Has anyone ever been dumped because of their weight?

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  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    After reading many of these I am very grateful for my partner Chris, who is amazing and very supportive.

    Your ex is a douche bag, be does not deserve you.
    You dodged a bullet.

    I'm glad you have an amazing partner :) you deserve it! And he is a douche. I will never allow myself to be with someone like him again.
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    His loss

    Thank you ;)
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    You're ex was too immature for you and you are better off without him. He sounds like a shallow jerk to me and you don't need that negativity in your life. You need someone who will accept you no matter what you look like and will be supportive. Congrats on the weight loss!!!

    You're right, I need positive, supportive people in my life. Thank you so much!! Xo.
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    btw....do not totally give him all the negative. While a lot of it is on him, there is a strong possibility that his attraction to you (or lack thereof) is out of his control, too. He may not totally know it, either. But I believe people are almost 100% a product of their upbringing and their environment (another psychological hot topic with humans). Maybe he has a circle of friends that sets a standard of what is hot and not, and his brain is trained to think that certain way. In which case, he may truly think you are too fat for him.

    Before I get bashed by the she-woman man-haters, I do not know the details or anything. I am just pointing to possibilities. If you can gain perspective, you can better understand it, have a lot less anger towards him, and be better off with the next person as you may not be so skeptical. There are plenty of jerks out there. It is not worth the energy to get hung on one. It may ruin it for the nice guy when you eventually get to him when you are 34 ;-).

    Trust me I know attraction is out of control, like I said earlier to someone else, I could NEVER date someone I was not attracted to. So I'm not sure why he dated me in the first place if he is truly unattracted. Perspective is everything, I don't disagree with anything you've said. And thank you. I appreciate everything :)
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    Yes, I have, more than once. It's a horrible thing to have to go through and I'm so sorry it happened to you, sweetie. I also had a boyfriend (now ex, of course) that would ask me EVERY SINGLE DAY if I was going to lose weight or if I COULD lose weight (really? Am I beyond help or something). To say it was hurtful is an understatement. I broke up with him because I didn't need that in my life. And in the end, it taught me what I did want and what I DIDN'T want in a relationship. There will always be guys like that, but like everyone else said, they are shallow jerks and you don't want to be with them anyway. I got married to my husband (who is thin) at my heaviest weight ever and he still said (and continues to say) every day how beautiful I am, how attracted to me he is, how much he loves me, and if I mention my weight, he says he doesn't care, he'd love me at any weight. How I was so blessed, I don't know, but that's the guy you want. And you know what? His acceptance of me as I am gave me the motivation to lose. :) In short, forget the jerk and move on. You are entirely too adorable and beautiful for him anyway. You could do way better.

    That is amazing, I'm so glad you have a wonderful husband, you deserve that :) that is exactly the type of man I deserve too! Keep up the hard work! Thank you sweets :)
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    2 weeks ago, my boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me because I am 'too fat for him.' He is 170 pounds and 6'3. I WAS 192.2 pounds and 5'3. Right now I'm 174.4 pounds. He said that for the past few months he lost all attraction towards me, he said I was too fat and I need to lose weight. Has anyone else ever been broken up with because their partner wasn't attracted to them/because of their weight? It is a horrible feeling, but he opened my eyes on my health.

    He sounds like a total *kitten*. Be happy he broke up with you because eventually he'll be another girls problem :)

    ETA: A few years ago I went out with a guy a few times and I think it was our 3rd date when he said to me "Tracy - you'd be a totaly hottie if you'd lose like - 15 pounds. Can you do that for me??"

    I didn't return his calls or texts after that and never saw him again.

    What the hell? That is terrible. You're so pretty. I'm so glad you didn't return any of his texts/calls. You deserve better!!
  • cnadiger
    cnadiger Posts: 168 Member
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    Yes. I was 190 and 5'3" and was dating a guy for about two years. One day he told me it wasn't going to work because of my weight. He thought he was being nice when he said "Don't get me wrong, I'm still sexually attracted to you, but what feels good in bed isn't necessarily pleasing to look at". WTF??!!? He actually suggested we still hook up, but don't date (meaning go out in public). His sister called me to ask why we broke up, so I told her. His whole family didn't talk to him for months, LOL! He then married a skinny bi**h not 3 months after we split up. I found out later he had been cheating on me with her for a couple of months. I lost about 60 lbs over the next year and ran into him (shockingly, he was divorced 3 month after the marriage) and he was right back on my doorstep begging to be let back in. NOT! That was 14 years ago and even though I gained back 40 of those pounds he still pops up on FB or txting me every few months wanting to get together "for old times sake". Whatever, get bent........
  • JeriAnne84
    JeriAnne84 Posts: 543 Member
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    Kind of. I had gone out on a couple of dates with this guy who was a total tool anyway and I was about to end it (except I was going to be nice and not flat out say I'm sorry but you're way too much of a douche for me..) but he told me he liked "bigger" girls, but I was bigger than what he was used to so he was going to not see me anymore.

    Then I got my breast reduction and he saw a picture of me and texted me and said he thought I was super hot now that I lost weight. I told him I had my boobs chopped off and he could stop stalking my facebook (beacuse we weren't friends) and not talk to me.
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    Yes. I was 190 and 5'3" and was dating a guy for about two years. One day he told me it wasn't going to work because of my weight. He thought he was being nice when he said "Don't get me wrong, I'm still sexually attracted to you, but what feels good in bed isn't necessarily pleasing to look at". WTF??!!? He actually suggested we still hook up, but don't date (meaning go out in public). His sister called me to ask why we broke up, so I told her. His whole family didn't talk to him for months, LOL! He then married a skinny bi**h not 3 months after we split up. I found out later he had been cheating on me with her for a couple of months. I lost about 60 lbs over the next year and ran into him (shockingly, he was divorced 3 month after the marriage) and he was right back on my doorstep begging to be let back in. NOT! That was 14 years ago and even though I gained back 40 of those pounds he still pops up on FB or txting me every few months wanting to get together "for old times sake". Whatever, get bent........

    Woooooow. What an *kitten*! My ex said our sex could've been better as well. He really thought you would just hookup with him? LOL. Married after 3 months? That's crazy, I'm so sorry you were cheated on, that is also a horrible feeling. I'm SO glad you stood your ground and did not let him back into your life. You deserve an amazing man who loves you for exactly who you are. Congrats on all of the weight loss! It's not easy, especially after a breakup. You're a strong-willed girl. He realized what he lost, too bad for him! ;)
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    Kind of. I had gone out on a couple of dates with this guy who was a total tool anyway and I was about to end it (except I was going to be nice and not flat out say I'm sorry but you're way too much of a douche for me..) but he told me he liked "bigger" girls, but I was bigger than what he was used to so he was going to not see me anymore.

    Then I got my breast reduction and he saw a picture of me and texted me and said he thought I was super hot now that I lost weight. I told him I had my boobs chopped off and he could stop stalking my facebook (beacuse we weren't friends) and not talk to me.

    Wow. I'm glad you didn't let him back into your life :) you're gorgeous btw!
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
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    What you describe is more a reflection of his shallowness and immaturity than it is of your weight.

    He sounds like a bully and you may be better off without him.

    Quoted for the MF'ing truth.

    You're better off without him. It's a fact.

    You continue doing what you're doing, stay strong!
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    What you describe is more a reflection of his shallowness and immaturity than it is of your weight.

    He sounds like a bully and you may be better off without him.

    Quoted for the MF'ing truth.

    You're better off without him. It's a fact.

    You continue doing what you're doing, stay strong!

    Thank you <3
  • JeriAnne84
    JeriAnne84 Posts: 543 Member
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    Kind of. I had gone out on a couple of dates with this guy who was a total tool anyway and I was about to end it (except I was going to be nice and not flat out say I'm sorry but you're way too much of a douche for me..) but he told me he liked "bigger" girls, but I was bigger than what he was used to so he was going to not see me anymore.

    Then I got my breast reduction and he saw a picture of me and texted me and said he thought I was super hot now that I lost weight. I told him I had my boobs chopped off and he could stop stalking my facebook (beacuse we weren't friends) and not talk to me.

    Wow. I'm glad you didn't let him back into your life :) you're gorgeous btw!

    Thank you! And yes I am too glad I didn't let him back in. Well it wasn't hard letting him go because there was the too big comment, and he flat out told me that he cheated on his last girlfriend, got HPV from the girl he cheated on her with and then gave it to his girlfriend. Oh and he had a porn addiction and had issues...um...."rising" to the challenge without porn. He offered up all this information to me on our 2nd date while I'm enjoying some awesome Mexican food. The cheating thing killed me. No thanks.
  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
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    ouch, well youre better off sounds like he's not the type you'd want long term. You want a man who realizes beauty fades and is happy with you even when you are senile and he's wiping your bottom and the pudding from your chin.
  • EngineerPrincess
    EngineerPrincess Posts: 306 Member
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    No I have not.

    I have had sex withheld though. That was mature.

    Yeah, he also told me that our sex was a 4/10 and it would be better if I was skinny. Lol.

    Duuuude that's so not cool. If anyone ever suggests again that poor sex is your fault, inform them it's definitely an "it takes two" activity and the fault is likely his. As for his claiming your weight affecting it, he may have been watching too much porn to know how to have sex in real life. It happens. You're gorgeous, and he's dumb.
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    Kind of. I had gone out on a couple of dates with this guy who was a total tool anyway and I was about to end it (except I was going to be nice and not flat out say I'm sorry but you're way too much of a douche for me..) but he told me he liked "bigger" girls, but I was bigger than what he was used to so he was going to not see me anymore.

    Then I got my breast reduction and he saw a picture of me and texted me and said he thought I was super hot now that I lost weight. I told him I had my boobs chopped off and he could stop stalking my facebook (beacuse we weren't friends) and not talk to me.

    Wow. I'm glad you didn't let him back into your life :) you're gorgeous btw!

    Thank you! And yes I am too glad I didn't let him back in. Well it wasn't hard letting him go because there was the too big comment, and he flat out told me that he cheated on his last girlfriend, got HPV from the girl he cheated on her with and then gave it to his girlfriend. Oh and he had a porn addiction and had issues...um...."rising" to the challenge without porn. He offered up all this information to me on our 2nd date while I'm enjoying some awesome Mexican food. The cheating thing killed me. No thanks.

    Wow that is gross. At least he was honest about everything!
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    ouch, well youre better off sounds like he's not the type you'd want long term. You want a man who realizes beauty fades and is happy with you even when you are senile and he's wiping your bottom and the pudding from your chin.

    Exactly!! :)
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    No I have not.

    I have had sex withheld though. That was mature.

    Yeah, he also told me that our sex was a 4/10 and it would be better if I was skinny. Lol.

    Duuuude that's so not cool. If anyone ever suggests again that poor sex is your fault, inform them it's definitely an "it takes two" activity and the fault is likely his. As for his claiming your weight affecting it, he may have been watching too much porn to know how to have sex in real life. It happens. You're gorgeous, and he's dumb.

    He was single for 4 years & addicted to porn before we dated, so that could be a reason. Thank you so much :)
  • pinkraynedropjacki
    pinkraynedropjacki Posts: 3,027 Member
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    Yeah I was an Aussie size16, 19 years old, had only had a baby 5 months before and was eventually told 3 week after we started dating that "I don't date fat girls & I only want a size 12"

    Yeah ok... this from a guy who throws up at the thought of being with a woman let alone kissing them? This from a man who at the age of 24 wets the bed at night? Someone who's idea of a weekend away is going to the country to check out their ice-skating rink so he can have me & my son sit & watch him for hours ....we didn't have anything warm on either cause it was the middle of summer & I'd packed both of us for summer weather...it was 40c outside.

    This from a guy who on the day I met him (at an ice-rink) asked me to marry him. ....his family thought he was gay & refused to support him any longer if he didn't get married..... I guess I was an easy target back then.


    I was more than ok to not see him again, but be damned if I was fat. I was in better shape than him.
  • tayleigh4
    tayleigh4 Posts: 90 Member
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    Yeah I was an Aussie size16, 19 years old, had only had a baby 5 months before and was eventually told 3 week after we started dating that "I don't date fat girls & I only want a size 12"

    Yeah ok... this from a guy who throws up at the thought of being with a woman let alone kissing them? This from a man who at the age of 24 wets the bed at night? Someone who's idea of a weekend away is going to the country to check out their ice-skating rink so he can have me & my son sit & watch him for hours ....we didn't have anything warm on either cause it was the middle of summer & I'd packed both of us for summer weather...it was 40c outside.

    This from a guy who on the day I met him (at an ice-rink) asked me to marry him. ....his family thought he was gay & refused to support him any longer if he didn't get married..... I guess I was an easy target back then.


    I was more than ok to not see him again, but be damned if I was fat. I was in better shape than him.

    Wow you are so much better than that. Don't ever let a man treat you like that again. You deserve the world. And you are not fat!

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