Got called Fatty :(
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I remember getting whistled at when I was nine years old. It was really terrifying, and that plus many future catcalls were part of the reason I have always been ambivalent about losing weight. I like my armor you know. I think though your post makes me realize, they are not objective, selective, or even rational these haters. They are just trying to find someone they see as weak: maybe old, maybe fat, maybe young, and they pick on them to make themselves feel better. Some people just aren't worth their air you know. I am so jealous of your forty pounds. You're doing a fabulous job. You better keep striding or I might catch up. ; )
every word you just wrote hit home with me!!!
Paula, you MUST develop a thick skin during this fight to lose weight so as not to be detered by some lamea** motherf***er who doesn't give a sh** about you or your struggles. He's mentally and emotionally stunted as well as cruel and heartless to even for a second feel it's acceptable to behave this way towards another person. Don't waste your time trying to figure him out or how you could have looked differently in order not to have drawn his unwanted attention. It just doesn't matter in the end. He doesn't matter. No one matters, but YOU!!! You are wonderful, strong, brave, determined, and able to be the person you want to be simply by remaining focused on YOU and not others who certainly do not have your best interests at heart. Dig deep to let these unkind words fall off and never penetrate your heart again!!! You can do this, Paula :-)0 -
What a sad person. You know, miserable people will say whatever they think is going to hurt you. It's a little victory for someone who feels like a big time loser. It really says more about them than it does about you.
I was called "fat and stringy" - whatever the hell that means - by some random guy who felt slighted when I wasn't interested. The funny thing is, my BMI is 20. I'm lean, fit and healthy. His comment made me laugh out loud. I'm sure he thought I'd be all broken-hearted about being called fat (as many women are sensitive about their weight) so it's probably just his standard put down. It just made him look foolish and unoriginal.
Calling someone fat or fatty is so cliche, even if it's "technically" true. Douche bags yelling crap out windows at random strangers should be ignored - always. You should feel sorry for him. What a punk.
Congrats on all that mileage! Keep it up! :drinker:0 -
It happens. Mostly people have been friendly when I'm out there walking, doin' the best I can. But the other day I got honked at and this guy slowed down to literally point and laugh... I was upset at first, but then I thought about it. First, he was fatter than me, so I'm betting I reminded him of what he should be doing. Secondly, yeah, I'm fat. And when I'm working out, I'm sweaty and fat. All my jiggling butt wibble wobbling with every step is out there in yoga pants for the world to see. But I have a good heart, a determined spirit, and I'm making efforts to make myself better than what I am. That guy is drowning in his own garbage. He's so deep in it that's all he sees...and that's sad.
He laughed at me, but I feel bad for him.
And that's how you gotta see anyone who puts you down. You're out there making an effort to improve yourself, but someone who's trying to drag others down can't do that. Pity the jerks, but don't let them deter you.0 -
This is why I run with headphones in and sunglasses on. So I have an excuse to ignore all the haters.0
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I'm really sorry that happened to you
some people are idiots and what they think don't matter 0 -
Screw em!! Come on don't let some miserable *kitten* person allow you to question what you are doing and what you have accomplished!! 40 lbs loss is great!! Keep up the good work!!0
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I'm sorry this happened to you. Keep your chin up and don't let some miserable douchekebab obliterate all your hard work with one lame remark. They suck, not you. Go forth and be awesome.0
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Well i don't see them doing that epic walk!!
It's a test to your strength and a reminder of the good in yourself.
Let what YOU do define you, not what OTHERS do.
You're doing great, keep it up!0 -
I have never understood how someone could enjoy hurting someone's feelings for no reason at all. It makes me sick. You have lost 40 pounds? That is fantastic! Keep doing what you are doing, and don't worry about this kind of foolishness. So sorry that happened to you.0
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People are a-sshates, sure, but why would you let it make you feel like your work is for nothing? Surely it would have the opposite affect? About three years ago someone bumped into me and called me a fat so and so and I was determined to NEVER be called that again.0
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I have never understood how someone could enjoy hurting someone's feelings for no reason at all. It makes me sick.
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THIS.
I sometimes feel naïve but I honestly cant understand how someone can be so cruel to another person. I've always believed in raising people up and magnifying their strengths, as appose to bringing them down.0 -
I'm sorry. Some people are cruel and ignorant. I once met a man in person who I had first met online. One of the first things he said to me when we met was "I don't care that your a fatso." He had a bit of a gut on him so I said "and I don't mind that you look like your eight months pregnant." I know I shouldn't have stooped to his level but I couldn't help myself.0
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At the beginning of 2012 I was overweight and got a few nasty comments from people. Six months later I was thinner than those people and now get to look down my nose at them. That thought always amuses me.0
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Ugh the world is full of a**holes. Me personally, would just ignore the comments, but also use it to fuel yourself to get better. Like at the end of the day they were a stranger. You're probably not gonna see them ever again so why should they affect your life. I've been called fat by pure strangers who were adult men! Seriously they looked like they were in their 40s, drunk out their mind too. But I'm never gonna see them again so what does it even matter. I find it hilarious how some people think their voice needs to be heard!
But I've been bullied all my childhood about my weight, so I've developed a thick skin over time; and boy was that hard to do. As long as you're surrounded by people who care about you and are totally supportive you don't need to listen to those people.
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"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." - Eleanor Roosevelt
People who matter don't yell mean things out of car windows. Just feel lucky you don't have to be that guy - who is really quite pathetic!
YOU GO GIRL!0 -
I've had it too and I know it's really hard not to let it hurt you. Whether it be a stranger or someone close.
YOUR the one doing something to better yourself, I bet they wouldn't do it! Driving around like a **** calling out at people then driving away is just so easy for them.
Sometimes me and my friends just say "you come and do it then" whether it's jogging and especially boot camp (as it's on a public park we get little teenagers and ****s most of the time s******ing and watching) and their reaction is "*kitten* that!!! No way". It's to difficult for them and then I feel brilliant as I know I CAN do it lol.
Chin up hunny, this is YOUR life and nobody has the right to make you feel unworthy of anything!! :flowerforyou:0 -
Please don't beat yourself up about this.
You do your thing and move on. You've lost weight so it's working. Focus on that.
You don't have to explain yourself to anybody. You don't have apologise for how you are.
The world is wide. If he doesn't like what he sees, he's allowed to look elsewhere.
And, finally, most of the time, those comments come from the jerk's own insecurities. They tell a hell of a lot more about them than about you.
Keep smiling!0 -
The first time I went to the gym a group of really fit girls kept looking at me and giggling, and some of them said I should run instead of walking on the treadmill "I couldn't because my joints hurts badly" . They kept dong it and calling me names "including fatty" until I terminating my membership. Now I just walk around my neighborhood instead. I never regretted anything more than quitting the gym, so screw them who called you fatty. Just do what you want to do and ignore them.0
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When somebody calls you fatty after you've shed 40 lbs, it's only because they're seeing you as you are now, and have NO understanding of how much progress you've really made. That's just how small minds work -- they see you exercising, and don't even take 1 moment to think that maybe this isn't your first time doing it. They just assume you've always been the size you are now and that your current size & shape doesn't represent progress. No big deal, it's just the nature of the beast. Just don't let your mind take their UNINFORMED ASSUMPTION as fact, and don't let it take up more time in your mind than thoughts about your next goal.0
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Come on Paula, they can only make you feel bad if you let them. You have lost a lot of weight and exercise makes you feel good! be happy and ignore.x0
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Hmmmm ... Interesting they can make a comment as such, considering they were driving. At least you were out walking.0
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Remember: you can always lose weight and still be a beautiful person, inside and out.
That guy will still be a jerk, unhappy and ugly.
^^^This0 -
You guys are awesome! Such support. I actually hesitated to post it because it was so embarrassing. I haven't even told hubby although I know he'd feel bad for me and pissed at them. too embarrassed. (Maybe I will someday when I'm close to goal weight) Anyway today I have a fresh outlook, & double the motivation. I have been wanting to lift for about 4 months and know I should but have been putting it off for fear of wrong technique, sore muscles, less calorie deficit from less cardio burn, (I do some cardio almost every day) And a whole host of other excuses. I have some equipment I bought months ago & TODAY I'm going to use it. So Thanks to you all,.....And even thanks to the a55hole!0
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Yes, unfortunately some people enjoy being intentionaly cruel and vicious.
I had Bells Palsy 8 years ago , and had to wear an eye patch for a couple of months,, some of the comments in the street were unbeleiveable. It was a real eye opener (lol). I dread to think what people with serious disabilities have to endure.
I have also had the usual fatty comments, one recent one stuck with me.
I was cycling to work and 2 runners were coming towards me down the cycle/pedestrian path in the opposite direction to me.
They were running side by side. They did not go single file and i had to stop.
as they approached me, i said to them "come on guys, we are supposed to share this path".
I made a point of not swearing or sounding aggressive. The guy on my side of the path said "sorry mate" so i cycled on about 10 yards. The the other guy shouted back " F**K off you great fat C**T.0 -
The world can be a very cruel place. As your self esteem grows these comments will just roll right off!:drinker: Remember, these comments are coming from a person who is very insecure and messed up!0
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Seriously does the person in that car have ANY relevance whatsoever in your life? NO they don't so why take anything they say to heart? You know how far you have come, you know what your goals are so keep pushing forward and let that kind of loser go on about their way. Don't let is slow you down!!0
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You guys are awesome! Such support. I actually hesitated to post it because it was so embarrassing. I haven't even told hubby although I know he'd feel bad for me and pissed at them. too embarrassed. (Maybe I will someday when I'm close to goal weight) Anyway today I have a fresh outlook, & double the motivation. I have been wanting to lift for about 4 months and know I should but have been putting it off for fear of wrong technique, sore muscles, less calorie deficit from less cardio burn, (I do some cardio almost every day) And a whole host of other excuses. I have some equipment I bought months ago & TODAY I'm going to use it. So Thanks to you all,.....And even thanks to the a55hole!
Good for you. Living well is the best revenge!0 -
I bought headphones for this very reason, not just getting harassed negatively by some but hit on by perverted men driving down the road while I'm in regular clothes walking my kids to and from school. Just ignore them, insecure people have to knock down others to lift themselves up.0
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Seriously does the person in that car have ANY relevance whatsoever in your life? NO they don't so why take anything they say to heart? You know how far you have come, you know what your goals are so keep pushing forward and let that kind of loser go on about their way. Don't let is slow you down!!
^^^This, from my lovely friend!
OP< words are just formed letters...don't give words power. Your action of losing 40lbs already has more power than any words thrown at you. Smile and feel sorry for their pathetic, black hearts. You're the one who's winning.0 -
This speaks volumes about their character.
Focus on you and your end goal and be proud of that!
Ignore the bullys ... humans can be so despicable at times.0
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