"Please include a message with your friend request.."
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i accept everyone I also dont cull my list. no note? who cares. they dont comment on my diary? who cares? They aren't on the same path as me? who cares? They eat meat? are religious? republican? lifters? who cares? I dont need tons of support and I offer what I can. I appreciate everyone for where they are and who they are.
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Dude, who the heck accepts FB friend requests without knowing the person? Man, I'm pickier there than I am here.
+1
Also, why would you add someone as a friend without even saying, "Hey! I've seen you around and I thought we'd make good friends because..." or, "Hi, I want to get to know people like you who..."
There are weirdos on MFP. Fortunately I've pretty much gotten to know them all through intro messages.0 -
i accept everyone I also dont cull my list. no note? who cares. they dont comment on my diary? who cares? They aren't on the same path as me? who cares? They eat meat? are religious? republican? lifters? who cares? I dont need tons of support and I offer what I can. I appreciate everyone for where they are and who they are.
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This:I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.
I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.
I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.
I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.
If I do accept someone on my list and then they don't interact with me I delete them.
I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?
ETA: I'm really just a b!tch. That's what it boils down to.
And this:I don't like to waste my time with people who don't even have the courtesy to introduce themselves.
So . . . no, you don't get to come to the party.
Also, how does it make us "above ourselves" when YOU are the one obviously looking down your nose at those of us with that message in our profiles? Judge much?0 -
It is why I always include a junk shot with FR... and expect nothing less in return
he aint lyin...0 -
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I personally don't enjoy accepting a bunch of people who never post with me and I end up deleting after they stop logging in for months.
That so wrong?0 -
*opens file cabinet and searches somewhere between I DON'T CARE and NONE YA BUSINESS*
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So, who declined you to inspire this butthurt rant?
What I'm left wondering is..."wouldn't it have been easier/faster/more direct to just write that damned FR message than to start this thread? "0 -
OP, you have (currently) 29 friends, and I'm fairly confident that not all 29 people post on your wall or even their wall on a regular basis. I'm not just talking about "So and So ate food and their calories were less than whatever" or "So and So walked an imaginary dog for bloated calories burned" type of posts, I'm talking about active, post everything from my kids won't go to sleep to I haven't pooped in days.
When you have 290 friends on your list, all posting really interesting, stupid, mind-numbing, boring, exciting, life altering things, you just can't keep up. You can't be interactive. You can't be supportive. Your super witty comment just gets lost in the sea of 1000 other super witty comments.
I currently have 100 friends. Probably 2/3 rds of them are active on their walls, on other peoples walls, and in the forums...that's a lot of information to follow.
Having "friends" just to have "friends" doesn't do much for me, personally. I want at least most of the people on my friends list to be active, funny, interesting and some-what able to handle my humor, sarcasm, cynicism, and out right awesomeness. Having a friend request with a message as to why you want to be my friend helps in weeding out those who will either complain about what I post, or immediately un-friend me.
Just because I made an awesomely helpful post one day and you happen to agree with what I wrote, doesn't mean that I want to be buddies and listen to you complain that they are on day 3 of a 7 lemonade cleanse. Some people are incompatible, and a message is just a way to help understand each other.0 -
I take all comers, message or not.
I have 1 simple rule: I delete those who have not logged in for 1 month. That's it.0 -
I can top this.
I have that message in my profile ... but my profile is PRIVATE so you can't see it. Therefore, if you don't have enough common sense or courtesy to let me know how you found me or why you want to be my friend, you're outta luck even withOUT the warning/disclaimer.
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From OP's profile,
Reward 130lbs lost- Colonic Hydrotherapy
Out for colon cleanse...0 -
I've found that 150 friends is all I can keep up with. I want to actually know the people on my list. It's important to me that I know something about each of them. I want to be able to give them advice when they need it. If someone posts that they ran 6 miles or lifted 95 lbs I want to know without being told whether that's a bad day or a PR for them.
I think most people add everyone at first. But eventually it gets to be too many people. You have 29 friends, so I can understand why it seems unnecessary to you.
Also I only have 89 people on my Facebook list. I'm much pickier there than I am here.0 -
OP, you have (currently) 29 friends, and I'm fairly confident that not all 29 people post on your wall or even their wall on a regular basis. I'm not just talking about "So and So ate food and their calories were less than whatever" or "So and So walked an imaginary dog for bloated calories burned" type of posts, I'm talking about active, post everything from my kids won't go to sleep to I haven't pooped in days.
When you have 290 friends on your list, all posting really interesting, stupid, mind-numbing, boring, exciting, life altering things, you just can't keep up. You can't be interactive. You can't be supportive. Your super witty comment just gets lost in the sea of 1000 other super witty comments.
I currently have 100 friends. Probably 2/3 rds of them are active on their walls, on other peoples walls, and in the forums...that's a lot of information to follow.
Having "friends" just to have "friends" doesn't do much for me, personally. I want at least most of the people on my friends list to be active, funny, interesting and some-what able to handle my humor, sarcasm, cynicism, and out right awesomeness. Having a friend request with a message as to why you want to be my friend helps in weeding out those who will either complain about what I post, or immediately un-friend me.
Just because I made an awesomely helpful post one day and you happen to agree with what I wrote, doesn't mean that I want to be buddies and listen to you complain that they are on day 3 of a 7 lemonade cleanse. Some people are incompatible, and a message is just a way to help understand each other.
I love this ******* guy....0 -
I don't accept random friend requests from people who aren't friends of mutual friends unless they have a really good reason for why they want to be my friend.
I don't accept blank friend requests from anyone. No matter who they are.
I like to keep my friend list manageable. Too many people and you can't be supportive/develop any kind of relationship with them.
I'm not here to just collect people and won't be collected by anyone else.
If I do accept someone on my list and then they don't interact with me I delete them.
I call them standards. You can call it whatever you like. It's my friend list so what's it to you how I manage it?
ETA: I'm really just a b!tch. That's what it boils down to.
Honestly this is my view exactly, including the ETA! :drinker:0 -
Dude, who the heck accepts FB friend requests without knowing the person? Man, I'm pickier there than I am here.
This! and it's only polite to write a little something about why you are requesting the FR!0 -
I have both of them on my profile.
The friends I have kept are the ones that have been motivational and active, I want to be able to give them the attention they give me. If I was to have more, I wouldn't be able to do that. Also, if you are to lazy to write a one sentence reason for adding me, the chances are you will be to lazy to communicate with your friends after they are on your list. When I posted my success story I was inundated with friends requests, most of them without messages. I don't think its snobby, its just the way it is; I want to help my friends when they need it and have friends there to help me when I do, I don't need or want to 'collect' people just to make myself feel good and would rather not be just a number to someone else.
If it hurts your feelings then... lol.0 -
The last thing in the world I want is my wall to be full of posts by people I neither like nor care about.
If I accepted every FR sent to me, I'd have over 500 friends.0 -
OP, you have (currently) 29 friends, and I'm fairly confident that not all 29 people post on your wall or even their wall on a regular basis. I'm not just talking about "So and So ate food and their calories were less than whatever" or "So and So walked an imaginary dog for bloated calories burned" type of posts, I'm talking about active, post everything from my kids won't go to sleep to I haven't pooped in days.
When you have 290 friends on your list, all posting really interesting, stupid, mind-numbing, boring, exciting, life altering things, you just can't keep up. You can't be interactive. You can't be supportive. Your super witty comment just gets lost in the sea of 1000 other super witty comments.
I currently have 100 friends. Probably 2/3 rds of them are active on their walls, on other peoples walls, and in the forums...that's a lot of information to follow.
Having "friends" just to have "friends" doesn't do much for me, personally. I want at least most of the people on my friends list to be active, funny, interesting and some-what able to handle my humor, sarcasm, cynicism, and out right awesomeness. Having a friend request with a message as to why you want to be my friend helps in weeding out those who will either complain about what I post, or immediately un-friend me.
Just because I made an awesomely helpful post one day and you happen to agree with what I wrote, doesn't mean that I want to be buddies and listen to you complain that they are on day 3 of a 7 lemonade cleanse. Some people are incompatible, and a message is just a way to help understand each other.
^^^ awesome response.0 -
Been waiting to use this one0 -
As part of Team Too Much For You, I approve of new ways to fish for FR's. This one is so far out there it might just work. Good for you for thinking outside the bun. :drinker:0
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There is certainly "some" snobbery on MFP, but I really could not care less. I accept any FR I get, however, I am quick to dump the 1200 calorie drama queens and the oh I just cant keep it up I am so discouraged folks.0
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Just break up.
Or, FR sent. I dunno.....0 -
I just think it's polite to send a message.
Also, it let's the person know why you want to add them as a friend.0 -
I accept all FR but clean out my FL if they do not interact or log on. Nothing against them, just no point in having them on the list.
I do this as well. The question for me is how long should it be that someone hasn't logged in? I usually wait about 2 or 3 weeks. Quality, not quantity!0 -
On FB, I am not friends with people I don't know in PERSON or have some other connection to, and am really not interested in it here (though don't have the disclaimer on my wall). But, really, I don't accept most friend requests because making random internet acquaintances is not at all why I'm on MFP. I'd been on this site for a couple of years before deleting that profile, and--while I think the support is awesome and very useful and motivating *if that's what you're looking for*--the constant "What a burn!" or "Great day staying under calories!" or whatever comments were sort of annoying to me. Clearly there are people who just post those comments on everyone's wall, and expect the same.
Plus, of course this is a dating site for many, which--again--I have 0 interest in. And also, seeing what some people eat who consider themselves healthy actually eat is, well, beyond my tolerance level. :0
So, yeah, a comment would be nice IF a FR is sent--and I understand the reasons for putting that on your wall--but building a huge list of randoms is not why some of us are here. I just like the logging capabilities and ease of MFP, and occasionally looking at the discussion boards (well, until they make me want to poke my eyes out with all the rudeness and "Doughnut are perfectly healthy!" crap.)0 -
OP, you have (currently) 29 friends, and I'm fairly confident that not all 29 people post on your wall or even their wall on a regular basis. I'm not just talking about "So and So ate food and their calories were less than whatever" or "So and So walked an imaginary dog for bloated calories burned" type of posts, I'm talking about active, post everything from my kids won't go to sleep to I haven't pooped in days.
When you have 290 friends on your list, all posting really interesting, stupid, mind-numbing, boring, exciting, life altering things, you just can't keep up. You can't be interactive. You can't be supportive. Your super witty comment just gets lost in the sea of 1000 other super witty comments.
I currently have 100 friends. Probably 2/3 rds of them are active on their walls, on other peoples walls, and in the forums...that's a lot of information to follow.
Having "friends" just to have "friends" doesn't do much for me, personally. I want at least most of the people on my friends list to be active, funny, interesting and some-what able to handle my humor, sarcasm, cynicism, and out right awesomeness. Having a friend request with a message as to why you want to be my friend helps in weeding out those who will either complain about what I post, or immediately un-friend me.
Just because I made an awesomely helpful post one day and you happen to agree with what I wrote, doesn't mean that I want to be buddies and listen to you complain that they are on day 3 of a 7 lemonade cleanse. Some people are incompatible, and a message is just a way to help understand each other.
I love this ******* guy....
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I like to ensure that my creepers are creepy enough . . . without being too creepy. There's a nice balance, for example if I have to look at your hard **** everytime I pull up my profile because you're one of the last people I friended and you can't be bothered to put on pants . . . the answer is no. I have a hard **** at home, and sometimes I don't even want to see that one, strange **** stopped being interesting to me once I got through puberty. There is nothing interesting to me about random hard **** (except writing random hard ****).
Now, a good dirty conversation filled with speculation and inuendo will keep me interested all day long.
There is also the fact that I tend to be a pretty private person because I've met some really psycho people on other forums who ended up having some serious institutional type issues. There is exactly one person on the planet with my name, and the records where I live are not private, so I like to know who I'm pals with.0
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