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    what mean/thoughtless comment has been said to you before?

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    • Posts: 233 Member
      I've been called a lot of things, but none were as embarrassing as when I asked this kid to the dance in seventh grade. I thought he'd be nice to me, but instead he said something along the lines of "No, because if I go out with you people will laugh at me." A few days later, during a relay race, he also stole my spot on the relay team because apparently I was too fat to run. I was like fifteen pounds overweight .__.
    • Posts: 413 Member
      At my son's birthday party, my husband took a cupcake from my hand and said, "Do you really think you need that?"
      ^^This, my hubs can't eat certain sugars, so he at almost 40 still wears high school size clothes, and I have had him do this to me at family functions. It is humiliating. You better believe it was "discussed".
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      Thank you.

      I came back to generally apologize for being a d*ck on this thread. I had no business being on the internet last night and it showed. I was genuinely trying to give my opinion but it came out pretty self righteous and obnoxious. So, I'm sorry.

      There was the usual few differences of opinions - I don't think you did anything wrong though to be honest
    • Posts: 116 Member
      After being super excited about losing a lot of body fat. I had gone from 36% to 25%. The one person I expected to care the most, the one that had been most adamant about the effort I was making to better myself, texted me this:

      "Its not like anyone will ever care anyways. You are old."

      ....I wanted to eat everything and die. However, I think it did more to solidify my resolve. I know I look better, I feel better, and now that I know what I did wrong I am slowly regaining strength from the muscle I lost.

      I will be the best version of me. It still hurts when I remember that or when people try to discourage me. This is not who I want to be. I will change that. And not just physically.
    • Posts: 595 Member
      When my dad met my boyfriend for the first time, he said "You a chubby chaser, then?" Thanks, dad. (A man who isn't exactly an Adonis...)

      Dear lord. Grown men say stuff like that?
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      I'd counter by saying - Im not sure why anyone would then feel the need to point out someone is fat. If we indeed all know - then does hurling an insult from a moving car help?

      There are plenty of things that people are - and know they are (different races, speech impediment, different religions, dress horribly, poor, mentally ill, developmentally challenged, ugly, scars, etc...) and it would be rude as **** to point that **** out to their face in most cases.

      A concerned family member is one thing - but random idiots - hell to the nah.

      Exactly. What does it add to the conversation by pointing it out. It's not like the person doesn't know and they're just waiting for someone to point it out to them.
    • Posts: 199 Member
      After gaining the college 40 (or whatever number it is) along with 4 pregnancies, I was an overweight adult whereas I was always a thin and fit child/teen. No one said a word to me about my weight. It was seen as normal, and baby weight that I never lost. There was ALWAYS an excuse from all family members about genetics, pregnancy, parenthood (eg: not enough time in the day to cook so take-out was an excellent choice), etc for why I am fat (along with the rest of my family and my husband's family) and why I need to stay that way.
      It wasn't until I lost all the excess "mama weight" and was FINALLY in a healthy weight range for my height
      (136lbs at my lowest, 5'7 - gained 20 lbs now since I am 20 weeks pregnant) that I heard, "YOU LOOK DISGUSTING!!!" "You MUST be anorexic because I can see your collar bones" "We're going to a buffet so you BETTER eat your money's worth (meaning that I MUST eat 3+ FULL plates)" "Ewww, all I can feel is bones when I hug you", etc etc
    • Posts: 104 Member
      I made the comment once that i needed new clothes, a family member asked me if I was going to see "Omar the Tent Builder" to get my clothes. They thought it was funny, I thought it was just mean.
    • Posts: 303 Member
      I know some people have been kind of harsh on this thread, saying they don't like the topic, but I do. I like knowing that other people were made fun of, judged by their family, and picked on by coworkers. Not that I WANT people to be be picked on, but it makes me feel not so alone in that regard. I guess it makes me feel less abnormal and somehow less embarrassed about being picked on.
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      Except underwear, change that at least once a week.

      That's hilarious haha I agree
    • Posts: 1,508 Member
      After being super excited about losing a lot of body fat. I had gone from 36% to 25%. The one person I expected to care the most, the one that had been most adamant about the effort I was making to better myself, texted me this:

      "Its not like anyone will ever care anyways. You are old."

      ....I wanted to eat everything and die. However, I think it did more to solidify my resolve. I know I look better, I feel better, and now that I know what I did wrong I am slowly regaining strength from the muscle I lost.

      I will be the best version of me. It still hurts when I remember that or when people try to discourage me. This is not who I want to be. I will change that. And not just physically.

      You are NOT old! I think you look fantastic btw :)
    • Posts: 52 Member
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      Women never are. Trust me.
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      Oh believe me I know that women can be the same way. Just coming out of an "I hate men" phase so don't mind me. I'm honestly just tired of shallow people in general.
    • Posts: 383 Member
      Husband told me I wasn't his type and that he was into fit girls.

      It's not really mean or thoughtless, but it sure hurt.
    • Posts: 52 Member
      Husband told me I wasn't his type and that he was into fit girls.

      It's not really mean or thoughtless, but it sure hurt.

      That qualifies as thoughtless to me...
    • Posts: 383 Member
      I guess I think of thoughtless as things people say that that are unintentionally hurtful, but I guess it can cover candid conversations that are held without regard to somebody else's feelings too.

      This was a candid statement that was solicited. I don't remember what the conversation was about anymore, though. Just that part of it. :(

      Edit: Ah wait, I remember now. It was about lingerie and why buying it didn't matter. Now I'm kinda sad again. I wish I hadn't thought about that.
    • Posts: 52 Member
      Without regard to somebody else's feeling - exactly. My college boyfriend also told me something similar - and a few guys since. Gotta wonder why they feel the need to do that and how they can possibly think it will go over well. No woman wants to feel like she's being settled for.
    • Posts: 52 Member
      And I was at my all time lowest weight (due to extreme stress that led to me not eating) when I was with my college boyfriend and I still wasn't "hot" in his eyes - he actually told me that... after mentioning how hot his high school gf was.
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      Edit: Ah wait, I remember now. It was about lingerie and why buying it didn't matter. Now I'm kinda sad again. I wish I hadn't thought about that.

      Sorry it brought up a painful memory. :( It's comforting to know that other people have dealt with the same stuff, but probably not good to dwell on it too much.
    • Posts: 14 Member
      I was only 17 and a large young lady . My dad was a golfer and and I told him I'd like to learn. H looked at me, smirked and said, "Your boobs are too big." I never golfed again until I was 36 and met my husband (now deceased).
    • Posts: 22 Member
      I guess I think of thoughtless as things people say that that are unintentionally hurtful, but I guess it can cover candid conversations that are held without regard to somebody else's feelings too.

      This was a candid statement that was solicited. I don't remember what the conversation was about anymore, though. Just that part of it. :(

      Edit: Ah wait, I remember now. It was about lingerie and why buying it didn't matter. Now I'm kinda sad again. I wish I hadn't thought about that.


      Hugs!!
    • Posts: 22 Member
      The absolute worst comment was actually made to my then five year old daughter who then (innocently) relayed it to me. A boy in her class teased her for having a fat mom :( It absolutely broke my heart.
    • Posts: 963 Member
      "Can I help you mamma?" I don't know why but people think I am a woman....
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