WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2024

cityjaneLondon

Feeling 'off' , depressed, angry, frustrated, tired all the time , is feedback that something is wrong with the way you are leading your life. It is valuable learning material. No amount of gratitude or meditation is going to put that right. 'The universe supports you. Listen to your feedback '.
I went into this in much more detail in my book, 'Now I Am.'

The family arrived safely in Croatia yesterday and had a fabulous day today. 😀 I followed the flight on my app, and they touched down 15 mins early.
It's a great break for my son, because he doesn't have to cook! I hope he can leave work behind. Weather looks excellent for their 10 days.



Michele - Like Margaret, I can feel your frustration and fear around your daughter’s life. It sounds miserable. Unfortunately, we cannot do anything about it, until they are ready themselves, which is so sad. Just show her all the love you can. When she needs you, you can be there to support her.
We can lead a horse to water, but we can't make them drink. Ditto my book again.
Those that have ears to hear, let them hear.
Most of us are pretty well deaf.

Much love to all those suffering.
Heather UK xxxxxx

dlfk202000

LisaInArkansas wrote: »

Here's a question for you - why is it so much harder to spend money on ourselves than it is to spend it on someone else? Going down the hill in a little bit to get glasses ordered, and had to convince myself at length to do it. All the needlework of late is really showing how scratched up and beat up my glasses are, and need replacing.



Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa in AR

I feel the same way- it is so easy to spend on my mom, my son and my former hubby. Even easier to spend on dh than it is to spend on myself.

kymarai

Hugs to those needing them!

Lisa I get the money spending and dhs. When I started this relationship, I came with responsibilities and debt. I was diligent in not asking him for assistance. His money and my money. Maybe it is always needing to protect me, maybe it is trauma of earlier life, but I still pretty much feel the same way. Yet, he has gotten more lax about those boundaries. By that I mean he shares more now with very little conflict. He has even gotten better when I spend my money on me. It usually was a struggle. My brother and sister are more like Corey....they don't understand my reluctance to totally merge our finances.


A little food "porn" of my own. This makes me happy! Crunchy, fresh, and colorful!

Can't concentrate today. The positive is I have had lots of water to drink and only one cookie and two turtles(dark chocolate) along with bites of above and several bites of venison tenderloin. I have been nibbling all day. Oh well, mainly good for me

Lanette I totally forgot to weigh in! Went to bathroom to do that realized the kitty pan needed emptied, did that, mopped floor, emptied kitchen trash, took meds, came to work.....oops! But the kitties are happy

More later,
Kylia in Ohio

Whidislander

So, so happy this morning! I had closed my eating window at 6 pm last night, so waking up at 6:30 am I was almost 12 hours fasted already. Good way to start my day. Unfortunately it went a wee bit downhill from there! We got to the gym and I put my stuff in the electronic locks in the ladies. When I came out husband was right there stating the weight machines room had spring a leak in its ceiling from the rain we had over the weekend. So he said it's just the treadmill today. I go back into the locker area because I like to take my Pellegrino water, plus tablet and ear buds while walking. It took me a good 5 minutes of swearing to get the blasted thing open! I have been reading some lovely romantic vampire books, lol, so that is nice to walk to. I tried my normal machine but it kept going to the "resume or end" page. I went to a machine behind it and it was fine but started making an annoying squeek. I then switched to the machine next to it. In the end I got 25 minutes of walking because husband came by with a "I'm done" smile. I just figured he would tag on the time we usually lift weights onto his walking time and do 45 min. He is such a creature of habit. He does 30minutes and never strays! Well the point is find the good! My good was that I woke up at 6:30 am! I walked. I also made brownies for youngest sailor son this morning. I gave the batter bowl to husband and ordered him to take it away. Too easy to have a fingerfull.
My NSV this morning was that I tried on my black honesty pants that have been sitting in my closet for almost 2 years. I can put them up past my hips! Are they a wee bit tight? Kinda. The fabric is kind of stretchy. Anyways they are a size X1 or 18. What I was wearing yesterday was a 3X or 22. Do I kinda have a muffin top? Oh heck yes. But I wear shirts long to cover my apron thing. I shall wear these all day, gosh darn it. 😁

Today is a repeat performance of yesterday. 2 slices of papa johns pizza with a salad.👍🏼💖
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa

SophieRosieMom

MFP Weekly Check-In August 26, 2024

Rita in Roswell, NM – I was going to wait until tomorrow but decided to stick with Sunday weigh ins. Up 2 pounds from last week, BUT!!! Still down 11 pounds from my start weight of 186 and 35 pounds less than my all-time high of 210! Positive thinking!!

Debbie in Napa Valley, CA - weight same as last week. Glad to be out walking again.

Lanette SW WA State – Weight remaining stable. Able to retire some too baggy pants that were tight 6 months ago. Keeping up with morning stretches, back to lifting light weights a few times a week, some time on the elliptical. Number of steps way down from 6 months ago, but feet doing better so that’s a win.

SophieRosieMom

Kylia - thanks for the reminder about the Check-In! I got the "Gateway error" this morning and couldn't get in to the group and got busy with other things. All good now.

I understand the day getting away from you. Love your crunchy food porn, just my style.

Lanette

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ginnytez

Quick drop in this evening. Busy Monday at work. Came home needed to balance checkbook-to the penny like Rebecca! Then needed to pay some bills (medical stuff not cleared through insurance). That got me to my out of pocket and deductible for the year. Set up account for new PA practice. Lunch packed and logged for tomorrow. Trash to the curb. 30 minute walk inside. Am ready for bed!

No words of wisdom for anyone. It seems like we all have our struggles and our victories. While they may be different it helps me to know I am not alone with such things.

Tomorrow we are in another heat wave so Kylia and I will bake! Luckily I am indoors most of the day. Will leave work at 3:45 for haircut then home.

Take care all,

Ginny in Ohio

LisaInArkansas

mcmillonmail

Hello, ladies; I missed you guys so much. I told my therapist about how inspirational every one of you is. I think it was Annie who said that she does a task that her husband does not do, and he gave his input on how to do it better. It made me wonder if all wives go through this. I know I do. I just had to chuckle at that. This week, I stayed away from the Manusha of work politics. My manager called me in again. I asked her, "What did I do this time?" She said nothing. She just wanted to inform me that I got a raise based on my performance in the review.
I am not allowed to disclose it to anyone. So, I told my husband I got a raise but don't know the amount . I stuck to it. What I got this morning was better than any raise. The baby boy I cared for smiled at me and patted my arm. I got to hold my gray/blue-eyed cherub(her eyes changed), and she loved the snuggle time and didn't want me to leave. Then my patient who has Down syndrome told me bye as a hint to leave. I held my hand and would not let go. His mom told me that he is attached to me now. My patients remind me why I am a nurse. My cherub is going home to her mom. I hope she will be okay and take care of her. She is so sweet.
Lastly, we talked about headaches so much last week that I had a patient with one who is 17. Hers is from falling off of a horse and getting kicked in the back of the head from him. She has a skull fracture and TBI. I tried to explain that she needed low stimulation and a cold room, cold drinks, and ice in the area. Controlling her pain was a difficult feat. I went over everything I do since this will be a continuing issue. I told her parents about the migraine teas, the cooling gel mask, and the diversion. Dad wants
opioids, but the doctors say that they do not work with these injuries. Sometimes, I feel we treat the parents more than the children.

Pip- all the hard work you are doing shows in those dresses. You should find a nice place to go to wear them. Go on a cruise.

Lisa, I will do my floors next week. I know it was your goal, and I thought it would be great if I could do that as well. I also need to start washing my son's linens. I hope all is well with you, and thank you for the great send-off. I had a fantastic stretch.

Kim, California is my home state, yet I don't know how things work. It has been a long since I worked for a doctor's office while in school, billing Medicare. I could ask my cousin or aunt who lives in Vallejo, California. I want to get your help or point you that way. My cousin is a social worker.

Rita, those meals you posted look delicious. Your hubby must love to cook.

Machka- Happy Anniversary!

Beth, Happy Belated Anniversary! It would be best if you wrote a book on how to make marriage last. Your 40 years of marriage are a testimony to your commitment and patience. My DH and I will celebrate 28 years in September. The place you set up for your mom sounds so tranquil.

Kylia, I get what you are saying. I could stay in my pajamas all day, and I do sometimes.

It is so hot in my bedroom, and my AC unit is not working. So I will close for now. I will chat tomorrow. Take care of everyone I missed today. Lanette, thanks for making me smile.

XO,
Monique

dlfk202000

had to miss class tonight. As I was getting ready to go, one of the cats was acting really strange(like he was paranoid of everything around him). I am pretty sure he had just had a massive seizure. He wouldn't let me touch him or anything. He had another big one and kept having small then big ones then passed away in my arms. I tried giving him his CBD which have helped with his seizures in the past but not this time. I just held him for the last hour and a half until he passed. Peed on me as he did. Just came in from burying him. DH couldn't handle any of it- I was fine doing all of it. I am a lot calmer which is what Miso needed.

Dentist in the morning- not looking forward to that- removing a crown because there is a cavity under it- will get a temp. crown until the first of the year when our insurance resets. I will have to pay out of pocket for all of the work tomorrow but don't want to pay for the actual crown too.

Debbie
Napa Valley,Ca

Snowflake1968

Machka - I think if I were just worried about my meals I would have a lot less meat. We tend to have it almost daily, although I do get chicken in 2-3 times a week I think.
Rodger will eat seafood, I will not.
I agree, people don’t have dinner parties anymore it seems. We still do in our family, but mostly because it’s the least expensive way to get together.

Terri - I too am a pretty positive person, but I find my mood changes a lot with who I’m hanging around.

Carol - I have a daughter that is messy and one that has to have everything in order. I offer to help either of them whenever they may need it. My messy daughter has the Grands and a husband in a small area, I take the kids lots to give them all a break from one another. I care about them not their housekeeping.

Lisa - I need to order new glasses too. My glasses run close to $1000 because of the prescription I always get discounted frames. I was quite pleased to know that my benefits will cover $500 every two years.
I need to start logging again, so did today. I need to start making some changes.

Heather - I’m happy to see your family arrived safely. I know how it worries you to have them in the air.

On money - I have a vivid memory of my mother asking my father for $2 and him saying I just gave you $2 last week. This was probably in the early 80’s. I swore I would never ask a man for money. We have separate accounts and I tend to say my money and your money, this upsets DH because he is of the it’s our money belief. I have had to manage the money for a long time and for way too many years with him making little to no money for months on end. I resent it now and don’t know how to fix it. It’s a sore spot with me, but it’s also something I couldn’t loosen the grip on without going into panic if I needed something and had to ask him for money. Even all of this time I haven’t worked I have had an income albeit a small amount.

Debbie - sorry about Miso.

I met with my new manager today to ask what the plan is, we are going to have a meeting tomorrow to know who is doing what and I’m going to dive in. She goes on vacation next week for almost the whole month of September, I would like to get into the deep while she’s still here, so I know her expectations of me. I learn better just by diving in too.

I am up late and need to get to bed.
Tracey in Edmonton

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ginnytez

Monique-you seem to have a diversity of young patients. I agree at times we all need reminded why we do what we do.

Debbie-sorry to hear about Miso. About how old was she? Was there a specific cause of her seizures? I am asking since I have older cats and have no clue what to expect as they continue to age.

Tracey-Good luck with the deep dive. Sometimes it is best just to jump in.

Slept well last night. Doing stretches and getting ready for work. After moderating walking and stretches nearly daily I am seeing improvement with leg/foot. The strange leg issues have definitely improved which seems to be helping everything. The foot still hurts at times but not nearly like it was. I need to remember how extremely painful it was to motivate me to continue daily stretches.

Take care all,

Ginny in Ohio

ginnytez

And just for a morning smile-nothing like the pure joy of a child!

Machka9

margaretturk wrote: »

The topic of yesterdays talk was stress and the negative effect it can have on health. You can do everything else right and it can be derailed by stress. They went over tools that you can use to help...meditation, yoga, breathing, singing, getting out in nature. One of the speakers discussed finding some kind of happiness or gratitude everyday even in the midst of the worst moments. (Reminds me of Barbie)...the importance of finding calm even for a few moments to help reset your vagus nerves. The problem if you live in chronic stress your vagus nerve does not work properly. You can get stuck in flight or fight (reactive) or freeze patterns (playing video games all day). We need our periods of rest and relaxation. Having fun and laughing makes it even better.

Tell me about it.

7 years of chronic stress with extended times of more severe stress.

- husband's severe traumatic brain injury
- husband's ongoing medical issues
- husband's medically caused retirement
- legal issues ... years of legal issues
- becoming a carer
- university
- job hunting & job changes
- buying a house ... partly because of husband's ongoing medical issues
- moving house
- changes in financial situation
- concerns about parents
- international travel after not travelling in years
- my cancer issues
- my nose surgery
- and more
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The Stress Test
https://www.dartmouth.edu/eap/library/lifechangestresstest.pdf
I think this list is out of date and needs to be updated but I've been sitting well over 300 for the past 7 years.

Yale Medicine’s stress management recommendations include:

• Exercising
• Eating healthy foods
• Learning time management techniques
• Setting realistic goals
• Getting more sleep
• Making time for leisure activities
• Building stress reduction skills
• Learning and practicing mindfulness (learning to control attention)

https://www.yalemedicine.org/conditions/stress-disorder


Even when the stress eases up a bit, I find it very hard to relax.
The colouring helps.
I really need to get back to exercising.
And the train trip was great!


Machka in Oz

TerriRichardson112

I haven’t taken notes so just know that I am reading along, with nothing much new to add to what has already been written by others.

It’s difficult to sit back when our adult children are struggling. We had a rough time with our youngest for a couple of years, (her relationship broke up) but we supported her through it, and a few other wobbles. You have to let them make their mistakes. Sometimes stepping in isn’t an option for various reasons, but they need to know you have their back.

Tracey: I can tell you’re champing at the bit to get into the job. I would be the same. In at the deep end. 😂

Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

☘️ Terri

Machka9

SophieRosieMom wrote: »

Now for something completely different. Are any of you curious about storms, especially lightning strikes in your state or country? Many of us here give little weather reports, and I sometimes look up weather for your regions. I ran across this website for real-time lightning strikes. Kind of fun to see what's happening in various parts of the world.

https://www.lightningmaps.org/#m=oss;t=3;s=0;o=0;b=;ts=0;y=-45.5371;x=153.3472;z=5;

On that note, have a grand week!

Lanette
SW WA State

Tasmania doesn't have many lightning strikes ... or thunderstorms.


However, we're having quite the wind storm caused by a significant low pressure system just south of the island.
https://www.windy.com/?-44.206,144.211,4


Machka in Oz

cityjaneLondon

Pleased with self.
Decided at breakfast to take myself into Hove on the bus, so that I could have a look at the cushioned vinyl flooring and order it for my bathroom. If I don't do things first thing, they don't get done.
First time on the bus since the second op. I took my stick, as a signifier for the public, though I can shuffle along perfectly well without it. Bus driver helpful, cars stop etc etc. I got brought a seat in the carpet shop!
I had to wait a while as the owner was cancelling an order, but I chose a light oak herringbone while I was waiting. I wanted something that will go with the present paintwork, but will also go with any new colour I choose in the future. I think light wood goes with anything.
I got an approximate estimate, for the vinyl, the fitting, the removal of the present carpet and underlay, and disposal of such, but they decided they would come to estimate on Thursday afternoon, as they want to check the condition of the actual floor. It's normal in the UK to pay the fitters separately, when they come to do the job, in cash! We have used this family run company before and the fitters were amazing!
The walk to and from the bus stop was not too bad, and I was able to buy a few food bits on my way home past the deli. The owner was pleased to see me.

So, an accomplishment!
Can't wait to get the bus into Brighton and hobble around a shop or two.

John's cricket friend is coming over on Friday, to go to the Sussex ground in Hove. It's a decent journey from South London, so it's nice of him. I suggested we all meet up afterwards at Fatto a Mano, but his friend wants to get back. He will park in our drive and they will walk the 40 mins to the ground.
Plus, I get a day off, to eat my 'funny' food, and watch the recorded programmes that John doesn't like. :laugh:

I also may be meeting up, at the weekend, with an old friend, C, from decades ago. We met through our drama careers, and self-development workshops that we attended. We taught several weekend workshops together, of our own devising, which were a great success, called things like, "The Creative Express", involving dance, mime, acting, art etc. She is a trained drama therapist and currently teaches self confidence classes. If we do manage to get together, it will be quite a strange experience! She is 68. Six years younger than me.

Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx