Is it okay to "flaunt"?
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He informed me that he thought it would look like I was 'showing off' and that it could make his friend's wife jealous.
**** that. You have it flaunt it. That's why I filmed three porn scenes.
You do it, make yourself happy and move the eff on. Anyone who doesn't like it can ride a rail.
Were you pitching or catching?0 -
I was expecting Daisy Dukes. Can someone wake me up when you guys start posting selfies in Daisy Dukes?
For science,
I could start a thread if you want
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Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
Like hell I made a marriage vow to "obey."
I could care less. All I know is, I honor and obey my man no matter what he says. He wants dinner on the table as soon as he walks in from work and if that's what my Baby wants, that's what my Baby gets.
Weren't you leaving?0 -
I guess I though daisy dukes were out of style? I mean not even Jessica simpson who brought them back for the dukes of hazard remake wears them anymore?
are they back in style anywhere other than teen shops as the high waist variety?0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
Like hell I made a marriage vow to "obey."
I could care less. All I know is, I honor and obey my man no matter what he says. He wants dinner on the table as soon as he walks in from work and if that's what my Baby wants, that's what my Baby gets.
Weren't you leaving?
what if he wants YOU on the table dancing when he gets home from work in 20 year out of style shorts? then what?0 -
I have the same problem and i say wear what you want! They can be jealous but it is not your fault that you actually got your butt up and did something to get your body!!0
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I was expecting Daisy Dukes. Can someone wake me up when you guys start posting selfies in Daisy Dukes?
For science,
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Anyway... My profile photo is now one of the outfit in question...
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Looks fine. In fact, it is a bit conservative for what I thought it was going to be in your initial description.
I lived through the 60's and early 70's where your outfit would have been nearly deemed to be worn only by a prude. ;-)
Perhaps we all worry too much....
1) I'm way older than OP and I would never hesitate to wear those shorts. Most likely with a pair of platform espadrilles for extra height.
2) It's not even a crop top. It is a regular top with peek-a-boo cutouts. The hem comes below the navel. A crop top has the hem above the navel.
OP, your husband is acting possessive and a little jealous. He's using your mutual friend as his excuse because he's worried her husband will be checking you out. That guy's already seen you in a bikini, so not really even sure why he's worried about this outfit. Either that, or he doesn't like the style of the top and rather than tell you that, he's going to use your friend as a scapegoat so you can't be mad at him for not liking your top. Men are like that. Heck, women are like that.
There is nothing at all wrong with what you're wearing. Compared to some of the things I've seen on women, this outfit is downright conservative!
I'M NOT LIKE THAT. I don't like your top. There I said it. This outfit flaunts nothing. I can think of a million cuter tops to wear with those shorts that may show less but will be cuter and more revealing by being fitted to your figure. This outfit does little for it. Just sayin.
Ditch the outfit NOT b/c your insecure, controlling, panicky husband says so, but because the fashion gods say so.
I'm not that into the shorts either, but I don't HATE them. I just think you can do better. On many levels.0 -
Okay... Here we go...
I'll try to address all of the broad answers that have been posted here. Though, I'll just quickly put a huge thank you out there to everyone here who's been sincere and not flat out insulting me or the situation. I really appreciate the helpful feedback! As for those saying that I'm tacky, trying to dress like a teenager, trying to make my husband jealous, just flat out seeking attention, or too thin... I'm sorry that this thread has put you in a bad mood. Would you like a flower? :flowerforyou:
My husband generally doesn't have a lot to say about fashion or his opinions on it. Every now and then he'll say an outfit is ridiculous, but he doesn't insult the wearer of the outfit or tell me that he won't be seen with me in it. This was the first time he's really spoken up much about the matter. There have been a couple of times where he's said that my outfit (for going to clubs and such) is sexy and that he's gonna have to 'keep me close', but he says this with a smile and a wink. I ended up wearing a different top with the shorts to the party that we went to Saturday. Once again, it was not a work party nor was it a 'cocktail' or anything close to a 'semi-formal' event. Our hosts/friends were wearing jeans and t-shirts (I believe the wife in question was wearing a semi-deep v-neck form-fitting jersey top with jean shorts (normal length shorts).
I did bring it up to him again and what was bothering him, and he basically just said the same thing he'd said before. He said he'd thought it might cause some jealousy and he didn't others to feel bad. He also said that he only felt it was possibly inappropriate to wear around friends and not inappropriate for going to the bar. He did apologize too, telling me he didn't realize that it had bothered me enough to still be thinking about it and told me that I should be the one who decides what I should wear.
I think there are good points in how to respect your spouse, but there are also good points in how you shouldn't have to change or alter your behavior (if it's not harmful) in order to please their every whim or insecurity. I'd like to find some happy middle ground where I'm comfortable and happy, but I'm also not disrespecting the person I care for. I let my husband dress as he likes and I let him do what he wants as far as hair/weight things go. On occasion he'll ask if his outfit is 'dressy enough' and I'll give him feedback, but I generally don't concern myself with how he presents himself in public. Now.. if we were going to a funeral and he put on a shirt with naked woman and swear words all over it, I'd probably speak up (he would never do that, but that's an example).
As for the questions of my ability to wear this outfit at 29, I suppose there's something more to address there. Yes, it could be seen as a 'young person's outfit'. I get that. Maybe I'm in denial, but I didn't feel like I was dressing like a 17 year old when I put it on. I don't think it necessarily draws a bunch of negative attention to myself in an outdoor bar on a hot day. Maybe it would and I just don't know.. Either way, I guess I'll just say I have questionable taste. I wouldn't wear the outfit to a work function, a dressy or even semi-dressy event, or a family gathering (though I wouldn't be ashamed to be seen by family while in the outfit).
I'm glad things worked out between the both of you.
You're 29, not 129. Even if you were 129, and wanted to wear a crop top and short shorts kudos to you.
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So your outfit could be appropriate, I personally just don't like it because it really does not flatter your body in my opinion. Maybe your husband just doesn't like the look of it (doesn't think that it is cute) and just didn't want to tell you that so he reached for another excuse that you might listen to and not take offensively. My man tells me when he thinks something doesn't look flattering on me, but I like that because sometimes I have a hard time deciding if something really does look good on me or if I am just really in love with the clothing and wishing it would work.0
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Listen to Dr. Laura Schlessinger on Sirius Satellite Radio Starz Channel 106. It requires a subscription fee but it's worth it.
Or for a one time fee she could get a lobotomy and achieve the same result.
LOL my thoughts exactly, worst advice ever! Whatever "Dr Laura" says, do the exact opposite lol.0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
"Obey" wasn't actually in my vows, we left that one out since women aren't property anymore.0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
"Obey" wasn't actually in my vows, we left that one out since women aren't property anymore.
It wasn't in my vows because my husband knows I run things.
...that's not actually true. We have a partnership where we both contribute and excel in different areas and, as such, no one needs to 'obey' the other.0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
"Obey" wasn't actually in my vows, we left that one out since women aren't property anymore.
It wasn't in my vows because my husband knows I run things.
...that's not actually true. We have a partnership where we both contribute and excel in different areas and, as such, no one needs to 'obey' the other.
Not in mine either.0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
"Obey" wasn't actually in my vows, we left that one out since women aren't property anymore.
It wasn't in my vows because my husband knows I run things.
...that's not actually true. We have a partnership where we both contribute and excel in different areas and, as such, no one needs to 'obey' the other.
Seriously! The only time I "obey" him is when he has the whip out. :smokin:0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
"Obey" wasn't actually in my vows, we left that one out since women aren't property anymore.
It wasn't in my vows because my husband knows I run things.
...that's not actually true. We have a partnership where we both contribute and excel in different areas and, as such, no one needs to 'obey' the other.
Seriously! The only time I "obey" him is when he has the whip out. :smokin:
Well, it's about damn time someone finally caught on to what I was getting at. He is my Master and he owns me. I am his to do as he pleases.0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
"Obey" wasn't actually in my vows, we left that one out since women aren't property anymore.
It wasn't in my vows because my husband knows I run things.
...that's not actually true. We have a partnership where we both contribute and excel in different areas and, as such, no one needs to 'obey' the other.
Seriously! The only time I "obey" him is when he has the whip out. :smokin:
Well, it's about damn time someone finally caught on to what I was getting at. He is my Master and he owns me. I am his to do as he pleases.
Well now you have my full attention.0 -
Anyway... My profile photo is now one of the outfit in question...ImagePlease
Looks fine. In fact, it is a bit conservative for what I thought it was going to be in your initial description.
I lived through the 60's and early 70's where your outfit would have been nearly deemed to be worn only by a prude. ;-)
Perhaps we all worry too much....
OP, I can't understand how anyone would think this outfit was inappropriate and flaunting or not age appropriate for a BBQ on a warm day. It's just a pair of shorts with a loose fitting top.
And, For the record, from the OP, I never pictured anything outrageous. I just thought a pair of shorts, with a loose top that did not go all the way to the shorts. Normal warm day BBQ clothing. But, this outfit is even more covering than what I pictured.
Also, want to add that I don't like when pockets are hanging out below a pair of shorts. It's ok in photography, but not real life. I like a lot of the photos that people have posted.
Also there was no obeying in my marriage vows.
And I like Alan Rickman.
Also, noticed some people criticizing the OP's weight. That's not cool.
I probably missed a bunch.0 -
Holy moly there's some catty people in here. I am incredibly grateful to live in a society where "appropriate" dress is for job interviews and funerals only, and the rest of the time everyone wears what they want no matter what age or weight.
As for age appropriate OP you are only 29 this is young. One day you will be 80. Are you going to look back to this time with a grin because you wore what you wanted and looked smoking, or with regret because you hid your body in case strangers judged you?
Oh, she's only 29. Wow, people! Stop telling the gal to be an old lady! Maybe I should start wearing a shall, orthotic shoes and a bun.
I wore midriffs at 29 and never thought twice about it. I don't now because, like I said, 41. Short shorts? Absolutely. I worked very hard for my legs, and they look perfectly appropriate on me. People are projecting their own insecurities all over the place. Women my age wear shorts here. Most of them wear shorts that are between 3 and 5 inch inseam. Obviously, most of us aren't wearing the butt hugging ones that you buy in the Junior's department, but they're still short. 29 is a tricky age because it's too young to start dressing in tablecloth fabrics, and it's deemed too old to dress in Juniors.
There are some things that I can only get a good fit if it is juniors. I'm probably going to be shopping in stores like Forever 21 until I'm 60.0 -
Honor and obey. Did we all forget our marriage vows? If my hubby says no to something I'm wearing because it bothers him, I'll go change into something less sexy. If you love your SO, you shouldn't be flaunting to other guys, plain and simple.
"Obey" wasn't actually in my vows, we left that one out since women aren't property anymore.
It wasn't in my vows because my husband knows I run things.
...that's not actually true. We have a partnership where we both contribute and excel in different areas and, as such, no one needs to 'obey' the other.
Seriously! The only time I "obey" him is when he has the whip out. :smokin:
Well, it's about damn time someone finally caught on to what I was getting at. He is my Master and he owns me. I am his to do as he pleases.
Well now you have my full attention.
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