my hubby paying me to lose weight

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  • lknickrehm01
    lknickrehm01 Posts: 3 Member
    I would love it if someone would pay me to lose weight. But it would have to be someone other than my husband, because his money is already my money. Also, I think I might be a little insulted by the offer from him. It would seem like he's both saying I need to lose weight (something he's never said) and that he thinks I can't do it without the incentive.

    But I'd love it if a stranger made the offer.

    I wonder how your husband would feel if a stranger made you that offer. Or if you actually accepted it! Talk about creepy...
  • meccacard
    meccacard Posts: 6
    im doing the same thing with a friend. her and i are in competition, and the person who is closest to their goal every month gets 20 from the other person. we've been doing it since september, and so far, ive won every month. it really is great incentive for me, since i dont make a lot of money, and i live on my own.im now half way to my goal weight. whatever it takes to motivate you, keep on trying.
  • Saucy_lil_Minx
    Saucy_lil_Minx Posts: 3,302 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Nope! Totally think it is not only creepy, but would make me angry :explode: :mad: :explode: at my Husband too. I want the right kind of support. I don't want to feel like I am not attractive enough for him anymore, and so he needs to try bribe me with incentives to lose weight.


    Beside I see his paycheck before he does...lol! I do the finances in our house.
  • sarahmichel101
    sarahmichel101 Posts: 158 Member
    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.
  • emilybell66
    emilybell66 Posts: 21 Member
    Wow, lol .....you ladies must have a lot of time on your hands to be bothered so much about what someone is receiving from someone else as a gift for losing weight.
  • emilybell66
    emilybell66 Posts: 21 Member
    Wow, lol .....you ladies must have a lot of time on your hands to be bothered so much about what someone is receiving from someone else as a gift for losing weight.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.
    Even when a woman is lifting weights and actively trying to gain muscle, it takes a very long time to put on a single pound of muscle.
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  • donyellemoniquex3
    donyellemoniquex3 Posts: 2,384 Member
    I agree, it all depends on the context.
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  • cmeiron
    cmeiron Posts: 1,599 Member
    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    You keep saying this, but it doesn't make it any less wrong.
  • KnM0107
    KnM0107 Posts: 355 Member
    Am I really the only one who finds this creepy?

    Nope! Totally think it is not only creepy, but would make me angry :explode: :mad: :explode: at my Husband too. I want the right kind of support. I don't want to feel like I am not attractive enough for him anymore, and so he needs to try bribe me with incentives to lose weight.


    Beside I see his paycheck before he does...lol! I do the finances in our house.

    What is the "right kind of support"? I assume you mean "I want the right kind of support FOR ME."
  • cmmckay1
    cmmckay1 Posts: 6 Member
    Agreed that is an awesome motivator!!!
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    If she is at a deficit, ie: trying to lose weight by eating less than she burns, then she will not see any appreciable muscle gain. Period. Your claim that the scale won't go down because she's gaining muscle isn't possible unless she's not at a deficit (aka no longer eating less that she burns/not taking the proper action to lose weight)

    That's what I said before and you called me a troll but now you're clearly trying to skirt the issue. Wouldn't it be easier to just say you mispoke instead of flouncing like a little kid?
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member


    actually it is true. assuming a person eats a deficit you will not see less fat and added muscle. if you eat a deficit and work out then yes you will see added muscle weight. nothing extreme mind you.

    Hmmm, it seems you are not yet ready to learn that Santa Clause is not a real person

    yea because all the little kids in ethiopia have easily put on 5lbs of muscle each month due to eating at a deficit and no lifting weights
  • nomeejerome
    nomeejerome Posts: 2,616 Member
    I admit, I only skimmed the responses……
    What the hell is going on in here? (other than the pretty article :huh: )

    Stuff

    Nevermind. I see exactly what is going on.... just another typical day. :wink:
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    You keep saying this, but it doesn't make it any less wrong.

    But it does make it more funny. It's not like I've spent time looking into bulking vs recomp, am part of groups based around bulking, am following women doing both recomps and bulks on instagram, have made gaiming muscle one of my top goals, and lift weights or anything. Clearly I am the one who is wrong.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I admit, I only skimmed the responses……
    What the hell is going on in here? (other than the pretty article :huh: )

    Stuff

    Nevermind. I see exactly what is going on.... just another typical day. :wink:

    I had something else written but it gave too much away. Gotta slow play it.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    im doing the same thing with a friend. her and i are in competition, and the person who is closest to their goal every month gets 20 from the other person. we've been doing it since september, and so far, ive won every month. it really is great incentive for me, since i dont make a lot of money, and i live on my own.im now half way to my goal weight. whatever it takes to motivate you, keep on trying.

    how's it working for your friend... who is ALWAYS losing? She must feel royally motivated.
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  • cmeiron
    cmeiron Posts: 1,599 Member
    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    You keep saying this, but it doesn't make it any less wrong.

    But it does make it more funny. It's not like I've spent time looking into bulking vs recomp, am part of groups based around bulking, am following women doing both recomps and bulks on instagram, have made gaiming muscle one of my top goals, and lift weights or anything. Clearly I am the one who is wrong.

    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?
  • mercedesjo91
    mercedesjo91 Posts: 6
    I absolutely love that!! Such a great idea to stay accountable!!

    I wish I could get my fiancé to workout with me!! I did once, we did Chalene's Turbo Fire 15 minuet HIIT!! Now he doesn't want to.
    I am doing a test group for the 21 day fix maybe I can talk him into doing that one with me! :)

    Good luck on your journey! I know you can do it!
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    You keep saying this, but it doesn't make it any less wrong.

    But it does make it more funny. It's not like I've spent time looking into bulking vs recomp, am part of groups based around bulking, am following women doing both recomps and bulks on instagram, have made gaiming muscle one of my top goals, and lift weights or anything. Clearly I am the one who is wrong.

    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    Yes. You could have been at a deficit all this time and put on enough muscle to stall out your weight loss! It's the link we've been missing all along.

    Someone inform Zach before that kid logs another 3k calorie day.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    are you doing any kind of exercising also?
  • cmeiron
    cmeiron Posts: 1,599 Member
    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    are you doing any kind of exercising also?

    Well, yes. I lift. Bulking doesn't work very well otherwise. (Also, you might want to tweak your sarcasm meter just a wee bit :P)
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  • cmeiron
    cmeiron Posts: 1,599 Member
    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    are you doing any kind of exercising also?

    No ****, "I'm currently bulking, focusing on getting stronger and increasing muscle mass. " and she lifts 3 times a week

    Stop the presses, folks, we got a READER over here!!! :drinker:
  • RosemaryEBrown
    RosemaryEBrown Posts: 12 Member
    Nope. Me, too.
  • Jerrypeoples
    Jerrypeoples Posts: 1,541 Member
    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    are you doing any kind of exercising also?

    Well, yes. I lift. Bulking doesn't work very well otherwise. (Also, you might want to tweak your sarcasm meter just a wee bit :P)

    i wasnt being sarcastic, i was asking you a question since I never saw you mention it. if you are working out and eating a deficit or even maintenance then yes, you will put on muscle.

    but your little argument stating the following:

    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    doe not mention anyone doing any exercising.

    So before you tweek your sarcasm meter i might suggest you include all your relevant facts before being all snippy
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    Clearly. And the fact that I've been stuffing my face and eating over maintenance since September in an effort to put on a teensy bit of muscle....well, clearly I've been wasting my time amirite?

    are you doing any kind of exercising also?

    Well, yes. I lift. Bulking doesn't work very well otherwise. (Also, you might want to tweak your sarcasm meter just a wee bit :P)

    i wasnt being sarcastic, i was asking you a question since I never saw you mention it. if you are working out and eating a deficit or even maintenance then yes, you will put on muscle.

    but your little argument stating the following:

    My original post was she may not see numbers go down even if she is getting healthier (EX: if fat is lost and muscle is gained). Eating at a deficit to what? Maintenance? Even at this level fat can be lost and muscle can be gained, even if it is minuscule. You got the pretty picture because you requested them. I said if you want academic peer reviewed then read up. I have taken my time and done the same. I will not write again and if you want to discuss it feel free to PM if it's so important.

    doe not mention anyone doing any exercising.

    So before you tweek your sarcasm meter i might suggest you include all your relevant facts before being all snippy

    CLEARLY she lifts.


    clicked her profile in case to be sure.


    yep


    whole write up on it.

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