FWB ignored me at bar ...

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  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
    If you are not in a relationship and it sounds like you had already moved on what is the big deal? FWB does not mean bound for life, in fact any FWB relationship I have been in means I get sex but am free to do as I please with who I please when I please. I have been with my current FWB for almost 4 years, we have seen each other in public and don't always talk... if you were not ready for that you shouldn't have remained physical with it.

    I thought my two years was long! I guess I expected too much from a situation he obviously didn't think twice about. Just a simple HI would've been nice whether he felt I ended everything between us ... just common courtesy.

    First time ever w/ this fwb and def NEVER AGAIN!!!

    Also concerned that you seem to think this guy has somehow wronged you...

    Not wronged me in the sense that he made empty promises or lead me on ... I ultimately made my choices w/ him and I honestly have no regrets cause he did put a smile on my face!

    I feel like he wronged me as a friend, a true friend that I was to him and would never "ignore" him!

    He said he didn't see you. Move on!
  • uncharted01
    uncharted01 Posts: 105 Member
    did the OP create an MFP account just to ask relationship advice? :huh: SMH.
  • suzend
    suzend Posts: 155 Member
    1. He is not into you.
    2. You need to put HIM on ignore.

    NEVER do friends with benefits if it's not what you really want.

    Yep, this ^^

    Plus, you say you don't deserve this treatment and won't settle but you sure sound like you want him to be in your life. Honey, let it go and move on. It's not going to work just because you want it to.
  • bergamese
    bergamese Posts: 36 Member
    Why do so many people on this board feel the need to be mean, nasty, and rude?

    If you don't have anything nice to say, stfu.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    2. You are too easy. I don't say that to be rude but men only appreciate what it takes work to get and keep.

    LOL. NO.
  • 1. Why did you want him to talk to you ( I honestly would be pissed off if he DID talk to me after I was treated like that)


    2. You are too easy. I don't say that to be rude but men only appreciate what it takes work to get and keep.

    Rules to follow:

    1. NEVER allow yourself to be treated with less than respect ( bedroom games don't count)
    2. If you have to compromise yourself or break your heart - break your heart
    3. Don't settle for less than what makes you happy ( that means if you want FWB do it, but don't confuse it with a relationship, if you want a relationship don't engage in FWB)

    I guess this situation has become so overwhelming to me emotionally that seeing him walk right past me was the culmination of it all ... Like a slap in my face! I was just shocked & hurt ... sending him that text after was like a "hey don't treat my that way!" I wanted to end on a note w/ him where I can feel good ... that i won't allow his actions to take away my true character.
  • He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    I got one for my husband when he was deployed haha
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    2. You are too easy. I don't say that to be rude but men only appreciate what it takes work to get and keep.

    LOL. NO.

    Hahahahhahahah, 1940's called they want their archaic, out dated advice back.
  • Why do so many people on this board feel the need to be mean, nasty, and rude?

    If you don't have anything nice to say, stfu.

    Thank you ... btw I"M NOT A HO ... LOL!!!
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    Hope you're not at work!

    *sighing head lowered to desk* I am but that's ok I work at a doc's office and they google crazy **** all the time.............words like micropenis......my first week here I saw them google that and I knew I would fit right in. Oh and one for you guys to google......*kitten*
  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
    He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    I got one for my husband when he was deployed haha

    im ordering 2
  • He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    Hope you're not at work!

    *sighing head lowered to desk* I am but that's ok I work at a doc's office and they google crazy **** all the time.............words like micropenis......my first week here I saw them google that and I knew I would fit right in. Oh and one for you guys to google......*kitten*

    AH WTF WHY DID I JUST GOOGLE THAT!??!!
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    Why do so many people on this board feel the need to be mean, nasty, and rude?

    If you don't have anything nice to say, stfu.

    stfu is not a very nice thing to say. :cry:
  • Briargrey
    Briargrey Posts: 498 Member
    I keep meaning to buy a fleshlight for the other half. We've got a household full of Lelos but new toys are always fun ;)
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    Why do so many people on this board feel the need to be mean, nasty, and rude?

    If you don't have anything nice to say, stfu.

    Thank you ... btw I"M NOT A HO ... LOL!!!

    personal entertainment.......pure and simple........sometimes you gotta make your own fun even at the expense of others
  • arghbowl
    arghbowl Posts: 1,179 Member
    TLDR....Just go on Craigslist or POF

    i found a nice bed recently on craigslist

    and did you find someone to share it with on Craigslist as well?

    Id be terrified to try

    I did the online dating thing on match and eharmony before.... nightmarish results....

    Been there, done that, and learned to double bag it.

    man I wouldnt of touched 90% of those chicks with ur 8====D
    bunch of terrible clingy, lying, slutty, entitled little girls on there

    but maybe I was doing it wrong?

    One was legit crazy. One was an entitled psychopath... but it was definitely worth it. Ohhhh was it ever worth it........
  • calibriintx
    calibriintx Posts: 1,741 Member
    Why do so many people on this board feel the need to be mean, nasty, and rude?

    If you don't have anything nice to say, stfu.

    OP is coming in here asking for advice about something many people would turn to a close friend about, rather than total strangers. So I'm answering like I would if OP were a close friend. And I'd tell a close friend to get back on her meds.
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    Why do so many people on this board feel the need to be mean, nasty, and rude?

    If you don't have anything nice to say, stfu.

    stfu is not a very nice thing to say. :cry:

    that was classic, you 180ed that immediately.
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    Hope you're not at work!

    *sighing head lowered to desk* I am but that's ok I work at a doc's office and they google crazy **** all the time.............words like micropenis......my first week here I saw them google that and I knew I would fit right in. Oh and one for you guys to google......*kitten*

    AH WTF WHY DID I JUST GOOGLE THAT!??!!

    Seriously?? You didn't know what it meant? LOL!
  • arghbowl
    arghbowl Posts: 1,179 Member
    He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    I got one for my husband when he was deployed haha

    im ordering 2

    If you order the porn star versions, beware. They come with HPV hidden in the sleeve :'(
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    Why do so many people on this board feel the need to be mean, nasty, and rude?

    If you don't have anything nice to say, stfu.

    Thank you ... btw I"M NOT A HO ... LOL!!!

    Very few people here, like MAYBE 2, have implied that you maybe are -- all the other meanies here was called them out.

    Doesn't change the fact that you confused sex with dude giving a rat's behind. There are a few types of casual sex relationships, two I think that encapsulate most those are actual friends with benefits and booty call. I think you were a booty call to this did. That's all. Just move on and wash that man outta your hair.
  • AH WTF WHY DID I JUST GOOGLE THAT!??!!

    Seriously?? You didn't know what it meant? LOL!
    I'VE NEVER HAD A REASON TO KNOW!!! I'm going to barf.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Why do so many people on this board feel the need to be mean, nasty, and rude?

    If you don't have anything nice to say, stfu.

    stfu is not a very nice thing to say. :cry:

    :laugh:
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    Hope you're not at work!

    *sighing head lowered to desk* I am but that's ok I work at a doc's office and they google crazy **** all the time.............words like micropenis......my first week here I saw them google that and I knew I would fit right in. Oh and one for you guys to google......*kitten*

    AH WTF WHY DID I JUST GOOGLE THAT!??!!

    Curiosity killed the cat my friend............................but satisfaction brought him back
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    1 he's just not that into you
    2 you scare him away with your week of desperation (desperation is fine for one meal, but it tends to rot by the next morning nobody wants leftovers
    3 walk away, find valuing yourself, establish your needs and find a relationship to fulfill it.
    4 Friends with benefits is friends with benefits not relationships with benefits, hes not lied about what he wants, so stop lying to yourself.
  • QuietBloom
    QuietBloom Posts: 5,413 Member
    AH WTF WHY DID I JUST GOOGLE THAT!??!!

    Seriously?? You didn't know what it meant? LOL!
    I'VE NEVER HAD A REASON TO KNOW!!! I'm going to barf.

    *holds barf bag and pats Lurve on the back* And here I thought you were such a tough girl.
  • Mobilemuscle
    Mobilemuscle Posts: 945 Member
    He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    I got one for my husband when he was deployed haha

    im ordering 2

    If you order the porn star versions, beware. They come with HPV hidden in the sleeve :'(

    I already got one of those...ill just throw it out
  • dawningr
    dawningr Posts: 387 Member
    1. He is not into you.
    2. You need to put HIM on ignore.

    NEVER do friends with benefits if it's not what you really want.

    quoting and emphasizing for the great advice. fo reals.

    And this^^^^^^^^^

    Yep
  • Trechechus
    Trechechus Posts: 2,819 Member
    He was not a friends with benefits. You were a little fleshlight that he pulled out when ever he wanted to get off and nothing more.

    I just googled "fleshlight".... :frown:

    ahhh curiosity is killing me now........must go google fleshlight

    Hope you're not at work!

    *sighing head lowered to desk* I am but that's ok I work at a doc's office and they google crazy **** all the time.............words like micropenis......my first week here I saw them google that and I knew I would fit right in. Oh and one for you guys to google......*kitten*

    Whhyyyyyy!?!?!?!!? :sad:
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    I didn't read this because it was too long but I think the key term here is "friend with benefits." in this case you were an "acquaintance with benefits." sorry, it sucks, but next time make sure you are sleeping with someone who has the same relationship ideals as you do.

    Oh, okay. I read that whole post trying to figure out what FWB stood for (i'm old). And the whole time I was wondering if the OP was really old enough to be in a bar.