Not bothering to date.. Its all frankly worrying..

skullshank

I've been single for nearly 3yrs... My last dates have included; someone not calling me back for a month - when they did they told me they'd been clinically sectioned, & wanted to join the French Foreign Legion. A bloke who informed me his ex was blonde, so he was worried my "growler" may terrify him (we'll never know?), & a bus driver who related a highly unamusing story involving him having a dump behind an unmarked police car... What can I say? I frankly like being single. I can see the benefit.. What was the worst date you had recently?

those all sound like really interesting guys!

i think you're being too picky.

bmqbonnie

My ex fiance dumped me, I was bored, and I headed to online dating.

Guy #1 wasn't too bad, but he lived with mom and didn't like dogs. That was from match. There wasn't much else on there in my small area, so onto okcupid.

Guy #2 was an HOUR late to our first date. I don't know why I didn't leave. I don't know why I went out with him again. And again. I refer to him as "wolf shirt guy" because he was wearing a shirt with a wolf on it. I thought he was doing it ironically (if you don't know what I mean, look up amazon wolf shirt review) so I laughed at it, but he was confused and genuinely thought it was a good look. Meanwhile he was late to every other date too. I just stopped answering the phone with that one.

Guy #3 I feel madly in love with right off the bat and I am marrying in June

smc864

I've been single for the last 2 years and I don't see that changing anytime soon. The last date I went on was from Match.com a few months ago and it was literally a date from hell. He got drunk, started hitting on the waitress, acted like a belligerent jacka$$, and when I asked him to take me back to my car he drove like a maniac and I thought I was going to die. The whole way I drove home he sent me text messages that alternated between what a b**** I was and "But seriously, why did you want to leave?"

Needless to say I went straight home and deleted my Match account. Although I have been approached a lot recently and asked out I have respectfully declined all offers. I'm just not into it.

DMZ_1

I just want to know where to meet quality guys when you're living somewhere suburban, hit the gym at "mom" time, not interested in the bar scene, and would love someone gainfully employed, in my age range, fitness-minded, straight, unmarried, and preferably with kids. Muscles and tattoos preferred.

I've tired a few online sites with no luck. All my friends are married. Sigh.

Hit the gym at non mom time. Good call skipping online. Suburbs are hell for meeting people.

rml_16

I've been single for the last 2 years and I don't see that changing anytime soon. The last date I went on was from Match.com a few months ago and it was literally a date from hell. He got drunk, started hitting on the waitress, acted like a belligerent jacka$$, and when I asked him to take me back to my car he drove like a maniac and I thought I was going to die. The whole way I drove home he sent me text messages that alternated between what a b**** I was and "But seriously, why did you want to leave?"

Needless to say I went straight home and deleted my Match account. Although I have been approached a lot recently and asked out I have respectfully declined all offers. I'm just not into it.

He was drunk and you not only willingly got in the car with him, but asked him to drive?

You have no friends or taxis in town?

ryry_

Wow...This thread has taught me that back when I was dating I did not need to try nearly as hard as I did.

Razz_Baby

Whew! I'm not alone!!

I have been single for four years. There was a guy I was seeing for awhile but he certainly wasn't bf material. Between being a single mom, my 3 hour commute, and my super demanding job I just didn't see dating in my cards. Now my daughter lives with her dad, my commute is 30 mins round trip, and we are in the slow season at work so I have LOTS of free time!!

I haven't been on too many horrible dates. Not that I can remember, anyway. But there were a few guys I dated that I really was digging. I thought they were digging me, too. Then *poof* they disappear. I don't tend to chase people down so I don't know what happened.

Oh well....

fbmandy55

Lol, it does sound worrying!

I've been with my husband for 10.5 years now. I never had any particularly bad dates before meeting him, although I did meet a guy in a club who told me he was 22 (I was 24) then I went on a date with him and it turned out he was 18 and still at school lol. And one of my flatmates at the time declared his undying love for me. Awkward!

This happened to a friend of mine! One of the guys who worked for her lawn service asked her out, they hooked up a few times and one night she invited him to a bar with us and he stood outside the whole time. Turns out he lied about his age and was actually 17! :noway:

smc864

I've been single for the last 2 years and I don't see that changing anytime soon. The last date I went on was from Match.com a few months ago and it was literally a date from hell. He got drunk, started hitting on the waitress, acted like a belligerent jacka$$, and when I asked him to take me back to my car he drove like a maniac and I thought I was going to die. The whole way I drove home he sent me text messages that alternated between what a b**** I was and "But seriously, why did you want to leave?"

Needless to say I went straight home and deleted my Match account. Although I have been approached a lot recently and asked out I have respectfully declined all offers. I'm just not into it.

He was drunk and you not only willingly got in the car with him, but asked him to drive?

You have no friends or taxis in town?

Way to judge. Actually no I didn't have any friends in town. I was new to the area and I didn't have cash for a cab.

I'm going to tell some guy I just met that I'm driving his car? He was the idiot in the situation and you're judging me... Cool!

summertime_girl

I just want to know where to meet quality guys when you're living somewhere suburban, hit the gym at "mom" time, not interested in the bar scene, and would love someone gainfully employed, in my age range, fitness-minded, straight, unmarried, and preferably with kids. Muscles and tattoos preferred.

I've tired a few online sites with no luck. All my friends are married. Sigh.

Hit the gym at non mom time. Good call skipping online. Suburbs are hell for meeting people.

With work and my daughter, the only time I can get there is right when I drop her off for school. I tried online. The guys from Match were too old, the guys from POF only interested in sex, and the guys from OKCupid just never quite did it for me visually. Broad generalizations, but my overall experience. Killed all the profiles for now.

summertime_girl

I've been single for the last 2 years and I don't see that changing anytime soon. The last date I went on was from Match.com a few months ago and it was literally a date from hell. He got drunk, started hitting on the waitress, acted like a belligerent jacka$$, and when I asked him to take me back to my car he drove like a maniac and I thought I was going to die. The whole way I drove home he sent me text messages that alternated between what a b**** I was and "But seriously, why did you want to leave?"

Needless to say I went straight home and deleted my Match account. Although I have been approached a lot recently and asked out I have respectfully declined all offers. I'm just not into it.

He was drunk and you not only willingly got in the car with him, but asked him to drive?

You have no friends or taxis in town?

Way to judge. Actually no I didn't have any friends in town. I was new to the area and I didn't have cash for a cab.

I'm going to tell some guy I just met that I'm driving his car? He was the idiot in the situation and you're judging me... Cool!

Actually, if you just met him, and he was drunk, you truly risked your life.

hbrittingham

Man, I have been out of the dating scene for 23 years, thankfully! Reading some of these posts makes me very glad that 23+ years ago dating was pretty much uncomplicated.

If a guy liked you, he asked you out and you had a pretty good idea by the end of the date whether there was a chance for it to develop into a relationship or not.

There were no smart phones, so there were no weenie shots being texted. Overall, guys tended to keep it in their pants for a couple of dates, at least. The biggest worry on a first date was whether or not you were going to kiss goodnight!

rml_16

I've been single for the last 2 years and I don't see that changing anytime soon. The last date I went on was from Match.com a few months ago and it was literally a date from hell. He got drunk, started hitting on the waitress, acted like a belligerent jacka$$, and when I asked him to take me back to my car he drove like a maniac and I thought I was going to die. The whole way I drove home he sent me text messages that alternated between what a b**** I was and "But seriously, why did you want to leave?"

Needless to say I went straight home and deleted my Match account. Although I have been approached a lot recently and asked out I have respectfully declined all offers. I'm just not into it.

He was drunk and you not only willingly got in the car with him, but asked him to drive?

You have no friends or taxis in town?

Way to judge. Actually no I didn't have any friends in town. I was new to the area and I didn't have cash for a cab.

I'm going to tell some guy I just met that I'm driving his car? He was the idiot in the situation and you're judging me... Cool!

But you got in the car with him ...

DMZ_1

I just want to know where to meet quality guys when you're living somewhere suburban, hit the gym at "mom" time, not interested in the bar scene, and would love someone gainfully employed, in my age range, fitness-minded, straight, unmarried, and preferably with kids. Muscles and tattoos preferred.

I've tired a few online sites with no luck. All my friends are married. Sigh.

Hit the gym at non mom time. Good call skipping online. Suburbs are hell for meeting people.

With work and my daughter, the only time I can get there is right when I drop her off for school. I tried online. The guys from Match were too old, the guys from POF only interested in sex, and the guys from OKCupid just never quite did it for me visually. Broad generalizations, but my overall experience. Killed all the profiles for now.

I know this particular answer isn't going to illustrate my point, but I saw elsewhere you listed some additional qualifications. Many women are far fussier than their market value to men is. A woman in her early to mid 20s, who is at least an objective 7, with no kids can be fussier. I think being more open minded could help. Also, a lot of men don't like the idea of raising another man's baby, so single moms aren't particularly in demand.

I think you'll find someone. The market favors women.

rml_16

I just want to know where to meet quality guys when you're living somewhere suburban, hit the gym at "mom" time, not interested in the bar scene, and would love someone gainfully employed, in my age range, fitness-minded, straight, unmarried, and preferably with kids. Muscles and tattoos preferred.

I've tired a few online sites with no luck. All my friends are married. Sigh.

Hit the gym at non mom time. Good call skipping online. Suburbs are hell for meeting people.

With work and my daughter, the only time I can get there is right when I drop her off for school. I tried online. The guys from Match were too old, the guys from POF only interested in sex, and the guys from OKCupid just never quite did it for me visually. Broad generalizations, but my overall experience. Killed all the profiles for now.

Do you have Parents Without Partners in your area?

ryry_

I just want to know where to meet quality guys when you're living somewhere suburban, hit the gym at "mom" time, not interested in the bar scene, and would love someone gainfully employed, in my age range, fitness-minded, straight, unmarried, and preferably with kids. Muscles and tattoos preferred.

I've tired a few online sites with no luck. All my friends are married. Sigh.

Hit the gym at non mom time. Good call skipping online. Suburbs are hell for meeting people.

With work and my daughter, the only time I can get there is right when I drop her off for school. I tried online. The guys from Match were too old, the guys from POF only interested in sex, and the guys from OKCupid just never quite did it for me visually. Broad generalizations, but my overall experience. Killed all the profiles for now.

I know this particular answer isn't going to illustrate my point, but I saw elsewhere you listed some additional qualifications. Many women are far fussier than their market value to men is. A woman in her early to mid 20s, who is at least an objective 7, with no kids can be fussier. I think being more open minded could help. Also, a lot of men don't like the idea of raising another man's baby, so single moms aren't particular in demand.

I think you'll find someone. The market favors women.

Did I just turn on MSNBC?

Edwin_S

People don't know HOW to date anymore, and this is honestly the main reason I prefer to date men who are about 10 years older. Men that age typically remember when dating involved asking a woman out, picking her up, doing something fun, getting to know each other a little better, and taking her home, without any expectation of ending up in her bed before the night is over. Guys my age think dating is texting a woman you met online last week to say you're at a bar with friends and asking if she wants to come hang out, which invariably means "want to come get drunk and then sleep with me?"

^^^^^^I was beginning to think people had forgotten how to date, since apparently dating has changed ALOT in the last 5 years with social media and the like. Unfortunately nowadays being a gentleman on a date will get you looked at sideways. LOL

summertime_girl

I know this particular answer isn't going to illustrate my point, but I saw elsewhere you listed some additional qualifications. Many women are far fussier than their market value to men is. A woman in her early to mid 20s, who is at least an objective 7, with no kids can be fussier. I think being more open minded could help. Also, a lot of men don't like the idea of raising another man's baby, so single moms aren't particular in demand.

I think you'll find someone. The market favors women.

Lol, so I'm too old, not even a 7, and now I have a baby? Ok

kellenas

I just want to know where to meet quality guys when you're living somewhere suburban, hit the gym at "mom" time, not interested in the bar scene, and would love someone gainfully employed, in my age range, fitness-minded, straight, unmarried, and preferably with kids. Muscles and tattoos preferred.

I've tired a few online sites with no luck. All my friends are married. Sigh.

My fiance is all of that (except maybe not in your age range--he's 41). Unfortunately, he also comes with a crazy ex-wife. Seriously. I love him, though, and put up with her for him and the boys

35-45, and I'll even put up with an ex-wife! But I'm picky, so that's eliminated a lot. At this point in my life, I don't want a fling, and I don't want to settle.

Well, good luck to you. I actually met him online. We've been together for almost three years now. I agree, though, to all the crazies online. I certainly went out with my fair share before I met my fiance.

ryry_

I know this particular answer isn't going to illustrate my point, but I saw elsewhere you listed some additional qualifications. Many women are far fussier than their market value to men is. A woman in her early to mid 20s, who is at least an objective 7, with no kids can be fussier. I think being more open minded could help. Also, a lot of men don't like the idea of raising another man's baby, so single moms aren't particular in demand.

I think you'll find someone. The market favors women.

Lol, so I'm too old, not even a 7, and now I have a baby? Ok

My out of the box idea would be, go to your gym. Sell them on the idea of a singles meet and greet in your gym. Convince them it could bring in new business as well as gain loyalty with their existing subscriber base. Flyers could be put up in advance. The event could probably take place in the class studio. People could invite people. And you would have an atomsphere of fitness minded individuals where you can filter through the crazy that apparently doesn't come across online prior to committing to a date.

ironanimal

I've been single for the last 2 years and I don't see that changing anytime soon. The last date I went on was from Match.com a few months ago and it was literally a date from hell. He got drunk, started hitting on the waitress, acted like a belligerent jacka$$, and when I asked him to take me back to my car he drove like a maniac and I thought I was going to die. The whole way I drove home he sent me text messages that alternated between what a b**** I was and "But seriously, why did you want to leave?"

Needless to say I went straight home and deleted my Match account. Although I have been approached a lot recently and asked out I have respectfully declined all offers. I'm just not into it.

He was drunk and you not only willingly got in the car with him, but asked him to drive?

You have no friends or taxis in town?

Way to judge. Actually no I didn't have any friends in town. I was new to the area and I didn't have cash for a cab.

I'm going to tell some guy I just met that I'm driving his car? He was the idiot in the situation and you're judging me... Cool!

Pretty sure getting in a car with a beligerent drunk behind the wheel makes you an idiot.

Ed98043

I'm amazed at how many women go on first (or the first few) dates without having their car nearby or some other means of getting themselves home. Hopefully lesson learned.

I haven't been in a serious relationship in 4 years and didn't date for two years until this summer when I put an ad on POF and went out with a guy five times. The first three dates were good - he was all charm and compliments, "When can I see you again?", etc..but never made a move, just a quick hug and peck type of thing. Then on dates four and five I felt like I was with a family member or something - no sexual energy at all. Okay, he's not into me, I get it...so why keep asking me out? When he texted for date six I emailed him asking for clarification - does he just wanted to be friends or what? It took him almost a week to answer (this after daily texts and emails) and all he said was that he was sorry for being "so indifferent" but that he doesn't "work well in relationships". A cagey answer to a direct question, so I stopped answering his calls after that.

Anyhoo - I'm back to not even trying. I just wish there was a viable option other than:

A. Serious relationship (the pickings are slim at my age and, let's face it - at my size).
B. Hooking up with a random (easy to find, but dangerous, disease-riddled and skeezy).
C. Celibacy.

When I was younger I had a FWB for like, 8 years. He was smokin' hot, not demanding of my time or emotions, and always happy to share his goodies when I was between relationships and then obligingly backed off when I found someone I was serious about. My attempts to find something similar in my 40's has been fraught with disappointment - I don't even bother anymore. So Option C it is.

Cameron_1969

Dating sucks. I'm over it. There just doesn't' seem to be much hope of finding that perfect fit. I have a kid to raise and a household to maintain. I'm focused on parenting and work for now. maybe I'll work up the energy to date later.

It's funny. whenever I see these horror stories from women about bad dates I think to myself "I'd NEVER do that!" and whenever a woman puts what she wants in a man I think to myself "THAT's ME!". .lol. . But I'm not sure it's true because if it were, I'd have them lining up at my door.

The worst part is the buildup where you get along really well via phone and text. Then comes the date where she reveals that the picture was from a holiday vacation 10 years ago and then proceeds to talk nonstop for two hours without ever asking you a single question. This is followed by the disappointment of another fail and then it's up to YOU to do the dumping! .

It just simply isn't worth the effort anymore!

rml_16

But I'm not sure it's true because if it were, I'd have them lining up at my door.

The right women have to know where to find you.

gkwatra

My ex fiance dumped me, I was bored, and I headed to online dating.

Guy #1 wasn't too bad, but he lived with mom and didn't like dogs. That was from match. There wasn't much else on there in my small area, so onto okcupid.

Guy #2 was an HOUR late to our first date. I don't know why I didn't leave. I don't know why I went out with him again. And again. I refer to him as "wolf shirt guy" because he was wearing a shirt with a wolf on it. I thought he was doing it ironically (if you don't know what I mean, look up amazon wolf shirt review) so I laughed at it, but he was confused and genuinely thought it was a good look. Meanwhile he was late to every other date too. I just stopped answering the phone with that one.

Guy #3 I feel madly in love with right off the bat and I am marrying in June

LOL at Guy #2 - Why does Zack Galifanackis come to my mind??

Edited cuz I can't type today ..

BigSnicka

WOW @ this......lol

CompressedCarbon

I think I shared this already but guy sniffed my hair like Hannibal Lector and said "You smell good...you smell REAL good"...
couldn't get away fast enough.

Funny and sick, all at the same time.

scot30316

I haven't had a date in 5 years, married now and met her on okcupid. But I think I might have been someone's worst date once but we still dated for 2 years and I was planning on asking her to marry me but that same morning she told me she was cheating on me

So our first date and I get to the bar early to get a good table in a quiet spot. It was a Saturday around 4 date so we could have a drink or two and if we hit it off great we could do dinner or whatever, if not we still had our evening free. So 4 rolls around no sign of her, no text call nada. 4:30 and still nothing so instead of sitting at the table looking like I got stood-up I moved to the bar and decided to just start drinking. 4 Makers Marks later and I have a real good buzz, chatting with the bar neighbors/bartenders, and it is around 6PM. Then she walks in.

So I just decided to roll with it and also make up a story about being a recovering heroin addict. So I spend the next 2 hours just getting hammered, talking about heroin and how my dealer was never late and why was she? No idea why she stuck around. But she did, walked her to her car, drunkenly tried to make out with her. She pushed me away, told me to call a cab and left.

Then called asking me out again the next day. That should have been the clue she was nuts if she was coming back for more.

Cameron_1969

So there we were, hitting it off splendidly in an outdoor restaurant with live music on a cool pleasant evening. . She's sitting on my lap and it's just a really awesome date in the making. . when suddenly she turns to me and tells me I'm an idiot for believing in God and that If I just tell her that there is no God she'll go home with me then and there. . .

WTF!?

scot30316

So there we were, hitting it off splendidly in an outdoor restaurant with live music on a cool pleasant evening. . She's sitting on my lap and it's just a really awesome date in the making. . when suddenly she turns to me and tells me I'm an idiot for believing in God and that If I just tell her that there is no God she'll go home with me then and there. . .

WTF!?

So what did her apartment look like?