"Please include a message with your friend request.."

Atarahh

It seems like this is something said because someone else said it on their profile. To be exclusive you must add this disclaimer to your profile. Miss me with that...
When did this become so important or the norm?
Just sounds like some MFPers are becoming friending snobs.
Some of them won't admit they are quick to accept a friend request on FB and 9x/10 there is no accompanying message.
Some people have gotten a little above themselves.

Or the other one that gets me is, "I'm not adding anymore new friends"

What the what?! It's not like there's a fire code for your friend's list...

Then another thing that gets me is that people go on to justify why they need a message LOL. As if the message makes the person no longer a stranger.

Insanity at its best....
That's team too much for me...

spade117

I'm fairly arrogant.

Escloflowne

I don't put the disclaimer and I automatically decline FR without a message...unless she is really hot

_crafty_

I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.

I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.

I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.

I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.

If I do accept someone on my list and then they don't interact with me I delete them.

I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?

ETA: I'm really just a b!tch. That's what it boils down to.

romanaXOX

The only reason I like to keep a smaller friend's list is just because my "news feed" tends to get cluttered with people that I'm less connected with thus making it so that it's harder for me to keep the support for the people that have made the effort to make that connection in advance.

KrazyDaizy

I don't have that disclaimer either, but typically do not accept without a message.

A ticket into my freak show, also called my MFP wall, requires some sort of admission and a message is always helpful. You know, so I can see if you will fit in with my freak show (meaning awesome and sexy) FL.

homerjspartan

I don't put the disclaimer and I automatically decline FR without a message...unless she is really hot

Tru dat.

Jersey_Devil

you have your own profile to put WHATEVER your little heart desires on it. Dont judge what others do to their walls. who cares?

randomtai

This gonna be gud...

1PatientBear

I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.

I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.

I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.

I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.

If someone does make it on my list and then doesn't interact with me I delete them.

I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?

This. ALL of this.

erickirb

Why do you have an issue with how someone chooses who and how they allow someone into their lives. Some people like to keep small lists so they have the time to talk and be supportive to their friends, having too many would make it difficult to keep that up.

PennyM140

I don't accept FR without messages because I don't want to be friends with someone that doesn't want to talk to me.
If you don't even have anything to say to me as far as why you'd like to be friends then why bother?

Mia_RagazzaTosta

I used to have this on my profile when it was public and I still got blank FR, which told me they didn't even bother reading it.

Having a complete stranger add you without a little note explaining where they saw you or how they found you is creepy to me. It has nothing to do with being a snob. I don't add just anyone; I like my friends to have similar views as me.

Unless you're hot. Then you get a pass.

summertime_girl

I have it on mine. And I frequently clean up my friend list if I don't interact with the person. I really do try to interact with everyone on my FL. Nothing about being a snob.

Achrya

I'm okay with being a snob.

I also decline copy-pasta/form letter FR too.

Don't like it, don't send me a FR (And I won't have to go through the effort to hit decline). Now we're both happy!

action_figure

Dude, who the heck accepts FB friend requests without knowing the person? Man, I'm pickier there than I am here.

DeltaZero

I'm with team "Don't have time for that"

Where that =

People who don't eat enough
People who cry on the forums
People who are too needy



And bacon haters.


Seriously. Who hates bacon?


Or ice cream.




I love denying friend requests that are blank.

arghbowl

... says the woman with 20 some odd friends.


Get rejected much?

action_figure

Bacon AND ice cream is apparently now a thing. With caramel.

BrainyBurro

my potential friends must pass a 4-hour written and verbal exam.

...and a background check.

...and a physical.

...and have a solid credit history.

...and put up some collateral.

i think these requirements are reasonable. :huh:

BamaBreezeNSaltAire

This gonna be gud...

Sits next to Random...

michelefrench

why does it matter to you how I pick and choose my friends?? not trying to sound snobby..just curious...

thesupremeforce

Trying to keep tabs on hundreds of people is beyond my abilities, so I understand why other people wouldn't want to make the effort either. I don't have any disclaimers in my profile, but IF I became so popular that it became an overcrowding issue, I'd probably add one.

Some sort of message does save me the time of checking the other person's profile before hitting accept, and those seconds do add up.

shutyourpieholeandsquat

I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.

I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.

I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.

I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.

If I do accept someone on my list and then they don't interact with me I delete them.

I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?

ETA: I'm really just a b!tch. That's what it boils down to.

_JPunky

Seriously, what the heck does it matter to you?

I love my friends on here and I want to make sure I can support them 100%. How are you supposed to do that with 500 friends.

Personally, I'd rather have a friend who has this disclaimer on their profile than someone who collects friends just to have them.

But I actually value personal relationships. Maybe that makes me a b!tch?

BamaBreezeNSaltAire

I'm with team "Don't have time for that"

Where that =

People who don't eat enough
People who cry on the forums
People who are too needy



And bacon haters.


Seriously. Who hates bacon?


Or ice cream.




I love denying friend requests that are blank.

Inorite?!?!?! Who seriously hates bacon and ice cream, or bacon with ice cream???? Losers.

da_bears10089

If you aren't creative enough to give me a reason why you want to be on my friend list, i don't think i would want you.

Atarahh

LOL I love it all!
I wanted to see the response.

GorillaNJ

It is why I always include a junk shot with FR... and expect nothing less in return

caramelgyrlk

I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.

I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.

I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.

I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.

If I do accept someone on my list and then they don't interact with me I delete them.

I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?

ETA: I'm really just a b!tch. That's what it boils down to.

I could not agree more.

skullshank

It seems like this is something said because someone else said it on their profile. To be exclusive you must add this disclaimer to your profile. Miss me with that...
When did this become so important or the norm?
Just sounds like some MFPers are becoming friending snobs.
Some of them won't admit they are quick to accept a friend request on FB and 9x/10 there is no accompanying message.
Some people have gotten a little above themselves.

Or the other one that gets me is, "I'm not adding anymore new friends"

What the what?! It's not like there's a fire code for your friend's list...

Then another thing that gets me is that people go on to justify why they need a message LOL. As if the message makes the person no longer a stranger.

Insanity at its best....
That's team too much for me...

and just for the record, im only accepting mutuals at this point in time.

good luck OP!