Fit For Future Families - December 2010

ron2282

I’m pretty sure I’m 5 minutes away from a mental breakdown. DH’s uncle is in the ICU on a ventilator, so we spent all day there with him. (If I ever get to that point, I want them to just let me die) The doctors were going back and forth about taking him off the ventilator then finally decided not to. But he’s conscious and absolutely miserable, but they won’t sedate him to make him comfortable because they need his organs to function without medications. At this point there is a 50/50 chance of survival. This is the uncle DH lived with for his entire childhood, so he’s a wreck. On top of that I’m trying to get our house prepared because if he does pass away my in-laws will be coming from Puerto Rico and staying with us.

Then as I’m driving into work today a light comes on my dashboard telling me that my engine is either too hot or too cold and I have to stop driving it. I’m hoping I just need more coolant and not a new engine. If I have to get a new car I’m going to lose my mind. My cramps have come back but now they’re only on my right side. I’ve pretty much given up on getting pregnant this month. We have so much going on right now that we barely have time to hold hands let alone BD.

Sorry for the rant. I don’t want to stress out DH any more that he already is and I just needed to get it out.

epa422

Ron, I'm so sorry that your family is going through this. I hope they can make his uncle comfortable and that he's able to pull through.

And car trouble on top of that is just plain awful. ((hugs))

The cramps on one side could be ovulation cramps, just FYI.

AmandaJ

I’m pretty sure I’m 5 minutes away from a mental breakdown. DH’s uncle is in the ICU on a ventilator, so we spent all day there with him. (If I ever get to that point, I want them to just let me die) The doctors were going back and forth about taking him off the ventilator then finally decided not to. But he’s conscious and absolutely miserable, but they won’t sedate him to make him comfortable because they need his organs to function without medications. At this point there is a 50/50 chance of survival. This is the uncle DH lived with for his entire childhood, so he’s a wreck. On top of that I’m trying to get our house prepared because if he does pass away my in-laws will be coming from Puerto Rico and staying with us.

Then as I’m driving into work today a light comes on my dashboard telling me that my engine is either too hot or too cold and I have to stop driving it. I’m hoping I just need more coolant and not a new engine. If I have to get a new car I’m going to lose my mind. My cramps have come back but now they’re only on my right side. I’ve pretty much given up on getting pregnant this month. We have so much going on right now that we barely have time to hold hands let alone BD.

Sorry for the rant. I don’t want to stress out DH any more that he already is and I just needed to get it out.

Ron, I am sorry to hear about all this, prayers are being sent your way!

kcurtis05

Ron~ Prayers your way! I'm sorry for your troubles.

Well DH and I have 23 hours till we are on our way to Hawaii and I have completely failed this week. I have eaten like crap (McDonalds and Ashley's Bar and Grill) and not exercised at all since Saturday. I feel like poo! This was not the plan right before we leave. I'm really going to try to be good today, but I am at my MIL's and she is so good at shoving food at me. :ohwell:

AlisaToth

Apparently this is the week of yucko....

Ron - I'm so sorry for what your family is going thru. I hope that he is able to make it thru, and if not i hope the doctors become more compassionate and alleviate his pain.

KCurtis - Have fun on your vaca - didn't you reach your 139 goal? Think about that and be happy at how far you've come!

Jalara - Great burn! I loved Zumba until they changed instructors...and now i can't bring myself to go....

Heather - Any updates today???

As for me....My house is a wreck bc i've been running around doing Christmas stuff and not cleaning up when i move onto another project, i thought my husband was going to go sleep at a hotel last night he was so frusterated. He doesn't understand that just bc i'm not working doesn't mean i'm not busy during the day.Today i'm studying for a test i have to take this afternoon, then i'm taking my pup to the dog park with an old friend and then our squadron Chrstimas party is tonight. Whew...Oh! Our property taxes are due on our house tomorrow and i go to pay some of them bc BOA didn't completely pay for last years, and they tell me that NOTHING has been paid....so i call BOA bc they told us last week that it HAD been paid but bc my name is not on the account (even though i have a power of attorney) they won't talk to me unless we fax my POA and a letter from my husband asking to add me to the account as a 3rd party user or we call and talk to him. Of course he's at work and can't answer his phone....Ugh! If it's not one thing it's another!!

jalara

Yes! Heather - update?!?!!?!?!?!

heathercrist1

Ron- So sorry to hear all the stress you are dealing with all at once. That is usually how it seems to happen I guess. I'll send prayers for you and your family.

Kcurtis- No worries, this too shall pass. Don't stress about it and just have lots of fun on your vacation. The real world will be here waiting for you. I know you will look fantastic in your swimsuit on the beach! You've done so amazing on reaching your goals!

Jalara- Wishing I could go to a zumba class right about now! lol! Holding down this couch is killing me! Glad you had a good burn!

Alisa-Sounds like you've got a million and one things on your plate and you are a mega multitasker! lol! This too shall pass. The hustle and bustle of Christmas will be over before you know it.

As for me...maybe some of you can shed some light. I had taken the test with the faint line 3 days ago in the middle of the afternoon after lots of water and using the restroom...since then have taken 4 more tests and 2 have been negative (and they were first morning urine) and the other 2 have had very very faint lines (almost ghost lines). My breasts are starting to become more tender and there is no sign at all of AF. It really is driving me nuts. I just don't understand why I'll take one test and it will be negative and then 10 minutes later I'll take another and there is a very faint line. Any ideas?! I can't keep looking stuff up online cause it is not helping one bit. I've read about chemical pregnancies, false positive pregnancy tests, etc...etc...Everything I don't wanna hear. Technically I am at least 15 dpo (if I got pregnant on Thanksgiving which would have been the first BD of the cycle) but I know sometimes it take a while for implantation....I know I've said it before, but this could make a sane woman crazy!

epa422

Different tests have different sensitivities... even the same brand of tests in the same box. Your urine can also have varying amounts of hormone in it for a variety of reasons. Stop peeing on things before you make yourself nuts. :laugh: When can you go in for bloodwork?

AlisaToth

Heather - i've heard it is more likely to get a false-neg than a false-pos. When I was preggo with my son, I KNEW I was pregnant, I took tests CONSTANTLY and they kept coming out negative. Then a few weeks later i started having really bad cramps and I went to the ER and they confirmed my pregnancy but said my hormone levels were so low that i was probably only 4-5weeks along, (which would have meant when i was testing and testing that i wasn't preggo yet) then I went for my first ultrasound where i should have only been 8-10 weeks and I was almost 13 weeks....so maybe you're hormones just haven't built up enough...keep taking that progesterone and hold on to that couch! and keep your fingers, toes and anything else you can cross...keep em that way!

ron2282

Thanks ladies, it's just really hard to see DH so upset. He broke down in the hospital last night; it’s the first time I’ve ever seen him really cry. :brokenheart: Today I’m using stress as an excuse to eat, I don’t think chocolate has ever tasted so good!!!!! :laugh:

Erica – I was hoping the cramping might be from ovulation, but I didn’t want to get my hopes up since I just went off the pill. Hum...maybe I’ll have to seduce DH tonight. :blushing:

Kcurtis – Have an awesome time in Hawaii!!!!!!

Heather – I’ve heard of false negatives but never false positives.

jalara

Hey Heather - I'm with Erica on this - I think you need to go get bloodwork. Is there a clinic where you are that you can go to?

My fingers are still crossed for you!

AnneElise

Hey Heather, I had the problem at first where I took a test and it was positive but then took one and negative. It is wierd that yours is the other way around. Everything I have heard is there are no false positives... Drinking a lot of water can cause a negative because your urine will be less concentrated. Usually first thing in the morning is the most accurate which is why thats strange. I third the ladies... Go to a walk in clinic and ask for bloodwork... or the dr. Mostly, I would say a positive is a positive!

heathercrist1

I think you are all right...I'm going to stop peeing on sticks or else I think I might just go crazy! lol! I've decided I'm going to wait until I get back to my town and go to my doc's office. I'd hate to be so early that I get a negative (anything below 50 on a blood test they will tell you is a negative. I know cause it happened to me last time I was pregnant. they said it was too low when I actually was pregnant). I don't want continue to drive myself nuts so until I'm going to assume I am until otherwise. Fingers crossed...

AmandaJ

This morning I got a VERY faint BFP on an Equate test and this afternoon a negative on a dollar store cheapie. Guess we will see what tomorrow holds for me. :happy:

heathercrist1

Oh wow! Equate is where it is at for an early positive! Just wish mine would be consistent! lol! I'm letting it go and giving it to God. It is what it is and me going crazy is not going to change the outcome at all.

Wishing you all the best Amanda! Now we just sit...and wait!

AmandaJ

Oh wow! Equate is where it is at for an early positive! Just wish mine would be consistent! lol! I'm letting it go and giving it to God. It is what it is and me going crazy is not going to change the outcome at all.

Wishing you all the best Amanda! Now we just sit...and wait!

Heather I also gave it to God because I am very scared about it being too soon after my IUD. However I want to let you know I add you in those prayers today and yesterday. I am so hoping for you and your hubby!

jalara

This morning I got a VERY faint BFP on an Equate test and this afternoon a negative on a dollar store cheapie. Guess we will see what tomorrow holds for me. :happy:

Fingers crossed!

ron2282

Oh wow! Equate is where it is at for an early positive! Just wish mine would be consistent! lol! I'm letting it go and giving it to God. It is what it is and me going crazy is not going to change the outcome at all.

Wishing you all the best Amanda! Now we just sit...and wait!

Heather I also gave it to God because I am very scared about it being too soon after my IUD. However I want to let you know I add you in those prayers today and yesterday. I am so hoping for you and your hubby!

I'm praying for the both of you!!!!!

AmandaJ

Thanks Jalara and Ron!

AmandaJ

So...I bought 3 Rite-Aid brand pregnancy tests. I took one yesterday and nothing. I took another this morning and negative. I went to Walmart and had to buy some yogurt and thought that I mine as well buy the Equate brand (which was the only brand that worked for me last time. it picked up the hormones before all the other ones and had the most faintest line but it was a line). So I've drank TONS of water per my usual routine and have peed at least 20 times by the time I got home and decided to take one "just for funsies"....Well there was a very very faint line. As soon as I was done my husband walked in from his class and saw the look on my face. I showed him the test and he agreed that there was a very faint line. I've always been told "A line is a line!". If I did get pregnant it was definitely after/on November 25th. Just to be safe I called my doc office in MO and they called in the prescription for the suppository Progesterone. I am no supposed to use it and sit patiently on the couch (this is the girl that when she is bored works out for 4 hours just to have something to do....). If I am...what a miracle! I need lots of prayers ladies! Testing again tomorrow morning.

Heather - my line was so faint I was sure I was imagining it or losing my mind. When my dh got up I asked him to look at (which was two hours later) and he agreed that both lines were there. I am now fretting about it being an evaporation line. Did your test have the purple cap?

Here is a pic, what do you all think? Have I lost my mind? Can you see anything?

epa422

I'm not familiar with Equate tests, but shouldn't the horizontal line be visible whether you're pregnant or not? I would take another test. I would say if that line should show up and it's not there (or so light you can barely see it) that the test may be defective. I would check the directions. And definitely take another test tomorrow morning. Good luck!

AmandaJ

I'm not familiar with Equate tests, but shouldn't the horizontal line be visible whether you're pregnant or not? I would take another test. I would say if that line should show up and it's not there (or so light you can barely see it) that the test may be defective. I would check the directions. And definitely take another test tomorrow morning. Good luck!

The horizontal line is definitely there and the vertical line is the faint one. I guess the pic kinda sucks. I was just wanting to compare it to Heathers.

jalara

Amanda when are you going to test again?

AmandaJ

Amanda when are you going to test again?

I know I should wait until Saturday morning as they say every 48 hours to test if you have inconclusive resultsbut I will probably test first thing in the morning. I am NOT a patient person! :laugh:

AnneElise

Amanda when are you going to test again?

I know I should wait until Saturday morning as they say every 48 hours to test if you have inconclusive resultsbut I will probably test first thing in the morning. I am NOT a patient person! :laugh:

hmm. The picture is hard to see. My lines have always been faint as well so I got a digital test too. Have you tried digital test yet? I think you are fine testing tommorow morning. My doctor didn't tell me I had to wait 48 hours. I am dying that my dr. apt. is still 3 days away. I feel like I am making this whole thing up.

thinking about you both!

heathercrist1

I definitely see both lines! That isn't the test I did. Mine was the test comparable to First Response with a clear cap. Maybe when I test again on Monday I will get a box of that test and one of the other (cause 1 test is NEVER enough! lol!). My test only shows one line in the first circle if it is positive and nothing if it is negative. I say you are definitely preggers! Congrats! I actually read something about some (very rare of course) women metabolize the hcg differently and have higher amounts in the afternoon as opposed to the morning. I know ANYTHING is possible, especially since if I am it really will be a miracle. I want to see proof, but there is something in my heart that is telling me I am. Now whether or not it sticks is up to God.

fitterpam

Amanda, I'm excited for you, but be careful....I did that about a year ago (the only time I saw a line). Hubby checked the test after about 25 minutes and there was a line, but I wasn't pregnant. The tests are serious when they say don't look at it after 10 minutes.....After that 10 minute mark, a line CAN show up, even if you're not pregnant.

Do another one!!! Hope this is truly a line for you. All my fingers and toes are crossed!!!!

AmandaJ

Amanda, I'm excited for you, but be careful....I did that about a year ago (the only time I saw a line). Hubby checked the test after about 25 minutes and there was a line, but I wasn't pregnant. The tests are serious when they say don't look at it after 10 minutes.....After that 10 minute mark, a line CAN show up, even if you're not pregnant.

Do another one!!! Hope this is truly a line for you. All my fingers and toes are crossed!!!!

And this is what I am afraid of! If my stomach wasn't so upset I would think I was crazy about the lines! I will update everybody in the morning! Thanks for the well-wishes!

fitterpam

I hope that it is...that would be great to have 3 BFPs during the holiday season.... As for me my TOM (or as I call her Frankenstein) has stopped again. I'm not sure if it could really be considered TOM or if I should class it more as spotting. It was definitely ongoing for several days and I did need protection from it, but nowhere near as much as if I was actually on TOM. And it was only 3 days......I think it was just the leftovers from previous week. All signs pointed to o last week (well all the signs i could measure) and we were pretty good about getting our time in. We still have a month to find out how the results from the surgery are, but I'm hoping this little blip won't set us back.....

Have I mentioned that I hate these stupid little chocolate kisses that are all over my house right now. I kept getting frustrated because I would tell myself "Put it in your mouth and let it melt".....That lasted two seconds and of course I had to keep going until I let one melt. I realized after 12 that I was being ridiculous and had to force myself to stop. GRRRRRRR

tomorrow's the big work lunch and I"m not too worried. Turkey, Salads and Root Veggies are good with me. I'll skip dessert and have a small dinner tongiht. After going over cals by 1500 today, I'm getting firm with myself...Enough of this...Cutting the sugar completely is the only way to go

jalara

Ok Ok Ok - I'm up! And dying to know more about everyone!
What's the morning scoop? Did you 2 pee on something yet? LOL

I'm a little crazed this morning!!!! And SO happy it's Friday!