Does "Hot Mom" Need to Apologize?
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fat shaming? sounds like excuse making. i laugh at the notion of her apologizing.0
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I personally find it inspirational.
The problem is that we assign motivation or assume what someone's purpose and message. I personally took the message to be, "I can do it, so you can too!" I don't think the idea is that we have to look exactly like her. I've had surgery in my stomach area to put in a port, so I don't think I could possibly look like her, but it motivates me to get my healthiest and look my best.
Unless someone comes out and says, "This is what I meant to say..." we really only have our assumptions. The problem is that our own biases color these assumptions so that we can twist the intended message into something far different.0 -
I say no...she doesn't need to apologize for her weight loss anymore then anyone else does for theirs.0
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I wouldn't say she's fat shaming.
What I'd be more annoyed about is the fact that she's using her children to sell her business, to make money.0 -
OMG PEOPLE ARE SO SENSITIVE!!
She is saying there is no excuse to not work hard! That is just what HER body looks like.
Stop comparing your body to hers. That isn't the point and has never been.
Just like the picture of the 90 year old woman working out saying what is your excuse.
Just like pregant women doing crossfit, saying what is your excuse.
WHAT IS YOUR EXCUSE TO NOT GIVE A **** ABOUT YOUR BODY.
That is what this picture is saying, the end.
Stop being a cry baby and realize no one cares that you are offended, you should be worrying about your health and look at her and be happy for her. She is a badass, as are many others. Wahhh you don't have the same goals you don't want rock hard abs, well good for you, she isn't saying you have to look like her. That is our society though, taking things to literally and crying about it. She is saying care about your body, care about your health, there is literally NO EXCUSE not too.
And stop crying about stuff. Sheesh.
I work 2 jobs, have a deployed husband, I work out everyday even when I work 17 hour days 4 days in a row! I make time, I meal prep, I am still considered obese by my BMI. This picture is inspiration to be better, not cry because her abs are better than mine and my genetics will never let me get there. WRONG. You get to where you want to be by working for it! It might take time, but that time will pass no matter what, might as well work your *kitten* of for what YOU WANT.
This whole thread makes me so annoyed...0 -
think the difference is that society as a whole doesn't expect people with physical disabilities to have "hot" bodies or be in any particular shape. Women are expected to want children and then be "MILF"s when they are done pushing them out. Again, I don't think this woman needs to apologize, but maybe wonder if how she is approaching "motivation" feeds into the idea that looks get you more press than 1) owning a business that helps care for people or 2) running a charity that helps children.
Sorry but I think the two are the same. Both are saying there is no excuse to not go out there and do it. In her case sure she's saying there's no excuse to not get the body you want and I have to agree with her.
We have become a society of p*ssies. Of people who blame everyone else for their shortcomings or the fact that they haven't achieved what they want. Now this woman has some how offended people who are over weight simply by posting a picture and asking a simple question: "What's your Excuse?" But of course that's fat shaming. Like I said would it have been any different if she was on the front of a fitness magazine and the title said something like "Mom of three shares her story on how she got this rockin' body and stays in shape! Her motto "What's Your Excuse" is what keeps her motivated!" No. You would go flip through the magazine and read her amazing story. You'd stare in awe at her awesome body and think 'Wow! She is unbelievable! I might have to try her ideas!" But instead because it's just a simple picture with three simple words it's fat shaming.
It'ss your problem that you have an issue and are reading that much into it. It's YOUR problem if you think she's fat shaming. If people took half as much time and energy that they put into posting their hate about those who are fit and in shape and got off their *kitten* and stepped away from the computer for a few minutes perhaps they too could have that kind of body too.0 -
It is not fat-hating, it is motivation!!! People need better things to do with their time than get online and bash someone like her!
Great point.0 -
I wouldn't say she's fat shaming.
What I'd be more annoyed about is the fact that she's using her children to sell her business, to make money.
She's smart by doing that. It now becomes a tax write-off.0 -
For the photo, she owes absolutely no apology. I see no problem with that or the caption. She's hot, she works hard, it's pretty kick azz. But her weird, defensive apology was a little off putting.0
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Nope. She worked for it. Unless the pics are photoshopped and/or she had plastic surgery. Then I'd say she should apologize. But apologize for that? I think those who took offense are probably the same who are making up reasons for why they're not in shape/overweight/whatever other issue they may have with themselves.0
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I'd like to know the TRUTH behind that body. Did she get ANY help....more than most "normal" people on average annual incomes? Or...did she have a personal trainer, and some major child care assistance (i.e., a nanny or two) AND did she perhaps have any plastic surgery?? I mean, if she is going to flaunt her body and taunt other mothers out there, saying "What's your excuse?" it should be on even playing field. Perception is NOT reality.0
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Its probably a whole lot easier to stay in shape through 3 pregnancies than to *get* in shape after the fact. She probably hasn't *ever* been "fat".
So the 'fatter' you've been, the more valid the excuse?
The fatter you allow yourself to get the harder it will be for you. But it can be done and there are several shining examples on MFP. It is unfortunate when children grow up obese since childhood. Parents needed to be more assertive and set the example. Anyway, I've also had 3 preg, but still had to bust my *kitten* every time to get back in shape.0 -
I'd like to know the TRUTH behind that body. Did she get ANY help....more than most "normal" people on average annual incomes? Or...did she have a personal trainer, and some major child care assistance (i.e., a nanny or two) AND did she perhaps have any plastic surgery?? I mean, if she is going to flaunt her body and taunt other mothers out there, saying "What's your excuse?" it should be on even playing field. Perception is NOT reality.
Go read her blog. She states that she has help from her husband and the gym daycare to handle her kids when she works out. She also says she exercises for 30-60 minutes a day. She also has stretch marks on her stomach.
Why does there have to be a "TRUTH" behind her body or plastic surgery done to make her look that hot? Anyone can have a body like hers if they just put in the time and dedication. Put down the twinkies and hop on the treadmill. Push away from the table and push some weight.
Again, it's just another way to hate on someone who obviously has worked hard to get to where she is. Why can't people just be happy for someone's accomplishment?0 -
Apologize? For what? People should stop looking for reasons to be offended. Come across something you don't like? Don't give it any more attention and move along. Whoever is offended by this picture has some bigger problems than the picture itself.0
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It is a very sad day indeed, when the mere mention of "hey, I'm healthy and fit" is considered "fat shaming."0
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I'd like to know the TRUTH behind that body. Did she get ANY help....more than most "normal" people on average annual incomes? Or...did she have a personal trainer, and some major child care assistance (i.e., a nanny or two) AND did she perhaps have any plastic surgery?? I mean, if she is going to flaunt her body and taunt other mothers out there, saying "What's your excuse?" it should be on even playing field. Perception is NOT reality.
You don't need all that to have a banging bod. You need some self control in the kitchen and a few hours a week to workout. It's about priorities. How much tv does the avg person watch? How much time do they spend on the net? Hell, you can even have a good workout while watching tv. I have an 8 month old. You should see her giggle as I do my squats.0 -
I have an 8 month old. You should see her giggle as I do my squats.
OMG LOVE0 -
I have an 8 month old. You should see her giggle as I do my squats.
OMG LOVE
Sometimes I do them holding her. She loves it!0 -
I don't get why people were offended by it. It is probably the people that use having kids as an excuse to why they are unhealthy and overweight that got offended. Good for her!0
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I just think the whole thing is stand-offish. "What's your excuse?" doesn't really come across as encouraging, but accusatory.
"I did it, and you can too!" I think would have been more helpful, followed by a link to her site for tips.0 -
I just think the whole thing is stand-offish. "What's your excuse?" doesn't really come across as encouraging, but accusatory.
"I did it, and you can too!" I think would have been more helpful, followed by a link to her site for tips.
I disagree. It makes you think. I see that and think "Well, nothing I guess". I think it's pretty motivating IMO.0 -
I just think the whole thing is stand-offish. "What's your excuse?" doesn't really come across as encouraging, but accusatory.
"I did it, and you can too!" I think would have been more helpful, followed by a link to her site for tips.
Because we are children?
Again this goes back to being to sensitive.
We are adults, should be treated as such and at a cetain point lets be honest it is time to get a kick in the *kitten*.
No more babying everyone.0 -
I just think the whole thing is stand-offish. "What's your excuse?" doesn't really come across as encouraging, but accusatory.
"I did it, and you can too!" I think would have been more helpful, followed by a link to her site for tips.
I agree. It's not her place to question my personal priorities when she doesn't know me. Maybe my 'excuse' is that I don't WANT to be able to cut diamonds with my abs, maybe dropping my 90 pounds is good enough for me.
That being said I do believe she's trying to be sincere in helping people.0 -
I have an 8 month old. You should see her giggle as I do my squats.
OMG LOVE
Sometimes I do them holding her. She loves it!
Haha, I bet she does! I can't wait to have children so I can show them how to be healthy and fit and do stuff like this! A trainer in my gym brings her daughter and they do little workouts together and it is the cutest thing I have ever seen. The little girl has 2 pound weights doing dumbbell bench presses. haha adorable.0 -
I just think the whole thing is stand-offish. "What's your excuse?" doesn't really come across as encouraging, but accusatory.
"I did it, and you can too!" I think would have been more helpful, followed by a link to her site for tips.
Because we are children?
Again this goes back to being to sensitive.
We are adults, should be treated as such and at a cetain point lets be honest it is time to get a kick in the *kitten*.
No more babying everyone.
This is not about sensitivity. Her ad is treating me like a child. I am an adult, and I have my own reasons for doing what I do.0 -
It might have been less offensive if she said, "I make no excuses" instead of, "What's YOUR excuse?". People don't tend to appreciate it when you point out their flaws. Especially if you appear flawless.
I know this woman who is 5'10" and 130 who constantly talks about how fat her butt is. I thought she was just insecure until she mentioned being in line at the grocery store behind this "disgusting fat pig" and said she wanted to shake her and ask her why she was "so freaking fat". I avoid this woman at all cost now.
A good rule of thumb is to keep your eyes on your own mat.0 -
If you hire a personal trainer, I think it's expected for them to ask a similar question. Women (and moms, especially) bash each other far too often. That said, the inflammatory reaction to this has made this quite visible. Shock and awe marketing.0
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I just think the whole thing is stand-offish. "What's your excuse?" doesn't really come across as encouraging, but accusatory.
"I did it, and you can too!" I think would have been more helpful, followed by a link to her site for tips.
Because we are children?
Again this goes back to being to sensitive.
We are adults, should be treated as such and at a cetain point lets be honest it is time to get a kick in the *kitten*.
No more babying everyone.
This is not about sensitivity. Her ad is treating me like a child. I am an adult, and I have my own reasons for doing what I do.
Maybe you should read my previous huge post about why you reasons for doing it is what she is saying! This women isn't talking to people like you who are doing what they need to feel healthy and happy. She is talking to the people that are doing nothing. She is saying she has kids, she owns 2 businesses and she makes time to focus on HER. She is saying everyone should do this and there is LITERALLY no excuse. Stop crying because you don't want the same things and have a different reason for doing this because this ad isn't for you if you are doing it. And again, sometimes it has to be broken done to something as simple as, what is your excuse? To really think wow, I clearly don't have one for people that aren't doing anything!0 -
Yes, Im tired of her crap0
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It might have been less offensive if she said, "I make no excuses" instead of, "What's YOUR excuse?". People don't tend to appreciate it when you point out their flaws. Especially if you appear flawless.
I know this woman who is 5'10" and 130 who constantly talks about how fat her butt is. I thought she was just insecure until she mentioned being in line at the grocery store behind this "disgusting fat pig" and said she wanted to shake her and ask her why she was "so freaking fat". I avoid this woman at all cost now.
A good rule of thumb is to keep your eyes on your own mat.
Now that women is just rude.....
I would also stay away from her. Ew.0
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