Is it okay to "flaunt"?
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Exactly. Wear what you feel good in, there's nothing wrong with being confident in your own body and flaunting it.Not wearing shorts to prevent others from feeling bad about themselves is like cutting your long hair off in case someone with short hair gets offended. Do what you want and don't worry about how others feel about the way you look. It's your body, don't cover yourself up. If other people are really that easily offended by your body, they can go blog about it. Not your problem.
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Seems like this might fit comfortably here...
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Well, if you want to dress like a high-schooler when you are clearly not... I guess that's your perogative.
I certainly wouldn't want to be mistaken for a teenager.0 -
I still think I am right.0
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I don't have a problem with what anyone else wants to wear. However I guess I could see it would depend on what the event/occasion is that someone's attending as to what's suitable.0
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Dear God not bare bellies!!!!! What next, bare ankles? The indecency of it all.
heading to your friend's house damn near 30 wearing a crop top and booty shorts, yes, it's tacky. nothing against bare bellies at appropriate places ie beach, pool parties, etc. You missed the point of my post. It's easy to flaunt and be classy about it. You don't go to a dinner party at your husband's friend's house dressed like you're 17.
I guess this means we can't be friends, because if you come over my place to eat it's a sea of short shorts and cropped tops.
I'll make a note to weep over my tackiness later.
If you and yours are comfortable dressing inappropriately more power to you. She asked for an opinion, I gave it. If you do not agree with my opinion, that's fine. No skin off my back. clearly I struck a nerve. :laugh:
Dressing inappropriately as determined by you, right? Its not an issue of your opinion, its an issue of stating your opinion as if it's a blanket statement that applies to all women, in all places, and show be followed because you said so. Should we all start sending you pictures of our intended outfits to make sure it doesn't meet your standard of tackiness?
:laugh: : Child, please. An opinion is a judgment or belief drawn and formed from ones own personal views and experiences. I didn't say that my opinion was fact, it is simply my opinion, a belief, and or judgement. If I think someone looks like tacky and classless, due to their choice of outfit in a particular sitting, that's my belief. You can not negate what I believe because it does fit your opinion. :laugh: Let your tacky flag fly in booty shorts and crop tops at your functions, if that is the situational norm. No skin off my nose. Where I come from that is not the situational norm, therefore I view it as tacky. :laugh:
When I am stating something as my opinion, I usually say 'In My Opinion' or IMO for short. Not state it as a fact (which is what you did).0 -
I will honestly say what I think of some women I know who dress like this in inappropriate circumstances, and some even older than you, in their 50s and 60s, I think they are usually narcissists, almost always attention *kitten*, and it is just kind of pathetic...like they are like some fading actress or model who can't deal with aging, like they are really insecure and they are putting too much of their identity in their body image. Many of these women also use botox (which I have always thought is kind of stupid...if I am having a conversation with you and you have no expression lines, I think...oh, he/she is using botox, even young people have expression lines). I mean really, do they think we are all idiots not to realize that?
I understand being proud of being even lighter than your high school weight, wanting to show you can still wear those clothes and look good in them, etc., but if you don't do it in the appropriate circumstances I think many people will have the same reaction as me, wow, that is pretty ridiculous! I certainly would not be impressed, sorry. Now, if you wore something hot and appropriate? Then I would think, man, it would be great to look like that.
Christie Brinkley posed on a magazine cover in a bikini in her 60's and looked great, and that is great, my goal is high school weight and looking great in a bikini too, but I don't see her walking around dressed like Daisy Duke. There are right times and places for everything.
I assure you that Christie Brinkley uses lots of Botox. But as for the part of your post in bold... :huh:0 -
What is wrong with being an attention *kitten* and what makes it pathetic?0
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I always thought the Dukes of Hazzard was a silly show, and I would think it was hysterical, regardless of what you think, I haven't seen women walking around dressed like that for a long, long time, not in my neck of the woods...you don't really get what I would find so funny about it, so I won't bother.Sad and pathetic is, interestingly enough, how I feel about your post. Someone who has to resort to "Well, I'm not the ONLY one who feels this way" as justification for a negative practice or who "laughs outright" at someone for what they wear? Doesn't strike me as a happy and confident person.
Again, I am not the only one who feels this way was about people I personally know, and I heard what other people I personally know say...things like oh, she dresses ridiculous, but she is a really nice person. Not absolutely terrible things, but it definitely affects the way people perceive you.
I don't care what you wear, but she came on here and asked opinions, and I gave an honest one, which you obviously do not like, did I hit a nerve or something?
I am sorry, but as women age they should think about it a little more. It is probable that if you are 30 or 40 something and you are trying to dress like a teenager, it might embarrass your kids, husband, etc., so unless you are single, you should be considerate of how your family feels too. My son would have been mortified if I picked him up at school like that when I was in my 30's.
This woman's husband had class to say something about it. My husband would sure as the sun rises say something to me in a situation like that.
Don't tell me I have to think it is alright, I feel the same way when I see a guy with jeans hanging down past his underwear line, it looks ridiculous.0 -
What is wrong with being an attention *kitten* and what makes it pathetic?
Oh you.
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What is wrong with being an attention *kitten* and what makes it pathetic?
Nothing. Attention is one of my top 3 favorite things.0 -
I always thought the Dukes of Hazzard was a silly show, and I would think it was hysterical, regardless of what you think, I haven't seen women walking around dressed like that for a long, long time, not in my neck of the woods...you don't really get what I would find so funny about it, so I won't bother.Sad and pathetic is, interestingly enough, how I feel about your post. Someone who has to resort to "Well, I'm not the ONLY one who feels this way" as justification for a negative practice or who "laughs outright" at someone for what they wear? Doesn't strike me as a happy and confident person.
Again, I am not the only one who feels this way was about people I personally know, and I heard what other people I personally know say...things like oh, she dresses ridiculous, but she is a really nice person. Not absolutely terrible things, but it definitely affects the way people perceive you.
I don't care what you wear, but she came on here and asked opinions, and I gave an honest one, which you obviously do not like, did I hit a nerve or something?
I am sorry, but as women age they should think about it a little more. It is probable that if you are 30 or 40 something and you are trying to dress like a teenager, it might embarrass your kids, husband, etc., so unless you are single, you should be considerate of how your family feels too. My son would have been mortified if I picked him up at school like that when I was in my 30's.
This woman's husband had class to say something about it. My husband would sure as the sun rises say something to me in a situation like that.
Don't tell me I have to think it is alright, I feel the same way when I see a guy with jeans hanging down past his underwear line, it looks ridiculous.
I assume you likewise won't tell me I have to think what you said is alright and that I'm allowed to think you're ridiculous?0 -
I always thought the Dukes of Hazzard was a silly show, and I would think it was hysterical, regardless of what you think, I haven't seen women walking around dressed like that for a long, long time, not in my neck of the woods...you don't really get what I would find so funny about it, so I won't bother.Sad and pathetic is, interestingly enough, how I feel about your post. Someone who has to resort to "Well, I'm not the ONLY one who feels this way" as justification for a negative practice or who "laughs outright" at someone for what they wear? Doesn't strike me as a happy and confident person.
Again, I am not the only one who feels this way was about people I personally know, and I heard what other people I personally know say...things like oh, she dresses ridiculous, but she is a really nice person. Not absolutely terrible things, but it definitely affects the way people perceive you.
I don't care what you wear, but she came on here and asked opinions, and I gave an honest one, which you obviously do not like, did I hit a nerve or something?
I am sorry, but as women age they should think about it a little more. It is probable that if you are 30 or 40 something and you are trying to dress like a teenager, it might embarrass your kids, husband, etc., so unless you are single, you should be considerate of how your family feels too. My son would have been mortified if I picked him up at school like that when I was in my 30's.
This woman's husband had class to say something about it. My husband would sure as the sun rises say something to me in a situation like that.
Don't tell me I have to think it is alright, I feel the same way when I see a guy with jeans hanging down past his underwear line, it looks ridiculous.
I assume you likewise won't tell me I have to think what you said is alright and that I'm allowed to think you're ridiculous?
I am actually laughing at her post.
Pointing and laughing.0 -
Is this where I go to be judged? Am I in the right place?0
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I always thought the Dukes of Hazzard was a silly show, and I would think it was hysterical, regardless of what you think, I haven't seen women walking around dressed like that for a long, long time, not in my neck of the woods...you don't really get what I would find so funny about it, so I won't bother.Sad and pathetic is, interestingly enough, how I feel about your post. Someone who has to resort to "Well, I'm not the ONLY one who feels this way" as justification for a negative practice or who "laughs outright" at someone for what they wear? Doesn't strike me as a happy and confident person.
Again, I am not the only one who feels this way was about people I personally know, and I heard what other people I personally know say...things like oh, she dresses ridiculous, but she is a really nice person. Not absolutely terrible things, but it definitely affects the way people perceive you.
I don't care what you wear, but she came on here and asked opinions, and I gave an honest one, which you obviously do not like, did I hit a nerve or something?
I am sorry, but as women age they should think about it a little more. It is probable that if you are 30 or 40 something and you are trying to dress like a teenager, it might embarrass your kids, husband, etc., so unless you are single, you should be considerate of how your family feels too. My son would have been mortified if I picked him up at school like that when I was in my 30's.
This woman's husband had class to say something about it. My husband would sure as the sun rises say something to me in a situation like that.
Don't tell me I have to think it is alright, I feel the same way when I see a guy with jeans hanging down past his underwear line, it looks ridiculous.
I assume you likewise won't tell me I have to think what you said is alright and that I'm allowed to think you're ridiculous?
I am actually laughing at her post.
Pointing and laughing.
I'm mostly laughing at the idea of letting my husband have a say in my wardrobe. If he had his way I'd be dressed like a cat girl or like this
All the time.0 -
Is this where I go to be judged? Am I in the right place?
Yes.
Can I see you in a midriff and short shorts?0 -
Is this where I go to be judged? Am I in the right place?
Yes.
Can I see you in a midriff and short shorts?
Just about every Saturday night.
Wait, what?
:huh:
Never mind.
I've already said too much.0 -
I always thought the Dukes of Hazzard was a silly show, and I would think it was hysterical, regardless of what you think, I haven't seen women walking around dressed like that for a long, long time, not in my neck of the woods...you don't really get what I would find so funny about it, so I won't bother.Sad and pathetic is, interestingly enough, how I feel about your post. Someone who has to resort to "Well, I'm not the ONLY one who feels this way" as justification for a negative practice or who "laughs outright" at someone for what they wear? Doesn't strike me as a happy and confident person.
Again, I am not the only one who feels this way was about people I personally know, and I heard what other people I personally know say...things like oh, she dresses ridiculous, but she is a really nice person. Not absolutely terrible things, but it definitely affects the way people perceive you.
I don't care what you wear, but she came on here and asked opinions, and I gave an honest one, which you obviously do not like, did I hit a nerve or something?
I am sorry, but as women age they should think about it a little more. It is probable that if you are 30 or 40 something and you are trying to dress like a teenager, it might embarrass your kids, husband, etc., so unless you are single, you should be considerate of how your family feels too. My son would have been mortified if I picked him up at school like that when I was in my 30's.
This woman's husband had class to say something about it. My husband would sure as the sun rises say something to me in a situation like that.
Don't tell me I have to think it is alright, I feel the same way when I see a guy with jeans hanging down past his underwear line, it looks ridiculous.
I assume you likewise won't tell me I have to think what you said is alright and that I'm allowed to think you're ridiculous?
I am actually laughing at her post.
Pointing and laughing.
I'm mostly laughing at the idea of letting my husband have a say in my wardrobe. If he had his way I'd be dressed like a cat girl or like this
All the time.
Am I correct in assuming from the way you said that, that you are dressed like that some of the time? Or am I reading too much into this?0 -
I always thought the Dukes of Hazzard was a silly show, and I would think it was hysterical, regardless of what you think, I haven't seen women walking around dressed like that for a long, long time, not in my neck of the woods...you don't really get what I would find so funny about it, so I won't bother.Sad and pathetic is, interestingly enough, how I feel about your post. Someone who has to resort to "Well, I'm not the ONLY one who feels this way" as justification for a negative practice or who "laughs outright" at someone for what they wear? Doesn't strike me as a happy and confident person.
Again, I am not the only one who feels this way was about people I personally know, and I heard what other people I personally know say...things like oh, she dresses ridiculous, but she is a really nice person. Not absolutely terrible things, but it definitely affects the way people perceive you.
I don't care what you wear, but she came on here and asked opinions, and I gave an honest one, which you obviously do not like, did I hit a nerve or something?
I am sorry, but as women age they should think about it a little more. It is probable that if you are 30 or 40 something and you are trying to dress like a teenager, it might embarrass your kids, husband, etc., so unless you are single, you should be considerate of how your family feels too. My son would have been mortified if I picked him up at school like that when I was in my 30's.
This woman's husband had class to say something about it. My husband would sure as the sun rises say something to me in a situation like that.
Don't tell me I have to think it is alright, I feel the same way when I see a guy with jeans hanging down past his underwear line, it looks ridiculous.
I assume you likewise won't tell me I have to think what you said is alright and that I'm allowed to think you're ridiculous?
I am actually laughing at her post.
Pointing and laughing.
I'm mostly laughing at the idea of letting my husband have a say in my wardrobe. If he had his way I'd be dressed like a cat girl or like this
All the time.
Am I correct in assuming from the way you said that, that you are dressed like that some of the time? Or am I reading too much into this?
Opps. I think I've said too much.0 -
I always thought the Dukes of Hazzard was a silly show, and I would think it was hysterical, regardless of what you think, I haven't seen women walking around dressed like that for a long, long time, not in my neck of the woods...you don't really get what I would find so funny about it, so I won't bother.Sad and pathetic is, interestingly enough, how I feel about your post. Someone who has to resort to "Well, I'm not the ONLY one who feels this way" as justification for a negative practice or who "laughs outright" at someone for what they wear? Doesn't strike me as a happy and confident person.
Again, I am not the only one who feels this way was about people I personally know, and I heard what other people I personally know say...things like oh, she dresses ridiculous, but she is a really nice person. Not absolutely terrible things, but it definitely affects the way people perceive you.
I don't care what you wear, but she came on here and asked opinions, and I gave an honest one, which you obviously do not like, did I hit a nerve or something?
I am sorry, but as women age they should think about it a little more. It is probable that if you are 30 or 40 something and you are trying to dress like a teenager, it might embarrass your kids, husband, etc., so unless you are single, you should be considerate of how your family feels too. My son would have been mortified if I picked him up at school like that when I was in my 30's.
This woman's husband had class to say something about it. My husband would sure as the sun rises say something to me in a situation like that.
Don't tell me I have to think it is alright, I feel the same way when I see a guy with jeans hanging down past his underwear line, it looks ridiculous.
I assume you likewise won't tell me I have to think what you said is alright and that I'm allowed to think you're ridiculous?
I am actually laughing at her post.
Pointing and laughing.
I'm mostly laughing at the idea of letting my husband have a say in my wardrobe. If he had his way I'd be dressed like a cat girl or like this
All the time.
Am I correct in assuming from the way you said that, that you are dressed like that some of the time? Or am I reading too much into this?
Opps. I think I've said too much.
Waitwaitwait....
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I meant women who come off like they are desperately trying to hang onto their youth...I don't like the trend and pressure on women in this society to look "young", I believe in aging gracefully. It also really irks me when they try to get me to do it too, my acquaintance who has been using botox since age 45 for about 10 years: "are you ever going to use it?" Me: "no, it looks fake", her "why?" Me: "because people are meant to have expression lines, even young people have them".What is wrong with being an attention *kitten* and what makes it pathetic?
As for being an attention *kitten*, it is not something I respect. I respect people who don't feel they have to behave that way, who can just be who they are without being like, look at me, look at me, I am so great, hey, look at me! I guess social media has made that a thing, but I don't have to like it. But define attention *kitten*, if a woman posts a picture of herself on here in a bikini after she has worked hard to get in shape, I am cheering her on, men too. If they walk around scantily clad in an inappropriate setting, I am going to think they must be insecure and want attention. I just don't respect that and I never will.0 -
There is no "flaunt" in my book.
I wear what I want, when I want. I don't judge nor do my friends. Who the person is inside is 1000x more important than what they wear...0 -
Just my personal opinion = wear whatever you damn want. At the end of the day it's your body and everyone has unique styles which is brilliant, life would be boring if we all adhered to everyone else's tastes and traditions. I wouldn't ever let anyone tell me I couldn't wear something because appearances shouldn't be high priority.0
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There is no "flaunt" in my book.
I wear what I want, when I want. I don't judge nor do my friends. Who the person is inside is 1000x more important than what they wear...
Basically this0 -
I flaunt all the time, if you feel comfortable in your own skin then do it. I do not strut around acting like I am better than others but I am in my 20's. I know that when I get older I won't be able to wear shorts like I do now. I am conservative and respect others on the way I flaunt and what I wear but I also hold my head held high. I have worked hard for my body and that is the only thing that I have that's mine.0
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Meh! It's still all comes down to appropriate for the situation. That's why most companies have guidelines for dress codes.
Its not rocket science! If someone over the age of 18 can't suss out what's acceptable & what's not then there isn't much hope for them.0 -
I definitely think there's something to be said about "aging gracefully", and dressing in a classy, sophisticated manner. However I also think it's okay to not get a **** and wear something because you feel good or it's hot. I do NOT think it's okay to point and laugh at someone or to judge them as pathetic based on what they are wearing, if for example they are dressing "young". And the OP is 29 not 60! She just lost a lot of weight and she's proud of herself. Good for her. I offered her some advice on a more fashionable (in my opinion) way to wear the clothing she had but I wouldn't judge or laugh at her for wearing the outfit described. I probably not have even noticed her, or found her out of the ordinary (unless it was cold).
For some women aging is really hard on their self esteem and yes, it would be awesome to say "everyone ages, it's okay". Even for me, I am a confident women who knows that very little of my life depends on my appearance. My job does not, the love of my family does not, but I look in the mirror and I see the skin on my face getting loose. I see the "jowls" my mother had starting to form and I can't help but panic a bit. "Aging gracefully" is ****ing hard. You have no idea what is going on in some one's head. If grasping for a little youth in fashion makes them feel better, good for them (and again I don't think this applies to the OP). If they are fit and healthy and want to show off even if that means wearing something I might deem as "teenager" fashion, whatever. Good for them for being healthy and fit later in life (50+). I have no examples of that in my own family and I think it's awesome.
I just don't get why someone wouldn't want to be a better person. Try not to judge.0 -
I'm nearing 37 and I wear mid thigh shorts and I don't particularly care if that bothers someone else. It doesn't bother me.0
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Honestly, if you are happy and confident, flaunt away. But I would be extra sure this has to do with showing too much skin/making other's jealous and not dressing a wee bit young/immature. Seeing somebody in a crop top and short shorts would read as very young to me. Not saying you don't have the bod for it or that you automatically have to wear turtlenecks after high school, but If you are 30ish... it might be time to choose one or the other when you are going out somewhere that isn't the beach or pool. I would guess it's easier for your husband to say "Honey, you look so good, stop showing off!" than say "Honey, we're embarrassed to be seen with you because you're dressing like somebody half your age".
Again though, I think it's your body and you should dress how you are comfortable.0 -
I definitely think there's something to be said about "aging gracefully", and dressing in a classy, sophisticated manner. However I also think it's okay to not get a **** and wear something because you feel good or it's hot. I do NOT think it's okay to point and laugh at someone or to judge them as pathetic based on what they are wearing, if for example they are dressing "young". And the OP is 29 not 60! She just lost a lot of weight and she's proud of herself. Good for her. I offered her some advice on a more fashionable (in my opinion) way to wear the clothing she had but I wouldn't judge or laugh at her for wearing the outfit described. I probably not have even noticed her, or found her out of the ordinary (unless it was cold).
For some women aging is really hard on their self esteem and yes, it would be awesome to say "everyone ages, it's okay". Even for me, I am a confident women who knows that very little of my life depends on my appearance. My job does not, the love of my family does not, but I look in the mirror and I see the skin on my face getting loose. I see the "jowls" my mother had starting to form and I can't help but panic a bit. "Aging gracefully" is ****ing hard. You have no idea what is going on in some one's head. If grasping for a little youth in fashion makes them feel better, good for them (and again I don't think this applies to the OP). If they are fit and healthy and want to show off even if that means wearing something I might deem as "teenager" fashion, whatever. Good for them for being healthy and fit later in life (50+). I have no examples of that in my own family and I think it's awesome.
I just don't get why someone wouldn't want to be a better person. Try not to judge.
Winning post right here! ^^^
I agree with every point made here.
I actually had a woman in her 50's point and laugh at me for wearing a very pretty non-flaunty dress to a karaoke bar...its white and floor-length and I felt like dressing up...nothing was wrong with me...but something was wrong with her attitude.
Opinions don't have to be hateful..they can be kind, well thought out, and considerate of the person's feelings you are giving your opinion to.0
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