Harming children to make yourself feel good?
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Have some marzipan babies
Wow! Who could actually bring themselves to eat those?!?!?
They are too adorable though!
Actually, I think those are fake but I love Marzipan..jpg)
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Someone needs to make a compelling argument for kids = dogs quick or else this thread is going to get shut down extra quick for the hijack. So, here it goes:
Some people don't have kids. Some of those people who don't have kids have dogs. Some of those people consider those dogs to be their kids. Ergo, for some people kids = dogs. There!
Would it be safe to say that children, for the most part, are trainable just like dogs? Because I can fully attest to the fact that they're really not all that different in the beginning.0 -
That sixth cookie is vital. If a child eats six cookies in one day, ESPECIALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS, it can be deadly.
Educate yourselves!
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Your child will only be harmed if he has an allergy. And then it's your duty to tell everyone not to feed him anything. Who cares if he eats a bit too many cookies during the Holidays, seriously?0 -
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Well there goes one of the fun parts about being a kid.0
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My great-grandmother's cousin was a serious feeder. When I was maybe 4 or 5, we were at her house and she forced so many cookies on me I didn't want to eat another one for like a year. So in a way, it can work in your favor if people give your kids too many sweets.That sixth cookie is vital. If a child eats six cookies in one day, ESPECIALLY DURING THE HOLIDAYS, it can be deadly.
Educate yourselves!
This.
Your child will only be harmed if he has an allergy. And then it's your duty to tell everyone not to feed him anything. Who cares if he eats a bit too many cookies during the Holidays, seriously?0 -
Unless your kids are with these people for extended periods of time, I think you're being a bit melodramatic...a few extra cookies or a candy bar from grandma isn’t going to cause long-term damage.
As an Aunt, my philosophy was always "the parents are responsible for handling the things they NEED and day-to-day issues, and in the limited amount of time I get to see them, I'll handle the fun things they want (within reason)". :ohwell:0 -
these ARE evil!!!!!! (but mostly because I can't eat any less than the entire box.)Evil evil lebkuchen
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This is not a food issue. You should never undermine a parents rules unless it is illegal or harming the child.0
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Grandparents and aunties especially, and friends and relatives everywhere - please, please, please, please, please ask parents first BEFORE offering children sweets and treats!!!!! And NEVER sneak them treats when parents say no.
Of course you're not harming them on purpose, but a diet with too many cookies, cakes, candy and sweets is never good for anyone, especially children, especially when they are busy - and there are a lot of "special visits" during the holidays, so your offer might be a child's sixth cookie for the day.
Kids don't yet have the ability to make considered choices about their nutrition; their parents do. If you're going around Mom and Dad to feed them high calorie, nutritionally void food - you're getting your own, warm, fuzzy, heart warming smile, "thank you," and, "I love you," AT THEIR EXPENSE - in straight, harsh terms: YOU ARE HARMING THEM TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. STOP.
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Have some marzipan babies
Wow! Who could actually bring themselves to eat those?!?!?
They are too adorable though!
adorable?! creepy as ****!!!!0 -
The only thing I have a problem with is foods w/dye in them. My son is super sensitive to dyes in foods. They make him bounce of the walls totally uncontrollable HYPER!!! You give him dye, he goes home with you!!! It takes about 3 days for it to get out of his system. No dye its ok to give him sweets, but in moderation please.0
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I don't like marzipan and I don't like babies. Now I like them both even less. :laugh:Have some marzipan babies
Where can I get some of these?! I hate marzipan but I'd change my mind for these little things.0 -
Agreed, but apparently you are supposed to be a mind-reader or something...This is not a food issue. You should never undermine a parents rules unless it is illegal or harming the child.0 -
It's not so bad if the child actually ate something of nutrition first, but I've seen it where the kid didn't even eat their meat and potatoes first and then all they ate was the sweets. My kids have gotten belly aches, and my daughter has thrown up before from eating too much sweets. I don't think it's very funny, either.0
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Have some marzipan babies
Wow! Who could actually bring themselves to eat those?!?!?
They are too adorable though!
adorable?! creepy as ****!!!!
Yeah I'm going with creepy as well. Very.0 -
No, but it's a good lesson.It's not so bad if the child actually ate something of nutrition first, but I've seen it where the kid didn't even eat their meat and potatoes first and then all they ate was the sweets. My kids have gotten belly aches, and my daughter has thrown up before from eating too much sweets. I don't think it's very funny, either.0 -
Kids can make healthy choices if it becomes their preference. Since mine were little their favorites were the cocktail shrimp and veggies and dip. They could have anything they want at a holiday event and normally they made good choices on their own. Except for allergies I do not think family members are harming them with cookies. I believe that if a child (like an adult) is denied certain foods that makes the foods more appealing and more likely to be overeaten.
As for dogs, you feed him something I didn't approve of and his stomach gets upset...you are cleaning it up and possibly paying my vet bill. My dog does get people food but only with his normal meal and its only meat and veggies. Lucky for me with his size (200lb Mastiff) most standard dog sensitivities do not effect him.0 -
Grandparents and aunties especially, and friends and relatives everywhere - please, please, please, please, please ask parents first BEFORE offering children sweets and treats!!!!! And NEVER sneak them treats when parents say no.
Of course you're not harming them on purpose, but a diet with too many cookies, cakes, candy and sweets is never good for anyone, especially children, especially when they are busy - and there are a lot of "special visits" during the holidays, so your offer might be a child's sixth cookie for the day.
Kids don't yet have the ability to make considered choices about their nutrition; their parents do. If you're going around Mom and Dad to feed them high calorie, nutritionally void food - you're getting your own, warm, fuzzy, heart warming smile, "thank you," and, "I love you," AT THEIR EXPENSE - in straight, harsh terms: YOU ARE HARMING THEM TO MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD. STOP.
I agree with this..but not because I think the treats are going to make the kids unhealthy for life. My son starts to get sugared up at some point. He does not typically eat a lot of sweets and once he crosses the line of sugared up he starts acting goofy and then gets in trouble for being too wild. If I can make sure he gets treats but not too many FOR HIM then he can still enjoy the treats without having too much. No one is happy once the kids start getting in trouble. The stupid adults that think they are making his night better are now upset that he is running around. The stupid adults who think that they are letting him live a little by giving him another cookie without permission are then frustrated that I have to parent him and give him a time out. WELL morons try to abide by the rules of sweet treats need to be run past momma first. I am not denying him treats to be mean, I am allowing to a certain point then stopping when I see the signs that we have reached the point of too much.0 -
Make sure you don't confuse the lego shaped gummy candy with the real thing...
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Do I get frustrated at times by the amount of junk my kid eats at her grandparents house? Sure.
Do I mention in casual conversation her love of apples and yogurt? Yep. Do I bring bottled water and encourage her to drink it? Yes. Do I tell them how much she loves popcorn? Uh-huh.
Do I slam their food choices and make them feel bad for giving her something they see as a treat? No. Do I critique them and criticize their relationship with food and my child? Nope.
Have they changed the food that they feed her based on the hints and clues I give them? Yes. Does she still get a few treats? Yep.
Balance. You need to find it.
OP pay attention to this. This is a completely reasonable response to the concerns you're expressing.
Calling grandmas and aunties selfish for giving your child a cookie is not.
As a grandmother to 2 teenagers, I approve this message. I have them a few times a year. I don't mainline sugar into them, but they know when they are at my house, we have some treats and we eat their favorite dinners. Part of the human experience. LIghten up people.0 -
Would it be safe to say that children, for the most part, are trainable just like dogs? Because I can fully attest to the fact that they're really not all that different in the beginning.
My son did sh1t in the garden but he never licked his balls.0 -
Yes yes 100 times yes! CREEPY!!!!Have some marzipan babies
Wow! Who could actually bring themselves to eat those?!?!?
They are too adorable though!
adorable?! creepy as ****!!!!0 -
Strong title. Curious where this thread goes.
^^Agree.
I also agree friends, family, etc. should ask the parents before giving your kids candy, cookies, and cokes, though.0 -
If he could have reached them, though ...Would it be safe to say that children, for the most part, are trainable just like dogs? Because I can fully attest to the fact that they're really not all that different in the beginning.
My son did sh1t in the garden but he never licked his balls.0 -
If my children are getting hyper from getting too many sweets at my parents house, I stay there until the crash so they have to suffer through the sugar rush too. It's my way of saying if you don't want to deal with it, don't give it to them. :devil:0
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I have a dog (not exactly the same thing) but you would be amazed how many people think it's ok to give an animal people food. Anytime I go to a social gather I make it clear to everyone that it is not OK to feed my dog anything. I think it's a parent's responsibility (or pet owner) to have that talk with family/friends. Don't just assume that everyone should know.
This was my initial thought. I've gotten very mad at relatives that fed my dog table food during holiday dinners. It's extremely disrespectful to knowingly go against someone's wishes that were just told to you.0 -
Then why are we all here!? It's to lose weight because we indulged in too much sugar and fatty foods!
Speak for yourself. I didn't get fat until college, and my diet wasn't that terrible in terms of the quality of the food. I just ate too much in general. I eat cookies and cake and chocolate and ice cream all the time now, and I'm not fat. It's because I've learned how to fit such things into my diet.
I would never give my nieces or nephew something that their parents have specifically asked me not to give them. Otherwise, I'll give them what I want. I do know the difference between giving them one cookie vs. giving them an entire batch.0 -
I have a dog (not exactly the same thing) but you would be amazed how many people think it's ok to give an animal people food. Anytime I go to a social gather I make it clear to everyone that it is not OK to feed my dog anything. I think it's a parent's responsibility (or pet owner) to have that talk with family/friends. Don't just assume that everyone should know.
that's because it is okay to give an animal people food.
With the exception of like chicken bones and chocolate things- most of what we eat is fine for them.0 -
Then why are we all here!? It's to lose weight because we indulged in too much sugar and fatty foods!
Not everyone here is trying to lose weight-there's many of us who are maintaining successful weight losses. And I'm doing it brilliantly while eating sugary and 'fatty' foods- just staying within my maintenance calorie range now :drinker: Calories in. Calories out. Simple as that.0
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