Boyfriend has roadrage
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Why? You want your BF to change but don't want to change and find a middle ground. This a public forum, can't take the heat don't post.
I'm taking the heat, I told you to get your macho *kitten* off my thread!!
I offered to drive! Read the entire thread big mouth!
Some one has anger issues. LMAO. You should join him in anger management . Therapists give discounts for couples with anger management issues.0 -
She shot a roadrager. They all need to be shot!
So it's your boyfriend who overreacts and is irrational, is that right?
exactly. Don't like it that someone yelled at you because you are stupid and can't drive? just shoot them. Lol0 -
I would dump him and in the process loose a lot of scary weight. Road rage is BIG red flag.
loose weight, tight weight, whats the difference?0 -
Give him road head, yeah I just wanted to be first to say it.
Best damn answer to any thread I have seen all day... HA!!!0 -
She shot a roadrager. They all need to be shot!
So it's your boyfriend who overreacts and is irrational, is that right?
Yep, you got it.
You must have road rage.... maybe you know one another????
That's not even remotely relevant to my comment but carry on. I can pass you a shovel if you like.0 -
Why not make it a policy that when you go out together, YOU drive?
Won't cure him, but at least you won't have to deal with it.
Or you could have him take a page from my book: passive-aggressive kill 'em with kindness driving. When someone cuts me off, or does something assy, I blow them a kiss. Makes me feel better, and probably either confuses or enrages THEM, but doesn't reflect on me. Heh.0 -
I would say to really emphasize that it bothers you when he does it.
Make it clear how much anxiety it gives you.
Make him feel like a tard for a second.
But this takes a certain amount of "influence" and if you're not a natural sales person you might not be able to sell him on it.
I would just freak out like 'WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU! YOU DRIVE ME OUT OF MY WITS WHEN YOU GET CRAZY LIKE THAT! IM TRYING TO RELAX AND YOURE DRIVING ME NUTS! DO YOU NOT COMPREHEND THAT ACTING LIKE A LUNATIC IS NOT GONNA FIX OTHERS DRIVING?? CAN YOU REALLY NOT COMPREHEND THAT? ALL YOU DO IS GET ME ALL WORKED UP AND UNCOMFORTABLE I CANT HANDLE IT WHEN YOU DO THAT!!!"
And hopefully he will make an effort to temper himself at least around you.
So..... do to him exactly what you don't want him to do to other drivers? :huh:
hmm...
No.
If someone acted like that toward me in a relationship rather than talking to me calmly and rationally in a mature way then you'd be out on your butt. But, I'm also pretty sure you're the guy who dates 18 year olds so it makes sense that would be your advice....0 -
May be you should stop over reacting and find a middle ground.
Maybe you should get your macho *kitten* out of my thread!
Whoa!! Good thing you are not driving. Embrace the rage!0 -
Why does everyone take driving so seriously? Is anyone really going anywhere THAT important? I always drive 5 under the speed limit. Just leave earlier if you're on some sort of deadline or you're on your way to work. If you're getting off work why rush anyways? You're already off.
because I don't like wasting my life away sitting in a car behind a bunch of idiots driving slow in the fast lane or texting when the light is green instead of driving. Thats what roads are for, driving and getting to where you are going not relaxing and exting all your friends.
LOL I dunno. Move closer to your job. My commute used to be 15 minutes (6 miles) and it's about 30 minutes (15 miles) now. People force themselves in to a rushed lifestyle then whine when everyone doesn't want to go 900 miles an hour like they do. You're not going anywhere important. Settling down grumpy.0 -
This would be a major deal breaker for me.0
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Why? You want your BF to change but don't want to change and find a middle ground. This a public forum, can't take the heat don't post.
I'm taking the heat, I told you to get your macho *kitten* off my thread!!
I offered to drive! Read the entire thread big mouth!
Some one has anger issues. LMAO. You should join him in anger management . Therapists give discounts for couples with anger management issues.
I have internet anger with people who have no place in my topics.0 -
May be you should stop over reacting and find a middle ground.
Maybe you should get your macho *kitten* out of my thread!
Whoa!! Good thing you are not driving. Embrace the rage!
Haha, believe me, I am saying it with extreme serenity
I don't yell, don't have to. 0 -
In a relationship, you get exactly what you are willing to put up with. All the other things about him outweigh this? Stick with it, but you own that decision. Had enough? Take off, and you own that decision too. This is on you, hon. He's just being himself. I'd cut him loose, but that's just me.0
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Assuming it's as serious as you say it is, I'm just wondering why you would continue to date someone who behaves like this. Is this not a red flag for you?
I know..... and I have left him for this reason and the usual "I'll change" begins. I think this is aging me! I love him but I hate him.
If you can so flippantly say "I hate him" then you don't really love him. You don't use that ugly word on people you say you love. I have been so angry with my husband I couldn't speak to him for hours, but hell would freeze over before I ever said I HATED him. You can hate his behavior, but to ever say you hate someone you claim to love is just backwards and wrong.
Another thing, if you've already left him for this same thing and he promised to change and he didn't, well then he is nothing better than a liar. If you are ok with dating a liar, that's your business I suppose, but I could never share my heart and home with someone I can't trust to keep promises like that.0 -
Why? You want your BF to change but don't want to change and find a middle ground. This a public forum, can't take the heat don't post.
I'm taking the heat, I told you to get your macho *kitten* off my thread!!
I offered to drive! Read the entire thread big mouth!
Some one has anger issues. LMAO. You should join him in anger management . Therapists give discounts for couples with anger management issues.
I have internet anger with people who have no place in my topics.
You do realize that you posted "your topic" in a public forum on the internet?? Just checking cause, nevermind. . .
*Backs away slowly in hopes that I won't get shot by the person who is concerned about rage and stuff*0 -
She shot a roadrager. They all need to be shot!
So it's your boyfriend who overreacts and is irrational, is that right?
Yep, you got it.
You must have road rage.... maybe you know one another????
That's not even remotely relevant to my comment but carry on. I can pass you a shovel if you like.
It is relevant, you just don't see it.0 -
LMAO. Internet rage, road rage bwahahaha. It's still a rage., it a public forum not your personal space, just like a road is public.0
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She shot a roadrager. They all need to be shot!
So it's your boyfriend who overreacts and is irrational, is that right?
Yep, you got it.
You must have road rage.... maybe you know one another????
That's not even remotely relevant to my comment but carry on. I can pass you a shovel if you like.
It is relevant, you just don't see it.
Must be the blind rage impacting my vision.0 -
LMAO. Internet rage, road rage bwahahaha. It's still a rage., it a public forum not your personal space, just like a road is public.
bwahaha? What are you 5?0 -
I am two. LOL. This thread is hilarious.0
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Whatever. I don't need idiots telling me that I should find a middle ground. Instead of telling me that, suggest one but read the entire thread first.
I've lurked on here long enough to know how this place works.
So...what did you want people to tell you then?0 -
I'm getting the thread rage! Just kidding. I'm mellow and happy, and don't allow strangers to make me angry.
If I hate the consistent behavior of someone I'm dating, I break up with them. It sounds a bit like you both have anger issues anyway.0 -
Why? You want your BF to change but don't want to change and find a middle ground. This a public forum, can't take the heat don't post.
I'm taking the heat, I told you to get your macho *kitten* off my thread!!
I offered to drive! Read the entire thread big mouth!
Some one has anger issues. LMAO. You should join him in anger management . Therapists give discounts for couples with anger management issues.
I have internet anger with people who have no place in my topics.
"Your" topic? You posted on a PUBLIC forum. If you didn't want anyone to respond to YOUR topic then you shouldn't have posted on a PUBLIC forum.
And FWIW: People HAVE made suggestions to you on how to deal with it. You're just choosing to ignore them.0 -
Whatever. I don't need idiots telling me that I should find a middle ground. Instead of telling me that, suggest one but read the entire thread first.
I've lurked on here long enough to know how this place works.
So...what did you want people to tell you then?
Only tell her what she wants to hear. This is her internet after all.0 -
To put the whole, "why am I with a man who can't control his temper" ---- would you wish your children to be in the same car as this man? Would you wish your children to be around a man who couldn't be trusted enough to control his temper in-so-much that it escalates putting your babies at risk?
I think not.
You can do better than this and you know it. :flowerforyou:
Not only that, but what happens when her switches from being abusive at other drivers, and starts bringing it home to her? The cycle of violence is real, and one of the first parts of it for abusers is to attack external things.
Ok, SERIOUS over reaction. I've been with my husband for 16 years, he's as bad as the OP described if not worse when it comes to road rage, but the biggest teddy bear on the planet with people he cares about. He's the guy who steps up to the bully in public to defend the person in need, I can't imagine anyone LESS likely to EVER be abusive in a relationship.0 -
GET OUT OF HER TOPIC! :mad: :explode:Whatever. I don't need idiots telling me that I should find a middle ground. Instead of telling me that, suggest one but read the entire thread first.
I've lurked on here long enough to know how this place works.
So...what did you want people to tell you then?
Only tell her what she wants to hear. This is her internet after all.
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She shot a roadrager. They all need to be shot!
So it's your boyfriend who overreacts and is irrational, is that right?
Yep, you got it.
You must have road rage.... maybe you know one another????
That's not even remotely relevant to my comment but carry on. I can pass you a shovel if you like.
It is relevant, you just don't see it.
Must be the blind rage impacting my vision.
Maybe blind stupidity?
You mad?0 -
For me, personally, that's a deal-breaker.0
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Whatever. I don't need idiots telling me that I should find a middle ground. Instead of telling me that, suggest one but read the entire thread first.
I've lurked on here long enough to know how this place works.
So...what did you want people to tell you then?
Many of you are giving me great advice! I appreciate it. There are two types of people on MFP the helpers and the ones that like to start trouble by being cocky.0
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