Shirt or no Shirt?

Johnplusfour

O.P. :
Wear whatever you want!!. Do you really want him to tell you what you're "allowed" to wear. It's a freakin sports bra. If you go to any run path, park, or track then what do you see people running in? yeah it is appropriate running attire. What you have here in many of these replies is jealousy. I've been married for 17 years and I respect my wife enough that I don't place retarded restrictions on what she is allowed to wear. That's her decision and I will be supportive of it. Even if she wants to show off a little; I'm proud of her beauty and enjoy for her to feel good about herself.

juliewatkin

O.P. :
Wear whatever you want!!. Do you really want him to tell you what you're "allowed" to wear. It's a freakin sports bra. If you go to any run path, park, or track then what do you see people running in? yeah it is appropriate running attire. What you have here in many of these replies is jealousy. I've been married for 17 years and I respect my wife enough that I don't place retarded restrictions on what she is allowed to wear. That's her decision and I will be supportive of it. Even if she wants to show off a little; I'm proud of her beauty and enjoy for her to feel good about herself.

I'm curious how you read jealousy into taking your spouses opinion into account. Because it doesn't bother you doesn't mean it shouldn't bother anyone? Perhaps you could reflect on a time you asked your wife to do something for you or she asked you to do something for her and because you hold each other in high regard, you did it despite the fact that you really weren't into it. From my perspective it's not about the running attire as I find it pretty normal, it's about respecting each other.

skippygirlsmom

That thread is so funny.

I went out running in a sport bra last night (I even documented it with a new profile picture!)

No angry housewives called the neighborhood dresscode police after me.
No drivers killed pedestrians because they weren't looking where they were going.
I didn't get any catcalls, or weird looks.
I didn't traumatize any 8yrs old boys.
No sketchy van slowed down beside me.
And my SO didn't object to the idea.

Well you were just plain lucky! :laugh:

Johnplusfour

If your husband/partner didn't want you to run in just a sports bra, would you put a shirt on?

Yes.

I would respect his wishes and put a shirt on too.

Whether it's appropriate for your neighborhood though depends largely on where you live. My neighborhood would not have any problem with it as a whole, but in the one I grew up in (think Bible Belt), it would be scandalous.

Enjoy living the life that everyone else thinks you should live.

JoRocka

Now imagine the kind of attention you'd garner if you wore sexy lingerie and nothing else. It'd certainly be more than you're getting now. The logic you're using is pretty flawed at best.

Yes, you're right: Sports bra = Sexy lingerie.

I'm so sorry that *I* am using faulty logic. :laugh: :flowerforyou:

Putting words in other people's mouths is the first sign of desperation :^)

Your logic: I can wear whatever I want, I will get some attention either way
My logic: Yes but you can reduce the amount of attention you get taking preventative measures


Your logic is akin to smoking cigarettes because "I'm going to die either way".

:laugh: @ Preventative measures.... what like a vaccine?

we all know women have to take preventative measures to protect themselves from men.

that's the way our world works now.

I really wish we could start identifying criminals as criminals rather than just "men."

I considered going a different route- but since I was going through the most ridiculous over the top statement - I went with the standard men. because we all know- its' only men women have to protect themselves against.

Johnplusfour

I'm curious how you read jealousy into taking your spouses opinion into account. Because it doesn't bother you doesn't mean it shouldn't bother anyone? Perhaps you could reflect on a time you asked your wife to do something for you or she asked you to do something for her and because you hold each other in high regard, you did it despite the fact that you really weren't into it. From my perspective it's not about the running attire as I find it pretty normal, it's about respecting each other.

Soooo.. You think that your spouse should tell you what you can and cannot wear?

Of course I do things for her even if I don't want to or feel like it. This isn't about simple tasks, it's about allowing your SO to wear what they want to wear.

That respect is a 2 way street. He should respect her needs too. Her needs pertain to comfort; his are about his own insecurities. He's being a douche'

canadjineh

A sports bra is about the most 'unsexy top' a gal can wear... nothing moves (if its a real one and not just a fitted crop tank), covers everything and more. What's the problem unless your guy is a 'waist man', 'upper abs aficionado' and thinks every other guy is too.:huh:
Puhleeeze, just run, but don't get burnt in the sun.

rml_16

I really wish we could start identifying criminals as criminals rather than just "men."

I considered going a different route- but since I was going through the most ridiculous over the top statement - I went with the standard men. because we all know- its' only men women have to protect themselves against.

From everything I keep reading, all men are predators and will attack any lone woman they happen upon. It's carnage out there!

JoRocka

I really wish we could start identifying criminals as criminals rather than just "men."

I considered going a different route- but since I was going through the most ridiculous over the top statement - I went with the standard men. because we all know- its' only men women have to protect themselves against.

From everything I keep reading, all men are predators and will attack any lone woman they happen upon. It's carnage out there!

yeah- even as an assault victim (2x)- sometimes I just have to roll my eyes at the excess. BUT- I really hate when people think it's my job to cover up to protect myself. It's not my job to protect me from you (generic 'you') I am smart and don't go out of my way to really put myself in dangerous situations- but I also don't think I should feel like I'm in danger going for a run because I'm wearing atheletic clothes- not my job to dress in a bukra for running.

There has to be some middle ground of common sense and not having to dress for protection.

juliewatkin

I'm curious how you read jealousy into taking your spouses opinion into account. Because it doesn't bother you doesn't mean it shouldn't bother anyone? Perhaps you could reflect on a time you asked your wife to do something for you or she asked you to do something for her and because you hold each other in high regard, you did it despite the fact that you really weren't into it. From my perspective it's not about the running attire as I find it pretty normal, it's about respecting each other.

Soooo.. You think that your spouse should tell you what you can and cannot wear?

Of course I do things for her even if I don't want to or feel like it. This isn't about simple tasks, it's about allowing your SO to wear what they want to wear.

That respect is a 2 way street. He should respect her needs too. Her needs pertain to comfort; his are about his own insecurities. He's being a douche'

I disagree. My spouse doesn't 'tell' me anything but if he has an issue I certainly take his opinion into account. Has your wife never suggested something you should or shouldn't wear? I see women do that fairly regularly.

mayfrayy

'Murica

purplepenguins7

Wear the sports bra! You're exercising, so wear what is comfortable and appropriate for the task. A sports bra isn't meant to be sexy- its fitness appropriate attire.

If a man can run shirtless, a woman can run in a sports bra! Also, its a red flag if your husband is super controlling about what you wear. I'm married, and my husband hasn't ever asked me not to wear something. He'll say if something is wrinkled, has cat fur on it, whatever, but he won't say "don't wear something too revealing".

martinel2099

Women shouldn't have to be afraid of how they dress in fear of being attacked. Pretty sure if there's a creepo willing to attack it's going to happen regardless. These types of monsters are looking more for an opportunity to assault than anything, a dark path with no lighting for example.

Kita328

I think that a light top (mositure wicking) would be appropreiate.


How would you feel about him wearing something in public that you do not approve of and he went onto a website to get opinions about it?

I bet her husband has taken his shirt off outside mowing the lawn or doing home repairs...or whatever.... Its not ok for her? Silly.

If you were at the beach whats the diff if you wore a bikini? Is that appropriate. I dont mean to be rude but I honestly think its your body wear what you want.

rml_16

I really wish we could start identifying criminals as criminals rather than just "men."

I considered going a different route- but since I was going through the most ridiculous over the top statement - I went with the standard men. because we all know- its' only men women have to protect themselves against.

From everything I keep reading, all men are predators and will attack any lone woman they happen upon. It's carnage out there!

yeah- even as an assault victim (2x)- sometimes I just have to roll my eyes at the excess. BUT- I really hate when people think it's my job to cover up to protect myself. It's not my job to protect me from you (generic 'you') I am smart and don't go out of my way to really put myself in dangerous situations- but I also don't think I should feel like I'm in danger going for a run because I'm wearing atheletic clothes- not my job to dress in a bukra for running.

There has to be some middle ground of common sense and not having to dress for protection.

Absolutely. Someone up thread said something similar. I don't go on hiking trails alone because they are prime spots for true predators. It's unlikely I'll be attacked, but it's more likely to happen there than on the sidewalk next to a busy road full of passing cars.

I'm not worried about the guy yelling out the car window as he drives by. I'm worried about the serial rapist looking for a good opportunity to make a woman his victim. And he's going to do that regardless of whether you're in a sports bra or a burqa.

jec285

I think that a light top (mositure wicking) would be appropreiate.


How would you feel about him wearing something in public that you do not approve of and he went onto a website to get opinions about it?

I bet her husband has taken his shirt off outside mowing the lawn or doing home repairs...or whatever.... Its not ok for her? Silly.

If you were at the beach whats the diff if you wore a bikini? Is that appropriate. I dont mean to be rude but I honestly think its your body wear what you want.

If he has done that then yes it's silly for him to tell her not to wear the sports bra, about as silly as it is for you to assume he has done that. I know I certainly haven't, nor would I.

If you were at the beach then it would be appropriate attire, and the chances of being assaulted or harassed are near nil seeing as how there are hundreds of witnesses around.

rml_16

I think that a light top (mositure wicking) would be appropreiate.


How would you feel about him wearing something in public that you do not approve of and he went onto a website to get opinions about it?

I bet her husband has taken his shirt off outside mowing the lawn or doing home repairs...or whatever.... Its not ok for her? Silly.

If you were at the beach whats the diff if you wore a bikini? Is that appropriate. I dont mean to be rude but I honestly think its your body wear what you want.

If he has done that then yes it's silly for him to tell her not to wear the sports bra, about as silly as it is for you to assume he has done that. I know I certainly haven't, nor would I.

If you were at the beach then it would be appropriate attire, and the chances of being assaulted or harassed are near nil seeing as how there are hundreds of witnesses around.

And, again, someone doesn't get assaulted based on attire. It's opportunity.

Some man who isn't inclined to assault isn't going to suddenly assault a woman because she's in a sports bra. Just stop.

csuhar

Personally, if your neighbors are comfortable with it, then I wouldn't worry. And the reason I say that is that you would be entering the public realm of your community that they share with you, so I think it's only polite to at least keep the other community members in mind when making your decision. Still, I doubt that many of them actually care. After all, a sports bra generally offers more coverage than a bikini, and those are generally acceptable in certain public situations, particularly "recreation" activities on hot days.

In my experience, it is not uncommon for women to wear a sports bra without any shirt when exercising. But I do have to admit that the setting is usually in a gym or other type of fitness area or in communities that are fitness focused, so everyone there knows how hot it can get.

Holly_Roman_Empire

If your husband/partner didn't want you to run in just a sports bra, would you put a shirt on?

Yes.

I would respect his wishes and put a shirt on too.

Whether it's appropriate for your neighborhood though depends largely on where you live. My neighborhood would not have any problem with it as a whole, but in the one I grew up in (think Bible Belt), it would be scandalous.

Enjoy living the life that everyone else thinks you should live.

You're funny. You know, with your assumptions and such.

husseycd

I really, really do not understand what is so scandalous about a sports bra, or exposed midriff for that matter.

I wouldn't say it's scandalous, but it will get you looked at, and some people are okay with that, and others, like me, really don't want to be stared at by strangers. I was out walking once on a local country dirt road in shorts and a tank top and two guys in a panel van slowed waaaay down and stared at me... woods both sides, no houses nearby. I did not like that at all. Never went walking that way again.

OMG, I'm dying laughing.

Now I need to read the rest of this thread.