Is it okay to "flaunt"?
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I was totally picturing an outfit like this when OP first posted.
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I was totally picturing an outfit like this when OP first posted.
Oh my god, me too!
ETA: I totally like this look and not think it's horrible or anything, I was just expecting something like this and not shorts and basically a tee shirt.0 -
That outfit is so commonplace -- almost the woman uniform these days (for men, it's a T-shirt and cargo shorts or jeans) -- I doubt anyone would bat an eye unless they were going to an Amish friend's party.
Would wear.
Have worn many a time at the ripe old age of 33
It is a cute, sexy outfit appropriate for several occasions; however, not ALL occasions. Knowing when and where to wear something is apart of being an adult.
I don't think anyone was saying that this was appropriate for attending a wedding. Just saying....
That was the point of the post whether short shorts and a crop top were appropriate to wear to her husband's friend's BBQ. just saying... IMO No, unless they were gearing up for a wife swap. :laugh:
Now see to me, this would be fine to wear to an outdoor event like a BBQ. Especially in FL.
Depends on the crowd at the BBQ.
We must run in different social groups and our "commonplace norms" are totally different. It all depends on who will be at the BBQ.
I'm not talking about my social circle. I'm talking about what I observe on complete strangers out in public.
I rarely see anyone dressed like that unless I am at the beach.
Well, where I live it's pretty much the norm. I like where I live :happy:0 -
I was totally picturing an outfit like this when OP first posted.
Oh my god, me too!
ETA: I totally like this look and not think it's horrible or anything, I was just expecting something like this and not shorts and basically a tee shirt.
I'm not sure how I feel about the super high waisted shorts. My first reaction is "ew" because I was there the last time these were in, but then I'm like, "huh, that's kind of cute, look how it emphasizes her hips"... Fashion is confusing.0 -
my workout shorts were short not showing any butt ect but as usual ppl do not like ppl gonna hate not saying your hubby hate maybe he dont want others drawing their attention to you.. i had a bf like that b40
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I love this outfit though:
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I love this outfit though:
Oh I do too! I need those pants in my life
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I was totally picturing an outfit like this when OP first posted.
Would maybe wear this too (With a different colored top because ahh, my eyes)0 -
I was totally picturing an outfit like this when OP first posted.
Oh my god, me too!
ETA: I totally like this look and not think it's horrible or anything, I was just expecting something like this and not shorts and basically a tee shirt.
I'm not sure how I feel about the super high waisted shorts. My first reaction is "ew" because I was there the last time these were in, but then I'm like, "huh, that's kind of cute, look how it emphasizes her hips"... Fashion is confusing.
I feel like at the wrong angle, he shorts could look like a diaper or possibly a pair of granny panties. If the top had just a bit more length and the shorts weren't that high, I would love this.
This was my vision
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as long as it is appropriate, your body, your rules. Sure, I get jealous when I see thin people dressing awesome, but I'm not going to go up to them and say "excuse me, could you not wear that around me? You're making me feel bad about myself". You should be proud of yourself and just enjoy wearing whatever you want.0
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as long as it is appropriate, your body, your rules. Sure, I get jealous when I see thin people dressing awesome, but I'm not going to go up to them and say "excuse me, could you not wear that around me? You're making me feel bad about myself". You should be proud of yourself and just enjoy wearing whatever you want.
You are my kinda girl :flowerforyou:0 -
He informed me that he thought it would look like I was 'showing off' and that it could make his friend's wife jealous.
**** that. You have it flaunt it. That's why I filmed three porn scenes.
You do it, make yourself happy and move the eff on. Anyone who doesn't like it can ride a rail.
Yeah, right! If it was your wife or GF, you'd see it totally different. Gotta love the internet and all the BS stories. Bahahahaha
Does your husband put limits on your internet time?
Not at all. He's the best, so don't be jealous or a hater. Some of us have it pretty damn good, Baby!0 -
I was totally picturing an outfit like this when OP first posted.
Oh my god, me too!
ETA: I totally like this look and not think it's horrible or anything, I was just expecting something like this and not shorts and basically a tee shirt.
I'm not sure how I feel about the super high waisted shorts. My first reaction is "ew" because I was there the last time these were in, but then I'm like, "huh, that's kind of cute, look how it emphasizes her hips"... Fashion is confusing.
I feel like at the wrong angle, he shorts could look like a diaper or possibly a pair of granny panties. If the top had just a bit more length and the shorts weren't that high, I would love this.
This was my vision
The dude behind her be hating.0 -
I'm almost within 10 pounds of a healthy weight and I wore a striped dress & size 8 suit jacket to work on Friday & I thought I looked attractive & professional, but I got a disapproving "up and down" from the CFO. Maybe because she's overweight, and thought I was "flaunting it?"0
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I was totally picturing an outfit like this when OP first posted.
Oh my god, me too!
ETA: I totally like this look and not think it's horrible or anything, I was just expecting something like this and not shorts and basically a tee shirt.
I'm not sure how I feel about the super high waisted shorts. My first reaction is "ew" because I was there the last time these were in, but then I'm like, "huh, that's kind of cute, look how it emphasizes her hips"... Fashion is confusing.
I feel like at the wrong angle, he shorts could look like a diaper or possibly a pair of granny panties. If the top had just a bit more length and the shorts weren't that high, I would love this.
This was my vision
Damn Gaga, is that a denim bra?0 -
I'll put it bluntly and to the point, grow the hell up. You wore it to show off and get attention and most likely to make your husband jealous! This isn't reality TV!!!
I thought you were leaving because nobody likes you??
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1247564-leaving?hl=leaving
I wonder why...0 -
He informed me that he thought it would look like I was 'showing off' and that it could make his friend's wife jealous.
**** that. You have it flaunt it. That's why I filmed three porn scenes.
You do it, make yourself happy and move the eff on. Anyone who doesn't like it can ride a rail.
Yeah, right! If it was your wife or GF, you'd see it totally different. Gotta love the internet and all the BS stories. Bahahahaha
Does your husband put limits on your internet time?
Not at all. He's the best, so don't be jealous or a hater. Some of us have it pretty damn good, Baby!
Um, just because I was hoping he limited your access to the internet (since you obey him and all), doesn't mean I am a jealous or a hater. There are a fair number of people on this site that will tell you my husband is pretty awesome.0 -
I was totally picturing an outfit like this when OP first posted.
Oh my god, me too!
ETA: I totally like this look and not think it's horrible or anything, I was just expecting something like this and not shorts and basically a tee shirt.
I'm not sure how I feel about the super high waisted shorts. My first reaction is "ew" because I was there the last time these were in, but then I'm like, "huh, that's kind of cute, look how it emphasizes her hips"... Fashion is confusing.
I feel like at the wrong angle, he shorts could look like a diaper or possibly a pair of granny panties. If the top had just a bit more length and the shorts weren't that high, I would love this.
This was my vision
Would not wear. Not hating, just not into denim bras.
I'm thinking of adding a white crop top to my collection to go with my new skirt, as seen in my picture. I hope no one finds me too attention whorey or not dressed my age or whatever it is I'm supposed to be avoiding.0 -
I was expecting Daisy Dukes. Can someone wake me up when you guys start posting selfies in Daisy Dukes?
For science,0 -
I was expecting Daisy Dukes. Can someone wake me up when you guys start posting selfies in Daisy Dukes?
For science,
I could start a thread if you want0 -
He informed me that he thought it would look like I was 'showing off' and that it could make his friend's wife jealous.
**** that. You have it flaunt it. That's why I filmed three porn scenes.
You do it, make yourself happy and move the eff on. Anyone who doesn't like it can ride a rail.
Were you pitching or catching?0 -
I was expecting Daisy Dukes. Can someone wake me up when you guys start posting selfies in Daisy Dukes?
For science,
I could start a thread if you want
link please ?0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
Like hell I made a marriage vow to "obey."
I could care less. All I know is, I honor and obey my man no matter what he says. He wants dinner on the table as soon as he walks in from work and if that's what my Baby wants, that's what my Baby gets.
Weren't you leaving?0 -
I guess I though daisy dukes were out of style? I mean not even Jessica simpson who brought them back for the dukes of hazard remake wears them anymore?
are they back in style anywhere other than teen shops as the high waist variety?0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
Like hell I made a marriage vow to "obey."
I could care less. All I know is, I honor and obey my man no matter what he says. He wants dinner on the table as soon as he walks in from work and if that's what my Baby wants, that's what my Baby gets.
Weren't you leaving?
what if he wants YOU on the table dancing when he gets home from work in 20 year out of style shorts? then what?0 -
I have the same problem and i say wear what you want! They can be jealous but it is not your fault that you actually got your butt up and did something to get your body!!0
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I was expecting Daisy Dukes. Can someone wake me up when you guys start posting selfies in Daisy Dukes?
For science,
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Anyway... My profile photo is now one of the outfit in question...
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Looks fine. In fact, it is a bit conservative for what I thought it was going to be in your initial description.
I lived through the 60's and early 70's where your outfit would have been nearly deemed to be worn only by a prude. ;-)
Perhaps we all worry too much....
1) I'm way older than OP and I would never hesitate to wear those shorts. Most likely with a pair of platform espadrilles for extra height.
2) It's not even a crop top. It is a regular top with peek-a-boo cutouts. The hem comes below the navel. A crop top has the hem above the navel.
OP, your husband is acting possessive and a little jealous. He's using your mutual friend as his excuse because he's worried her husband will be checking you out. That guy's already seen you in a bikini, so not really even sure why he's worried about this outfit. Either that, or he doesn't like the style of the top and rather than tell you that, he's going to use your friend as a scapegoat so you can't be mad at him for not liking your top. Men are like that. Heck, women are like that.
There is nothing at all wrong with what you're wearing. Compared to some of the things I've seen on women, this outfit is downright conservative!
I'M NOT LIKE THAT. I don't like your top. There I said it. This outfit flaunts nothing. I can think of a million cuter tops to wear with those shorts that may show less but will be cuter and more revealing by being fitted to your figure. This outfit does little for it. Just sayin.
Ditch the outfit NOT b/c your insecure, controlling, panicky husband says so, but because the fashion gods say so.
I'm not that into the shorts either, but I don't HATE them. I just think you can do better. On many levels.0 -
Okay... Here we go...
I'll try to address all of the broad answers that have been posted here. Though, I'll just quickly put a huge thank you out there to everyone here who's been sincere and not flat out insulting me or the situation. I really appreciate the helpful feedback! As for those saying that I'm tacky, trying to dress like a teenager, trying to make my husband jealous, just flat out seeking attention, or too thin... I'm sorry that this thread has put you in a bad mood. Would you like a flower? :flowerforyou:
My husband generally doesn't have a lot to say about fashion or his opinions on it. Every now and then he'll say an outfit is ridiculous, but he doesn't insult the wearer of the outfit or tell me that he won't be seen with me in it. This was the first time he's really spoken up much about the matter. There have been a couple of times where he's said that my outfit (for going to clubs and such) is sexy and that he's gonna have to 'keep me close', but he says this with a smile and a wink. I ended up wearing a different top with the shorts to the party that we went to Saturday. Once again, it was not a work party nor was it a 'cocktail' or anything close to a 'semi-formal' event. Our hosts/friends were wearing jeans and t-shirts (I believe the wife in question was wearing a semi-deep v-neck form-fitting jersey top with jean shorts (normal length shorts).
I did bring it up to him again and what was bothering him, and he basically just said the same thing he'd said before. He said he'd thought it might cause some jealousy and he didn't others to feel bad. He also said that he only felt it was possibly inappropriate to wear around friends and not inappropriate for going to the bar. He did apologize too, telling me he didn't realize that it had bothered me enough to still be thinking about it and told me that I should be the one who decides what I should wear.
I think there are good points in how to respect your spouse, but there are also good points in how you shouldn't have to change or alter your behavior (if it's not harmful) in order to please their every whim or insecurity. I'd like to find some happy middle ground where I'm comfortable and happy, but I'm also not disrespecting the person I care for. I let my husband dress as he likes and I let him do what he wants as far as hair/weight things go. On occasion he'll ask if his outfit is 'dressy enough' and I'll give him feedback, but I generally don't concern myself with how he presents himself in public. Now.. if we were going to a funeral and he put on a shirt with naked woman and swear words all over it, I'd probably speak up (he would never do that, but that's an example).
As for the questions of my ability to wear this outfit at 29, I suppose there's something more to address there. Yes, it could be seen as a 'young person's outfit'. I get that. Maybe I'm in denial, but I didn't feel like I was dressing like a 17 year old when I put it on. I don't think it necessarily draws a bunch of negative attention to myself in an outdoor bar on a hot day. Maybe it would and I just don't know.. Either way, I guess I'll just say I have questionable taste. I wouldn't wear the outfit to a work function, a dressy or even semi-dressy event, or a family gathering (though I wouldn't be ashamed to be seen by family while in the outfit).
I'm glad things worked out between the both of you.
You're 29, not 129. Even if you were 129, and wanted to wear a crop top and short shorts kudos to you.
Other people's insecurities are not your problem.0 -
So your outfit could be appropriate, I personally just don't like it because it really does not flatter your body in my opinion. Maybe your husband just doesn't like the look of it (doesn't think that it is cute) and just didn't want to tell you that so he reached for another excuse that you might listen to and not take offensively. My man tells me when he thinks something doesn't look flattering on me, but I like that because sometimes I have a hard time deciding if something really does look good on me or if I am just really in love with the clothing and wishing it would work.0
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