WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2024

barbiecat

I'm home from my evening walk with my friend. Nice weather and longer light in the evening meant that we hardly needed our flashlights.

Here is the link to the new thread for February
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10908717/women-ages-50-for-february-2024/p1?new=1

ginnytez

Kylia-we cross posted-so sorry to hear elderly family situation. I fought for my mom to be able to make her own decisions. My brothers want her to continue chemo (and she was done) and go back to her house (she chose hospice). When two of the three argued with me band said "don't you care about her?" I told them yes I did-and I supported because it had been her life and would be her death. It may have been different if she had not been completely coherent. I think sometimes we think of our pain at loosing them and not their pain in staying. I think it is really important for us to take the time to make our choices known and to honestly talk with loved ones about theirs.

Annie-what a relief having banking straightened out must be. I had a list of things after my husband passed and I swear I thought it would take forever.

Take care all,

Ginny in Ohio

margaretturk

I learned in this experience that here where I live an advanced directive only might help you know what your family member wants. If your loved one is taken to the hospital in the ambulance they are by law to do CPR or incubate unless there is a DNR or DNI signed by a doctor. Here it is Hospice that can obtain such an order. They tell you to have it on your frig to have to give to the paramedics. In order to get hospice it needs to be ordered by a doctor. So in the case of my dad when he was 88 they brought him back to life in the ambulance even with a health care directive. He would have just slipped away. Instead three years later he was moved 3 times when he was dying and it was a much more difficult death. I remembered this when helping DH. At one point the paramedics came and said if they took him in the hospital they would more than likely send him home. I decided to have him stay. I did not want the same end as my dad.

TerriRichardson112

Tracey: 🥰 🥰 the card. You certainly have a way with the hand crafting. Great attention to detail.

Lisa: Bravo for getting the application in. 🤞 for a positive result.

Rita: 🫶the doodle art. Very soothing colours.

It’s a bright calm day here. Planning to go to Shakespeare Study Group after lunch.

My eczema is much improved. I had it redressed on Tuesday and am waiting for an appointment time for tomorrow and next Tuesday. If they can’t fit me in I will,have to change the dressings myself, which I’m not looking forward to.

🤗🤗🤗 and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

☘️ Terri

anmlmzdiet

@Snowflake1968
Your Birthday Card is beautiful.

@Machka9
Stunning Little Bibi

@kymarai
Migraines. Don't get me started. I'm so tired of treatments that don't work, and now I'm out of medicine till I go back and see the neurologist again. He was suggesting Botox last time I was there. I'll let you know if/when I go. I'm pretty stubborn about not wanting to go to doctor's appointments.

Thank you for the insight, I hear Mt. Dew is even higher in caffeine than Dr. Pepper in, which is supposed to be 25% higher than Coke according to someone on one of my other feeds.

@bwcetc
I am trying to keep up, but I guess you're right. I should worry more about checking-in. 😟

More on Elder Care note: I would have put this next part as a spoiler, but I don't know how.
After reading many of these posts, I had been waiting to weigh-in on the topic of managed end-of-life care. and after reading your post, I decided this was a good place to put it in.

I have a 97-year-old grandmother who now seems to be waiting to die and has already said, "No," to some simple procedures. I think she is saying no because she is scared of dying from something small. She has recently developed a large marble sized lump just under the jaw area, above her neck. She says she doesn't want to do anything about it. One of her other granddaughters recently died while going in for a port cleaning of her dialysis equipment and breathing equipment. (I hope that makes sense, I am not an expert on all that was wrong with her, and sometimes I'm like, "What's a port, and how is she talking with a breathing tube?") Anyway, Grandma says, "I know it's coming; I'm just not going to worry about it." In reality, I think she's more worried about it than she's ever been, now that my cousin has died.

I just hope I make sense at age 97, and we are all hoping she makes it to 100. We're talking it up to her, and keeping her spirits high. However, no one plans to prolong her life just so she can reach 100. I'm not arguing with her about her lump; it's her lump. She's a big girl, she's had a few mini strokes, she knows what's up. However, it does not mean that we'll let anything go. We all want her around as long as possible, but it's her choice.

My mother on the other hand, and I've talked here before about her craziness and her less than motherly behavior, is out of her mind. She is not rational, and does not make good decisions for herself. My cousin goes to her appointments with her, and talks to her doctor. My sister used to go with her when she was alive; that wasn't productive since they both were concerned about how many drugs they could get and what type. Right now, my cousin keeps a close eye on my mother's drug use. She needs creative care. Someone who can outsmart her. Example (No lectures here; we keep medical personnel in the loop, so no killing the messenger; just sharing an experience): One day, she was complaining about how she "might" just die and no one would care if she took too many pills. (Again, we got this.) Of course, all her pills are locked up, and she gets her meds like she would in the hospital. So, little chance of her doing anything about it, right? My cousin then tells her that she can't die from any of the pills she is taking, she can only get sick: and wouldn't you know it she reaches over takes out several pills that she had squirreled away and says, "Fine, you might as well take these then."

OMGosh! She is just so difficult. This is a woman who doesn't not need to be making her own choices. I'm all for end of life rights, truly I am, but half the time she does things and turns around a week later and says she would never do a thing like that. Once you're dead, you're dead; there's no coming back later and saying that's not what you meant. So, I my feelings are mixed. If I understand the Australian law correctly, having only read about it here, I think it may be too one sided. And, maybe the US laws are too permissive. Further, what about those who want assisted passing due to long term illness or for any reason for that matter? I don't have the answer, just more questions.

@sh0tzz99
Your weather is coming my way. Soon to be soaking wet here in NV too. 😊

@Anniesquats100
Chili; Yummy!

I've pretty well got over the soda addition at this point. I'm not as miserable now, but my insomnia is back. While getting off the soda, I slept more than I had in recent years. I thought maybe my insomnia was related to my soda intake, but here I am...up again. It's okay; I like to type at night. I hadn't been able to work my way to getting through all the posts during my detox either. Next is to get off sugar as much as possible, I think that I'm not just affected by soda but the sugar too.

I know I didn't get to everyone, but I'm still learning how to manage that. I'll get to more later.

Michelle in NV (Where we should be having rain at 2:00PM is CA leaves us any.)

LisaInArkansas

@anmlmzdiet , Michelle in NV and anyone else stopping here, come join us in February! And don't worry about getting to everyone, very few of us do or can, we just do what we do. No one's offended if you don't comment, cross my heart:
The February link is: https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10908717/women-ages-50-for-february-2024/p1?new=1

Bookmark it, and we'll see you there...

Lisa in AR

kevrit

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Love your doodles Rita! That would make a lovely tea towel. Or silk scarf. I would wear it!

John's passport hasn't arrived yet, but the day is not over.

Zoom went well. My friend B has a stepdaughter in Edinburgh, and they went over there to stay the night and babysit the dog and teenager. They found a very dirty, very, very untidy house, which stank of dog. Her husband wrote a careful email afterwards, but there doesn't seem to be much reaction. Difficult to know what to do in those circumstances. Not good for the teenager.

Love you all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Thank you very much Heather! I never thought to make a scarf out of it! I think I’ll look into that! I pondered cards but didn’t decide until I read your post this morning! Sounds like a good thing to do! I was my first try at that kind of thing. I was happy with it and may try something like it again!

Love,
RVRita

kevrit

grandmallie wrote: »

Hope ya'll are having a good day

Hopefully i got the right 2 pictures of mr Miles at daycare,they got eggs from the chickens this morning..I went back to sleep for a bit and then got dressed..
I love watching all creatures on PBS
Ordered the Real James Herriot a memoir of my father..
So I will start reading that tonight.

Allie Amazing! I had that same tablecloth in the pic with Miles when I lived in CT! Small World! I need a new one, I may look for one similar!

RVRita

anmlmzdiet

Having trouble posting in February, checking if I can post here.

bwcetc

@anmlmzdiet ... I don't recall commenting on how often you check-in here. Maybe got me confused with someone else? As Lisa said ... you check in when you can. I'm posting here in case you're still checking on this month's thread.

The new thread is The February link is: https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10908717/women-ages-50-for-february-2024/p1?new=1

Once you get onto February click on the outlined bookmark. It should turn blue and that way you'll be able to find us.

Beth near Buffalo

Whidislander

pipcd34 wrote: »

Before and after. No more sliding glass door

Love your new shower door! Ours is the old sliding style and I hate it! Its hard to clean!

SophieRosieMom

Wanted to share a something in Dr. Chatterjee's weekly email rec'd yesterday. Titled "Try my Five-step Release to ease Anxieties". Simple, practical steps to help tame the worry beast.

Try my Five-step Release to ease anxieties. Sometimes we start the day anxious. Maybe there’s a work meeting or a social occasion in the diary that’s worrying you. Perhaps you’re not sure what the root cause is. Either way, negative feelings can often be relieved by getting your thoughts down on paper. Set yourself up for a calm day by working through the five points below.

1 One thing I’m anxious about
Identify the issue that’s most dominant in the swirl of thoughts going around your head.

2 One practical thing I can do to prepare for it
With day-to-day anxieties, being proactive and practical can really help. Planning how you’re going to get somewhere or thinking about possible conversational topics in advance can reduce feelings of worry.

3 One reason it’s not going to be as bad as I fear
Our minds naturally turn to worst-case scenarios to protect us, but it can make things seem worse than they are. Foster a more realistic view of your problem by refusing to catastrophize.

4 One reason I know I can handle it
Perspective is a great thing. Remember how you tackled a similar event – or a worse one – and got through it.

5 One upside of the situation
Find a positive to the problem that’s worrying you. Most dark clouds really do have a silver lining.

I thought it was timely yesterday. My own shoulder was grumpy from moving heavy cement blocks on Thursday, arthritic toes on my right foot swollen and painful just because. We had a nice break in the weather and I didn't feel up to doing anything - my neighbors were all out pruning and cleaning up their property.

Going through the steps above helped.

Today will be a better day.

Back later.

Lanette
Chilly SW WA State

TerriRichardson112

Pip: You’ve made a great job of the shower.
Lanette: Thank you for sharing. I’ve used a similar process in the past. It certainly works for me.

SophieRosieMom

High strangeness in the wifi world at my house this morning - some posts from you ladies are showing up on this laptop but not my tablet, and vice versa.

This is a test post from the laptop.

Curious to see what gets through on what device.

Lanette

Rebooting everything. Don't think it's an MFP issue.