vent--There are too many skinny people at the gym

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  • mojohowitz
    mojohowitz Posts: 900 Member
    lol what's a weeble wobble?

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    omfg lolololololol:laugh: :laugh: dafuq:laugh:

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    I'm out. Have fun!
  • sassyjae21
    sassyjae21 Posts: 1,217 Member
    This is the 2nd biggest reason I don't go to the gym. I hate feeling like I am being stared and and judged by all the people who already have their s*** together.

    People don't pay attention to you as nearly as much as you think they do. Promise.
  • mojohowitz
    mojohowitz Posts: 900 Member
    I only want a gym with straight white people, because anything else makes me uncomfortable...

    Move to Carmel, Indiana.
  • Therealobi1
    Therealobi1 Posts: 3,262 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So. I'm supposed to be nice to people who basically think people who look like me don't belong at her gym?


    Oh.

    Why is that the insulted party is always the one obligated to be nice?

    Joe Meat head or Trophy wife ?
  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    Wow, lot of really mean people replying to this.

    This is the 2nd biggest reason I don't go to the gym. I hate feeling like I am being stared and and judged by all the people who already have their s*** together.

    1st reason is child care... they aren't open early enough for me to let the rug rats play while I try to not be a fatty and they are too little to let them be home alone.

    3rd... I did the personal trainer thing.. it took me over 30 minutes to be able to breath again after my session with her... screw that, I am not just fat, I am obese... she clearly had/has no clue what that is like.

    The only people that might be judging you are people like the OP, the Meatheads and Trophy wives are too busy working out and focusing on themselves.
  • LolBroScience
    LolBroScience Posts: 4,537 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So. I'm supposed to be nice to people who basically think people who look like me don't belong at her gym?
    Why is that the insulted party is always the one obligated to be nice?

    Again, did the OP say that? I haven't read all the replies so perhaps she did later, but she certainly did NOT say that in her first post.

    You serious? You didn't gather any bit of fit shaming from the OP?
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
    In. I hear there are mean people here. And I love mean people.
  • whitebalance
    whitebalance Posts: 1,654 Member
    Wow, lot of really mean people replying to this.

    This is the 2nd biggest reason I don't go to the gym. I hate feeling like I am being stared and and judged by all the people who already have their s*** together.

    1st reason is child care... they aren't open early enough for me to let the rug rats play while I try to not be a fatty and they are too little to let them be home alone.

    3rd... I did the personal trainer thing.. it took me over 30 minutes to be able to breath again after my session with her... screw that, I am not just fat, I am obese... she clearly had/has no clue what that is like.
    Based on the threads we see on MFP, it seems you're a lot more likely to be stared at and judged by people who don't. But either way, all that matters is going in and getting your thing done. Anyone who judges you on your appearance at the gym is focusing on the wrong things and isn't worth your time or energy.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So. I'm supposed to be nice to people who basically think people who look like me don't belong at her gym?
    Why is that the insulted party is always the one obligated to be nice?

    Again, did the OP say that? I haven't read all the replies so perhaps she did later, but she certainly did NOT say that in her first post.

    TOPIC: vent--There are too many skinny people at the gym

    If this doesn't mean 'I want less skinny people at the gym.' that what, exactly, does it mean to you? There are too many skinny people at the gym, but that's Aok? Too many of them, but I don't mind?

    Enlighten me Obi-Wan, for clearly I have misunderstood.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    I only want a gym with straight white people, because anything else makes me uncomfortable...

    Move to Carmel, Indiana.

    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
  • whitebalance
    whitebalance Posts: 1,654 Member
    In. I hear there are mean people here. And I love mean people.
    Meatheads and trophy wives too.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So. I'm supposed to be nice to people who basically think people who look like me don't belong at her gym?


    Oh.

    Why is that the insulted party is always the one obligated to be nice?

    Joe Meat head or Trophy wife ?

    Trophy Wife, obviously.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So. I'm supposed to be nice to people who basically think people who look like me don't belong at her gym?
    Why is that the insulted party is always the one obligated to be nice?

    Again, did the OP say that? I haven't read all the replies so perhaps she did later, but she certainly did NOT say that in her first post.

    TOPIC: vent--There are too many skinny people at the gym

    If this doesn't mean 'I want less skinny people at the gym.' that what, exactly, does it mean to you? There are too many skinny people at the gym, but that's Aok? Too many of them, but I don't mind?

    Enlighten me Obi-Wan, for clearly I have misunderstood.

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  • HolleeERL
    HolleeERL Posts: 313 Member
    Well, hopefully OP is taking the criticism well. If not, then she should be more mindful of what she posts. Part of "growing up" means knowing what to say and when to say it not to mention taking responsibility for what she says and taking what comes from it. If she wanted a shoulder to cry on, those comments are best left for people she knows.

    I have little tolerance for self-pity so I don't agree with the original post. It was rude and have yet to see OP apologize for it. I also think it's out of line for anyone to apologize for any negative feedback - speak for yourselves.

    That being said, I understand the insecurity. It's not easy. This journey isn't easy. As others have stressed - take it in stride and do your own thing. Do what you can do and don't give up.
  • Cadori
    Cadori Posts: 4,810 Member
    In. I hear there are mean people here. And I love mean people.
    Meatheads and trophy wives too.

    This pleases me.
  • katesnewbody
    katesnewbody Posts: 62 Member
    YOU are responsible for how fat you are.
    JUST like the skinny people are skinny because of the choices THEY'VE made.
    they have every right to work out at ANY gym they please to maintain that body.

    what, skinny people can't go to the same gym as fat people now?
    what's next, ban skinny people from eating at public restaurants, because they make fat people feel sad?
    Or have a Fat People Only Swim at public pools so the skinny folks don't make the overweight ones feel self conscious?

    see the logic here?
  • feltlikesound
    feltlikesound Posts: 326 Member
    We have a downsize fitness in my city too (Ottawa): http://www.ctvnews.ca/health/gym-geared-specifically-for-overweight-people-enters-canadian-market-1.1616857

    While I think people do get preoccupied with believing everyone (anyone?) at the gym cares about how you look, I also know how hard it is to "put yourself out there" in a vulnerable sense to even attempting to change your weight. To sweat. To try things you don't know how to do. To change your relationship with a body you may not love. I think if someone wants to pay for a "comfort zone" of feeling less judged, and if that ultimately sets them up for more success and security, then so be it. There are tons of Women's only goodlife locations for the same reasons. In fact those gyms may be helpful in introducing the OP to a gym setting while she has her "training wheels" and doesn't feel confident in the space.
  • JoelleAnn78
    JoelleAnn78 Posts: 1,492 Member
    Wow. Issues much?


    I hang out in the "meat head" section, and often am the only woman there. I have to say, all of the guys have been great, perfectly happy to check to make sure that I'm parallel or give me a spot if I want one. The super fit woman who is there often, working on her first figure competition after being deep in the powerlifting scene? Umm, she told me to have her come over next time I PR my deads, so that she can give me form help to lift more. This was after saying how amazing I'm doing, even though I'm far from her level.

    I have to say, my gym experience sounds like it's much more fulfilling than yours. You may want to give up the judgey-judginess and stop limiting yourself.


    ETA: later today I'm going to go trail running. I'm pretty sure that I'm going to see a bunch of superfit fast runners there, as I plod along. They will all nod their head and say what a lovely day for a run it is.

    You. I like you. :heart: :flowerforyou: :love:
  • KelseyBee2014
    KelseyBee2014 Posts: 188 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So being fat and insecure gives you a get out of jail free rude card? But, once you have worked your *kitten* off to get into shape you can't speak your mind or work out in the gym because you might upset someone???

    It was malicious. Drop the white knight act and actually read the insults she threw out there.

    If I went and created a thread "I work out at home cause I couldn't stand the fatties at the gym" I would be reported in a heartbeat. I'm still fat but I take personal responsibility for my comments, because I'm an adult and I don't take this whole I'm insecure so I can insult anyone I want .

    Okay, so I'm just going to assume that everyone here writing those comments have all been perfect angels and have never said anything or not judged anyone their whole lives. Seriously, everyone has done it. And if you say you haven't, well, I wouldn't believe you or anyone because that is the world we live in. People judge. The OP wasn't being malicious, she recognized that she was being silly and she said some things in a way she shouldn't have. Just stop being so negative.
  • sweetpea03b
    sweetpea03b Posts: 1,123 Member
    Maybe they're skinny because they go to the gym. =-0 I know... that's a crazy idea. I used to hate on "skinny" people until my husband pointed out to me... You don't know their story. Maybe they used to be overweight... you don't know their struggle... you don't know what they went through/go through to look like that... so you shouldn't judge them for being skinny just like they shouldn't judge you for being fat.
  • TeachTheGirl
    TeachTheGirl Posts: 2,091 Member
    There are actually gyms out there like that, but I do echo the sentiment of 'what would you do if you lost the weight and got kicked out'? I'd feel a little bummed out, personally.

    I work out in a boot camp style gym where I'm around a lot of other people with their own goals. We're all different body sizes and shapes and although it took a while to get over my damn self, I realized most people don't care what anyone else looks like, just so long as they're getting their work done.
  • Laura732
    Laura732 Posts: 244 Member
    1) If the gym is full of skinny people, maybe that gym is doing something right?

    2) Your own worst enemy is between your ears. All of us who were fat knew we had to do something. We had to find something we enjoyed and could stick with. Then we had to follow through. Its perfectly ok if the gym is not your thing.

    3) The way you eat now and the way you live now is one of the reasons you need to lose weight. To continue doing the same thing and expecting different results is opening you up to being frustrated. Change is evident, get used to it.

    OP, I think you already know that change is necessary. I encourage you to try different things and look for something you can learn to love doing.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    I know that that sounds stupid but I wish someone would open a gym where you have to be at least 25 pounds overweight to join. I go to a pretty nice one and overall people are pretty nice but when you are currently proud that you know you are exercising because your stomach fat has separated into two distinct groups working out next to Joe Meat head and Trophy wife wearing too much perfume and too little clothing can just make you feel less good about being there.

    I know, I know, I am being silly and I should just ignore distractions like this but am I alone? Does anyone else feel just a little more insecure working out amongst the already insanely fit?

    This is the worst post in the history of posts.

    A gym where you must be 25lbs overweight to join?? Are you fracking kidding me? What happens when you lose that weight, do they kick you out on your *kitten*? :huh:

    I got news for you, I'd rather be working out next to Joe Meathead and Trophy Wife, because they've probably got better attitudes than you do. How do you thing Trophy Wife stays a trophy wife? Not by hanging out at home on the couch snarfing Froot Loops, I'll bet. You need to maintain your body once you earn it, and for all you know, that trophy wife and meathead may have been hundreds of pounds overweight at one time, and have literally worked their a$$es off. Who the heck do you think you are, to judge them?

    Why can't you be happy for people who have worked harder and longer at something than you have? Is it so impossible to use their hard work as inspiration to work harder yourself?
    Or is it just easier to feel sorry for yourself and wish they would leave your sight so you don't have to think about them?

    Downvote. Downvote hard.

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  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So. I'm supposed to be nice to people who basically think people who look like me don't belong at her gym?
    Why is that the insulted party is always the one obligated to be nice?

    Again, did the OP say that? I haven't read all the replies so perhaps she did later, but she certainly did NOT say that in her first post.

    TOPIC: vent--There are too many skinny people at the gym

    If this doesn't mean 'I want less skinny people at the gym.' that what, exactly, does it mean to you? There are too many skinny people at the gym, but that's Aok? Too many of them, but I don't mind?

    Enlighten me Obi-Wan, for clearly I have misunderstood.

    First of all, thanks for calling me Obi-Wan :love:

    So you think you are a skinny trophy wife and took the remarks personally. Got that. But I don't see where the OP said you didn't belong at the gym. She said she was uncomfortable working out next to you. For the life of me I can't imagine why.
  • TruckerWife922
    TruckerWife922 Posts: 27
    You really have no idea what "skinny" people are thinking about. I used to think the same way then realized when I saw a woman that is more than twice my size (and I'm not skinny) walking the neighborhood every morning, my thought reaction was "Good for you! Get it girl!" The "skinny" people are more than likely cheering you on! Smile at them, let them inspire you, ask them how to use a piece of equipment. You just might end up with a new best friend.
  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So being fat and insecure gives you a get out of jail free rude card? But, once you have worked your *kitten* off to get into shape you can't speak your mind or work out in the gym because you might upset someone???

    It was malicious. Drop the white knight act and actually read the insults she threw out there.

    If I went and created a thread "I work out at home cause I couldn't stand the fatties at the gym" I would be reported in a heartbeat. I'm still fat but I take personal responsibility for my comments, because I'm an adult and I don't take this whole I'm insecure so I can insult anyone I want .

    Okay, so I'm just going to assume that everyone here writing those comments have all been perfect angels and have never said anything or not judged anyone their whole lives. Seriously, everyone has done it. And if you say you haven't, well, I wouldn't believe you or anyone because that is the world we live in. People judge. The OP wasn't being malicious, she recognized that she was being silly and she said some things in a way she shouldn't have. Just stop being so negative.

    Have I judged others before .. of course, but I was also adult enough to own up to it.

    Being silly does not make body shaming others acceptable. So answer this, if I created a thread that said "vent-There are too many fat people at the gym" and included well I know it's silly but they make me feel insecure that I'm going to gain all my weight back so I don't want to be around them.

    What would your response Ms. White Knight be to that thread?
  • da_bears1008
    da_bears1008 Posts: 354
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So being fat and insecure gives you a get out of jail free rude card? But, once you have worked your *kitten* off to get into shape you can't speak your mind or work out in the gym because you might upset someone???

    It was malicious. Drop the white knight act and actually read the insults she threw out there.

    If I went and created a thread "I work out at home cause I couldn't stand the fatties at the gym" I would be reported in a heartbeat. I'm still fat but I take personal responsibility for my comments, because I'm an adult and I don't take this whole I'm insecure so I can insult anyone I want .

    Okay, so I'm just going to assume that everyone here writing those comments have all been perfect angels and have never said anything or not judged anyone their whole lives. Seriously, everyone has done it. And if you say you haven't, well, I wouldn't believe you or anyone because that is the world we live in. People judge. The OP wasn't being malicious, she recognized that she was being silly and she said some things in a way she shouldn't have. Just stop being so negative.

    "I know this is silly, and stupid BUT...."

    No sympathy. None at all.
  • Charloo1990
    Charloo1990 Posts: 619 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So being fat and insecure gives you a get out of jail free rude card? But, once you have worked your *kitten* off to get into shape you can't speak your mind or work out in the gym because you might upset someone???

    It was malicious. Drop the white knight act and actually read the insults she threw out there.

    If I went and created a thread "I work out at home cause I couldn't stand the fatties at the gym" I would be reported in a heartbeat. I'm still fat but I take personal responsibility for my comments, because I'm an adult and I don't take this whole I'm insecure so I can insult anyone I want .

    Okay, so I'm just going to assume that everyone here writing those comments have all been perfect angels and have never said anything or not judged anyone their whole lives. Seriously, everyone has done it. And if you say you haven't, well, I wouldn't believe you or anyone because that is the world we live in. People judge. The OP wasn't being malicious, she recognized that she was being silly and she said some things in a way she shouldn't have. Just stop being so negative.
    I agree. Sometimes I stop myself from posting a topic just because people take things wayy out of context and make you out to be like some horrible person when it isn't the case. Seems you have to word everything perfect, no mistakes or you'll get an ear bashing.
  • PikaKnight
    PikaKnight Posts: 34,971 Member
    If you all think she's being rude, most of your are being rude right back! Talk about hypocrites. If you don't have anything nice to say, DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL. Jeesh, just be the bigger person if you think she was being so rude and ignore the post.

    I'm sorry OP for all the comments. It's not like you were being malicious or anything. Everyone just needs to give it a rest and move on.

    So being fat and insecure gives you a get out of jail free rude card? But, once you have worked your *kitten* off to get into shape you can't speak your mind or work out in the gym because you might upset someone???

    It was malicious. Drop the white knight act and actually read the insults she threw out there.

    If I went and created a thread "I work out at home cause I couldn't stand the fatties at the gym" I would be reported in a heartbeat. I'm still fat but I take personal responsibility for my comments, because I'm an adult and I don't take this whole I'm insecure so I can insult anyone I want .

    Okay, so I'm just going to assume that everyone here writing those comments have all been perfect angels and have never said anything or not judged anyone their whole lives. Seriously, everyone has done it. And if you say you haven't, well, I wouldn't believe you or anyone because that is the world we live in. People judge. The OP wasn't being malicious, she recognized that she was being silly and she said some things in a way she shouldn't have. Just stop being so negative.

    The person you are replying to wasn't being negative, unless anything less than sugar coated type answers is deemed negative to you.

    They were being blunt..that's not the same as being negative.
  • GuineaPiglet
    GuineaPiglet Posts: 35 Member
    Okay, I'm not going to lambaste you for this one as some other comments have done, because as an overweight new gym go-er myself I do see a lot of fit people at the gym and at first it made me uncomfortable and self conscious. I get what you're saying, I do. Then I realized they weren't looking at me through judgmental eyes. In fact, they weren't looking at me at all. Everyone there is too focused on what they're doing and getting a good workout in, and everyone is pretty invisible to anyone else.

    So...now I look at the super fit people and am inspired to keep plugging away instead of feeling bad about myself. There are also a few who are heavier than I am who might even be looking at me and feeling self conscious. I see those bigger people and think "good for you, you're doing something about it" and silently root for them. I have my own goals and "imperfections" to work on. I like to think those smaller and fitter than those of us who are less than healthy might have some degree of respect that we're there at all.

    In short...I really think after a while of consistently going you'll feel differently. It's all about perspective. Use those fit people as inspiration for where you want to be rather than using them to abuse yourself in your mind.

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