FWB ignored me at bar ...
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He's just not into you.
Delete him from your contacts and move on. Stop thinking about him because he is not thinking about you. Your mental energy is better spent on people that want more than just a piece of azz.
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I know ... My energy is being put on my workout currently!0 -
2. Do you think he's telling truth that he honestly didn't see me???
Its possible.....
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1. He is not into you.
2. You need to put HIM on ignore.
NEVER do friends with benefits if it's not what you really want.
THIS.
THIS
to put quite simply, get over it, the sooner you do the better for you, you deserve more0 -
1. He is not into you.
2. You need to put HIM on ignore.
NEVER do friends with benefits if it's not what you really want.
THIS.
THIS
to put quite simply, get over it, the sooner you do the better for you, you deserve more
Thx! I know I deserve better ... I want better!0 -
ALL kinds of lolz in this thread...0 -
By texting him those msgs, you only showed that he did get to you and you're still jealous and chasing after him..he probably thinks you're stalking him. In the future, say hi when you see him..but don't wait till later and go home and txt him sarcastic msgs, letting him know you're stuck on him when he already told you, he is NOT interested up front...stop looking for him to care...Let me give a little background here --
-- we met Aug 2011 at my bro-n-law's bar, exchanged numbers, hit it off, and strarted talking immediately. We became physical a fews weeks into talking and it was immediate chemistry. Three months into it I brought up the "relationship" subj and he said he wasn't ready, blah-blah-blah. Instead of walking away like I should have we continued our casualness for another 9months and I brought it up again. He had same response, so I walked away and we said that we'd remain friends. After a few months of no contact, talking or physical he started to text casually again. Yes, I allowed him back in & I didn't bring up any relationship type talk b/c I didn't want to ... again!!! In my hopeless romantic mind I figured that he decided to come back, wanted to see me and it would progress naturally w/out harping on "the talk"!!! About 6months into us "reuniting" I heard that he brought a girl to my bro-n-law's & it was a physical date b/c the bartender working wanted to capture the moment to show us. I was lividhearing this b/c we just had a convo about honesty & if he's w/ someone in anyway let me know. I was shocked, hurt, and sad! I confronted him immediately, which is not my persoanlity type, but I had to w/ this situation. I felt so disrespected b/c what if I was there hanging out & I know he didn't owe me much w/out commitment, but basic human decensy is nice! Anyway, he acknowledged this girl saying it was an old friend he ran into, he's sorry for taking her there, didn't intend to hurt me, but doesn't mean we can't be friends. If I didn't confront him w/ what I found out he would've never told me and what, kept me on the backburner ... Def not!!! I told him that I have to end all knowing he can just push me aside after 2years, that I should've walked away first time I brought up "the talk" b/c I started developing feelings for him and it was hard. He was sad, said he was speechless and apologized yet again. I ended by saying this was something I shouldn't have allowed or settled for ... bye.
That was over 6weeks ago ... he hasn't tried to contact me at all. Not even to say "hi, how are you?"
Well, this past Friday I was in there w/ my sis and a couple of married male friends. My bro-n-law didn't tell me, bu t he was in there already and the way I found out was that he walked right past me. I was shocked cause I was looking straight ahead and I see his face, didn't expect that at all. I knew we would eventually be in that place at same time, but I never thought he'd outright disrespect me like that. I ended up sending him a text later saying "Thanks for not even saying Hi..." He replied next day saying "Hey sweetie! Honestly I did not see you! Sorry! Hi!!" I replied back "Hi! Hope you & girls have been well .. take care
" I didn;t want to get into anything w/ him, just let him know he's not gonna get to me, change who I am as a true friend in the end.
WTH did I ever do to him to be treated this way???
Couple of questions:
1. Why woudln't he come up & say hi to me???
2. Do you think he's telling truth that he honestly didn't see me???
Thanks for your time and no judgement please ... just honest advice!0 -
First off your a booty call plane and simple...when you asked him if he wanted to date and he gave you an excuse multiple times that says he wants to continue to **** you until something better comes along and takes him off the market.
Secondly he walked by you and you care that he didnt say hi...after all that **** you should have found a hot guy to dance with or make out with right in front of him to show that you moved on to something better and dont need him. Now he is just blazing in the glory that you still infact want his nuts.0 -
So yeah, 14 pages later and I see that yes, I was the only one who saw FWB in the title and thought it meant Fat White B1tch. (I can't keep up with the acronyms.)
Anywhoo, this was a fun read late at night with insomnia. So glad the OP kept her cool on this thread and seems to have taken what I saw as SO MUCH GREAT advice. Can't really add to it just wanna highlight the truest parts.
1) dude did nothing wrong
2) FWB is prolly not a thing for OP to try again
3) people are incredibly quick to google unknown gross terms
4) old fashioned thinking is old fashioned
5) sexism is alive and well
6) so is womanizing
...and finally I'd like to add my own take that I got from the subtext of OP's replies. She never mentioned anything about his personality or character per se that prompted her growing feelings for him which were hard to shake. This lead me to conclude that he is apparently quite adDIC.Ktive and she should replace him with another sexual object to facilitate the getting over since maybe he could lay the smack down real well and she needs to actively find a better man for that to stop thinking he's the only game in town. I mean I've known men like that. Hard to get over. Not trying to sound crass or funny but that's truly the only gist I got re: barguy. So yeah the way to get over a man like that is to get under a new one.0 -
He saw you, trust me, get over it, get over him, move on.0
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That was over 6weeks ago ... he hasn't tried to contact me at all. Not even to say "hi, how are you?"
I'm sorry, are you his girlfriend? No? You're an FB. Port of the moment.
As for him not seeing you... he has no reason to lie, or care, chalk it up to him not seeing you.
Relax, it's ok. That's why people keep groups of FBs. To avoid neurosis.
"Port of the moment" priceless I needed this lol
As for him not contacting you in 6 weeks..that should be a pretty clear sign of how he feels right there dont you think. Men arent like women, alot of women think about the guy and hope to be contacted...men if they are thinking about you...they will contact you they arent afraid, if they arent contacting you they are probably contacting someone else (both verbally and physically) lol0 -
This thread is still going?! :noway:
He must've had some crazy good d!ↄk OP :laugh:0 -
This!1. He is not into you.
2. You need to put HIM on ignore.
NEVER do friends with benefits if it's not what you really want.0 -
He saw you, trust me, get over it, get over him, move on.
As I sat there watching him walk right by me ... I KNEW he saw me or else he would've taken another exit route and I would've never known. Nothing would've ever been said on my end ... 0 -
This thread is still going?! :noway:
He must've had some crazy good d!ↄk OP :laugh:
Well ... yes :blushing:
No, it was more of the emotional security I felt being w/ him. He made me feel very secure sexually, made me feel very sexy ... something I had no idea I was missing and needed as a woman ... 0 -
By texting him those msgs, you only showed that he did get to you and you're still jealous and chasing after him..he probably thinks you're stalking him. In the future, say hi when you see him..but don't wait till later and go home and txt him sarcastic msgs, letting him know you're stuck on him when he already told you, he is NOT interested up front...stop looking for him to care...Let me give a little background here --
-- we met Aug 2011 at my bro-n-law's bar, exchanged numbers, hit it off, and strarted talking immediately. We became physical a fews weeks into talking and it was immediate chemistry. Three months into it I brought up the "relationship" subj and he said he wasn't ready, blah-blah-blah. Instead of walking away like I should have we continued our casualness for another 9months and I brought it up again. He had same response, so I walked away and we said that we'd remain friends. After a few months of no contact, talking or physical he started to text casually again. Yes, I allowed him back in & I didn't bring up any relationship type talk b/c I didn't want to ... again!!! In my hopeless romantic mind I figured that he decided to come back, wanted to see me and it would progress naturally w/out harping on "the talk"!!! About 6months into us "reuniting" I heard that he brought a girl to my bro-n-law's & it was a physical date b/c the bartender working wanted to capture the moment to show us. I was lividhearing this b/c we just had a convo about honesty & if he's w/ someone in anyway let me know. I was shocked, hurt, and sad! I confronted him immediately, which is not my persoanlity type, but I had to w/ this situation. I felt so disrespected b/c what if I was there hanging out & I know he didn't owe me much w/out commitment, but basic human decensy is nice! Anyway, he acknowledged this girl saying it was an old friend he ran into, he's sorry for taking her there, didn't intend to hurt me, but doesn't mean we can't be friends. If I didn't confront him w/ what I found out he would've never told me and what, kept me on the backburner ... Def not!!! I told him that I have to end all knowing he can just push me aside after 2years, that I should've walked away first time I brought up "the talk" b/c I started developing feelings for him and it was hard. He was sad, said he was speechless and apologized yet again. I ended by saying this was something I shouldn't have allowed or settled for ... bye.
That was over 6weeks ago ... he hasn't tried to contact me at all. Not even to say "hi, how are you?"
Well, this past Friday I was in there w/ my sis and a couple of married male friends. My bro-n-law didn't tell me, bu t he was in there already and the way I found out was that he walked right past me. I was shocked cause I was looking straight ahead and I see his face, didn't expect that at all. I knew we would eventually be in that place at same time, but I never thought he'd outright disrespect me like that. I ended up sending him a text later saying "Thanks for not even saying Hi..." He replied next day saying "Hey sweetie! Honestly I did not see you! Sorry! Hi!!" I replied back "Hi! Hope you & girls have been well .. take care" I didn;t want to get into anything w/ him, just let him know he's not gonna get to me, change who I am as a true friend in the end.
WTH did I ever do to him to be treated this way???
Couple of questions:
1. Why woudln't he come up & say hi to me???
2. Do you think he's telling truth that he honestly didn't see me???
Thanks for your time and no judgement please ... just honest advice!
Stalking him ... NO!!! We met at that bar, we met through my bro-n-law who bartends there and I haven't been in there in a while.
We both knew eventually we would be there on the same night ... that was a given. I think if we made eye contact that night I would've smiled, but just seeing him walk right by me w/out a word was shocking. I honestly wouldn't have texted him cause that's my personality ... stubborn! With this guy though I just didn't want any loose ends period and I didn't want him to think it was okay not to acknowledge me ... it's not okay for him to trreat or disrespect me like that! It has nothing to do w/ him being uninterested in me, but basic human decency regardless of situation!0 -
We both knew eventually we would be there on the same night ... that was a given. I think if we made eye contact that night I would've smiled, but just seeing him walk right by me w/out a word was shocking. ... it's not okay for him to trreat or disrespect me like that! It has nothing to do w/ him being uninterested in me, but basic human decency regardless of situation!
Are you not getting this ????!!!!
YOU CAN NOT CHANGE HIM.
STOP spending YOUR LIFE & TIME ANALYZING EVERY LITTLE THING THAT HE DID OR DID NOT DO.
come on girl, stop this thread. haven't you had enough of this?
For every minute YOU CHOOSE to think about him and the past, YOU are taking away a minute of LIVING YOUR LIFE NOW.
btw ~ looking forward to you starting a new thread, about YOUR NEW LIFE.
SHOW US / tell us what's new and positive and exciting in YOUR NEW LIFE.0 -
You shouldn't have had sex with him. He was using you through and through for the vaj. Ignore his *kitten* to the extent you don't notice when he's ignoring yours. He didn't say "hi" because, to him, you're a closed up vagina that made it seem as if he can't ever slip it in again. He replied to your text apologetically because he thought maybe he could get some again with NSA.0
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Yes he's telling the truth, and if you want a relationship with him you have to "FIGHT" for what you believe in.0
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We both knew eventually we would be there on the same night ... that was a given. I think if we made eye contact that night I would've smiled, but just seeing him walk right by me w/out a word was shocking. ... it's not okay for him to trreat or disrespect me like that! It has nothing to do w/ him being uninterested in me, but basic human decency regardless of situation!
Are you not getting this ????!!!!
YOU CAN NOT CHANGE HIM.
STOP spending YOUR LIFE & TIME ANALYZING EVERY LITTLE THING THAT HE DID OR DID NOT DO.
come on girl, stop this thread. haven't you had enough of this?
For every minute you think about him and the past, YOU are taking away a minute of LIVING YOUR LIFE NOW.
btw ~ looking forward to you starting a new thread, about YOUR NEW LIFE.
SHOW US / tell us what's new and positive and exciting in YOUR NEW LIFE.
Yes, I've had enough ... know I can't change him and me sending him that last text was not for that purpose! I guess something I had to do for myself ... regardless of any outcome.
I AM DONE!!!!
I am ready for the next chapter in my life ... chalking this up to a wonderful sexually gratifying experience and knowing I want the full-package everyday!!!
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?? I'm at a loss for words on this topic ??0
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I can't believe I read the whole thing...one question, are you 12? because it sounds like you were at a jr. high dance and your crush walked by.
I'm with you, do I seriously just read that entire post??? What grade are we in?
YOU BROKE UP WITH HIM. LEAVE IT ALONE. DO NOT TEXT HIM BEING A SARCASTIC B!TCH. YOU ARE THE ONE WHO ENDED IT.0 -
Get over it. How many times does this guy have to be a jerk to you for you to get it and actually cut him out of your life?
And the fact that you texted him at all after what happened at the bar . . . well, let's just say that he definitely knows he got to you.
And yes, he saw you. And he didn't come up and say hi because he's not interested you and given that you were never in a committed relationship with him has no obligation to be anything to you. Sorry . . . but it's true.0 -
Get over it. How many times does this guy have to be a jerk to you for you to get it and actually cut him out of your life?
And the fact that you texted him at all after what happened at the bar . . . well, let's just say that he definitely knows he got to you.
And yes, he saw you. And he didn't come up and say hi because he's not interested you and given that you were never in a committed relationship with him has no obligation to be anything to you. Sorry . . . but it's true.
I know I made my own choices w/ regard to the first day we met until last Friday ... no guarantees & no obligations from either side and I get that! All I know is that I needed him to know I knew he ignored me and it wasn't okay ... I have absolutely no intentions of contacting him anymore about ANYthing going fwd! For me to actually have sent that text was out of my character, but it would've bothered me if I didn't and would've wondered more about that and I just didn't want that lingering ... it would've believe me!
I made a mistake not confronting someone I was dating a few years ago, kept talking to him for a few more months sporatically, but never told him why I was distancing myself. A year later he called me out of the blue and the **** hit the fan and I let him have it and even though it felt good to finally get that out I knew I waited way too damn long! Needless to say he tried to justify his actions, got real assholey w/ me and we aren't in each others lives at all!!!0 -
Are you not getting this ????!!!!
YOU CAN NOT CHANGE HIM.
STOP spending YOUR LIFE & TIME ANALYZING EVERY LITTLE THING THAT HE DID OR DID NOT DO.
come on girl, stop this thread. haven't you had enough of this?
For every minute YOU CHOOSE TO think about him and the past, YOU CHOOSE TO take away a minute of LIVING YOUR LIFE NOW.
btw ~ looking forward to you starting a new thread, about YOUR NEW LIFE.
SHOW US / tell us what's new and positive and exciting in YOUR NEW LIFE.
Yes, I've had enough ...
I AM DONE!!!!
I am ready for the next chapter in my life .
ok, you're up for the challenge!! And a new life. GREAT..
Now prove it it to us, ginchrst. Start a new positive thread and give us the link !!
" I dare you " <-- in a friendly way.0 -
He wanted a piece and he got it...over and over. Who's gonna buy the cow when you get the milk for free?
Kick him to the curb if you haven't already.0 -
Sorry, I don't see why this guy is a jerk . . .
He's in a non-committed relationship. He had a date with another woman. He gets a call from his FWB saying she is "ending all knowing he can just push me aside after 2years." He apologizes (I guess for taking his date to that specific location???). He doesn't call the woman who ended it with him.
Yeah, this guy sounds terrible.0 -
Sorry, I don't see why this guy is a jerk . . .
He's in a non-committed relationship. He had a date with another woman. He gets a call from his FWB saying she is "ending all knowing he can just push me aside after 2years." He apologizes (I guess for taking his date to that specific location???). He doesn't call the woman who ended it with him.
Yeah, this guy sounds terrible.
I'm not saying that I hate him , he's the worst guy ever ... just wanted to make it clear to him it's NOT okay for him to treat me like he never knew me and disrespect me when out in public like that! I've always treated him w/ respect, been honest & upfront w/ him over the two years and just b/c we weren't in a committed relationship I'm not gonna allow him to think he's not gonna be called out on those kinds of actions. I don't stalk him, I don't bug him w/ texts or calls or write him scary letters... I don't think that me ending it for my reason(s) and still wanting him to respect me is so bad or wrong!0 -
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How is this topic still going!? Nice job OP!0
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How is this topic still going!? Nice job OP!
Thx! Is this unusual on this site ... LOL!
I'm amazed definitely 0
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