Bridezilla - Just Venting
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ok I felt a little in the dark when I read the term "hand fasting" had to look it up
Handfasting
Handfasting is a historical term for "betrothal" or "wedding". In the Early Modern history of Scotland (16th and 17th centuries), especially in the Hebrides, the term could also refer to a temporary marriage.0 -
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Well, I wasn't invited to either so I'm furious.0
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Everyone's talking about the OP doing her event on the same day as the wedding but isn't "Mid-summer" a specific date, kind of like if someone were having a New Year's Eve wedding and it was a conflict with others' NYE parties?
OTOH I have no idea...never heard of mid-summer, I assumed it was something like Solstice etc that's not celebrated in my circle.0 -
Wait. You found out about the wedding before planning the event. Did you intentionally plan the event for the same time and day of her wedding? Or is it always on the same day and that is the day she's having her wedding? Trying to figure out if there's one b*tch or two in this story.:laugh:
Well, yes and no. They did say their wedding was going to be on Midsummer, however, I didn't know what day they meant by that, so I set my event on the solar holiday actual Midsummer, because it conveniently fell on a Saturday this year, but for me it's always meant June 20th. Mid-summer proper occurs when the sun is the highest in the sky, so if we're going to get technical, the date they gave me was at noon on Saturday, my event and the hand-fasting starts at 6pm. I figured I'd get invited to the wedding and then I would know.
There are a lot of crossover friends on Facebook, but more like acquaintances in real life.
I really care about them both and it seems like every time I have an event I can't make everyone happy with a date.0 -
ok I felt a little in the dark when I read the term "hand fasting" had to look it up
Handfasting
Handfasting is a historical term for "betrothal" or "wedding". In the Early Modern history of Scotland (16th and 17th centuries), especially in the Hebrides, the term could also refer to a temporary marriage.
It's common for pagan wedding rituals. Which I think is what the OP meant about it being a "lifestyle" wedding.
To me "lifestyle" wedding would mean something TOTALLY different. LOL!0 -
It is a riddle, wrapped in a mystery, inside an enigma0
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Seltzer, I was thinking the same thing....
Moreover, I know of someone having their wedding on Thanksgiving Day!....talk about SELFISH!:mad:0 -
it is E-T-C!!! UGGGGHHHHH!!! I hate it when people use ect... :mad:0
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Wait. You found out about the wedding before planning the event. Did you intentionally plan the event for the same time and day of her wedding? Or is it always on the same day and that is the day she's having her wedding? Trying to figure out if there's one b*tch or two in this story.:laugh:
Well, yes and no. They did say their wedding was going to be on Midsummer, however, I didn't know what day they meant by that, so I set my event on the solar holiday actual Midsummer, because it conveniently fell on a Saturday this year, but for me it's always meant June 20th. Mid-summer proper occurs when the sun is the highest in the sky, so if we're going to get technical, the date they gave me was at noon on Saturday, my event and the hand-fasting starts at 6pm. I figured I'd get invited to the wedding and then I would know.
There are a lot of crossover friends on Facebook, but more like acquaintances in real life.
I really care about them both and it seems like every time I have an event I can't make everyone happy with a date.
lol what??????????? I don't even know what any of this even means?
OP; bottom line, if you weren't invited, it doesn't matter. You can do whatever you want on that day.0 -
Go to the wedding anyway.
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Seltzer, I was thinking the same thing....
Moreover, I know of someone having their wedding on Thanksgiving Day!....talk about SELFISH!:mad:
Lol why would anyone even do that0 -
it is E-T-C!!! UGGGGHHHHH!!! I hate it when people use ect... :mad:
IRREGARDLESS!0 -
I know it's a backyard wedding with some people from their sub-culture lifestyle doing the ceremony, so I did naturally assume that it was a "lifestyle" wedding thing that might not be fit for general public.
It's actually a hand-fasting, too, but that's besides the point.
Pips, that could be the case, I don't know.
I figured at least she would text an address, email, call, Facebook event page, or mail an invitation to those invited.
It could be an issue with legitimately running way behind on getting everything put together, in which case I have no clue what to do because I had to get several people to agree on a date for my event and all of them except a couple had to take off work, so it can't really be changed at this point.
... Go on.0 -
I never quite grasped why the wedding day is about the bride. Often it seems like the groom is an afterthought if not decidedly a necessary evil. Bridezillas suck. So does whining.
SO MUCH OF THIS!!!! A wedding is supposed to be about a marriage. Not the bride.0 -
Seltzer, I was thinking the same thing....
Moreover, I know of someone having their wedding on Thanksgiving Day!....talk about SELFISH!:mad:
Lol why would anyone even do that
Right!?!? And then she wants me to do her hair/makeup for $150 for her and the bridesmaids:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: She should be paying ME quadruple the standard rate just to be there on a holiday!!0 -
I really care about them both and it seems like every time I have an event I can't make everyone happy with a date.
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OP - If you wish the happy couple well, then send a nice gift with a card apologizing for missing the wedding due to the conflict with your event (that is obviously oriented around that specific day) and carry on with life. Don't even bother mentioning her failure to invite you.0
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WUT0 -
Seltzer, I was thinking the same thing....
Moreover, I know of someone having their wedding on Thanksgiving Day!....talk about SELFISH!:mad:
Lol why would anyone even do that
Right!?!? And then she wants me to do her hair/makeup for $150 for her and the bridesmaids:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: She should be paying ME quadruple the standard rate just to be there on a holiday!!
I was about to quote your first post and say that's Holiday time but you beat me to it! :laugh:0 -
Yikes honey!
Plan yours for the day before or the day after that way mutual friends can attend both events.0 -
As a bride I want everybody and their dog at my event. Even black sheep uncle. So it doesn't make sense she'd not invite close friends of hers or his. Unless maybe she resents you because of yoru friendship with the ex wife.
Wanting everybody there I also carefully made sure I planned it away from birthdays, ect. Even on a Friday rather than Saturday since it's football season.
So no bride in her right mind in going to schedule it on a day where a friend is having another even. That's just dumb.
So really I think there is missing information here, and you are just looking for a reason to call somebody nobody on here knows a bridezilla b*tch.
I don't think it was clear in the OP, but it sounds like this is a Pagan or Wiccan wedding. Maybe they're only inviting people REALLY into the lifestyle or something.0 -
Punch her in the face!0
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Seltzer, I was thinking the same thing....
Moreover, I know of someone having their wedding on Thanksgiving Day!....talk about SELFISH!:mad:
Lol why would anyone even do that
Right!?!? And then she wants me to do her hair/makeup for $150 for her and the bridesmaids:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: She should be paying ME quadruple the standard rate just to be there on a holiday!!
I was about to quote your first post and say that's Holiday time but you beat me to it! :laugh:
These broke bums wanting a buddy discount on Thanksgiving.....girl please.0 -
As a bride I want everybody and their dog at my event. Even black sheep uncle. So it doesn't make sense she'd not invite close friends of hers or his. Unless maybe she resents you because of yoru friendship with the ex wife.
Wanting everybody there I also carefully made sure I planned it away from birthdays, ect. Even on a Friday rather than Saturday since it's football season.
So no bride in her right mind in going to schedule it on a day where a friend is having another even. That's just dumb.
So really I think there is missing information here, and you are just looking for a reason to call somebody nobody on here knows a bridezilla b*tch.
I don't think it was clear in the OP, but it sounds like this is a Pagan or Wiccan wedding. Maybe they're only inviting people REALLY into the lifestyle or something.
I thought that too, but it seems important to the OP that her event be held on this "midsummer" occassion also.
I don't get it.0 -
I know it's a backyard wedding with some people from their sub-culture lifestyle doing the ceremony, so I did naturally assume that it was a "lifestyle" wedding thing that might not be fit for general public.
It's actually a hand-fasting, too, but that's besides the point.
Pips, that could be the case, I don't know.
I figured at least she would text an address, email, call, Facebook event page, or mail an invitation to those invited.
It could be an issue with legitimately running way behind on getting everything put together, in which case I have no clue what to do because I had to get several people to agree on a date for my event and all of them except a couple had to take off work, so it can't really be changed at this point.
A hand-fasting is NOT a wedding. Totally different. You weren't invited because you don't get it.
I think the both of you are being babies about it.0 -
I never quite grasped why the wedding day is about the bride. Often it seems like the groom is an afterthought if not decidedly a necessary evil. Bridezillas suck. So does whining.
I think because often weddings are something that some women start planning/dreaming about from the time they are little girls. While guys just don't usually have that same interest. In fact, most (scratch that ALL) of the grooms I have known, just think of the cost, hate the idea of giving a speech and want it to be over as soon as possible :laugh:
Obviously that isn't always the case though...0 -
Seltzer, I was thinking the same thing....
Moreover, I know of someone having their wedding on Thanksgiving Day!....talk about SELFISH!:mad:
Lol why would anyone even do that
Right!?!? And then she wants me to do her hair/makeup for $150 for her and the bridesmaids:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: She should be paying ME quadruple the standard rate just to be there on a holiday!!
I was about to quote your first post and say that's Holiday time but you beat me to it! :laugh:
These broke bums wanting a buddy discount on Thanksgiving.....girl please.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Folks always trying to get a discount lol0 -
Seltzer, I was thinking the same thing....
Moreover, I know of someone having their wedding on Thanksgiving Day!....talk about SELFISH!:mad:
Lol why would anyone even do that
Right!?!? And then she wants me to do her hair/makeup for $150 for her and the bridesmaids:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: She should be paying ME quadruple the standard rate just to be there on a holiday!!
I was about to quote your first post and say that's Holiday time but you beat me to it! :laugh:
These broke bums wanting a buddy discount on Thanksgiving.....girl please.
:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: Folks always trying to get a discount lol
I'll give her a discount...but she'll be wearing Loreal and Cover Girl (some Walmart ish) not my MAC supply!:laugh: :laugh:0
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