Growing old gracefully? ????⌛

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  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    , I was hoping for something with more substance than just the superficial.

    Haha, what substance? That people are egotistical creatures wanting, perpetually, to be loved and admired? I dare you to find any group of humans in history who didn't adorn or modify themselves in the service of beauty (as a lead-in to love or not). Most of them didn't live as long as we do, that's the only difference.

    I get it, when I was young I was angry at makeup or whatever too. (But I could afford to be that way then, because I was pretty just by virtue of being young.) Relax, it just makes people look good. I personally enjoy being around people who make an effort to look good, same way I like a clean and attractive home or city.

    Helen Mirren and her shoes rock.

    Perhaps a documentary about how to keep your insides as healthy as possible for as long as possible....
    I'm not angry at make up, I sometimes wear it. People have different priorities, I get it, if we were all the same, life would be very dull indeed.
    I know I'm going to get old, there's bugger all I can do about it and I feel that I have better/more important (to me) things to spend my money on than "anti aging" products.

    Yeah, Helen rocks.
  • Laces_0ut
    Laces_0ut Posts: 3,750 Member
    maybe not in our lifetimes, although some say the first immortal humans are alive today, but there will come a day when we can stop the aging process. no more nasty wrinkles. perpetually 20 something sounds good to me.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    , I was hoping for something with more substance than just the superficial.

    Haha, what substance? That people are egotistical creatures wanting, perpetually, to be loved and admired? I dare you to find any group of humans in history who didn't adorn or modify themselves in the service of beauty (as a lead-in to love or not). Most of them didn't live as long as we do, that's the only difference.

    I get it, when I was young I was angry at makeup or whatever too. (But I could afford to be that way then, because I was pretty just by virtue of being young.) Relax, it just makes people look good. I personally enjoy being around people who make an effort to look good, same way I like a clean and attractive home or city.

    Helen Mirren and her shoes rock.

    Perhaps a documentary about how to keep your insides as healthy as possible for as long as possible....
    I'm not angry at make up, I sometimes wear it. People have different priorities, I get it, if we were all the same, life would be very dull indeed.
    I know I'm going to get old, there's bugger all I can do about it and I feel that I have better/more important (to me) things to spend my money on than "anti aging" products.

    Yeah, Helen rocks.

    Great! Enjoy all that deep stuff.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    maybe not in our lifetimes, although some say the first immortal humans are alive today, but there will come a day when we can stop the aging process. no more nasty wrinkles. perpetually 20 something sounds good to me.

    Fun little question who gets to live forever? Do we set quotas on birth rates?
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    , I was hoping for something with more substance than just the superficial.

    Haha, what substance? That people are egotistical creatures wanting, perpetually, to be loved and admired? I dare you to find any group of humans in history who didn't adorn or modify themselves in the service of beauty (as a lead-in to love or not). Most of them didn't live as long as we do, that's the only difference.

    I get it, when I was young I was angry at makeup or whatever too. (But I could afford to be that way then, because I was pretty just by virtue of being young.) Relax, it just makes people look good. I personally enjoy being around people who make an effort to look good, same way I like a clean and attractive home or city.

    Helen Mirren and her shoes rock.

    Perhaps a documentary about how to keep your insides as healthy as possible for as long as possible....
    I'm not angry at make up, I sometimes wear it. People have different priorities, I get it, if we were all the same, life would be very dull indeed.
    I know I'm going to get old, there's bugger all I can do about it and I feel that I have better/more important (to me) things to spend my money on than "anti aging" products.

    Yeah, Helen rocks.

    Great! Enjoy all that deep stuff.


    I will, thanks.
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    maybe not in our lifetimes, although some say the first immortal humans are alive today, but there will come a day when we can stop the aging process. no more nasty wrinkles. perpetually 20 something sounds good to me.

    Fun little question who gets to live forever? Do we set quotas on birth rates?

    Would you want to live forever? I'm in 2 minds about that...
  • bernied262
    bernied262 Posts: 882 Member
    I am 40. I use a moisturiser (mainly for the spf) and colour my hair (back to it's natural colour), that is it. I only colour my hair because i started to go grey very early (21), of all the things i could have inherited from my dad, that is what i got :)

    Personally, i would never consider surgery, mainly because i am needle phobic :)

    I am starting to see a few 'crows feet' but it is what it is.....
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    I am 40. I use a moisturiser (mainly for the spf) and colour my hair (back to it's natural colour), that is it. I only colour my hair because i started to go grey very early (21), of all the things i could have inherited from my dad, that is what i got :)

    Personally, i would never consider surgery, mainly because i am needle phobic :)

    I am starting to see a few 'crows feet' but it is what it is.....

    I absolutely hate needles, I find it difficult when giving blood, even looking at them freaks me out. I can't imagine having one inserted in to my face :noway:
  • bikinisuited
    bikinisuited Posts: 881 Member
    bump!
  • crazie4lulu
    crazie4lulu Posts: 762 Member
    im 44. i use N O T H I N G!!!!!!!! the only make up i use is eyeliner... and lip gloss. never leave the house without my lip gloss. people have asked me what i have for a skin regimine... i say H2o!!!! i drink plenty of it and thats all i use on my face. no magic potions here!!!! i have a few crows feet but arent people who smile supposed to have them?:happy:
  • aliencheesecake
    aliencheesecake Posts: 569 Member
    I'm watching a programme called "How Not to Get Old" at the moment, the usual crap about wanting to look younger.
    I was wondering, am I the only one that doesn't care? I'm 33 next and all of my friends are obsessed with creams/potions/lotions and they spend a fortune!!
    Then we have the poor sods who feel so bad about themselves or feel some kind of pressure that they are having god knows what injected in to their faces...it makes me wince!

    What are your opinions on the inevitability of getting/looking old?

    Personally, I'm just going to stick to eating a plant based diet and only using natural ingrediants on my skin, I don't have wrinkles yet but when I do get them, I won't give a fudge!

    :drinker:

    First, I think you have a great outlook. I DO worry about getting old looking, but I also think people should age more gracefully. And when I looked at a bunch of before and after pix of nasty celeb plastic surgery the other week, it totally reinforced the appeal of aging gracefully! lol
  • thesoup11
    thesoup11 Posts: 72 Member
    I can't wait to see what my lady parts look like when I'm 80.
    lol really you had to go there
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    im 44. i use N O T H I N G!!!!!!!! the only make up i use is eyeliner... and lip gloss. never leave the house without my lip gloss. people have asked me what i have for a skin regimine... i say H2o!!!! i drink plenty of it and thats all i use on my face. no magic potions here!!!! i have a few crows feet but arent people who smile supposed to have them? :happy:

    Yes! Yes they are :happy:
  • Laces_0ut
    Laces_0ut Posts: 3,750 Member
    maybe not in our lifetimes, although some say the first immortal humans are alive today, but there will come a day when we can stop the aging process. no more nasty wrinkles. perpetually 20 something sounds good to me.

    Fun little question who gets to live forever? Do we set quotas on birth rates?

    the rich and more valuable members of society will be selected first. after a very long while everyone will have access. birth quotas will depend on so many other factors..resources and eventually solar system colonization.
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    Funny thread.

    People have got it all wrong by telling others they're younger than they really are.

    Think about it.

    Let's say you are 40.

    So you go around telling everyone you're 31. This has one of several reactions:
    1) You look younger than 40. People think, "Ok."
    2) You look 40. People think, "31? And the rest!"
    3) You look older than 40. People think, "Christ, who is she kidding?"

    Now if you go around telling everyone you're 40.
    1) You look younger than 40. People think, "Wow, what's her secret?" and probably ask. Everyone feels good.
    2) You look 40. People think, "Fair enough."
    3) You look older than 40. People think, "And the rest."

    But what if you go around telling everyone you're 50?
    1) You look younger than 40. People ask, "Holy Christ, how the hell do you have such lovely skin?" Everyone feels good.
    2) You look 40. People say, "No way, you're not 50!" Everyone feels good.
    3) You look maybe 45. People say, "You look great for a 50 year old!!" Everyone feels good.

    -Darren, aged 87
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    Funny thread.

    People have got it all wrong by telling others they're younger than they really are.

    Think about it.

    Let's say you are 40.

    So you go around telling everyone you're 31. This has one of several reactions:
    1) You look younger than 40. People think, "Ok."
    2) You look 40. People think, "31? And the rest!"
    3) You look older than 40. People think, "Christ, who is she kidding?"

    Now if you go around telling everyone you're 40.
    1) You look younger than 40. People think, "Wow, what's her secret?" and probably ask. Everyone feels good.
    2) You look 40. People think, "Fair enough."
    3) You look older than 40. People think, "And the rest."

    But what if you go around telling everyone you're 50?
    1) You look younger than 40. People ask, "Holy Christ, how the hell do you have such lovely skin?" Everyone feels good.
    2) You look 40. People say, "No way, you're not 50!" Everyone feels good.
    3) You look maybe 45. People say, "You look great for a 50 year old!!" Everyone feels good.

    -Darren, aged 87

    Excellent Mr Bond!

    You're not 87!! You don't look a day over 21....:wink:
  • darrensurrey
    darrensurrey Posts: 3,942 Member
    Funny thread.

    People have got it all wrong by telling others they're younger than they really are.

    Think about it.

    Let's say you are 40.

    So you go around telling everyone you're 31. This has one of several reactions:
    1) You look younger than 40. People think, "Ok."
    2) You look 40. People think, "31? And the rest!"
    3) You look older than 40. People think, "Christ, who is she kidding?"

    Now if you go around telling everyone you're 40.
    1) You look younger than 40. People think, "Wow, what's her secret?" and probably ask. Everyone feels good.
    2) You look 40. People think, "Fair enough."
    3) You look older than 40. People think, "And the rest."

    But what if you go around telling everyone you're 50?
    1) You look younger than 40. People ask, "Holy Christ, how the hell do you have such lovely skin?" Everyone feels good.
    2) You look 40. People say, "No way, you're not 50!" Everyone feels good.
    3) You look maybe 45. People say, "You look great for a 50 year old!!" Everyone feels good.

    -Darren, aged 87

    Excellent Mr Bond!

    You're not 87!! You don't look a day over 21....:wink:

    :flowerforyou:
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    Funny thread.

    People have got it all wrong by telling others they're younger than they really are.

    Think about it.

    Let's say you are 40.

    So you go around telling everyone you're 31. This has one of several reactions:
    1) You look younger than 40. People think, "Ok."
    2) You look 40. People think, "31? And the rest!"
    3) You look older than 40. People think, "Christ, who is she kidding?"

    Now if you go around telling everyone you're 40.
    1) You look younger than 40. People think, "Wow, what's her secret?" and probably ask. Everyone feels good.
    2) You look 40. People think, "Fair enough."
    3) You look older than 40. People think, "And the rest."

    But what if you go around telling everyone you're 50?
    1) You look younger than 40. People ask, "Holy Christ, how the hell do you have such lovely skin?" Everyone feels good.
    2) You look 40. People say, "No way, you're not 50!" Everyone feels good.
    3) You look maybe 45. People say, "You look great for a 50 year old!!" Everyone feels good.

    -Darren, aged 87

    Excellent Mr Bond!

    You're not 87!! You don't look a day over 21....:wink:

    :flowerforyou:

    :blushing:
  • bushidowoman
    bushidowoman Posts: 1,599 Member
    What does that really mean, growing old gracefully?
    I'm 40, and I have no desire to pretend that I'm still young. When I was in my 20's, I didn't know jack diddly squat about life (I sure thought I did! lol) and I wasn't nearly as happy as I am now. Age has been good to me. I just want to take good care of myself, so that I can fully enjoy whatever time I have on this earth.
    I look at my Grandmaster, who is around 65, and I think, "Man, I can't wait to look like that! Maybe with another 25 years of practice..."
  • jdm_taco
    jdm_taco Posts: 999 Member
    as long as I get poon tang I don't care
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    as long as I get poon tang I don't care

    /thread
  • bikinisuited
    bikinisuited Posts: 881 Member
    I strongly believe in staying slim and a good healthy diet as a 41 yo!! I never leave the house with sunblock, moisturizer and feeling confident. My style is to look great at any age and as youthful as possible. :blushing:
  • goldfinger88
    goldfinger88 Posts: 686 Member
    I'll be 70 in January and all I use on my face is coconut oil. I don't know if I'm growing old gracefully but I'm not my grandma's seventy. I've never had a nip or a tuck and never will. I do think it's smart to take care of yourself all your life. I always have. I spent a lot of time caring for my skin and hair. I should have spent more time eating well and exercising.

    Aging is a tough business. It's smart to prepare yourself for it. Once there, you can't put her in reverse.
  • action_figure
    action_figure Posts: 511 Member
    Dude, I am totally not about growing old gracefully. One of the awesome things about being older is that you can be a stone cold badass and people are generally going to respect you for it. So I will tell people my thoughts honestly and truthfully when asked, I will speak out against injustice or abuse without being one damn bit afraid that I might offend someone, and basically enjoy the fact that I earned some damn common sense with all the stupid stuff I pulled in my misspent youth. Oh, wait, you were talking about makeup and crap? Nope, I can't be arsed.
  • Aww youth... lol... Can't help noticing that you look fairly young, wonder how you will feel when you are older. Do you color or highlight your hair? To me trying to keep my skin healthy with creams is about the same thing as coloring or highlighting.
  • VeganLexi
    VeganLexi Posts: 960 Member
    Aww youth... lol... Can't help noticing that you look fairly young, wonder how you will feel when you are older. Do you color or highlight your hair? To me trying to keep my skin healthy with creams is about the same thing as coloring or highlighting.

    I'm 33 soon so yes, I'm "fairly young"...however, I know for a fact that I will not have any unnecessary surgery (I mentioned earlier that I had life saving surgery last year), I'm pretty sure that ill feel the same way in 10/20/30 years time.
    My mother is 70 soon, she doesn't have any wrinkles other than a couple of faint laughter lines..both of my grandmas lived in to their 90's and they had amazing skin...I'm sure ill be fine.

    And no, I don't dye my hair.
  • lintino
    lintino Posts: 526 Member
    I'm 63. I don't color my hair or wear makeup. I use soap and water and once in awhile in the winter a moisturizer. I am happy with my life and it has done nothing but get better as the years have rolled on. I work to be healthy and honestly the only thing I am concerned about is losing my mind.
  • Camera_BagintheUK
    Camera_BagintheUK Posts: 707 Member
    I didn't care when I was 33 either.

    :cry:

    This is my point, my friends are all pretty much my age and they are obsessed with it...

    Life is too short for this crap.

    My point is, when I was 33 I simply couldn't imagine being 50. It's easy to not care when you're young, your skin is firm and taut, you have no wrinkes, gravity hasn't found your boobs yet, your body hasn't started drying out yet, the menopause is something that happens to other people.

    Then suddenly you wake up one day, you're 50.

    I'm lucky, my hair is still full of colour, and having lost so much weight I've lost years off my appearance, and feel great. But it still comes as a shock, and the changes that are happening to my body are alarming! I used to have a jaw like a knife! Sharp and firm. Now I've started to grow jowels like my dad had. The skin on my neck has started to look loose and crumpled. My hands are no longer smooth. And everything is getting dry.

    I've never had any cosmetic procedures and I wouldn't. But I will admit that things that never used to matter are starting to matter now, and I look back at my younger self and wish she'd drunk more water, not gained all the weight, took better care of her skin, kept herself better toned, and valued what she had much more than she did.

    What I'm saying is, you don't know what you've got till it's gone. So take care of it while you have it. You don't need to be violent, surgery and injections and all that rubbish - but you do need to love yourself and look after yourself as an investment for the future, that's how to grow old gracefully.
  • Camera_BagintheUK
    Camera_BagintheUK Posts: 707 Member

    Aging is a tough business. It's smart to prepare yourself for it. Once there, you can't put her in reverse.

    LOL This always happens, I post something then find someone's already said what I'm trying to say, and said it much better!
  • digitalbill
    digitalbill Posts: 1,410 Member
    I was smart enough (scared enough?) to stay off of drugs when I was younger. I do believe that has a lot to do with my health now at 43 years old.
    However, I was stupid enough to spend a LOT of time in the sun and my skin cancer has the proof.
    The only time I am reminded of my age is when I have the shoulder and knee pain as a result of the Army and being invincable.

    In my opinion, as a man, aging gracefully means acting your age.
    For example, as a 43 year old married man, I am not going to go out and buy a used Honda Civic with a fart can and lowered suspension.
    I might however go out and buy a 1967 Camaro....

    I am not going to go surfing just to hang around the teenage girls but, I will admit that I cannot help but smile when I hear my daughter very proudly tell the young people on the beach "Thats MY Daddy" as I am coming back out of the waves...