FWB ignored me at bar ...
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Three months into it I brought up the "relationship" subj and he said he wasn't ready, blah-blah-blah. Instead of walking away like I should have we continued our casualness for another 9months !
FWB are for people who for want of a better phrase, emotionally unavailable.
You now in hindsight realise you should have walked when you came up against the blah blah blah but settled for it probably in the hope it would turn into more.
Chalk it up to a learning experience and do your best to move on. Delete him and walk away.
sorry you had to learn the hard way... FWB don't work unless both parties are completely aware of what the arrangement is... and they very rarely amount to anything .0 -
Met a dude at a bar, started "doing it" a couple weeks later. I tried to tie him down to a relationship but he wasn't ready. Kept going for 9 months. Tried to get him to commit again. No
Started hooking up again without a commitment. Saw him with another girl and got jealous....Ask him for commitment??
I'm seeing a pattern here.0 -
That was over 6weeks ago ... he hasn't tried to contact me at all. Not even to say "hi, how are you?"
Relax, it's ok. That's why people keep groups of FBs. To avoid neurosis.
thats called a stable of *kitten*
I would like a stable of *kitten*.0 -
"He's just not that into you".0
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BTW, you are not friends with benefits, when you are hooking up with him in HOPES that it will turn into something, that's called desperation. try finding someone who actually wants to be with you0
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Not a universal truth with all guys but close enough to take it as one...
A guy views a FWB as that,no strings,no commitment,no emotional connection,no pseudo relationship.
If you as a lady don`t share that exact view then don`t enter into one or plan on being hurt.0 -
WOW ... I didn't expect such a huge response and so fast too!
Let's get one thing straight here ... I AM NOT A *kitten* and I'm not 12 ... LOL!
In the end of this two year "thing", all I wanted was respect. Yes I know I allowed and settled and it didn't feel good and that's why I had to end it all! I'm trying to regain my self-respect cause I felt real low and didn't realize my state of mind until I found out about this other girl. I'm sure there were more girls over 2years, but learning of this one at this time was meant to be ... def not what I want! I haven't text him at all, just that one from fri about not saying hi ... i never planned on contacting him!0 -
Couple of questions:
1. Why woudln't he come up & say hi to me???
2. Do you think he's telling truth that he honestly didn't see me???
Thanks for your time and no judgement please ... just honest advice!
1. Does it matter? You walked away and rightfully so. It sounds like he's been disrespecting you for a while, so why does it still surprise you. He owes you nothing and you owe him nothing. why does it matter? It shouldn't.
2. Again it doesn't matter. See above.0 -
That was over 6weeks ago ... he hasn't tried to contact me at all. Not even to say "hi, how are you?"
Relax, it's ok. That's why people keep groups of FBs. To avoid neurosis.
thats called a stable of *kitten*
or, as i like to call mine - - a barn full of studs0 -
I want a committed relationship with no benefits
It's called marriage. Not as good as it sounds, believe me.0 -
That was over 6weeks ago ... he hasn't tried to contact me at all. Not even to say "hi, how are you?"
Relax, it's ok. That's why people keep groups of FBs. To avoid neurosis.
thats called a stable of *kitten*
I would like a stable of *kitten*.
just make sure they are thoroughbred0 -
it actually doesnt sound that goodI want a committed relationship with no benefits
It's called marriage. Not as good as it sounds, believe me.0 -
He liked banging you. He never ever wanted to be in a relationship with you. He got tired of dealing with you. He saw you at the party. He wishes he hadn't see you at the party because you're annoying and clingy.
Don't agree to a FWB situation if you don't want to just be FWB.
^ ding ding ding! This.0 -
WOW ... I didn't expect such a huge response and so fast too!
Let's get one thing straight here ... I AM NOT A *kitten* and I'm not 12 ... LOL!
In the end of this two year "thing", all I wanted was respect. Yes I know I allowed and settled and it didn't feel good and that's why I had to end it all! I'm trying to regain my self-respect cause I felt real low and didn't realize my state of mind until I found out about this other girl. I'm sure there were more girls over 2years, but learning of this one at this time was meant to be ... def not what I want! I haven't text him at all, just that one from fri about not saying hi ... i never planned on contacting him!
you're asking someone to give a *kitten* about you, when he never gave a *kitten* about you...0 -
I want a committed relationship with no benefits
It's called marriage. Not as good as it sounds, believe me.
You're doing it wrong.0 -
Three months into it I brought up the "relationship" subj and he said he wasn't ready, blah-blah-blah. Instead of walking away like I should have we continued our casualness for another 9months !
FWB are for people who for want of a better phrase, emotionally unavailable.
You now in hindsight realise you should have walked when you came up against the blah blah blah but settled for it probably in the hope it would turn into more.
Chalk it up to a learning experience and do your best to move on. Delete him and walk away.
sorry you had to learn the hard way... FWB don't work unless both parties are completely aware of what the arrangement is... and they very rarely amount to anything .
I saw a romantic comedy that begs to disagree with you
Hmm...I wonder if it's on tv yet....
Ok, I own it, but it was in the bargainbin...............................That was a lie, I bought the 29.99 Blu Ray combo pack.0 -
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TLDR....Just go on Craigslist or POF0
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You're not really 39 years old, right?0
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TLDR....Just go on Craigslist or POF
i found a nice bed recently on craigslist0 -
tl;dr0
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I want a committed relationship with no benefits
OK, this made me laugh!
Its the graveyard most of us end up in anyhow...
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Touche0 -
I want a committed relationship with no benefits
someone beat me to it0 -
1. He is not into you.
2. You need to put HIM on ignore.
NEVER do friends with benefits if it's not what you really want.
quoting and emphasizing for the great advice. fo reals.
^This times a MILLION
yet again... let this be noted.0 -
TLDR....Just go on Craigslist or POF
i found a nice bed recently on craigslist
and did you find someone to share it with on Craigslist as well?0 -
Ditto.1. He is not into you.
2. You need to put HIM on ignore.
NEVER do friends with benefits if it's not what you really want.
quoting and emphasizing for the great advice. fo reals.
^This times a MILLION
yet again... let this be noted.
Walk away.0 -
TLDR....Just go on Craigslist or POF
i found a nice bed recently on craigslist
and did you find someone to share it with on Craigslist as well?
Id be terrified to try
I did the online dating thing on match and eharmony before.... nightmarish results....0 -
Too long, didn't read, but FWB FTW!0
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WOW ... I didn't expect such a huge response and so fast too!
Let's get one thing straight here ... I AM NOT A *kitten* and I'm not 12 ... LOL!
In the end of this two year "thing", all I wanted was respect. Yes I know I allowed and settled and it didn't feel good and that's why I had to end it all! I'm trying to regain my self-respect cause I felt real low and didn't realize my state of mind until I found out about this other girl. I'm sure there were more girls over 2years, but learning of this one at this time was meant to be ... def not what I want! I haven't text him at all, just that one from fri about not saying hi ... i never planned on contacting him!
you're asking someone to give a *kitten* about you, when he never gave a *kitten* about you...
Ouch! Can I chalk it up to he's a narcissist young boy and I let the amazing sex cloud my judgements???0 -
TLDR....Just go on Craigslist or POF
i found a nice bed recently on craigslist
and did you find someone to share it with on Craigslist as well?
Id be terrified to try
I did the online dating thing on match and eharmony before.... nightmarish results....
Been there, done that, and learned to double bag it.0
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