let's flip the table, what do women prefer in a man?

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  • TheMaidOfAstolat
    TheMaidOfAstolat Posts: 3,222 Member
    For me it's a strange combination...
    1- Faith and family....how he treats his mother is a big deal.
    2- Interests...do we have a few in common and a few that aren't?
    3- Career....where's he going with it?
    4- Looks...I'm all about the eyes, smooth skin, muscular without being too ripped, and tats/piercings?
    5- Can he cook/fend for himself?

    I know I'm picky...but I just got divorced so...I'm looking for everything my ex wasn't.
  • sweetheart03622
    sweetheart03622 Posts: 928 Member
    I've been dying laughing as I scroll through this... you gals are hysterical...

    ... and what do I like? Big shoulders, bit of chest hair, smart..

    ..... not gunna argue with that tongue skills comment either :blushing:
  • My guy is incredible. We kind of knew eachother but i was never attracted to him. Then we started chatting on facebook....Wow.

    Personality is everything. We laugh a lot. We talk a lot. I can totally trust him. He is really caring. I love that old school charm, where guys open your doors etc.

    Just so you know guys, i don't mean you have to pay for everything lol. I'm an equal kind of girl. But the little things are everything.

    He bought me flowers for no reason. He cooks dinner. If i'm feeling crappy he'll ask if i want a hot water bottle. Stripped the wallpaper in the hall for my mum.

    One thing i LOVE, he makes me feel really sexy. He's always complimenting my figure or telling me i'm beautiful.

    I also need a guy that likes sex. I'm sorry, but when i'm in a relationship i can quite happily have sex every day. It might be a confidence thing..i feel better when i'm wanted.
  • Crowhorse
    Crowhorse Posts: 394 Member
    I like men who are taller than me, definitely a little bigger than me, strong arms, rough hands and yes, sense of humor is a must, and I like men who aren't couch potatoes, nothing irritates me more than having that man who encourages me to stay in the house and be inactive. But since i've been single for what feels like forever I'm starting to think they've all been snagged up lol :)

    I've got one that encourages me to be inactive. I want to go out and do things, and he just wants to sit in the recliner and watch TV until he goes to bed.
  • Lazyboy09
    Lazyboy09 Posts: 190 Member
    Well first of all I noticed that on the previous thread regarding what men find attractive, all of the preferences were about physical attributes..................but on this thread regarding what women find attractive I notice that most of the prefernces are about behaviours or personality traits!! Intersting stuff!

    Well, I think to be fair about it the guys were subtly set up here. If I remember* it was asked if men like skinny women, not actually what men prefer in a women(which would be more open to including behaviors and personality traits).

    I agree though, interesting stuff. I'm really disappointed that it doesn't seem that my online gaming prowess is something sought after by women :tongue:


    *I suppose I could have gone back to check.. but you know... "Lazy"boy.
  • Still_Sossy
    Still_Sossy Posts: 868 Member
    Well first of all I noticed that on the previous thread regarding what men find attractive, all of the preferences were about physical attributes..................but on this thread regarding what women find attractive I notice that most of the prefernces are about behaviours or personality traits!! Intersting stuff!

    Since i'm on the tall side (5ft 11'' and around 6ft 2'' with heels on) i tend to prefer really tall men...say 6ft 2'' and above. Maybe it's to do with my own insecurities about sometimes feeling unfeminine and not the least bit dainty! Dating a smaller man would make me feel like I was the 'masculine' one in the relationship and I wouldn't like that very much......like i say, my own insecurities.

    In terms of build i'm not sure I have a type. I don't tend to go for skinny guys though, I prefer someone who is physically bigger than me. I think that probably dates back to more primitive times.

    I like a guy who is a little bit toned and a bit sporty looking but I don't like HUGE muscles at all. I don't mind if a guy is carrying a little bit of extra weight. I always notice arms and have a penchant for a nicely toned bicep.
    Hairy chests are fine....hairy backs are not!!
    Short hair or a shaved head is a must.
    Taking care of his appearance is a must.....vanity is a no no!

    I like a man who is confident but not cocky, a man with a wicked sense of humour and the ability to laugh at himself and a man who treats me like a princess.

    I don't want much do I??? hahaha

    .....probably why i've been single for years!! :-/


    Yea there is another tall chick out here!
  • Well first of all I noticed that on the previous thread regarding what men find attractive, all of the preferences were about physical attributes..................but on this thread regarding what women find attractive I notice that most of the prefernces are about behaviours or personality traits!! Intersting stuff!

    Well, I think to be fair about it the guys were subtly set up here. If I remember* it was asked if men like skinny women, not actually what men prefer in a women(which would be more open to including behaviors and personality traits).

    I agree though, interesting stuff. I'm really disappointed that it doesn't seem that my online gaming prowess is something sought after by women :tongue:


    *I suppose I could have gone back to check.. but you know... "Lazy"boy.

    What a total myth!
    I swear to god!
    Even on THIS website I've seen tons of female gamers.

    Gamer men need to understand, we exist and we love you.
    Now go find a gamer woman that will slobber over how strategic you are or how nimble your gaming thumbs are...or how you don't sweat on a level boss.
  • TakeOne
    TakeOne Posts: 345 Member
    I prefer a man who knows how to treat a woman - does he respect his mother? A man that respects and loves his mom says a lot about how he will treat his woman IMO.

    And I prefer a man to have a personality. No someone who is quiet and stands in the shadows, but one that laughs at a joke and enjoys the company around him. Someone who returns the question "how are you doing" when asked the same thing...instead of just answering it and not returning the question out of politeness.

    Yes, yes, yes, and yes to the above! Somebody grounded and HONEST and who knows who they are....sigh..to much to ask??
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    Curious question for the ladies...

    At what point is a "nice" guy too nice?
    Have read that it happens and is actually a turn off or is that a bunch of horse muffins?
  • Curious question for the ladies...

    At what point is a "nice" guy too nice?
    Have read that it happens and is actually a turn off or is that a bunch of horse muffins?

    Carl, refer to gamma man.
    That's the sweet spot. That is what most women are looking for and don't even know it. Friendly nice guys go too far into beta territory lol. Depends on the woman though.
  • sdereski
    sdereski Posts: 3,406 Member
    Strong arms (but not a body builder)
    Sexy eyes
    Very intellegent - can use his brain, likes to read
    Likes nature - enjoys hiking and camping
    Respectful to animals, women, and children
    Comfortable with who he is, but not an over-confident jerk
    Goofy - likes to play and have fun
    Nice butt - I like going to baseball games...

    ...and totally into me. :wink:
  • Lazyboy09
    Lazyboy09 Posts: 190 Member

    What a total myth!
    I swear to god!
    Even on THIS website I've seen tons of female gamers.

    Gamer men need to understand, we exist and we love you.
    Now go find a gamer woman that will slobber over how strategic you are or how nimble your gaming thumbs are...or how you don't sweat on a level boss.


    lols :bigsmile:
  • LeeKetty1176
    LeeKetty1176 Posts: 881 Member
    After reading loads of the posts from both the girls and the boys.................and I was the one that was copying and pasting all the info............ I am not looking for my copy of "weird science" to put it all together .................................... SHES ALIVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • Tarah1357
    Tarah1357 Posts: 139 Member
    I like my guy to at least be my height or taller. I don't like skinny scrawny guys...not my thing. Average height & weight. A little extra isn't bad, as long as they aren't proportioned all weird like...lol Some muscles are always an added bonus...(especially if their tattooed! lol) Oh, and I do like a guy w/ a good butt. That's always nice! :laugh:
  • Still_Sossy
    Still_Sossy Posts: 868 Member
    After reading loads of the posts from both the girls and the boys.................and I was the one that was copying and pasting all the info............ I am not looking for my copy of "weird science" to put it all together .................................... SHES ALIVE !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


    Yep and she better be sleeping next to you!
  • I prefer a guy who is very respectfull, has his own mind (I hate hate hate guys changing their opinions or their life..drastically.. for me, I like there to be some playful fighting =) And humor is always a plus. Basically anything that keeps my interest and doesn't bore me. And knows common knowledge haha

    As far as looks go: Broad shoulders, nice arms, TALL, Cute =), with a little bit of chubbb.

    I like to feel safe with him, so no little guys for me, I'm tall and chubby and therefore I need a bigger dude to make me feel safe

    I feel like this makes me seem picky.. but I'm just being honest.
  • UpToAnyCool
    UpToAnyCool Posts: 1,673
    At what point is a "nice" guy too nice?
    Have read that it happens and is actually a turn off or is that a bunch of horse muffins?

    :laugh: horse muffins, unless he is spineless and does not have an opinion of his own or is not independent.
    i don't like when a guy is nice to me, but rude to the local dry cleaner or homeless lady on the street. <== dealbreaker!
    funny is always good. a guy that can cook is always good!
    a guy that can cook delicious food that is reasonably healthy is really, really good :love: :happy:

    ..but that's just one gal's opinion...
  • Fesse
    Fesse Posts: 611
    Broad shoulders, strong arms and heck yeah on the sense of humor part! :love:

    BINGO! Right on the money there.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    Well first of all I noticed that on the previous thread regarding what men find attractive, all of the preferences were about physical attributes..................but on this thread regarding what women find attractive I notice that most of the prefernces are about behaviours or personality traits!! Intersting stuff!

    Well, I think to be fair about it the guys were subtly set up here. If I remember* it was asked if men like skinny women, not actually what men prefer in a women(which would be more open to including behaviors and personality traits).

    I agree though, interesting stuff. I'm really disappointed that it doesn't seem that my online gaming prowess is something sought after by women :tongue:


    *I suppose I could have gone back to check.. but you know... "Lazy"boy.

    What a total myth!
    I swear to god!
    Even on THIS website I've seen tons of female gamers.

    Gamer men need to understand, we exist and we love you.
    Now go find a gamer woman that will slobber over how strategic you are or how nimble your gaming thumbs are...or how you don't sweat on a level boss.
    My GF said she is a gamer. Made the mistake of even saying she could beat me at any give game. We played Galaga 3 different times. I crushed her hopes and dreams without mercy.
    She should stick with ms Pacman. That's right! I said it! Hidewall.gif

    I might be single after she reads this...
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    At what point is a "nice" guy too nice?
    Have read that it happens and is actually a turn off or is that a bunch of horse muffins?

    :laugh: horse muffins, unless he is spineless and does not have an opinion of his own or is not independent.
    i don't like when a guy is nice to me, but rude to the local dry cleaner or homeless lady on the street. <== dealbreaker!
    funny is always good. a guy that can cook is always good!
    a guy that can cook delicious food that is reasonably healthy is really, really good :love: :happy:

    ..but that's just one gal's opinion...

    <
    opinionated country bumpkin that can cook.:tongue:
  • CalorieNinja
    CalorieNinja Posts: 645 Member
    Bring it on Jester I could kick your butt :) Then I will help your gf kick your butt :) HAHA
  • Still_Sossy
    Still_Sossy Posts: 868 Member
    Well first of all I noticed that on the previous thread regarding what men find attractive, all of the preferences were about physical attributes..................but on this thread regarding what women find attractive I notice that most of the prefernces are about behaviours or personality traits!! Intersting stuff!

    Well, I think to be fair about it the guys were subtly set up here. If I remember* it was asked if men like skinny women, not actually what men prefer in a women(which would be more open to including behaviors and personality traits).

    I agree though, interesting stuff. I'm really disappointed that it doesn't seem that my online gaming prowess is something sought after by women :tongue:


    Nah but you might have to kiss some a**. Oh yeah that is not a bad trait to have, just don't over do it!


    *I suppose I could have gone back to check.. but you know... "Lazy"boy.

    What a total myth!
    I swear to god!
    Even on THIS website I've seen tons of female gamers.

    Gamer men need to understand, we exist and we love you.
    Now go find a gamer woman that will slobber over how strategic you are or how nimble your gaming thumbs are...or how you don't sweat on a level boss.
    My GF said she is a gamer. Made the mistake of even saying she could beat me at any give game. We played Galaga 3 different times. I crushed her hopes and dreams without mercy.
    She should stick with ms Pacman. That's right! I said it! Hidewall.gif

    I might be single after she reads this...
  • Bring it on Jester I could kick your butt :) Then I will help your gf kick your butt :) HAHA
    i don't need the help, but thank you.

    he's full of ****.

    first time i was drunk
    2nd time i WON
    3rd time he messed me up by whispering in my ear on my last man.
  • Bring it on Jester I could kick your butt :) Then I will help your gf kick your butt :) HAHA
    i don't need the help, but thank you.

    he's full of ****.

    first time i was drunk
    2nd time i WON
    3rd time he messed me up by whispering in my ear on my last man.

    i hate when i get censored.

    he's full of poo.
  • toots99
    toots99 Posts: 3,794 Member
    As Twinsfan said in another thread, "I can't afford to be picky"! :laugh:

    Sense of humor first and foremost. I laugh all the time, mostly at myself. If you can't laugh at yourself, you're not going to like it when I laugh at you. :laugh: I big, stocky boys. I don't want to "break" a smaller boy.
  • binary_jester
    binary_jester Posts: 3,311 Member
    Bring it on Jester I could kick your butt :) Then I will help your gf kick your butt :) HAHA
    i don't need the help, but thank you.

    he's full of ****.

    first time i was drunk
    2nd time i WON
    3rd time he messed me up by whispering in my ear on my last man.
    L...I...E...S! First time I beat you, the video game actually called the mercy rule. Second time wasn't so bad, but I was taking pity. You somehow beat me at Guitar Hero then got crushed again in the plane arcade. Then, so there was no doubt, we played again on the pier and you got the big ol' L again.
  • Bring it on Jester I could kick your butt :) Then I will help your gf kick your butt :) HAHA
    i don't need the help, but thank you.

    he's full of ****.

    first time i was drunk
    2nd time i WON
    3rd time he messed me up by whispering in my ear on my last man.
    L...I...E...S! First time I beat you, the video game actually called the mercy rule. Second time wasn't so bad, but I was taking pity. You somehow beat me at Guitar Hero then got crushed again in the plane arcade. Then, so there was no doubt, we played again on the pier and you got the big ol' L again.
    :laugh: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
    you're so dead next time i see you :wink:
  • Well - just because you hook up with a gamer doesn't mean you'll automatically play the sane style of game necessarily. But, it sure beats the issue of your SO thinking gaming is juvenile, a waste of time and complains about it. Also they could at least respect your skills...kills...leveling..raiding..etc!!!
    I would suck at Galaga- I prefer some RPG action lol.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    As Twinsfan said in another thread, "I can't afford to be picky"! :laugh:

    Sense of humor first and foremost. I laugh all the time, mostly at myself. If you can't laugh at yourself, you're not going to like it when I laugh at you. :laugh: I big, stocky boys. I don't want to "break" a smaller boy.

    Hush with that stuff,you ain`t breaking anybody. :wink:

    I always make fun of myself for the reason that has been stated forever...easier to do it before someone else does.
    Have been told that can be a turn off to ladies though too.

    You ladies sure are hard to figure out. smiley-scared003.gif
  • safetyscott
    safetyscott Posts: 66 Member
    WOW...this ALL sounds EXACTLY like me...sorry girls...im Taken...LOL


    juskiddin:tongue:
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