how would you feel?

EddieHaskell97

Pregnant or not, if you said no strip clubs and he went, this is a relationship issue! I'm willing to bet this isn't the only issue in the relationship. Time to take an honest look at the relationship . . .

Good Luck!

Wow! "If you said no strip clubs and he went", this is absolutely a relationship issue! He's got a woman who thinks that she owns him and is a dictator. Instead of being a partner in an equal, communicative, healthy relationship, he's got a ogress with delusions of godhood. Now, from the OP's intro, it sounds more like a request, but the follow-up quoted above frames it as an order...

Dang, after being "forbidden" from going, I'd be surprised if he didn't go motorboating during 20 lapdances just to clearly demonstrate, "Yes, strip clubs! You're not the boss of me!" out of spite.

I don't like strip joints. To me, they're a total waste of money, too loud, etc... I'm sorry to read that it's an issue for either party. That said, it sounds like both sides need some work with lots of issues, and a marriage counselor would be the appropriate mediator, not the denizens of MFP, IMHO.

ninerbuff

Maybe you're really mad because he paid for a haircut. Should have came free of charge.

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wheird

Okay, my opinion on this one is a bit extreme one way so you take it how you want, or just leave it.

I wouldn't care if I was pregnant or not, what the circumstances were or what his excuse was - If I told him not to go and he went, I would be pissed! If he were ever in a place like that without my knowing/my consent there would be some problems afterwards.
This being said, I don't think I would ever give my man permission to be in a place like that and if you knew my husband you would know he is the type that has absolutely zero desire to be in a place like that. He was in the Army 8 years and was exposed to things like that constantly and he avoided them like the plague. So, if my husband went somewhere like that I would really have to question who he was.

Lol. I bet you also make your husband sit down to pee so he doesn't dribble on the toilet rim.

baba_helly

I just Googled strip club barbers and this is a real thing. How did I not know about this before?

Oh and i agree with what odus said exactly just so I'm being helpful to OP and not just everyone in this thread wondering if they really can get a haircut at a strip club.

_Pseudonymous_

... who doesn't get his haircut by half naked women!

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ponycyndi

I don't make a habit of telling my husband where he isn't "allowed" to go, and I appreciate the same courtesy from him. I also don't make it a habit to copulate with a man who likes to go to strip clubs.

odusgolp

I don't make a habit of telling my husband where he isn't "allowed" to go, and I appreciate the same courtesy from him. I also don't make it a habit to copulate with a man who likes to go to strip clubs.

But... what about topless hair salons??? Cause that's nothing short of awesome.

doctorsookie

I'd be pissed that he didn't take me with him.

Exactly, I keep telling my fiance I want to take him to one but he is too chicken. LOL:laugh:

However... I completely understand you OP, if you ask him not to do it and he still does, that is heartless. But at least he isn't doing it behind your back.

Kamikazeflutterby

I wouldn't be able to look my husband in the eye if he did something like that. It's hard to look at people and convulse in laughter at the same time.

SSAHM

Yea everybody I did not even see the twist of the Mr-t haircut coming. I nearly died wheb he walked thru the door. Like seriously what sort of strip club does topless haircuts. I couldn't believe it when the paper had a story about it on the net.

And for the people saying I should have gone with him. Yea I probably normally would have. In fact I had been saying for a long time before I got pregnant about us going together because Id love to but it never happened. We'd both never been before so part of me is kinda pissed that he went with his mates.

Other part of me was really upset because it was just sprung on us. Like he was ready and gone within half hour of the call. And yes it's probably my own insecurities. But when your pregnant you don't always feel pretty and when ya partners going to look at other girls naked bodies it kinda makes it worse. That kinda really hurt me alot and that's why I asked him not to go.

LoraF83

It was a last minute thing. He's mate rang and said he and his missus had tickets to go to the titti bar. In all honesty my partner asked me to go with but I don't believe it's a place for a pregnant woman. In saying this I said is it a titti bar which here is just topless barmaids or the strip club. He said titti bar and he still in his drunkenness saya that's where he believed he was going to. I wasn't happy about him even going there because to be honest I don't think it's appropriate that I'm at hone with our 2 children and pregnant and he's going to look at other women's body's. I asked him not to go but he wanted to go anyway. I specifically said we'll don't go anywhere near the strip club.
Anyway apparently his mate meant the strip club. I didn't find this out until much later. They said they were going for 2-3 hours and come back after about 6ish. Anyway he spent way more money then he was supposed to. I rang him while he was out and told him to stop getting money out. He said he was getting a haircut. When I got off the phone I looked up titti bar haircuts and it so happens the strip club does topless haircuts. He swears she had lingerie on though and that his 2 friends were in the room. So he come home with a kinda Mr-t style haircut sides are shaved with a razor he has a pretty long strip right down the middle of his head. I hate it.

That's the full story.

The strip club isn't the problem here. It's just a symptom of your other issues.

Deal with those. Get some counseling maybe?

AtticWindow

Ok ladies would you feel if you were at home pregnant and your partner went to the strippers when you specifically asked them not to?

And guys what do you think from a man's point of view?

Did he say WHAT kind of strip club this was?

I would go to a Supernatural strip club in a heartbeat.

Oi_Sunshine

He's spending the family money in a way that violates your trust. I say it's time for a nice pricy day at the spa and shopping spree. Don't forget to show some body parts to different men for good measure. Cuz equality.

DopeItUp

You'll get over it.

Operation_Shred

Strip clubs rock my socks... and make me pitch a tent. I'm all for it.

Christizzzle

I'd be pissed that he didn't take me with him.

This!

RaspberryKeytoneBoondoggle

When I was in my twenties and insecure about my appearance and my relationship, I would have tried to be all controlling and bossy. My husband would have just ignored me and assumed that he was an adult capable of making his own decisions. Eventually I would have had to let it go because feeling angry would only hurt me, and make him think that I'm irrational or experiencing TOM.

Now that I'm in my forties, I wouldn't tell him not to go because I think I'm beautiful and that out relationship is strong. If I did forbid him to go, I would feel stupid and ashamed of myself for trying to control that wonderful, sexy, grown-up man of mine:)

firstsip

Yea everybody I did not even see the twist of the Mr-t haircut coming. I nearly died wheb he walked thru the door. Like seriously what sort of strip club does topless haircuts. I couldn't believe it when the paper had a story about it on the net.

And for the people saying I should have gone with him. Yea I probably normally would have. In fact I had been saying for a long time before I got pregnant about us going together because Id love to but it never happened. We'd both never been before so part of me is kinda pissed that he went with his mates.

Other part of me was really upset because it was just sprung on us. Like he was ready and gone within half hour of the call. And yes it's probably my own insecurities. But when your pregnant you don't always feel pretty and when ya partners going to look at other girls naked bodies it kinda makes it worse. That kinda really hurt me alot and that's why I asked him not to go.

Interestingly, I wonder if part of you being upset is because you didn't go together? Girl, you can still go with that baby in you!

The suddenness might be the jarring aspect of why you're upset, and if you had just asked him not to go within minutes of these spontaneous plans, I can also see him not really processing why it's an issue with you... particularly if you haven't shared your feelings with him like you have with us.

I do wonder, though; if you knew for weeks he was going, would you have been as upset, or do you think you would have stewed over it more?

SSAHM

It was a last minute thing. He's mate rang and said he and his missus had tickets to go to the titti bar. In all honesty my partner asked me to go with but I don't believe it's a place for a pregnant woman. In saying this I said is it a titti bar which here is just topless barmaids or the strip club. He said titti bar and he still in his drunkenness saya that's where he believed he was going to. I wasn't happy about him even going there because to be honest I don't think it's appropriate that I'm at hone with our 2 children and pregnant and he's going to look at other women's body's. I asked him not to go but he wanted to go anyway. I specifically said we'll don't go anywhere near the strip club.
Anyway apparently his mate meant the strip club. I didn't find this out until much later. They said they were going for 2-3 hours and come back after about 6ish. Anyway he spent way more money then he was supposed to. I rang him while he was out and told him to stop getting money out. He said he was getting a haircut. When I got off the phone I looked up titti bar haircuts and it so happens the strip club does topless haircuts. He swears she had lingerie on though and that his 2 friends were in the room. So he come home with a kinda Mr-t style haircut sides are shaved with a razor he has a pretty long strip right down the middle of his head. I hate it.

That's the full story.

HOW ARE YOU NOT LAUGHING AT A MR T HAIRCUT FROM A TOPLESS CHICK????

OMG, I'd piss myself.




But anyhow, sounds like what you're really feeling is disrespected. The nudity itself isn't really the issue. It's the lying to you, lack of communication, money you didn't have to spend on other women's tittis, etc.


But still... HOW ARE YOU NOT LAUGHING??


Talk to him. I'd actually be more mad about the dishonesty than anything.

Thankyou. You've actually put into words how I feel. I do feel betrayed and really pissed that he did not give two ****s about how it made me feel.

And the the Mr-t haircut sooooooo not funny if I actually forgive him for being an *kitten* I'll have to put a paper bag over his head just to sleep with him