Being hit on/flirted with?

TX_Thundercat

Is it too much to ask for a slap on the *kitten* and a free pizza from a stranger every so often?

C'mere you!

morekettlebell

Too many people confuse being nice with flirting now-a-days

That is soooooo true. I am a southerner and we talk to everyone. When I moved away from Alabama I noticed that people always thought I was flirting when I was really just being friendly. I guess some parts of the country think you are either flirting or that you want something from them when you talk to them.

So true, southern girls and boys are just being nice sometimes!!!

But to answer the thread....Being flirted with is flattering as long as it isn't an obnoxious attempt to sleep with you.
Complimenting someone on the body they have worked so hard to achieve or maintain should be well received and I choose to take that approach.

DOM4U

Too many people confuse being nice with flirting

Too many people confuse flirting with being nice

There I fixed it

brianmccon

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DOM4U

Y ask y

Galatea_Stone

Too many people confuse being nice with flirting now-a-days

That is soooooo true. I am a southerner and we talk to everyone. When I moved away from Alabama I noticed that people always thought I was flirting when I was really just being friendly. I guess some parts of the country think you are either flirting or that you want something from them when you talk to them.

So true, southern girls and boys are just being nice sometimes!!!

But to answer the thread....Being flirted with is flattering as long as it isn't an obnoxious attempt to sleep with you.
Complimenting someone on the body they have worked so hard to achieve or maintain should be well received and I choose to take that approach.

Having spent most of my formative years, and then some, in the South, Southern men are well versed in the art of flirting, and so are Southern women. Some of them flirt all the time. Constantly even. The kicker is that some of them don't know how to shut it off, but others are experts at it. They say "I was just being nice…." but then you hear them talk to their friends or to a man or woman they aren't attracted to, and it's an entirely different ballgame. Some of them can even drop the deep south accent in less than a breath.

That dog don't hunt. Of course, flirting really just means chatting up a pretty woman or a good-looking man, and making flattering remarks. You don't have to have any ulterior motives. And in most cases, once the talking stops, nobody even thinks about the other person.

TL;DR version: BS. The woman* just flirts a lot because it's ingrained in her* by being raised in the South.

Edit because it helps to go up and check that this is a conversation between two southern women well versed in the art of flirting.

dakotababy

It makes me feel special as it rarely happens. It shocked me the first few times that someone found me attractive on here because I had never really heard that before.

IMO it is nice to go from feeling average-to-not good looking and start feeling like you may be reasonably attractive.

Really? You're adorable.

^Agreed.

I dont really know how I feel about being hit on. In the moment, I feel uncomfortable. Once I turn them down...I feel pretty awesome! (I typically turn down guys because I already have a boyfriend that I am completely loyal to.)

tjthegreatone

I'm a t-rex! No one flirts with me on here :laugh:

In real life...too impervious to know if/when it happens. By my reckoning, no one's hit on me in the last 10 years but logically that can't be true so I'm probably just blind or too busy worrying if my shirt's inside-out or underwear showing when people stare/smile at me.

wheird

Is it too much to ask for a slap on the *kitten* and a free pizza from a stranger every so often?

C'mere you!

*flings himself towards you*

emtjmac

I hate it when other people interact with me in any way. I'm totally with you on this.

NYactor1

I hate it when other people interact with me in any way. I'm totally with you on this.

Agree ...I hate it when people are nice and might possibly like me.

VoodooSyxx

I'm a t-rex! No one flirts with me on here :laugh:

In real life...too impervious to know if/when it happens. By my reckoning, no one's hit on me in the last 10 years but logically that can't be true so I'm probably just blind or too busy worrying if my shirt's inside-out or underwear showing when people stare/smile at me.

Yo t-rex, puttin some pants on will fix that.

karmac0matic

Lol at all the advice. I was just curious on others' opinion on it yet I get hit with all this advice I never asked for! I can obviously handle the flirting, I'm just saying I don't like it. Not saying "how do I deal with it?" Because I know how to deal, I don't have an issue hearing it to be honest, it's just not preferable to small talk for me ...

LOL thanks for the advice I guess?

I hate flirting.
Unless the one flirting I find attractive.


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Am I right?

I think you're right.

Still makes me feel very unsettled.

tjthegreatone

I'm a t-rex! No one flirts with me on here :laugh:

In real life...too impervious to know if/when it happens. By my reckoning, no one's hit on me in the last 10 years but logically that can't be true so I'm probably just blind or too busy worrying if my shirt's inside-out or underwear showing when people stare/smile at me.

Yo t-rex, puttin some pants on will fix that.

True

TX_Thundercat

Lol at all the advice. I was just curious on others' opinion on it yet I get hit with all this advice I never asked for! I can obviously handle the flirting, I'm just saying I don't like it. Not saying "how do I deal with it?" Because I know how to deal, I don't have an issue hearing it to be honest, it's just not preferable to small talk for me ...

LOL thanks for the advice I guess?

I hate flirting.
Unless the one flirting I find attractive.


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Am I right?

I think you're right.

Still makes me feel very unsettled.

CardiC333

I don't mind some sexual tension and eye contact but the verbal stuff is like whomp whomp too real.

xkissylou

Oh I hate being hit on and flirted with!! It means that someone likes me/ thinks I'm hot/cute etc. Psh, most annoying thing ever. Just go away!!

VoodooSyxx

Oh I hate being hit on and flirted with!! It means that someone likes me/ thinks I'm hot/cute etc. Psh, most annoying thing ever. Just go away!!

Says she hates the attention. Has 2/3 pics of a fairly impressive rear. I'm a bit skeptical of her claims

mike_ny

Being hit on or flirted with? That'snot something I'd ever expect to happen to me. Just lucky, I guess.

krisjackson31105

Oh I hate being hit on and flirted with!! It means that someone likes me/ thinks I'm hot/cute etc. Psh, most annoying thing ever. Just go away!!

Says she hates the attention. Has 2/3 pics of a fairly impressive rear. I'm a bit skeptical of her claims

Yeah I think she was being sarcastic and I agree she does have a nice caboose.

krisjackson31105

I don't even get compliments much less get flirted with or hit on.I guess there is nothing to compliment me for.I don't really expect it since I am fat and ugly but I am working on the fat part just cannot do anything about the ugly lol.

TX_Thundercat

Oh I hate being hit on and flirted with!! It means that someone likes me/ thinks I'm hot/cute etc. Psh, most annoying thing ever. Just go away!!

Says she hates the attention. Has 2/3 pics of a fairly impressive rear. I'm a bit skeptical of her claims

Strictly for progess tracking purposes only.

uggins311

I never get hit on or flirted with, but I would say it just depends on the strategy used to hit on someone. Some guys just ruin it for the rest of us with their overly creepy comments and looks in their eyes. But then again, if someone is posting pics of themselves with barely anything on, or gets hit on in person while wearing barely nothing, I would have to ask, why are you wearing something that is meant to grab attention. And keep in mind that the attention that was grabbed may not be the kind you are after.

And what constitutes a woman hitting on a guy? Believe it or not ladies, most guys don't have a clue when you are. That is why they think that when you ask a simple question, that you want them.

xkissylou

Oh I hate being hit on and flirted with!! It means that someone likes me/ thinks I'm hot/cute etc. Psh, most annoying thing ever. Just go away!!

Says she hates the attention. Has 2/3 pics of a fairly impressive rear. I'm a bit skeptical of her claims

Strictly for progess tracking purposes only.

Of course!

krisjackson31105

Very nice progression it has been lol.

JamieJam1102

I hate it when other people interact with me in any way. I'm totally with you on this.

Agree ...I hate it when people are nice and might possibly like me.

Seconded. IRL I live in a cave, and so I use MFP to fulfill my masochistic tendencies.

DonaldSterlingFan

Not sure who this krisjackson fellow is but I think it's quite ironic that this is a thread about flirting and how it makes some people uncomfortable, and then here comes krisjackson trying to seduce innocent young women on the forums.

Anyways, I'm quite indifferent about flirting. I could completely understand why females of the opposite sex may want to flirt with me (I realize why every time I look in the mirror LOL) but at the same time, I don't know man. I think I deserve my privacy in the gym as I train like a rabid raccoon every day (up to 3 times a day), but on the other hand, if I want to slap an attractive girl's *kitten* in the gym I see no reason why I shouldn't be able to.

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vasairiah

Innocent flirting and being hit on is certainly fun and flattering. There is a fine line though between flirty and creepy though.

I think some people just tend to be flirty in their interactions in general.

^^agree. You can have it be fun and flirty without wanting to go further. Getting compliments is always nice to receive from anyone.

Personally, the whole "wanna kik" thing is creepy...

uggins311

Innocent flirting and being hit on is certainly fun and flattering. There is a fine line though between flirty and creepy though.

I think some people just tend to be flirty in their interactions in general.

^^agree. You can have it be fun and flirty without wanting to go further. Getting compliments is always nice to receive from anyone.

Personally, the whole "wanna kik" thing is creepy...

Wanna kik?? hahaha, just playing.

Where would you fellow peoples say the majority of creepy flirting happens, online or in person? Context and tone is kind of hard to figure out in written communications, but i seem to see more aggressive "flirting" online. Not necessarily towards me, but towards anyone's FB page, Twitter, Tumblr, etc, etc, that I know.