Women prefer bellies over 6-packs
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Does this work in reverse? I'm a girl with a 6-pack (okay, more like a 4-pack, but whatevs); does this mean my personality automatically sucks, I'm obsessive, I cheat, and I don't make time for my family? :huh:
Of course it does. Quit being such a biotch and have a cookie.
Chocolate chunk, I hope. If not, this discussion is over. :huh:
You are so demanding! It's gotta be the abs. Fine, I'll get right on it
This is why I love you. And those 2 other very important reasons, of course.
Yes...my charming personality and my rapier wit 0 -
That extra time available for fat dudes that don't use the gym will eventually be offset by impaired mobility and death from things like diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, etc.0
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Does this work in reverse? I'm a girl with a 6-pack (okay, more like a 4-pack, but whatevs); does this mean my personality automatically sucks, I'm obsessive, I cheat, and I don't make time for my family? :huh:
Of course it does. Quit being such a biotch and have a cookie.
Chocolate chunk, I hope. If not, this discussion is over. :huh:
You are so demanding! It's gotta be the abs. Fine, I'll get right on it
This is why I love you. And those 2 other very important reasons, of course.
Yes...my charming personality and my rapier wit
Is that what you've named the girls? I thought they were Lady and the Tramp. 0 -
I can't say I am surprised by these results, but was this a scientific study or a survey? Does anyone have a link to the actual study?
Survey of British women it seems like:
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2742294/Mr-Darcy-beats-Bond-battle-bodies-British-women-date-man-love-handles-six-pack.htmlAn overwhelming 96 per cent of women think a dinner date with an abs-obsessed man would be dull.
Almost three quarters - 72 per cent - would rather the date was with a chubbier fella so that they would feel more able to indulge in dessert.
Of those in a relationship, 94 per cent say they love their man just as he is even if he has piled on a few extra pounds.
Again, the vast majority - 91 per cent - of women would rather their man spent 'couple' time with them than pumped iron.
Almost as many - 82 per cent - would never nag their other half to work out or diet to improve their physique.
Exactly three quarters would rather be hugged by a flabby fella than a gym-hardened muscleman.
And 74 per cent admit they would feel self-conscious taking their clothes off in front of a perfectly toned man.
I think this all sounds perfectly reasonable. And I think the quotes below are the reason.
"But while they may admire the actor's physique as James Bond, it seems they wouldn't want to date such a muscular man in real life."
"Most women worry about their bodies, so we know the hard work and dedication that goes into getting a buff, toned body."
A man with a perfect body has probably restricted his diet and alcohol intake and spends hours in the gym. All this suggests he's not going to be much fun as a partner."
I am not suggesting that every man, or even any man, with a 6-pack is not fun!! But a six pack doesn't doesn't come easy and women know it. I think the assumption that a guy with a little more fat = more fun on a day-to-day basis is not uncommon.0 -
If the person is in it for the long haul, they have to care more about personality than looks. Bodies change, we get old, even among bodybuilders there is a cut/bulk cycle. No one has a 6-pack ALL the time. We all have bloated days etc.
It's a good thing.0 -
dunno about a beer belly but I prefer a natural smooth look to the silly six pack look. I think sixpacks are more for men for other men. I've never been attracted to that. the implied vanity is also unattractive. yeah.. sixpacks meh. big meh.0
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I'm guessing that if this was a thread by a chubby guy complaining about how he doesn't have a six pack and can't meet women everyone would be chanting the typical "confidence is all that matters" BS. Since the OP has a six pack and is posting something somewhat anti-six pack we're all getting the chorus of "but six packs are really really important" posts.
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What thread are you reading? :huh: Half the responses have been affirming that we don't care about a 6-pack.
^agree
Nah, we are still claiming we prefer personality to looks.
Which is fine.
However the survey isn't really about personality over looks.
It is about the perception of men's personalities based on nothing but looks. Which is pretty sucky.0 -
That extra time available for fat dudes that don't use the gym will eventually be offset by impaired mobility and death from things like diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, etc.
Just because someone doesn't have a six pack or is massively ripped doesn't mean they're out of shape or have impaired mobility or any health problems.0 -
That extra time available for fat dudes that don't use the gym will eventually be offset by impaired mobility and death from things like diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, etc.
Oh come now! Not having a six pack does not always = obesity or poor health.0 -
Does this work in reverse? I'm a girl with a 6-pack (okay, more like a 4-pack, but whatevs); does this mean my personality automatically sucks, I'm obsessive, I cheat, and I don't make time for my family? :huh:
Of course it does. Quit being such a biotch and have a cookie.
Chocolate chunk, I hope. If not, this discussion is over. :huh:
You are so demanding! It's gotta be the abs. Fine, I'll get right on it
This is why I love you. And those 2 other very important reasons, of course.
Yes...my charming personality and my rapier wit
Is that what you've named the girls? I thought they were Lady and the Tramp.
Okay that just made me laugh.
Um no, they're Sunshine and Happiness0 -
I'm guessing that if this was a thread by a chubby guy complaining about how he doesn't have a six pack and can't meet women everyone would be chanting the typical "confidence is all that matters" BS. Since the OP has a six pack and is posting something somewhat anti-six pack we're all getting the chorus of "but six packs are really really important" posts.
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What thread are you reading? :huh: Half the responses have been affirming that we don't care about a 6-pack.
^agree
Nah, we are still claiming we prefer personality to looks.
Which is fine.
However the survey isn't really about personality over looks.
It is about the perception of men's personalities based on nothing but looks. Which is pretty sucky.
imho it's only a small part of it. the perception of personality based on a physical aspect that the person has chosen to enhance, IS indeed indicative of at least one personality trait. Narcissism. being in shape or being fit or caring about yourself is entirely different than the hours at the gym needed to achieve the kind of cut we're talking about.. but beyond that.. at a more basic level.. it isn't a good look. it's not attractive. even if we are just talking eye candy.. I don't think super cut men are generally all that. never did. Some muscle is great but not muscle man ripped type muscles. it's just not attractive.0 -
That extra time available for fat dudes that don't use the gym will eventually be offset by impaired mobility and death from things like diabetes, high blood pressure, heart disease, etc.
Just because someone doesn't have a six pack or is massively ripped doesn't mean they're out of shape or have impaired mobility or any health problems.
Chit chat threads are not serious.0 -
Deleted because someone said it better in a shorter sentance
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Just because someone doesn't have a six pack or is massively ripped doesn't mean they're out of shape or have impaired mobility or any health problems.
Oh come now! Not having a six pack does not always = obesity or poor health.
The OP referenced "big bellies" and "beer bellies", not just undefined / non-6 pack stomachs. If you have a big gut hanging down over your belt line, I would suggest that there are health problems on the horizon for you...0 -
I'm guessing that if this was a thread by a chubby guy complaining about how he doesn't have a six pack and can't meet women everyone would be chanting the typical "confidence is all that matters" BS. Since the OP has a six pack and is posting something somewhat anti-six pack we're all getting the chorus of "but six packs are really really important" posts.
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What thread are you reading? :huh: Half the responses have been affirming that we don't care about a 6-pack.
LOL I'd say the opposite. Most of the posts are basically saying non-six pack guys are only getting dates because women are fat or insecure.
I think you may be misreading that. Maybe that is the case for some, maybe not. People are attracted to those they feel comfortable with. If someone is insecure in their size, they may not feel comfortable with someone who is built like adonis... they may worry that their lack of fitness makes them unattractive or unappealing. Regardless of gender.
I have ab definition, but have never dated or been with anyone who has one. Why? Because I choose to date the MAN, not the body, and I don't lift up their shirts to see what's under before I engage in conversation. It's not on my list of "must haves" in a man.
Is it nice? Sure. Is it necessary. Hell to the no.
Many of the responses I've seen in this thread have said that too.0 -
I like guys with bellies because they are less likely to cheat on me or leave me for someone who is fit.
What study is that based on?
They asked 100 women who only date married men they met at the gym. Duh.0 -
I've read a few studies over the years that many women are unconsciously attracted to men who have similar personalities/traits as their fathers. Many fathers (not all of course) have bellies so perhaps it ties in a little to the studies already posted.0
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82% of all statistics are made up0
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6 pack or no 6 pack, I don't care. It's not really up there in the most attractive traits for me. My preferences are an attractive face, and quite big guys (tall, stocky, muscle) This could mean they have a belly / little extra body fat, or they could have well defined abs. All is good, as long as they're healthy. Being strong is a preference too, which again, does not equal lean or otherwise.
I also don't make judgements on a guy's personality based on what he looks like. There are people I know who act like complete *kitten*, and they aren't close to fit or ripped, but some of the nicest guy's I've met are really into fitness/lifting, and vice versa. It's very individual.However I'd totally pick Seth Rogan over Zac Effron. I mean, really.
Me too! I thought I'd be the odd one out there, haha!0 -
That's the dumbest study I've ever heard then again it's from Fox.
That comment might have something to do with anything if Fox had conducted the survey. This was a simple news piece that happened to be reported by Fox.0 -
imho it's only a small part of it. the perception of personality based on a physical aspect that the person has chosen to enhance, IS indeed indicative of at least one personality trait. Narcissism. being in shape or being fit or caring about yourself is entirely different than the hours at the gym needed to achieve the kind of cut we're talking about.. but beyond that.. at a more basic level.. it isn't a good look. it's not attractive. even if we are just talking eye candy.. I don't think super cut men are generally all that. never did. Some muscle is great but not muscle man ripped type muscles. it's just not attractive.
Men who have 6 packs do not exclusively fallen within the ambit of "bodybuilders" and even if they do you cannot simply assume they are narcissists simply because of that pursuit without knowing the individual. That sounds more like prejudice based on incomplete information and assumptions.
In addition, say you have a fatter gentleman who is training for a marathon or any endurance event. The amount of time he spends training may dwarf that of a bodybuilder and his diet may be even more restrictive yet somehow these negative associations do not apply. Is that fair, right or rational ?0 -
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@hat. but seriously. I don't know about big belly or not for the general preference but I would believe a bit of softness is preferable to a guy who is completely ripped. I was going off the daily mail uk article not the fox article comparing mr darcy to bond.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2742294/Mr-Darcy-beats-Bond-battle-bodies-British-women-date-man-love-handles-six-pack.html
and that is true. (Although I think the tall dark and handsome thing is winning out over the short and ripped and kind of ugly thing)
but still, colin firth is exactly the kind of body type I'm thinking when I say it's preferable to ripped and definitely not in the path for health problems
and let's go a step further and address the possibility of cheating or insecurity. EVERYONE loves colin firth. if we were talking no name guys, not superstars, and you just had a guy who was a dead ringer for daniel craig and one who was a dead ringer for colin firth I think a lot more temptation would be in the path of the firth look alike than the craig lookalike.0 -
Which is fine.
However the survey isn't really about personality over looks.
It is about the perception of men's personalities based on nothing but looks. Which is pretty sucky.
This study shows that while men can agree on one type of attractiveness, women cannot.
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/06/090626153511.htm
ETA: yes it is sucky when people are judged by their looks alone.0 -
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Just because someone doesn't have a six pack or is massively ripped doesn't mean they're out of shape or have impaired mobility or any health problems.
Oh come now! Not having a six pack does not always = obesity or poor health.
The OP referenced "big bellies" and "beer bellies", not just undefined / non-6 pack stomachs. If you have a big gut hanging down over your belt line, I would suggest that there are health problems on the horizon for you...
It would increase risk of disease. But so do a lot of other things that have absolutely nothing to do with waist circumference or weight. A man with a beer belly could have just as much muscle underneath as the man with a 6 pack. And they could have less disease risk factors than the man with the 6-pack.
And none of that will necessarily affect the fun and satisfaction one has in a relationship. There are no guarantees of health. I doubt many women would want to be with a man just because they thought he might have less risk of disease later. If so, they'd be asking for a complete medical history, including family history, before deciding who to date.0 -
I can't say I am surprised by these results, but was this a scientific study or a survey? Does anyone have a link to the actual study?
EL OH EL
I'm pretty sure i read it's Fox..... So i hope your expectations are very very very very very low.0 -
I COMPLETELY agree!!! I love a little belly chub :-) what I am really attracted to are sculpted arms and shoulders. Get those biceps to work gents!!! ;-) haha0
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Which is fine.
However the survey isn't really about personality over looks.
It is about the perception of men's personalities based on nothing but looks. Which is pretty sucky.
This study shows that while men can agree on one type of attractiveness, women cannot.
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/06/090626153511.htm
ETA: yes it is sucky when people are judged by their looks alone.
The study you linked says that women prefer thin, muscular men0 -
Which is fine.
However the survey isn't really about personality over looks.
It is about the perception of men's personalities based on nothing but looks. Which is pretty sucky.
This study shows that while men can agree on one type of attractiveness, women cannot.
http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/06/090626153511.htm
ETA: yes it is sucky when people are judged by their looks alone.
I'd like to think that perhaps women can just think for themselves when it comes to what they find attractive. ;P0
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