and wonderful! (Yes, this is my trouble child) I found our she is histamine intolerant. That accounts for a lot of her health issues. I had to look it up. Basically her body can't process histamine, so then they build up and cause all sorts of symptoms...headache, nausea, diarrhea, itching, rashes, etc. I am thankful for the doctor that thought to test for this.
Migraine has really put a dent in my goals. Just keep doing what I can.....
I really can't handle noise right now....the TV, shower running, phone ringing....just feels like sensory overload. Man, I am grumpy....
Old age and medical...putting in spoiler to be sensitiveSo my brother called to say that his FIL who is 95 and been sick since before Christmas, was taken to hospital for not eating or drinking. They found mass in his throat.
My thought is why subject him to sedations, tests, hospitals....in my opinion, just no. His wife died 2 yrs ago. He is 95! He is a wonderful man. His loss would vibrate badly through the family, but why...It tirns out the lump was just some atuck matter that they cleared with an endoscope. More testing this week. I think something is wrong with my thinking. If someone or furry something is suffering especially old, why prolong? I hope he gets home soon with comfort and peace. It just seems intrusive to me. I hope i didn't offend anyone, but it really bothers me to subject to drastic measures when a decline as been noted. Maybe i am too accepting of death as a fact of life.I am not saying that it doesn't hurt when it happens, but.....This weighs heavy on my thoughts especially as i get older. I don't want heroics.
Better get ready for work. Ugh.
I am thankful for all of you!
Much love,
Kylia in grey and cloudy again Ohio
Your words in the spoiler are my thoughts too. Why prolong someone or something’s suffering just because you don’t want to lose them? You are only giving money to the doctors and drug industry to prolong something that is inevitable. My mom is 88 this month and will not go for any medical tests or surgeries any more. She says she has had her life. She has outlived 2 spouses, my dad and the man she married at 70. Kylia, if there is something wrong with you, there is something wrong with me. I believe if it won’t cure me, don’t give it to me!
RVRita, grumpy in Roswell, NM
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Old age and medical...putting in spoiler to be sensitiveSo my brother called to say that his FIL who is 95 and been sick since before Christmas, was taken to hospital for not eating or drinking. They found mass in his throat.
My thought is why subject him to sedations, tests, hospitals....in my opinion, just no. His wife died 2 yrs ago. He is 95! He is a wonderful man. His loss would vibrate badly through the family, but why...It tirns out the lump was just some atuck matter that they cleared with an endoscope. More testing this week. I think something is wrong with my thinking. If someone or furry something is suffering especially old, why prolong? I hope he gets home soon with comfort and peace. It just seems intrusive to me. I hope i didn't offend anyone, but it really bothers me to subject to drastic measures when a decline as been noted. Maybe i am too accepting of death as a fact of life.I am not saying that it doesn't hurt when it happens, but.....This weighs heavy on my thoughts especially as i get older. I don't want heroics.
Much love,
Kylia in grey and cloudy again Ohio
As part of my job, I am participating in the consultation process for the new aged care act here in Australia.
One of the key points of the new act is an emphasis on the person's own choice.
No longer are we "putting mom in the nursing home". Now "mom" gets to decide if she wants to remain wherever she is currently living or if she wants to move somewhere else.
No longer are family members to decide what procedures the 95-year-old FIL will undergo. It's up to him. If he wants to do whatever it takes to continue living to 102 ... that's his decision.
And if it is a bad decision, certain designated people (a point I'm arguing in the consultations) can suggest alternatives, but the decision comes down to the person.
"We" ... as family, friends, acquaintances, etc. ... don't get to make those decisions.
However, the aged care acts in other countries may be different.
M in Oz
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Today is a good day to celebrate Zebra’s, I was thinking of maybe trying to draw/color a picture like this Zebra. Two celebrations in one! Inspire your Heart with Art Day!!
And something I did. I did a doodle arts, then thought I’d color it. I like how it turned out!
RVRita in NM
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Margaret ... some people (I was going to say young people, but they're not the only ones) have no emotional IQ and are completely clueless to what's going on around them. Sorry your niece added to the stress of the weekend ...
Elder Care ... I am legally documented as my mother's power of attorney and it includes her health care. She has advanced directives, a living will, and in NY, a MOLST form (medical orders for life-sustaining treatment) which is the "do-not-resuscitate" instructions. It's a bright pink form that goes with her to every ER visit, doctors appointment etc. I'm not certain that my mom completely understood the MOLST form when she entered NY and was immediately asked to complete this form at a rehab facility at the time, but I witnessed it and explained it the best I could. In fact, I encouraged her to agree to some of the care you could reject (i.e., antibiotics ... yes, IV hydration ... yes, feeding tubes ... no). In NY ... and every state is different ... the final decision rests with the health care POA. All medications, procedures, etc. have had to receive my approval. My personal opinion is that faced with a medical crisis, I will not seek to prolong her life at all costs, but I also will not hasten demise. There is a difference.
Beth near Buffalo
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Love your doodles Rita! That would make a lovely tea towel. Or silk scarf. I would wear it!
John's passport hasn't arrived yet, but the day is not over.
Zoom went well. My friend B has a stepdaughter in Edinburgh, and they went over there to stay the night and babysit the dog and teenager. They found a very dirty, very, very untidy house, which stank of dog. Her husband wrote a careful email afterwards, but there doesn't seem to be much reaction. Difficult to know what to do in those circumstances.
Not good for the teenager.
Love you all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx2 -
Kylia - I couldn't find how to answer you friend request, but I have sent one to you.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx1 -
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Rori--Nice picture of you and Tina. Sorry about the family visits.
Pip--Great job, looks nice.
Tracey-- CMA is Christian Motorcyclists Association. It is a world wide group. We have been members since 2008. DH and I are officers this year for our local group.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE 6 -
So, I know ya'll are salivating to find out the ending... I bit the bullet and got the online application submitted this morning. This at least sets the clock running, so if there is a judgment that my VA disability will be adjusted upward, it should be awarded in retrospect up to this point. Supposedly. Lordie, way too many variables involved for my comfort, but that's OK. At least the first step is done.
Please note - when I took a deep breath and started this process, I had to clean out my browser cache and reset my system. The first message I got from the site at the outset was that I couldn't submit that way, that I would have to make a call and get my forms on paper to submit. After a few cuss words and worse thoughts, and just on the off chance, I decided to just clear things and start again. It worked, and only took me ten minutes to fully submit that application! Just because a website tells you it won't work, there may be a stray electron wandering around in it that makes it think you've got cooties. Scrubbing its tiny brains by clearing your buffer might set it aright.
The Walmart delivery showed up right on time at 11, so that's done, and I'll be talking to Corey shortly for his lunchtime call. It's leftover chicken risotto from last night, and taco meat and potatoes from the night before. It's just a matter of deciding who gets what...
Got my glasses adjusted yesterday by the VA, and the frames I chose are a bit small for my head, even with adjustment. So she ordered a brand new pair, with slightly larger frames, and I get to keep these as a spare pair. Nice of her.
Headed for acupuncture, hope everyone's having (or had) a good day... Allie, hope you're feeling better, honey.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
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Tracey. I like how you said they have not experienced a situation like this. This niece did lose her mother at age 21 but was not in charge of funeral arrangements. Funerals and Weddings bring out the worst and best in others. When my brother called the night before the funeral. He too was from out of town and expected to visit that night. I did say I had too much to do to get ready and I would see him tomorrow. Once he saw all that went into DH celebration of life he understood. He did call me and told me how proud he was of me for how well I handled the service. I have learned sometimes it is better just to be direct and not go into too much detail. That takes time and energy you do not have. I am not responsible for the other person's feelings. If I have time and energy to visit I will otherwise we will decide on another time. I find plenty to do while waiting for someone.
Beth She was having a hard time seeing outside of her own stress. Happens! I had a few others who were in this boat during this time and made getting things done a bit harder. She and the others were in the minority. Most were helpful and did what needed to be done without me even asking. I focused on her because I realized I needed to not let getting to see her children belie common sense. What was best for her children. Not us as adults. Lesson learned.
Lisa I loved, "Scrubbing its tiny brains by clearing your buffer might set it alright." I need to remember that one.5 -
Good afternoon my friends.
I had a good day at the bank getting things changed around. Now I've got a pot of chili simmering away. I was watching the geese wobble about outside like soldiers in a field. Now they have disappeared. Must be a stealth mission, usually they are very loud at takeoff.
Well it's a quiet afternoon here. I need to either find something productive to do, or just take a nap. I think we have rain coming which makes me feel subdued.
Hope you all have a good day!
Annie in Delaware3 -
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Hope ya'll are having a good day
Hopefully i got the right 2 pictures of mr Miles at daycare,they got eggs from the chickens this morning..I went back to sleep for a bit and then got dressed..
I love watching all creatures on PBS
Ordered the Real James Herriot a memoir of my father..
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Stats for the day-
Walk w/family- 2hrs 1min 15sec, 90elev, 3.01ap, 79ahr, 95mhr, 6.09mi= 580c
Strava app = 747c
Walk home to gym- 11.16min, .53mi= 57c
Strava app = 65c
Slow incline treadmill jog- 23.15min, 5.2sp entire jog, incline @1 1st 1/2mi, incline @2 2nd 1/2mi, incline @3 3rd 1/2mi, incline @4 last 1/2mi, 128ahr, 157mhr, 11.38min mi, 2mi= 239c
Walk gym to store then home- 14.45min, 3.27ap, .80mi= 78c
Strava app= 99c
Total cal 954
New shower door is being installed.3 -
Anniesquats100 wrote: »Good morning ladies!
Machka decision making is different in every family. Maybe I'm biased because both my mother and father had dementia. My mother was diagnosed Alzheimer's but my father is not diagnosed. My father also has undiagnosed depression which may fade as he grieves. But he between that and his hearing, he needs help with decisions. I guess there are very few cases where the patient is totally capable or the family is totally informed and unbiased. Everything is a compromise.
We are going to the bank today to wade through paperwork.
Everyone have a marvelous day!
Annie in Delaware
Agreed. And those are some of the points I have been arguing/discussing during these consultations.
It's not a clear-cut, black and white issue.
M in Oz2 -
Good morning!
I had a lovely time meeting and walking the boardwalk with Rori. It was so nice to meet one of you. I hope I get to meet more of you at some point.
Heather and Rita-I like your artwork! I agree, they'd make great greeting cards or towels.
Anna-Congrats on the jeans!
We are all preparing for another deluge of rain starting late tonight. I will "batten down the hatches" today, which includes cutting the grass in the front (otherwise it gets too thick for my cutter), moving the outdoor furniture, and charging all camera batteries so we don't have to go out in the rain more than necessary. Yes, our "battening down" is tame. Sadly, I'll have to drive in the rain tomorrow.
Tina in CA
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »Kylia - I have completed an Advance Directive to state my wishes if I am no longer able to speak for myself. My doctor has a copy and both my sons. I do not wish for any medical intervention if I am not expected to make a complete recovery. That includes antibiotics. Of course, I hope to be able to make my own decisions for as long as possible. That includes not going into a home. I also support and campaign for assisted dying for terminal illness, and incurable suffering. I'm with you.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
I'm aiming for the letter from the King! 😀3 -
Before and after. No more sliding glass door
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Pip Love it!1
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Slept in this morning- LOVED the quiet. Dh worked a graveyard shift then went to his mom's. He came in an hour after I woke up. I had gotten up, fed all the cats inside, cleaned up their messes then laid back in bed to do the morning nebulizer treatment(about to start week6 of this-usually only lasts 5 weeks so hopefully it will clear up completely pretty soon)
Dh came in and laid down before I got out of bed the second time and fell right to sleep, with three cats on or next to him. He is still sleeping so still very quiet.
Raining good now and will the next two days. It was sunny and a warm 77 on my drive from mom's on Sunday-tank top weather. Today, back to fleece/CuddleDuds again. LOTS of hot tea.
I will stay home until time for class tonight.
We have our second show to sell our 3D printed things on Sunday. We are sharing the booth with his friend so not sure how much room we will have. I am sure it won't be as much as I would like(booth is small to start with) Would love to do a show and have our own table but not sure when we will do that.
We have enough printed to fill a 6'table easily. I just finished bagging and pricing the last of what we printed and got it all written down so we know how much we have- will be able to see what sells and what doesn't
woops- wrote this a few hours ago- forgot to submit it.
Heading to class now- rain boots on
Have a great evening ladies
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA
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