Got called Fatty :(

paulawatkins1974
paulawatkins1974 Posts: 720 Member
in Motivation and Support
So, Just came back from a 4.26 Mile walk, fairly brisk pace, think I'm doing pretty well, I've lost over 40 lbs, and while walking a car drove past & someone yelled out the window "WALK FASTER FATTY" Made me feel a little like all my hard work is nothing. Not sure if this makes me feel unmotivated, or more motivated to 'show them' Still trying to sort out my feelings right now and needed to vent!
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  • Psychdoll74
    Psychdoll74 Posts: 16
    Yup, I get that all the time.
  • ADRsmama
    ADRsmama Posts: 45 Member
    Some people are so cruel and idiotic.
  • Early_Riser
    Early_Riser Posts: 127 Member
    I've been there...many times. Keep pushing
  • Gidzmo
    Gidzmo Posts: 906 Member
    Ignore them, Paula. Someone has nothing better to do than to criticize others.

    Got a Walkman or a Discman? Or an MP3 player? Or a cellphone?
    Got earbuds?

    Find a few good stations, an audiobook, or some music you like, and take that on your walks. Boogie on while you're getting your exercise.
  • watchhillgirl
    watchhillgirl Posts: 597 Member
    Don't worry about the idiots. You just keep on strutting your stuff! 40 lbs is nothing to sneeze at! Keep at it. Probably just some obnoxious little brat whose parents never taught them any manners.
  • andreamaym
    andreamaym Posts: 179 Member
    I hate when people yell ANYTHING out of car windows, but that is just evil. It's important to remind yourself that whoever was shouting out that window is a bully, certainly has nothing better to do, and probably suffers from low self esteem (hence feeling the need to bring someone else down, too). I pity them, and you should too. Keep doing what you're doing (:
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    Wow, that actually speaks volumes more about them than you. I am happy for you that you are doing great things to make your life better. I feel sorry for them, what they have wrong can not be changed with diet and exercise. So sad to me.
  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    Don't let some idiot stop you. Keep going. Also, get some headphones. I can only imagine the things yelled to me over the years, but I'm totally oblivious if I have my tunes going.
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    I got laughed at and chastised and yelled at with "hey fatboy" my junior year during a basketball game with a rival.

    I hit a buzzerbeater to win that game...

    Screw the haters, just do you.
  • deluxmary2000
    deluxmary2000 Posts: 981 Member
    That is so sad and I'm so sorry someone said that to you :( I really HATE humans sometimes.
  • shireeniebeanie
    shireeniebeanie Posts: 293 Member
    Remember: you can always lose weight and still be a beautiful person, inside and out.
    That guy will still be a jerk, unhappy and ugly.
  • shai74
    shai74 Posts: 512 Member
    Perhaps he was being encouraging? :)
  • paulawatkins1974
    paulawatkins1974 Posts: 720 Member
    Feeling better already (: Thanks everyone for ranting with me!
  • missomgitsica
    missomgitsica Posts: 496 Member
    Anyone who does something like that really says far more about themselves than about you. The only people who do crap like that are people who are unhappy with themselves and can't figure out a way to fix that other than putting other people down. Just ignore them, they're not worth another second of your thoughts.
  • UnoriginalScreenName
    UnoriginalScreenName Posts: 8
    Some people can be jerks. I remember a friend of mine, a recovering anorexic (she was still underweight at the time), was walking to work, and someone slowed down and threw a cheeseburger out the window at her. I guess some sad individuals feel the need to tear others down to feel better about themselves. Don't pay them any mind, their words don't deserve any space in your thoughts.
  • opalsqueak007
    opalsqueak007 Posts: 433 Member
    Just move on past it. That person is nothing to you. People say stupid and horrid things all the time. You are doing so well - keep on going :)
  • stuart160
    stuart160 Posts: 1,628 Member
    The hell with them. That speaks more to their immaturity and lack of character than anything else. Some people never grow up and compensate for their own insecurities by hurting other people and thinking it's funny.
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    Don't let some idiot stop you. Keep going. Also, get some headphones. I can only imagine the things yelled to me over the years, but I'm totally oblivious if I have my tunes going.

    Yeah, who knows what I get called. It's easy to laugh when you're driving a car and not out there doing it yourself. I bet you have better endurance than the jerk yelling at you. Keep going.
  • JulieGirl58
    JulieGirl58 Posts: 158 Member
    Says a lot about them and nothing about you. Keep your chin up. That SOB has an ugly soul and you, my dear, are beautiful.
  • RET68
    RET68 Posts: 88
    I remember getting whistled at when I was nine years old. It was really terrifying, and that plus many future catcalls were part of the reason I have always been ambivalent about losing weight. I like my armor you know. I think though your post makes me realize, they are not objective, selective, or even rational these haters. They are just trying to find someone they see as weak: maybe old, maybe fat, maybe young, and they pick on them to make themselves feel better. Some people just aren't worth their air you know. I am so jealous of your forty pounds. You're doing a fabulous job. You better keep striding or I might catch up. ; )
  • majigurl
    majigurl Posts: 660 Member
    ** rolls eyes **

    some people just want to watch the world burn.

    IT ISN'T YOU! This is a reflection of themselves. Decent people don't say things like this.

    This person has no class, no morals and is down right jerkness...

    YOU ARE WORKING ON YOU!! GREAT F'N JOB!

    What did HE do for himself today? oh! He made someone else feel like crap. Lovely for him.

    KEEP UP THE GREAT WORD!! I'm cheering you on over here!!! :happy:
  • sofaking6
    sofaking6 Posts: 4,589 Member
    I'm sorry that you happened to cross paths with a complete tool. I know it's hard to toss the bad feels aside just like that, but their comment was about them, not you. They didn't see you and then feel compelled to make a comment. They wanted to say something hurtful to the next person they saw, that person happened to be you, and they decided that saying something about your weight would most likely hurt you. Can you imagine how miserable a person must be to act that way?

    Better to be overweight than dumb, mean, sad, classless and worthless even if you never lose another ounce.
  • labruzzo
    labruzzo Posts: 3 Member
    And while you were walking they were driving. I wonder who is fitter...
  • HeidiCooksSupper
    HeidiCooksSupper Posts: 3,831 Member
    Ergo the "I can lose weight but you'll still be ugly" bumper sticker. Congratulate yourself that you are not the kind of low-life pond scum who would do such a thing to anybody! The guy is clearly an asshat.
  • Docmahi
    Docmahi Posts: 1,603 Member
    so sorry :( - just use it as fuel, keep the fire burning

    unfortunately people are *kitten* sometimes, for me when I am at the gym if I see a heavier person working out (not referring to you as heavy) then I just want to go tell them to keep kicking *kitten*, but some people are cruel
  • BunnySwann
    BunnySwann Posts: 1
    Some day they are going to look back and regret that they did that.
  • tabicatinthehat
    tabicatinthehat Posts: 329 Member
    I ALWAYS listen to music when I'm walking outside, so I have no idea what anyone is saying. Whatever it is, they get a smile and a nod. Except for this old man who walks early mornings in my neighborhood. I take out the headphones for him because he always has something pleasant to say. I guess he remembers when people were friendly to their neighbors and people they encounter.
    Don't let them get you down. it doesn't matter why they did it. They don't matter to you. Unless they do. And they certainly don't have to.
  • Sassy_Girl
    Sassy_Girl Posts: 19 Member
    It is a hurtful thing to do but think of it this way. You are working on being healthy and being the best YOU can be. This person was sitting on their lazy behind hiding behind a moving car yelling out a window. WHAT A COWARD they are. You are better than this so ignore and hold you head high. We cannot control anyone but we can control how we respond.

    Great job on your walk :)
  • Tanie98
    Tanie98 Posts: 675 Member
    igonore it,some people are just insensitive jerks
  • spirytwynd
    spirytwynd Posts: 141 Member
    There are a lot of insensitive people in this world. Some say things without thinking. Heck, pretty sure I have stuck my foot in my mouth a bunch. Some people deliberately say ugly things. Unfortunately, some people put others down as a way to make them feel better about themselves. However, what you are doing is not for them. What you are doing is for you. What you think and feel matter. What they think and feel is their problem. Yes, the words can hurt . . . a lot. But the words that matter are your words. You have already lost forty pounds. That is significant. You are pressing forward. That is even more significant.

    I remember reading the comments of an NFL quarterback. He got juiced and excited when he would play away games in the opposing team's stadium. He knew he was doing well when he heard lots of booing. He liked to go into those stadiums and make the crowd boo.

    Keep going. Do the right thing. Ignore the naysayers and cat callers and refuse to drop to their level. And keep whittling away at the parts you want to get rid of/reform, until all that is left is you. :-)

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