Do you men really want a low maintenance woman?
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I mean, really? Whether it's the monetary cost or time savings, do you really think you'd be happier with a low maintenance woman? All I hear is complaining about how much a haircut/color costs or how much time it takes to straighten hair, put on makeup, etc. I'm just wondering. Only about 2% of us can get away with being naturally pretty. We all need a little help.
Thoughts?
I avoid high maintenance girls at all cost, they tend to be deceptive materialistic parasites.
How you doin'?
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this type of women for me Proverbs 31:10-31
A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
I can only pray that I can live to these standards for my husband. He is such an amazing man. And loves me the way God meant for a man to love a woman
Best of luck to you.
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I don't think it's how much makeup you wear or how long you take to get ready or what brands you like that determine whether or not you're high maintenance.
It's how much you expect OTHERS to support that lifestyle.
Taking a long time to get ready? Only a problem if you're making someone else wait or late.
Wearing a lot of makeup? Only a problem if you won't let a guy kiss you because it'll smudge your face.
Wearing high heels? Only a problem if you're complaining all night that your feet hurt.
Wearing name brands? Only a problem if you can't afford to buy them yourself.
I always thought of high maintenance as someone who is overly dependent on others. And that might have nothing at all to do with their appearance.0 -
I am zero maintenance and my husband absolutely loves it. If I need to be I can be showered, dressed, ready and out the door in fifteen minutes.
I don't spend time fussing with my hair. I have curly hair so all I do is put in my product, scrunch and go. I also don't pile on the make up because I don't need to. There are plenty of times that I've put on blush, mascara, gloss and I'm done. Even if I'm doing a "full face" which for me is blush, eyeshadow, eyeliner, mascara and lipstick it takes me maybe 5 minutes. Adding jewelry is probably another 2 minutes. I usually know ahead of time what I'm going to wear out as well.
I get my hair cut once every 6 months to a year and that's usually before I go on vacation.
I don't color my hair because I don't need to.
The only splurge I'll do is get a pedicure. That's usually once every 6 months (again before vacation or ON vacation) and maybe once or twice during the summer.
If I know I'm going to putz around and take my time -- which involves a glass of wine and my cell phone so I can text my friends while getting ready -- which typically on a Friday or Saturday night I'll do then I'll start my ritual about an hour or 45 min. before we have to leave.
I have friends who are high maintenance and it would drive me absolutely NUTS if I had to deal with that all the time.0 -
I'm definitely high-maintenance, but I maintain myself. I don't inflict that on anyone else.0
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Yes, I certainly want a low maintenance woman. It's not all about "being pretty enough to not put on makeup".
My most recent girlfriend was high maintenance. She spent 5 nights a week at my place, but it wasn't enough for her. She was upset that she only gets to see me at night - but I work 9-5, and she worked noon - 9. I'm not sure when else she expected to see me.
She was upset because I didn't stay the night at her place more than a few times, despite the fact she lives with her mom and I live alone.
She was upset that I have a really good job that would provide more than enough income to support her and children in a pricey market if she chose to be a stay at home mom - because sometimes I had to answer the phone at 10pm when we were together, or even on a weekend god forbid.
She wanted to move in with me after 7 months and I wasn't ready. If we were texting and I told her I was busy, she'd phone me several times, text me, and facebook me because she had a "really important" (ie nonsense) question.
My best friend is a woman, and sometimes she phones me to get some people to go to a bar to watch a hockey game while my GF was at work. "But why does Monique want to hang out with you? Does she have no other friends?"
Sure she does, but I'm ****ing awesome, who wouldn't want to hang out with me?
And because she was too high maintenance, Sadly, I had to end the relationship with a woman who otherwise I really loved because I just couldn't deal with silly little things she couldn't let go....
THIS is what high maintenance is. It has nothing to do with how long it takes you to get dressed or how much money we spend on you. The real question is "Are you going to suck out the marrow of our soul and complain that there's nothing left when you're done?"
I don't sound bitter at all do I?
This isn't high maintenance. This is Clinger Factor 7 Crazy.
You have my sympathies.0 -
My poor husband... If this is how men feel I just btr hope my husband isn't lying when he says he doesn't believe in divorce... :noway:0
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Yes, I certainly want a low maintenance woman. It's not all about "being pretty enough to not put on makeup".
My most recent girlfriend was high maintenance. She spent 5 nights a week at my place, but it wasn't enough for her. She was upset that she only gets to see me at night - but I work 9-5, and she worked noon - 9. I'm not sure when else she expected to see me.
She was upset because I didn't stay the night at her place more than a few times, despite the fact she lives with her mom and I live alone.
She was upset that I have a really good job that would provide more than enough income to support her and children in a pricey market if she chose to be a stay at home mom - because sometimes I had to answer the phone at 10pm when we were together, or even on a weekend god forbid.
She wanted to move in with me after 7 months and I wasn't ready. If we were texting and I told her I was busy, she'd phone me several times, text me, and facebook me because she had a "really important" (ie nonsense) question.
My best friend is a woman, and sometimes she phones me to get some people to go to a bar to watch a hockey game while my GF was at work. "But why does Monique want to hang out with you? Does she have no other friends?"
Sure she does, but I'm ****ing awesome, who wouldn't want to hang out with me?
And because she was too high maintenance, Sadly, I had to end the relationship with a woman who otherwise I really loved because I just couldn't deal with silly little things she couldn't let go....
THIS is what high maintenance is. It has nothing to do with how long it takes you to get dressed or how much money we spend on you. The real question is "Are you going to suck out the marrow of our soul and complain that there's nothing left when you're done?"
I don't sound bitter at all do I?
This isn't high maintenance. This is Clinger Factor 7 Crazy.
You have my sympathies.
Sounds to me like your ex was bored and needed a hobby0 -
My hubby equates low maintenance with NO DRAMA. The amount of hairspray doesn't matter, he married me because I don't drag old fights into new fights, I tell him exactly what I need from him, and I don't get pissy if he notices another girl is pretty. I do believe low maintenance in a man's mind has almost NOTHING to do with hair & make-up.0
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Low Maintence is a matter of perception.
When we're going to a black tie......whatever it takes for you to look and feel special.
When we're going to dinner..........can we keep it to under two hours...
When we're getting out of bed for coffee on sundays.....yoga pants and sweatshirt.......
...........Then again......
if they fit well........We're not leaving the house 0 -
I would just like for you to be able to go outdoors without it being a two hour long process.
Really, you don't need to dress your best and have perfect makeup to pop to the petrol station to buy some milk.
Also, no, I really do not give a crap about reality TV or the newest gossip/drama happening between people I have no involvement with.0 -
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Yes, but low maintenance has nothing to do with that. I have my own definition for a high maintenance woman. A high maintenance woman, to me, is a woman who is only capable of understanding and processing one expression of love/affection: sacrifice. A high maintenance woman will constantly put her man in a position where he must make otherwise unnecessary sacrifices--whether of his money, time, effort, or of his mental/emotional well being--because unlike a normal woman, who can understand and process many different forms of love and affection, she is only capable of understanding sacrifice.
That being said I do prefer a woman who doesn't invest too much effort in appearance. I prefer a practically minded woman who doesn't place much value in pointless accessories.0 -
If you can't get ready for an average day in under 30 minutes you're a lunatic and should be locked away. Bottom line. If you have some important meeting fine, paint yourself up like a totem pole. Otherwise who the heck are you trying to impress, the people you see every single day? Give me a break.
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A high maintenance woman will constantly put her man in a position where he must make otherwise unnecessary sacrifices--whether of his money, time, effort, or of his mental/emotional well being--because unlike a normal woman, who can understand and process many different forms of love and affection, she is only capable of understanding sacrifice.
That is a really good way of explaining it. I never thought of it that way but I'mm'a keep this definition in my back pocket.0 -
I didn't read through the 7 ish pages of comments so forgive me if I am repeating anything:
You know who has this debate over and over? Not men, not men's magazine. Women. Women debate about this with other women and in women's magazines. Women care more about finding out if other women are high/low maintenance than men do.
I consider myself pretty low maintenance. I do not own one stich of make-up. I do not do mani/pedis. I get my hair cut at Fantastic Sams about once a year and probably go shopping less often than that. I was lucky enough to find a man that was cool with that.
I also like sports, to a degree. I am not "naggy". I am honest and trusting. And I allow him to be him and love him for it just like he loves me for me.
Men's perception of high/ low maintenance probably has more to do with emotional stability than a beauty routine.
The key is finding someone who loves you for you- all of you, including your daily maintenance routine, whatever that may be.
But, in general- men wont care as long as your routine isn't wasting their time or otherwise annoying. And as long as you aren't a shallow materialistic piece of work.
My two cents..0 -
I mean, really? Whether it's the monetary cost or time savings, do you really think you'd be happier with a low maintenance woman? All I hear is complaining about how much a haircut/color costs or how much time it takes to straighten hair, put on makeup, etc. I'm just wondering. Only about 2% of us can get away with being naturally pretty. We all need a little help.
Thoughts?
a woman is not a car. every relationship requires effort for it to be productive. "maintenance' should be replaced by 'drama'0 -
You guys give men too much credit. They dont know what the like or dont like until a woman tells them. Remember they only share one collective brain.0
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Well. I guess I'll be the only woman in here who will voluntarily state that she IS high-maintenance. Kind of.
I am high maintenance in the sense that I routinely go for hair / nail appointments. I even got TWO massages last week. When I go shopping I DO buy designer clothes / jewelry and I don't feel guilty about it. I drive "high end" cars...with plans to go "exotic" in the near future. I like to travel, and I want to travel more.
BUT.....I am the bread winner. It's MY money. I still get up and out of the house in 15-30 mins and I am NO DRAMA. I hate drama. Matter of fact, I have very few female friends (outside of MFP, ironically) because I was grew up TomBoy and just can't deal with most women any better than the guys can. When I shop, I buy what I want, right then and there, no wandering from store to store trying to find deals, discounts, or sales. I get what I need, and leave....just like a guy. I am married to a career Navy guy and I spend a lot of time at work....which means a lot of time alone / not with my significant other. Eight deployments later, we're still married and going strong, so I guess I'm definitely not co-dependent.
The truth is that low-maintenance is relative. My personal grooming habits are technically HIGH maintenance in terms of cost / time to ME....they have no impact to my spouse, who only benefits from having a well-groomed, pretty wife. I suppose if HE was paying for it, I would then be deemed truly high maintenance. In addition, I enjoy a variety of hobbies that a very male-oriented, so hubby gets to benefit from me not complaining about doing stuff that any red-blooded man would enjoy.0 -
Isn't it funny though that when they have a low maintenance woman they have a tendency to check out a femal that is not.0
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Low maintenance to me doesn't equal skimping on anything they want to do to feel better about themselves. To me, it's being able to be their own woman and having enough confidence to be able to find their own happiness outside of a relationship. There are many relationships where one participant (men too, I'm not being sexist) has self esteem issues to the point that they're questioning the others' motives for having interests, goals, etc, that don't concern them.0
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See, you're not really in a position to come to that conclusion, being that you are not low maintenance.*Isn't it funny though that when they have a low maintenance woman they have a tendency to check out a femal that is not.
*if I were judging you entirely on your jealous-sounding post0 -
I am as low maintenance as it can get- almost NIL. I get ready before my husband(which in itself says a lot), hate shopping, don't like to wear make up or go a lot to parlors. Hubby met me when i was this way and loved me for who i am and so works out great for both of us :drinker:0
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A high maintenance woman will constantly put her man in a position where he must make otherwise unnecessary sacrifices--whether of his money, time, effort, or of his mental/emotional well being--because unlike a normal woman, who can understand and process many different forms of love and affection, she is only capable of understanding sacrifice.
:huh: you've got to be kidding right?
I pay for my own hair, nails, cosmetics, clothes, shoes, procedures, etc. I make more money than my SO. I require nothing from him other than friendship and love. Time, effort and sacrifice for the good of the family is something we BOTH put in and is to be expected for any relationship.0 -
If I wore yoga pants 80% of the time, I think my boyfriend would be ok with that. I don't do that, lol, but he would probably be ok with it.0
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If I wore yoga pants 80% of the time, I think my boyfriend would be ok with that. I don't do that, lol, but he would probably be ok with it.
My hubby LOVES them! Can't keep his hands off me when I get home from a good workout...I'm all hot & sweaty but it doesn't bother him at ALL! :bigsmile:0 -
how boring0
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it doesn't take make up, hair color or clothes to make a woman pretty. Hell, all we wanna do is get ya naked!!!!
lololol :drinker:
And, that, ladies and gents, is the sad effin truth! :indifferent:
Actually it does take those things in order for men to get to that point!!0 -
I consider myself high-maintenance. Would he have to pull me kicking and screaming from my comfy bed everyday? Yes. Would I make him cancel dinner reservations because my sixth run of Skyrim is more important? Yes. Would he have to tell me to cut my hair because my fringe had slowly covered my whole face? Damn right he'd have to. I can't even make a bed or work a washing machine. My hands aren't used to temperatures above 'cold' so forget the dishes.
Everyone has stuff that makes up for the bad stuff though. I'm an awesome cook, I can fix anything if it's electronic, I don't need constant reminders that he's into me because it's always sexytime, I don't even own a phone to send nagging texts with, I have no female friends to ***** about him to, I'm awesome, I give great hugs... I'm awesome -wait did I say that before?
I think high/low-maintenance is really whether a guy thinks the pros out-weigh the cons. If the cons are too much the relationship will be hard to maintain, if he can look past that then it'll be easy. People who don't spend 2 hours getting ready can be high-maintenance too, y'know, just in a different way.0 -
Several women have responded with their "routine" and say they are low maintenance. Some have listed things like shampooing hair, air drying hair, ponytails etc. My question for you ladies is, do you shave? Legs?, Underarms? Other places :blushing: ?
I do. All of the above. Everyday. I wash and dry my hair. Everyday. I wear a little bit of makeup. About as much as you see in my profile pic. My clothes are always neat and clean. Pressed even, when called for. My "routine" can be completed in about 35-40 minutes. I am usually ready before everyone else. That includes men.
Oh, and some of the guys have mentioned not liking to have their time wasted by waiting around. I totally agree. I get really pi$$ed off when I go away with my girlfriends and I offer to get in the shower last, so give them a head start on their "routine". Sometimes a full hour after them, and I am still standing around waiting on them to "be ready".
Not sure if any of the above makes me low maintenance or high. Either way, I'll live with it.0
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