Walking out on a fitness class/instructor???

mariahk89

Hey everyone, I just want some peoples opinion on this or what you would have done if you were in my shoes.

I joined a boxing class a few weeks ago. It was new to the area so it was her new class trying it out in someones boxing gym.

It was once a week.The first class had mostly teenagers and some adults. I loved it and was pumped to go again. The next class came and I admit it was my fault for being a tad bit late 15 minutes. However, the first class there were several people late who were greeted by the instructor and given instructions on what they should do.

So today, when I came in, she saw me, did not acknowledge my existence, I got undressed and stood there like an idiot and she continued teaching the class jab, cross hook etc. Walking around. She saw me for sure. Did not care. I know disrupting a class is rude, but there were partnered people waiting for her to come approach them one by one so it's not like she was teaching a lesson or a yoga class. People were waiting their turn.I got a very bad vibe, got dressed and walked out. There was even less people than last time. With an attitude like that no wonder she just came to this boxing ring. Half the people did not even show up.

I got a bad vibe from her the first class when I told her I had a bad posture after 3 kids. She said well everyone has kids. I have a son too...it was pretty rude the way she said it..


Anyways, I just got dressed and walked out without a word. Did I overreact? What would you have done? Waste of money but I'm not going to lower myself and ask for my $20 back.

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I would not have been late.

Being late is rude. It tells the instructor that you don't care enough to be on time. I do not blame the instructor at all.

The instructor is going to give their time to people who show up on time.

VelveteenArabian

Being late, especially in a class that requires the instructor to interact with everyone, is incredibly rude. If this class is important to you, then you need to show up before the class starts.

Saying you have bad posture because you had children is a little strange. Did you have a difficult pregnancy or something? If anything, the weight from carrying a baby probably exacerbated an existing problem. Posture is something you can fix. Lots of people have children and go on to have good posture. You were giving her an excuse, she was letting you know it's just an excuse.

DavPul

since fitness classes are usually 50-60 minutes, arriving 15 mins after the start is not "a tad bit late". not only did others make it on time, i'm betting quite a few arrived early so they could ask questions of the instructor about things they weren't sure about. everyone else was there in time to get partnered up, put in the right positions, and hear the instructions about the day's class.

for you to get there after missing 30% of the class and expect everyone to stop, drop, and roll at your arrival is rude. don't blame your kids for your rudeness.

lisalsd1

If you miss the first 15 minutes of a class, you should probably just skip it. I'd think you didn't care enough about the class to make the effort to show-up on time. Are you late for work? Treat your fitness class like you would your job. It's supposed to be "work."

DopeItUp

Usually when I'm the one being a jerk, I try to make it out like the other guy is being the jerk. It's human nature I think.

_runnerbean_

On the very rare occasion that I have been late for my kettlebells class I find a space at the side and do a warm up routine so that I am ready to join the group at an appropriate time. I am talking 5 mins late, 15 mins late is too late to join a class.

BinaryPulsar

It's extremely rude to be late like that, and it was only your second class (not like you had been on time for a year and then you were late once).

Cherimoose

"There is nothing so annoying as to have two people go right on talking when you're interrupting." - Mark Twain

Madame_Goldbricker

At my gym if you miss the warm up time the instructor says you can't join in with the class. It's a fair rule as you could injure yourself.

Don't be disruptive. Case closed.

mariahk89

I think you guys missed the part where I said there were several others late before me during the first class and it did not bother her at all. She was polite to them. It seems like an inferiority complex some women have. 3 kids and breastfeeding does affect posture. She gave off rude vibes in the beginning. a friend who knows her also said she thinks shes superior to others.

kgeyser

Her having an attitude doesn't excuse your rudeness in showing up late. You were the one in the wrong in this particular situation.

DavPul

I think you guys missed the part where I said there were several others late before me during the first class and it did not bother her at all. She was polite to them. It seems like an inferiority complex some women have. 3 kids and breastfeeding does affect posture. She gave off rude vibes in the beginning. a friend who knows her also said she thinks shes superior to others.

You're right, she was just jealous of you

mariahk89

Right but I apologized...What is her issue since the beginning? Ive been to several classes and never had an instructor so arrogant.


Davpaul who the heck is blaming my kids?

SunofaBeach14

It's probably for the best. Combat sports and hypersensitivity don't generally mix well.

VelveteenArabian

Right but I apologized...What is her issue since the beginning? Ive been to several classes and never had an instructor so arrogant.

Since we weren't there, how can we tell? YOU, however, seem to have kind of an attitude and excuses at the ready. Who cares if she has a problem? Stop making excuses, show up on time, get your workout, and leave. She's not there to be your buddy, she's there to lead the group fitness class. She's SUPPOSED to be confident and kind of pushy. What good is a trainer that's wishy washy and just accepts an excuse? Her JOB is to not accept excuses and to make you perform your best.

rogerOb1

lol, some of you make it sound like OP was interrupting surgery. Being 15 minutes late to a fitness class isn't ideal, but isn't exactly a signal for the end of times either.

I would've at least tried to signal the teacher in a quiet moment before opting to leave though...and I wouldn't overblow the posture comment either.

mariahk89

I am in a kickboxing class already so Im pretty experienced with combat sports. Maybe it was the fact that I was older than her and most of the class. Did you miss out of 30 people only 12 showed up on her 2nd class? And a fyi she cancelled on her 2nd class too. Technically this was supposed to be the 3rd.

BramageOMG

I think you got your answer. People being late on another occasion has nothing to do with you coming in 15 minutes late now.

Probably best to just find something else to do.

Usually people here are pretty divided.. not this time. It was you

VelveteenArabian

lol, some of you make it sound like OP was interrupting surgery. Being 15 minutes late to a fitness class isn't ideal, but isn't exactly a signal for the end of times either.

I would've at least tried to signal the teacher in a quiet moment before opting to leave though...and I wouldn't overblow the posture comment either.

No, it's not ideal, but it's not like a Zumba class either where you can just take a spot in the back and jump in. This class sounds like it needs a lot of direct interaction with the instructor and actually needs proper warming up.

notworthstalking

I know with aikido it is really hard when parents don't get their kids on the mat in time. The class is only an hour long and if they miss warm ups, they miss out on some of the most important techniques. It's not as bad with the adults, but warm ups are just as important. I would think she would have said something the first class when people were late, but maybe she isn't used to running her own class yet? Also if people were already working together you can interrupt their instruction. She would be supervising their training while teaching others, and really is spread thin already.

As for the posture thing, mine as never being great and it's something I have to work on. I certainly don't blame my kids.

Also if you don't like this lady, find someone you do like.

mariahk89

It isnt a fitness class. Its a full contact muay thai training. Where the instructor goes one by one to each partner and teaches them to their level. So it is not like i interuppted her class. Please read the 1st post


I find it amusing Im being labelled for blaming my kids about my posture...it seems like too much hormones and testosterone flowing on this forum. I didnt blame my kids. I said after breastfeeding my posture got worse. Theres a difference.

_Zardoz_

Right but I apologized...What is her issue since the beginning? Ive been to several classes and never had an instructor so arrogant.


Davpaul who the heck is blaming my kids?

why are you assuming every thing revolves around you? You were very late you were in the wrong. It's that simple. If you don't like the instructor find another class, not everyone gets on with every instructor or their style. Move on lifes too short and the next class you go to whoever the instructor is be on time.

SunofaBeach14

It isnt a fitness class. Its a full contact muay thai training. Where the instructor goes one by one to each partner and teaches them to their level. So it is not like i interuppted her class. Please read the 1st post.

Then you absolutely interrupted the class and were horribly rude by doing so.

notworthstalking

It isnt a fitness class. Its a full contact muay thai training. Where the instructor goes one by one to each partner and teaches them to their level. So it is not like i interuppted her class. Please read the 1st post.

It's a martial art class, please treat it as one.

Alluminati

I would have apologized and continued with the class.

You sound like the arrogant one, OP.

mariahk89

It isnt a fitness class. Its a full contact muay thai training. Where the instructor goes one by one to each partner and teaches them to their level. So it is not like i interuppted her class. Please read the 1st post.

It's a martial art class, please treat it as one.

Not a martial art nor a martial arts class. Its a boxing gym and is a sport.

CipherZero

I used to be an instructor for technical classes. Students who were late got little notice from me, quite deliberately, because it lets them know that being late is unacceptable.

notworthstalking

It isnt a fitness class. Its a full contact muay thai training. Where the instructor goes one by one to each partner and teaches them to their level. So it is not like i interuppted her class. Please read the 1st post.

It's a martial art class, please treat it as one.

Not a martial art nor a martial arts class. Its a boxing gym and is a sport.

Muay Thai is a martial art. As is boxing at it's core.

VelveteenArabian

It isnt a fitness class. Its a full contact muay thai training. Where the instructor goes one by one to each partner and teaches them to their level. So it is not like i interuppted her class. Please read the 1st post


I find it amusing Im being labelled for blaming my kids about my posture...it seems like too much hormones and testosterone flowing on this forum. I didnt blame my kids. I said after breastfeeding my posture got worse. Theres a difference.

You did mention that after having kids and breastfeeding, your posture got worse. You're blaming the pregnancy and breastfeeding as the reasons your posture are poor. Instead of accepting that it's poor because you never did anything to fix it. Who cares why your posture is bad? It's fixable. Fix it.

If it's a martial arts class, that actually makes it even ruder to march in late like that. It's disruptive to everyone in the class AND the instructor. You're obviously not serious about the class if you're coming in late more than once, so maybe switching to something else really is better for everyone involved.

999tigger

I started reading and thought people were being a bit hard on you but then your repeated excuses are a bit grating if im honest.

You were rude for being late. You dont really acknowledge this and being late for first class is different as only the basics are gone through.

If its only her class and shes in charge then she is the instructor she is and you are probably better off apart. Many ways to skin a cat, but unfortunately you wlaking out looks petualnt and burns your bridges. You could have kept your cool and had a word with her apologising then asking her about her difficulties she seemed to have. Perhaps you could have both made up then or she would have explained properly. As it is bridges burned which will be hard to undo.

Its all very much handbags at ten paces.