Work birthday - I'm a jerk for not eating pizza and cake
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On a positive note, life is pretty good if these are the problems.
Life is too short; eat what you want and partake in the conversations you wish.
"NO, is a complete sentence" I will be using that
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OH MAN. I'm so in love with all of you right now. My particular favorites have been "accidentally" flipping the table and throwing a pizza slice against the wall and backing out with a crazed look!
No one said anything later which was good. I would have avoided the breakroom altogether but they had rounded us up to sing happy birthday (because apparently we are five).
My artichoke/tomato/pepper flatbread I brought WAS better than crappy cheeseless pizza - weird right?
I eat cake from time to time but I'm not really a sweets person. Also, icing/frosting is usually all dairy.
I got fat on bread and pasta, not cake and cookies!
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Didn't read the responses thus far but, if your coworkers are being THAT difficult...next time tell them you have Crohn's or Irritable Bowel Disease and fatty foods will make you have projectile diarrhea all over the shared work bathroom.
That should give them a mental picture that should shut them up for a while..... 0 -
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OH MAN. I'm so in love with all of you right now. My particular favorites have been "accidentally" flipping the table and throwing a pizza slice against the wall and backing out with a crazed look!
No one said anything later which was good. I would have avoided the breakroom altogether but they had rounded us up to sing happy birthday (because apparently we are five).
My artichoke/tomato/pepper flatbread I brought WAS better than crappy cheeseless pizza - weird right?
I eat cake from time to time but I'm not really a sweets person. Also, icing/frosting is usually all dairy.
I got fat on bread and pasta, not cake and cookies!
well that was mean and rude (in bold).
brb, gotta go start a thread about mean and rude people...0 -
Boy, that escalated quickly
I get the impression there are a lot of unemployable people hanging out here.0 -
You explained yourself to them, thus taking a submissive position and saying that it's everyone's place to discuss your eating habits. So they did.Perhaps you're being too sensitive. It was kind of the co-worker who said he would have purchased something dairy-free for you. And, it's doubtful people saw you as a jerk for eating healthy. It might have simply been a compliment.
It wasn't a compliment. I am too sensitive but it's also because I'm a very private person. I don't like discussing dieting in front of a room full of people. What happened in the room was rude and made me feel bad and I don't know why people think that its okay to discuss other people's private business.0 -
You explained yourself to them, thus taking a submissive position and saying that it's everyone's place to discuss your eating habits. So they did.Perhaps you're being too sensitive. It was kind of the co-worker who said he would have purchased something dairy-free for you. And, it's doubtful people saw you as a jerk for eating healthy. It might have simply been a compliment.
It wasn't a compliment. I am too sensitive but it's also because I'm a very private person. I don't like discussing dieting in front of a room full of people. What happened in the room was rude and made me feel bad and I don't know why people think that its okay to discuss other people's private business.
Sometimes it's difficult to know how to deal with rude, manipulative people. They tend to phrase things in such a way that seems to leave you with the choice of giving them the personal info they're looking for, or coming off rude. They prey on people who don't like to be rude or be the center of attention. It's how they get their kicks. I don't know for certain that this is the type of person the OP is dealing with, but it sounds like it to me.0 -
I don't get this at all. Our office has someone who only eats kosher, someone else who's vegan, and someone who's Muslim (eg no pork).
More often if the person ordering didnt get something they could eat, the person felt bad. They actually went out of their way to get them a special meal.
I wonder if they were feeling bad about not having something you can eat.0 -
Boy, that escalated quickly
I get the impression there are a lot of unemployable people hanging out here.
Don't let on...0 -
Hilarious thread!
Sadly I know the OP's position all too well. I do actually have IBD so if I eat the wrong thing it's anything from 1-3 days of severe digestive side effects! Dairy and fats (even the 'good' ones) are the worst for setting me off and I've been in that situation where I've had to justify to a room full of colleagues why I can't eat the cake/pizza/oily take out. I'm a very private person too, I don't like to feel like I'm in the situation where I have to justify myself, and I'm not the type to want to give people a blow by blow account of my medical history. However in the end I had to just suck it up and explain in detail, it made things much easier once people realised I *actually* had a good reason for not eating it.0 -
I sometimes find that being ultra private about something means people get nosey, and they think you're trying to be secretive so they keep asking questions. Maybe if people get really pushy you could explain it a bit, then perhaps they will stop pushing?0
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My work birthday party for me is next Wednesday. My boss says he is buying me pizza and we always have cake and ice cream. Last year I puked after eating (not on purpose) because I was not used to eating crappy food. This year I am not sure I want to even eat it if its going to make me sick.0
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My work birthday party for me is next Wednesday. My boss says he is buying me pizza and we always have cake and ice cream. Last year I puked after eating (not on purpose) because I was not used to eating crappy food. This year I am not sure I want to even eat it if its going to make me sick.
Talk about "re-gifting"!
I'm really fortunate. Where I work, dietary stuff is not an issue. If someone doesn't want to eat something, no one makes an issue about it.
Holiday celebrations are pot-luck style, so there's something for everyone.
I wish it could be that way for everyone.
Good luck, everyone.0 -
People feel guilty for their poor eating habits, and the presence of someone who eats healthy makes them uncomfortable. I see this a lot, ESPECIALLY on this site. It's their problem, not yours.
Trust me, I DON'T feel guilty for not eating vegan....0 -
Makes me glad i work at home! The only food offered here is in my garden.0
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I'm lucky the people in my office admire what I have done. I bring my lunch and go outside to eat it. They never tease me or try to get me to join in. I give them more grief about the way they are eating. LOL0
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Boy, that escalated quickly
I get the impression there are a lot of unemployable people hanging out here.
Thirty seconds to type one-liners means we're all on welfare! You caught us!
Please send us cake and/or pizza, OP. We need jobs!0 -
Just tell them you don't eat that crap because you don't want to be fat like them.
This.0 -
You have to take care of #1. Plain & simple.0
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I am currently staring at turkeys made out of hershey bars, marshmallows and fudge stripe cookies in my office.....I dont even want one (too full from my oatmeal) and no one has offered. They are here but luckily for me it is no big deal. People here are pretty easy going about food. Many people are watching what they eat. 0
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If you can't eat dairy, it's not really a matter of choice. One good overshare about that would shut them up: "if I ate the cheese and ice cream my butt would violently paint the bathroom brown. So no thank you."0
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Just tell them you don't eat that crap because you don't want to be fat like them.
This.
do this and get ready for being put on the fast track for promotion. :drinker:0 -
Perhaps you're being too sensitive. It was kind of the co-worker who said he would have purchased something dairy-free for you. And, it's doubtful people saw you as a jerk for eating healthy. It might have simply been a compliment.
I've had people call me a jerk for eating healthy...it does happen0 -
It is our culture to celebrate with food. Think about it - every holiday, every special occasion, every memorable event - the first thing we plan is the menu. The wedding cake...the cookout...the holiday meal...the birthday cake. If they look at you funny, its because you are bucking tradition, stepping outside of the comfort zone, making it ok to say no, making them think perhaps they should have been strong enough to do that to.
You are not a jerk, so ignore it and walk away. Do what you have to do and don't worry about it. Don't take things so personally. Get over yourself.
It sounds to me as though the person it bothers the most is YOU. Everyone else has already forgotten. I guarantee that they won't remember it again...until next time.0 -
I'm sorry you have rude coworkers. My husband faces the same thing at work sometimes (he has a dairy allergy and a gluten intolerance)....he often can't eat ANY of the food others bring in, so he makes a brief appearance at parties/events but then leaves. Others also think he's weird for eating chicken and veggies for lunch every day...but my husband is an athlete and has always eaten like that - he is very aware of nutrition and eating healthy. Then again, the guy sitting next to my husband apparently eats a Milky Way and a large Mt. Dew for lunch....everyday. So my husband isn't surrounded by anyone else who eats well at work and he ends up looking more 'out of the ordinary' there.
Don't let your coworkers get to you - you are doing what is good for you and healthy for you. That's the most important thing.0 -
What kind of cake was it?
Five pages in, and still no answer from OP. Inquiring minds want to know...0 -
It is our culture to celebrate with food. Think about it - every holiday, every special occasion, every memorable event - the first thing we plan is the menu. The wedding cake...the cookout...the holiday meal...the birthday cake. If they look at you funny, its because you are bucking tradition, stepping outside of the comfort zone, making it ok to say no, making them think perhaps they should have been strong enough to do that to.
You are not a jerk, so ignore it and walk away. Do what you have to do and don't worry about it. Don't take things so personally. Get over yourself.
It sounds to me as though the person it bothers the most is YOU. Everyone else has already forgotten. I guarantee that they won't remember it again...until next time.
I disagree. They are not looking at her funny because they feel bad about what they are eating. I've seen that statement a bunch of times in this thread and judging people for their food choices is just wrong, whether they are eating healthy or not. They are looking at her funny because she is breaking the social contract by not participating, and in essence feel like she is rejecting them. It's not like holidays, birthdays, and celebrations come of out nowhere and you're completely blindsided. If eating healthy is important to you, bring something healthy to contribute to the celebration for everyone to share. That way people feel like you are actually participating in the group and not just showing up out of obligation. It's really not difficult.0 -
Not my birthday, my boss's.
Why can't "no thank you" be enough? Twelve people in the room want to stand and discuss why the girl who brings healthy lunch every day doesn't want pizza and ice cream. It's embarrassing.
I've clearly lost a lot of weight over the last four months. About 20 lbs. Many people have commented. Why is it so crazy that I don't want pizza?
I get this all the time as well. They make fun of me and say I'm "skinny enough" and wrinkle their noses at the food I bring to eat. These are the same people who complain about their weight while munching on fast food daily. I've come to the conclusion that they're jealous because I have made healthy changes and feel fantastic while they're stuck in their same depressing rut. They poke fun at me because it makes them feel better about their choices. Keep up the good work....and to heck with them! 0 -
It is our culture to celebrate with food. Think about it - every holiday, every special occasion, every memorable event - the first thing we plan is the menu. The wedding cake...the cookout...the holiday meal...the birthday cake. If they look at you funny, its because you are bucking tradition, stepping outside of the comfort zone, making it ok to say no, making them think perhaps they should have been strong enough to do that to.
You are not a jerk, so ignore it and walk away. Do what you have to do and don't worry about it. Don't take things so personally. Get over yourself.
It sounds to me as though the person it bothers the most is YOU. Everyone else has already forgotten. I guarantee that they won't remember it again...until next time.
I disagree. They are not looking at her funny because they feel bad about what they are eating. I've seen that statement a bunch of times in this thread and judging people for their food choices is just wrong, whether they are eating healthy or not. They are looking at her funny because she is breaking the social contract by not participating, and in essence feel like she is rejecting them. It's not like holidays, birthdays, and celebrations come of out nowhere and you're completely blindsided. If eating healthy is important to you, bring something healthy to contribute to the celebration for everyone to share. That way people feel like you are actually participating in the group and not just showing up out of obligation. It's really not difficult.
^ the elephant in the middle of the thread.
i don't understand why people feel the need to make a scene about not eating cake or pizza or whatever at work. just take a bite. show your appreciation. stop being a martyr. it's not hard to figure out... one bite never hurt anybody. unless you are risking going into anaphalactic shock (such as with a severe peanut allergy), it's only one bite to show your appreciation and participation.0
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