I wanna give up. I love eating, I don't like walking

aleena2975
aleena2975 Posts: 31 Member
edited June 28 in Health and Weight Loss
Ugh, and the numbers game with my calories and macros is annoying. I'll admit in my previous routine sometimes I ate badly because I am a foodie. However in this new phase of losing weight (again) my eating is very healthy. I have minimal adjustments I have to make with regards to getting rid of unhealthy snacks or candy.

But even though I eat healthy and attend a workout class that I mostly love (some days it does feel too hard), I still have to adjust how MUCH I eat. Even at 1600 calories, I can't enjoy the amount of carbs I want because of my damn exercise bar I ate this morning. All a girl wants is some rice for dinner. But my macros aren't allowing for it. It feels exhausting to be so on top of my game and always searching for the perfect snacks I can fit into my diet, and then how to manage my dinners accordingly. Last night I wasn't hungry but I still had a hard time sleeping as my dinner was extremely low carb (I had already eaten my carbs for the day so I had cauliflower rice).

If you think this is a hangry rant you are also wrong. I just had the most delicious chobani flip yogurt after my lunch, which, as you could've probably guessed, puts me over my cal limit by 160. I'm annoyed. It seems my old no tracking methods of eating much less than I normally do was more effective and easier than having to think about what I can have all the time. It's also annoying because calorie restriction allows you to have some things, but also restricts so it's not too much. In a restriction mindset (low carb, eat minimally) you can't have MOST things, so you don't really get false hope. Restriction can also last for a short few weeks while you rapidly loose the weight. In this "healthier" method I am trying, I wait 6 weeks to see if a pound will come off. And then I get taunted by my gym to "accept the number" or "not focus on the number" or "focus on the clothes size going down" but never to actually get the number down too!

Also, how the hell do I fit in a daily walk. I love laying down or just sitting!

Sincerely,
Frustrated Frannie
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  • csplatt
    csplatt Posts: 1,205 Member
    It is possible to ignore macros for the sake of commitment and just stick to your calorie allotment.
  • __Alex___
    __Alex___ Posts: 15 Member
    You're making this too complicated and awful. Forget calories and carbs.

    Go on a 30 minute walk every day.
    Make sure your first meal is mostly protein.
    Don't eat heavy carbs (rice, pasta, potatoes) for dinner.

    Do that for a month and see where you are. I bet happier and healthier.
  • yirara
    yirara Posts: 9,928 Member
    Addition: Don't make this harder for yourself. Find the easiest and most enjoyable way to lose the weight, really.
  • BCLadybug888
    BCLadybug888 Posts: 1,695 Member
    edited June 29
    Per you
    "I'm annoyed. It seems my old no tracking methods of eating much less than I normally do was more effective and easier than having to think about what I can have all the time"

    Go back to your old method then. No one decides on your macros but you. Low carb is NOT the only way to lose weight.

    "Also, how the hell do I fit in a daily walk. I love laying down or just sitting!"

    If you don't want to go for a walk, just try to be more active in general (fidgety - embrace little ways to move more) and get some extra steps that way. There are threads on NEAT, check them out, some of the ideas are asinine (imo), but other suggestions aren't bad - the old mantra of "park farther away when you shop" for example.
  • BCLadybug888
    BCLadybug888 Posts: 1,695 Member
    yirara wrote: »
    Addition: Don't make this harder for yourself. Find the easiest and most enjoyable way to lose the weight, really.

    Hear, hear 👏
  • cmriverside
    cmriverside Posts: 34,409 Member
    edited June 29
    LOL, right after I posted that I went to my meditation site for my daily thought...this is it:
    Thought for the Day
    Saturday 29 June

    It is permissible to take life's blessings with both hands provided thou dost know thyself prepared in the opposite event to take them just as gladly. This applies to food and friends and kindred, to anything God gives and takes away.

    — Meister Eckhart


    Eknath Easwaran's Commentary:

    In order to live in freedom, we must learn to accept a temporary disappointment, if necessary, when it is for our permanent well-being. Sometimes, when we want to eat something that appeals to us, or when we want to eat a little more than is necessary, we can’t help feeling disappointment as we push away from the table. We cannot help thinking that we could as well have stayed on for five more minutes of pleasure, forgetting that it would probably be followed by five hours of stomachache at night. The right time to get up from the meal is when we want just a little more. This is real artistry, real gourmet judgment: when we find that everything is so good that we would like to have one more helping, we get up and walk away.



    The Thought for the Day is today's entry from Eknath Easwaran's Words to Live By.

    https://www.bmcm.org/inspiration/thought-day/it-is-permissible-to-take-lifes-blessing/
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,973 Member
    What happens if you give up? You'll only resort to just getting heavier and risking higher health issues.

    Mentality is usually the main issue people fail at weight loss. You have to wrap your head around thinking that you DON'T need to eat so much and that you DON'T need to fully satisfy your food cravings day in and out.

    As for walking, you SET A TIME and just do it. There's really no other way around it. If you work a job where you have to be behind a desk all day, there are now slim line walkers that can be used at stand up desks.

    But you HAVE TO WANT TO DO IT. If not, then it's just going to be an effort in vain.

    A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
    IDEA Fitness member
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    Been in fitness for 40 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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  • sclady21
    sclady21 Posts: 37 Member
    PAV8888 wrote: »
    Dear frustrated Frannie: lose the extra restrictions and concentrate on what matters.

    Low carb of high carb may change your water weight in the short term; but long term your fat deposits will change based on your excess or reduced calories.

    Period. Full stop.

    Make your choices so that you get the best bang for your buck based on your budget.

    If you get a Gucci bag, you may not be able to pay rent or get a cab or gas for your car.... because you've blown your budget and spent all your 🤑 money.

    So, I eat candy bars and cauliflower rice because I prefer candy bars and cauliflower rice and being within my budget to eating regular rice and no candy bars while still being in my budget, or to eating real rice and candy bars but being over my budget.

    It's a free world and we make choices. It does take a while to figure out which ones work best for us as individuals and that's ok. At least we're working at it! 👍

    As to where you find time to do the new things you want to do the answer is the same as when you evaluate the benefits of mayo vs mustard for the calories.

    Sometimes mayo calories are worth it and sometimes they're not.

    We grow. We change. Our priorities change.

    Part of this self experiment is to figure out which aspects of life you're willing to change and exchange/trade for other stuff you would prefer doing

    If nothing changes in your life the inclination for your weight to continue on its previous trajectory will also not change.

    Clean slate and goal oriented.

    Everything is on the chopping block and up for re-consideration.

    Keep the keepers and swap in the new foods and activities that will help you reach your goals and help you continue to achieve them in the future too. And slowly change to where your new reduced weight is the result of your default choices

    I know you can! 😎👍
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    Great advice!! I needed to hear that today. Thank you!
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    Hmm, doesn't look like @aleena2975 is going to come back. I wanted to ask her why she thought she HAS to eat low carb.

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  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,272 Member
    But my macros aren't allowing for it. It feels exhausting to be so on top of my game and always searching for the perfect snacks I

    Have you heard the adage - don't let perfect be the enemy of good?

    It seems to me you are trying too hard to make this perfect and then you feel like giving up because it is not

    It doesnt have to be perfect - it just has to be good enough.

    Don't go low carb if that doesn't suit you - just aim to be round about the recomended macro mix most days and close to your calories most days
    and if you want rice for dinner, have it (obviously i n sensible amounts)

    My thought about daily walk is to try to make it a small habit that grows - maybe set yourself the target of doing a 10 minute walk every second day - or something like that - and build it up.
  • paperpudding
    paperpudding Posts: 9,272 Member
    Make sure your first meal is mostly protein.
    Don't eat heavy carbs (rice, pasta, potatoes) for dinner.

    Not neccesary.

    I eat weetbix for breakfast nearly every day and most days I would have pasta or potatoes or rice (sometimes more than 1 of these) in my dinner each night

    It is your overall diet that matters, not what you eat when or exactly what foods you eat.
  • nighthawk584
    nighthawk584 Posts: 2,023 Member
    edited July 12
    If you give up, you will most likely end up like me. Angry at yourself, depressed and VERY unhealthy!

    I lost 100 lbs a few years back.. by being lazy, making excuse after excuse and totally giving up, I gained 80 of it back. I went from my healthiest in my life to absolute S*** again. All that hard work down the drain. It's very easy just to throw in the towel and give into temptations, but so rewarding when you don't. The stats don't lie and I am a stat. most gain all their weight back because they GAVE UP.

    This all being said, I am on my way back down again watching the intake and exercising every day. You have to just get through each day and within no time it will be routine....anyone can find time for a 30 min workout. I spend more time caring for my teeth. It's your choice, your life, what do you want out of it?

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