Women in relationships aren't allowed to have male friends?
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you aren't very good at this
huh? Oh projecting, thats another attempt at insulting. Try again.
So ... because you ae insecure, immature and have no self-control, no one does?I dont know, this whole bestfriends with the opposite sex thing is total crap. Like you shouldn't be sitting on the couch with your significant other texting another chick/dude. Most of the time these "bestfriends" are being told things the boyfriend/girlfriend should be told, they are confiding in someone else. Most married people I know have mutual friends. Like in the real world married dudes dont go out to lunch with random single "friends" thats peoples excuse to do dirt. When I was single I only wanted to text the opposite sex for one reason, to flirt and feel better about myself, now that I am married I have no desire to be friends with men, I mean no offense, I have chick friends, why do I need a male bestfriend I text all my problems to? Anytime I have seen my friends in relationships do this it ends bad, like 99% of the time they had gotten drunk and hooked up in the past, they use the guy when their boyfriend treats them bad to feel better about themselves, they get those warm feelings when the person texts. That is emotional cheating, laughing, joking, kidding around can quickly turn into "harmless flirting" ...People in relationships have no business texting people of the opposite sex. You want friendship? YEAH RIGHT
lol nice try honey. That is the response of people who want to do dirt. I have an amazing marriage. Married people have no business constantly texting or going out to dinner with the opposite sex. I have tons of self control, nice try though. Who even needs self control? What are you even talking about? I have no interest in tons of male friends because I am married with a life, why would I need to have all kinds of male friends around? EVERY SINGLE female that I have been best friends with that defended the whole "bestfriends with guys girls are to much drama" did HELLA dirt behind their boyfriends back, or used these guys to EMOTIONALLY feel better about themselves. You need to look at how damaged your relationship are, that you NEED the fulfillment emotionally from the opposite sex, whom isn't your significant other.
Are you 12? WTH is "do dirt?" I don't think anyone here was talking about "constantly texting or going out to dinner with the opposite sex." Sounds like you're projecting....
Projection is actually a psychological concept. If you tend to resort to it, it doesn't have to be an insult. However, it should be something to look into about yourself if you feel you're unable to deal with an issue, but feel it necessary to "project" it onto others. Have you considered talking to someone?
I know what it means, its a generic insult people use. Try again Doctor Phil
Hmm, insults are all in the receiver. That's the second or third time you've resorted to a "Try again __" response. You seem to be deflecting any information outside of your own rigid worldview. Would you like me to refer you to a professional in your area?
I certainly don't claim to be a psychologist! That's why I think you should see a professional; they can help you much more than those of us here on the forums.0 -
It would be great to get some insight and understanding into why this double standard is acceptable.
In my relationship double standards aren't acceptable. My husband and I have known each other since we were 12, which may be why our dynamic isn't following with some of the others on here, or it could be that once we decided to start our relationship in our mid 20's we lived a 10 hour drive apart for the first 18 months. We have the utmost respect and trust in each other, we fought hard to be together, I tend to not get along with other women well, I choose my friends wisely as does he. We each choose friends because they enrich our lives, regardless of gender, and the relationships are never inappropriate. Not to say that there haven't been relationships that have become ackward, at that point the relationship fails to really enrich your life and generally the friendship ends.0 -
I think it's more of them feeling threatened by us females. I know in my relationship I have been married 6 years and because of my weight loss am getting a lot of attention then I have ever, on Xbox, MFP and random strangers.
He feels threatened by the fact that I could "like" one of these males friends one day and leave him. Insecure I guess.
i think it depends on how you react when hit on. I mean xbox girl gamers.........Come on now.....
Agreed. Those dirty console peasants cannot be trusted. PC gamer or gtfo.
But what if you likes both??0 -
I don't game, but I do enjoy Star Wars and Game of Thrones.I think it's more of them feeling threatened by us females. I know in my relationship I have been married 6 years and because of my weight loss am getting a lot of attention then I have ever, on Xbox, MFP and random strangers.
He feels threatened by the fact that I could "like" one of these males friends one day and leave him. Insecure I guess.
i think it depends on how you react when hit on. I mean xbox girl gamers.........Come on now.....
What's wrong with girl gamers?? Am I some sort of clingy, needy, female because I game? I'm 35 with 3 kids, I game because it rocks...
I'm not sure if that makes me a slut.0 -
I am forbidden to speak to anyone......ANYONE0
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It is acceptable because you have allowed it to be.
^^^^ This is who your BF needs to watch out for!
+1. Married women should never be my friend.
Oh noez! Too late
You weren't married yet when we became friends. Now that you are...can I buy you a drink or ten?
Ten, please.
I'd buy you a few too..#j.s0 -
What they look like isn't relevent to me. And it isn't about their reputations. It's about whether I trust HIM.Ok can we add a variable to this equasion? Lets say everyone was allowed to be friends with whoever they wanted too..And all your friends are just plain normal looking guys with solid reputations and no other interest in you other than for commentary. And all of his friends were gee I dont know, Scarlett johansson, Megan Fox, Jenna Jameson, Pamela Anderson, and other beauties alike with questionable backgrounds...How much coffee (in ounces) would you allow to be shared then on a daily basis?0 -
Except me.I am forbidden to speak to anyone......ANYONE0 -
But what if you like both??I think it's more of them feeling threatened by us females. I know in my relationship I have been married 6 years and because of my weight loss am getting a lot of attention then I have ever, on Xbox, MFP and random strangers.
He feels threatened by the fact that I could "like" one of these males friends one day and leave him. Insecure I guess.
i think it depends on how you react when hit on. I mean xbox girl gamers.........Come on now.....
Agreed. Those dirty console peasants cannot be trusted. PC gamer or gtfo.
Then that makes you a transient. Gross.0 -
It's really just easier if neither of you have any friends. This way you have to spend ALL of your time with each other. And only talk to each other. And brush each other teeth and ....0
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It is acceptable because you have allowed it to be.
^^^^ This is who your BF needs to watch out for!
+1. Married women should never be my friend.
Oh noez! Too late
You weren't married yet when we became friends. Now that you are...can I buy you a drink or ten?
Ten, please.
I'd buy you a few too..#j.s
She is mine. I have wooed her with the promise of beer.0 -
I own 3 pitbulls and I trust them more then myself, but I wouldnt go waving bacon or steak in front of them. :drinker:
What they look like isn't relevent to me. And it isn't about their reputations. It's about whether I trust HIM.Ok can we add a variable to this equasion? Lets say everyone was allowed to be friends with whoever they wanted too..And all your friends are just plain normal looking guys with solid reputations and no other interest in you other than for commentary. And all of his friends were gee I dont know, Scarlett johansson, Megan Fox, Jenna Jameson, Pamela Anderson, and other beauties alike with questionable backgrounds...How much coffee (in ounces) would you allow to be shared then on a daily basis?0 -
I believe Chris Rock explained it best when he said men don't have women friends they just have women they haven't fuc@ed yet.
Lol. This is what my husband says. I don't have any male friends (in real life) either....that would not go over well here. And no, not because he's insecure. He says he does not trust that a guy friend would never want/try anything more. FTR, I don't care if he has female friends. But he doesn't anyway.0 -
I sense sarcasm. Are you saying you don't brush each other's teeth? Everyone doesn't do that?It's really just easier if neither of you have any friends. This way you have to spend ALL of your time with each other. And only talk to each other. And brush each other teeth and ....0 -
Ok can we add a variable to this equasion? Lets say everyone was allowed to be friends with whoever they wanted too..And all your friends are just plain normal looking guys with solid reputations and no other interest in you other than for commentary. And all of his friends were gee I dont know, Scarlett johansson, Megan Fox, Jenna Jameson, Pamela Anderson, and other beauties alike with questionable backgrounds...How much coffee (in ounces) would you allow to be shared then on a daily basis?
Define questionable backgrounds? Did they rob a Pizza Hut?0 -
But what if you like both??I think it's more of them feeling threatened by us females. I know in my relationship I have been married 6 years and because of my weight loss am getting a lot of attention then I have ever, on Xbox, MFP and random strangers.
He feels threatened by the fact that I could "like" one of these males friends one day and leave him. Insecure I guess.
i think it depends on how you react when hit on. I mean xbox girl gamers.........Come on now.....
Agreed. Those dirty console peasants cannot be trusted. PC gamer or gtfo.
Then that makes you a transient. Gross.
LOL I play DnD with my husband too...I'm all whacked out!0 -
She is mine. I have wooed her with the promise of beer.
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Frick, I still have quarters in my truck I was about to go to the walmart and coinstar them and buy her topshelf.0 -
But does he trust that you would say no? Because that's what matters.I believe Chris Rock explained it best when he said men don't have women friends they just have women they haven't fuc@ed yet.
Lol. This is what my husband says. I don't have any male friends (in real life) either....that would not go over well here. And no, not because he's insecure. He says he does not trust that a guy friend would never want/try anything more. FTR, I don't care if he has female friends. But he doesn't anyway.
A man can try something with you all day long. If you say no, then what difference does it make?
I would certainly end that kind of friendship because that friend is disrespectful. But what your SO is actually saying is that he doesn't think you are capable of saying no when propositioned for sex.0 -
ohh yes crybaby assumption time.
Not at all, crybabies generally focus on their own issues, not the perceived problems of others.0 -
I believe Chris Rock explained it best
I believe Chris Rock was also the voice of Donkey in "Shrek".
I'm supposed to take relationship advice from a donkey impersonator?0 -
I wouldn't wave a steak in front of a dog, either. But I think more highly of the man in my life.
I own 3 pitbulls and I trust them more then myself, but I wouldnt go waving bacon or steak in front of them. :drinker:
What they look like isn't relevent to me. And it isn't about their reputations. It's about whether I trust HIM.Ok can we add a variable to this equasion? Lets say everyone was allowed to be friends with whoever they wanted too..And all your friends are just plain normal looking guys with solid reputations and no other interest in you other than for commentary. And all of his friends were gee I dont know, Scarlett johansson, Megan Fox, Jenna Jameson, Pamela Anderson, and other beauties alike with questionable backgrounds...How much coffee (in ounces) would you allow to be shared then on a daily basis?0 -
Male Friends are "friends"...i too am married for many years and have been going out with friends; sometimes all female--sometimes mixed groups.
Incidentally, i have no sisters but do have 3 brothers and my comfort level is great with Guys for friends....neither males nor females want to have sex or sleep with everyone they meet, and to face the facts " a girl has to have friends"!0 -
questionable in Ethics..I. E all his other friends know where her birthmarks are.
Ok can we add a variable to this equasion? Lets say everyone was allowed to be friends with whoever they wanted too..And all your friends are just plain normal looking guys with solid reputations and no other interest in you other than for commentary. And all of his friends were gee I dont know, Scarlett johansson, Megan Fox, Jenna Jameson, Pamela Anderson, and other beauties alike with questionable backgrounds...How much coffee (in ounces) would you allow to be shared then on a daily basis?
Define questionable backgrounds? Did they rob a Pizza Hut?0 -
But what if you like both??I think it's more of them feeling threatened by us females. I know in my relationship I have been married 6 years and because of my weight loss am getting a lot of attention then I have ever, on Xbox, MFP and random strangers.
He feels threatened by the fact that I could "like" one of these males friends one day and leave him. Insecure I guess.
i think it depends on how you react when hit on. I mean xbox girl gamers.........Come on now.....
Agreed. Those dirty console peasants cannot be trusted. PC gamer or gtfo.
Then that makes you a transient. Gross.
LOL I play DnD with my husband too...I'm all whacked out!
Slore.0 -
I believe Chris Rock explained it best when he said men don't have women friends they just have women they haven't fuc@ed yet.
Lol. This is what my husband says. I don't have any male friends (in real life) either....that would not go over well here. And no, not because he's insecure. He says he does not trust that a guy friend would never want/try anything more. FTR, I don't care if he has female friends. But he doesn't anyway.
Like isn't this topic NAIVE? ARE WE 12? All ANY woman has to do is turn to the guy friend and offer him a happy ending, MARRIED, SINGLE, TAKEN, he is gonna take the bait. He may be a friend, but he would sleep with these women married or not if they let it get to that place, and they are dumb to think otherwise. Sitting at home with a male friend, your man isn't going to be home for 3 hours, and they dont THINK if they offered something he would take it? Are they dumb?
You mispronounced 'jealousy'0 -
Not at all girl... and to be honest.. any gamer girl can relate. 9 out of 10 times, it's not the females hitting on anyone on Xbox, its the guys that don't have a life other then Xbox that feel the only girls they can get are those just having fun through games. My husband plays with me so it's not like I'm "looking" for anything more then what's there.I think it's more of them feeling threatened by us females. I know in my relationship I have been married 6 years and because of my weight loss am getting a lot of attention then I have ever, on Xbox, MFP and random strangers.
He feels threatened by the fact that I could "like" one of these males friends one day and leave him. Insecure I guess.
i think it depends on how you react when hit on. I mean xbox girl gamers.........Come on now.....
What's wrong with girl gamers?? Am I some sort of clingy, needy, female because I game? I'm 35 with 3 kids, I game because it rocks...0 -
I believe Chris Rock explained it best
I believe Chris Rock was also the voice of Donkey in "Shrek".
I'm supposed to take relationship advice from a donkey impersonator?
Eddie Murphy is the donkey in Shrek!0 -
She is mine. I have wooed her with the promise of beer.
Frick, I still have quarters in my truck I was about to go to the walmart and coinstar them and buy her topshelf.
You clearly don't know me. *Hair flip*0 -
I believe Chris Rock explained it best
I believe Chris Rock was also the voice of Donkey in "Shrek".
I'm supposed to take relationship advice from a donkey impersonator?
That was Eddie Murphy. It is racist to think all black people sound the same.0 -
Except me.I am forbidden to speak to anyone......ANYONE
Now you earned me a night in the pit!0
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