Fit For Future Families - March 2011

jalara

Hey ladies! Checking in

So I ate like a pig for the last week, and sat on my *kitten* to do it. Have I ever mentioned what a horrid emoitional eater I am? I really am!

More pregnancies around me, added to the CP last month and I'm losing my freakin mind. I talked to my OB's nurse this morning about the CP and she said that if it happens again this cycle they'll bring me in quicker than my May appointment. I've been losing hope quite quickly, and just feeling like it won't happen for us - so yesterday we called for an adoption info pack. It's something I want to do anyway, and DH agrees, so we'll keep trying and tryng and look into adoption at the same time. Adoption in Nova Scotia is handled by the government, and it's a 2 year paperwork process before you get put on a waitlist. So who's to know?

So I hit the gym today and had a great burn (yay) and I'm having a parrifin wax pedicure tonight (c'mon Spring!). Also, DH and I just signed up for a summer session of Soccer-Baseball through the city's rec program - it should be fun

Hope all is well with everyone - miss you!

showell37

How do I join this group?

epa422

Just tell us a little bit about yourself, Showell, and welcome to the group!

Sorry you're having a rough time, Jalara. Hopefully you won't have to go through another CP and you'll get pregnant again right away.

fitterpam

Showell - you just did :flowerforyou:

Jalara - We went through that process here. It was horribly managed, but I've heard great things about you NS-ers. I tried NS, NB and MB as well for a placement and were turned away since they typically only place in province. If you think TTC has lots of things to learn, wait until adoption...LOL It's an adventure!!! If you need anything (even thoguh the processes would be slightly different) feel free to let me know :happy:

Alisa - I agree with Erica. If you don't have a cycle or have an extended cycle, they call it anovulatory. It means that you just didn't ovulate and just because you start AF, doesn't mean there was ovulation (the body has a way, in most people, of realizing it's been too long and just starts shedding). Hormones and stress are the most common reason. This is one of the most common side effects of PCOS is the anovulatory cycles - it's really quite common unfortunately :explode:

Still no sign of the little hag yet today....frustrating. Looking forward to getting the dogs out for their walk (even if they do want to run away from home) before it snows again today.....Had a healthy breakfast & lunch, feeling on track again....!!!!

kah78

The mentally deranged side of me is enjoying reading about so many of us who are just sort of in a cruddy place right now, for whatever reason. Maybe misery loves company? I hope you all know what I mean when I say that. At the shower I went to on Sunday, my husband's great-aunt saw my little boy running down the hall and said "About time to give him a little sister, don't you think?" It caught me off-guard and what came out of my mouth was "Yes..." And then I had to walk away because I just couldn't say anything else and didn't want to lose it. Not the sort of interaction I wanted to have. Oh well...what can you do? I hope we ALL get to a more positive (literally and figuratively) soon. I'm just feeling generally un-hopeful about everything--babies, eating right, exercising. Blech. I hate being in this place. I'm hopeful it won't last much longer. I'll stop being a negative nancy now....

We have an appt with the RE on April 11th. So, it'll be a few weeks, but I'm okay with that. It's a little "break" for me, if you will. I was looking at the paperwork, and they ask all the reproductive history, and I just don't know what to put--maybe an asterisk saying "Please see accompanying page". Haha. I'm acting all like they haven't dealt with this before with hundreds of other people...

As for the buying clothes to "grow" into--I went into a Kid to Kid (consignment, resale, etc) the first month we started trying again and they were clearing out a bunch of maternity clothes. Well, I couldn't pass THAT up, so I bought a few more tops and a cute jean jacket for about $15. As of now, all of my pregnant friends are reaping the rewards of that investment...as well as all my clothes from little boy #1. Well, I'm glad someone is getting to use them. I think you are normal...it's kinda like those "skinny jeans" that people buy to motivate themselves and remind them of their goal. Getting pregnant is the goal of this group right now, so why not? I wouldn't invest in a wardrobe at this point...but it's great to be optimistic--spread that around, please!

CyberHugs to everyone--especially those who really need one, and for everyone else....well, an extra hug never hurt, right?

epa422

Oh, to answer the question about buying things, I did buy a bib that says "Love My Daddy" and a snoogle (a pregnancy body pillow) probably around cycle 6 or 8. I threw the bib away and just gave the snoogle to a pregnant person. There's zero point in me having them. I wouldn't buy anything else. But I think you probably have a higher chance of walking away pregnant than I do.

Jessica_Lo

You ladies are breaking my heart. :flowerforyou: for everyone!!!!!!

fitterpam

I woke up feeling much better today Thanks to everyone for hugging me through my rough patch....LOL

Had a relatively good day - an average one for me I'd say, foodwise.

As for buying stuff, I bought all kinds of stuff when we were almost placed 5 years ago (dresses, toys, some furniture, you name it). I've given it all away now. I won't be doing it again until I'm really sure (which means DH will have to stop by the store going to the hospital while I'm in labour to buy the car seat :P

Hope everyone starts having better times

lukimakamai

I definitely have not bought anything. I occasionally find myself wondering the baby aisles and then force myself to leave before I get too depressed in the store. There are lots of things I want to buy, but I don't want them around as a constant reminder that I don't have a baby to put them to use. I had a coworker that had an entire nursery set up of three years and still TTC when I moved way. She found it as hopeful- to me it was depressing and I know I wouldn’t be able to handle it. I did recently make some curtains for the room that could probably stay when the room becomes a nursery or I could patch out the fabric to make a blanket out of it. My husband and I haven’t even painted the room yet- it is the same ugly light gray as when we bought the house (we don’t want to paint it until it will be nursery for our baby…probably a light creamy orange or sky blue)

I spent over 40 hours this weekend sewing a baby quilt for my friend. It looks beautiful, but it was definitely difficult to be sewing a baby quilt for someone else.

The last six days have not been very good- I’ve only made it to the gym once…oops that’s what happens when I’m sewing. I’m going to try to get motivated to go tonight.

fitterpam

My nursery is actually being painted in the next month - it's going to be very unconventional. It's going to have 3/4 wall height white high gloss (read: very washable) wainscotting. and the top 1/4 of the wall is going to be navy blue. I figure it will go well with any of the colours that typically are associated with babies. Since I don't plan on finding out the gender of the babies in advance, it will be a good choice

kah78

My nursery is actually being painted in the next month - it's going to be very unconventional. It's going to have 3/4 wall height white high gloss (read: very washable) wainscotting. and the top 1/4 of the wall is going to be navy blue. I figure it will go well with any of the colours that typically are associated with babies. Since I don't plan on finding out the gender of the babies in advance, it will be a good choice

The room that we used was a colonial blue on two walls and a lighter blue on the two others. We did a gender surprise, and since we weren't repainting,we did a very loose underwater theme--i.e. I did a tropical fish embroidery (I worked on it when I couldn't sleep at night), and a friend made us a tropical fish baby quilt that we used as a wall hanging. It worked--till we moved, and now the walls are white, and it doesn't look as good, but we have a yard, and so we think the tradeoff was worth it.

My son caught a bug somewhere and I was up all night long with him last night as he was throwing up. My first parenting experience with that. OMG--horrible. I just want to sleep today, but he seems to feel better and wants to play. Figures... I'm just hoping I don't fall back on food to keep me going today. Have a good day, ladies...

kcurtis05

First, I just want to say Thank You to all of you. I'm SO glad I have you around. :flowerforyou:

I have been feeling that negativity too lately. Luckily, I haven't been forced to deal with preggo friends/family (now that I say that, just watch). A lot of my friends and family are going thru divorces/separations right now (5 to be exact), so I really don't see babies in their near futures. I am hopeful that this will be our year (fingers crossed!), but I think it is going to take a while and some medical intervention.
As for buying/painting... I haven't bought anything personally, but my sister has handed quite a few things down to me now that Lilly is 18 mos. We have a corner in our basement dedicated to baby paraphernalia; clothes, swings, bassinet. Thank goodness it’s in the basement and I don't have to look at it everyday, reminding me that it hasn't happened yet. I'm sure if everything was "working" and I had some hope that we could get pregnant any day, then it may be different, but for now I think I'll keep everything in the basement. DH and I have already picked our nursery theme though, Dr. Seuss! We both love those books and they are SO colorful we think it will make a fun space for either a girl or a boy (hopefully both! twins :happy:)! My mother caught wind of this idea and is running with it! She is a sewer and has already bought all the Dr. Seuss fabric she can find, including taking a few road trips for more. She has made tons of quilts, baby, blankets, and even an entire nursery set for our friends, so I can only imagine what she is going to do for us. So I guess we can't change our minds now! Also, she mentioned to me the other day that she has a little savings stash going for our crib, and she is planning on selling stuff on ebay to make some extra for it. Ugh! You would think this is her first grandbaby. The bad thing is that my MIL is a sewer too, so I think we will be covered from both the grandmas! LOL Ok enough about that! Didn't mean to get carried away.

Yesterday was a terrible eating day! DH and I have been slacking on the home-cooking, so Wendy's it was. Which easily pushed me WAY over in every category. Grrr... I know today will be much better. Well, I'm not sure it could be any worse to be honest.
As for exercise...not bad. Zumba-Monday, Teach dance-Tuesday (trying to move more while teaching), Zumba-tonight. I am going to try to do some pilates or toning of some sort Thursday, I think I need to change things up. I weighed in at 142 on Monday and am back up to 145 this morning. I cannot get away from this 145!!! My body is probably getting used to my routine now and needs to be shocked. I really can't wait for the weather to get better (and stay good) so I can start getting out on my bike and taking the pup for some walks. I know I could take her now, but I REALLY hate being out in this crappy weather!
Forgot goals for this week...
1. Water water water (at least 8 glasses)
2. Some movement EVERY night/day
3. More veggies

cdemumbran32310

I'm hoping I can join you ladies. I am Courtni from Tennessee. Yesterday after completing yet another round of clomid (50 mg, nothing. then 1 successful but ended in miscarriage Dec 31,2011 at 100 mg then another round of 100 and then 150 with nothing) my doctor finally threw his hands in the air and referred me to specialist. I am 24 years old, and remembering only ever wanting to be a mother, so I was heartbroken. My husband and I dont have the money to see a specialist (insurance wont cover anything) so after a 30 min drive home while crying, I got home and looked at myself in a mirror and said I was done with my body. I am 5'1.5 and 232 lbs. I have been on metformin for over 2 years (on and off). But I went and joined the gym yesterday, hired a personal trainer, and signed up for MFP. I also went and ordered a month of nutrasystem ( I dont cook and BK is my favorite). So I am here to lose weight and hopefully be able to get pregnant and stay pregnant in the next year.

MrsHinds7

Hi! My name is Shannon and I am interested in joining this group! My husband has had cancer three times in three years so we can't have babies naturally anymore so we have to do IVF. Its expensive- like $15,000- so we've been applying for grants (very few available) and have been saving money. We know that once we have enough funding to afford it, that we have one shot, because it will be years before we can come up with that amount of money again. Anyways, so my goal is to lose 55-60lbs so that I am in the healthiest possible shape for the baby and of course me too!

RHOyalT

Hi, Would love to join this group. Husband and I have been TTC for about 10 years. I have PCOS and my doctor says I would need to lose about 100 pounds to conceive. That's a lot of pressure! I just recently stopped taking BC which was to control long, heavy periods.

epa422

Welcome, cdemumbran! I feel your pain on the cost of the specialist. I'm in a similar boat. Good for you for joining a gym and getting a meal plan. I hope it helps!

Welcome, Shannon! I'm so sorry that your husband has been through so much. I hope that the IVF works and you don't have to worry about it anymore!

Hi, Kim! Sounds like a fun nursery plan!

Sorry about your sick little boy, Karen.

AFM: We booked our vacation to Siesta Key. I fully anticipate that now that I don't want to be pregnant for a fun beach vacation, AF will not show in a few days. :laugh:

kah78

Hi new people! Welcome to the group!

Hey Erica--it's a win win that way right? BFP or beach vacation--sounds like a bit of a win/win either way...

I'm trying to be positive. Little boy is through the worst...yay!

Jessica_Lo

Oh Courtni....Welcome. :flowerforyou: Don't give up. The specialist might come up with something really simple as the cause. Just take it one step at a time and do what you can financially.

Mrs. Hinds. I'll be going through IVF next month and I feel you on the expense of it. Luckily we were in a position to save it this year but this will be our one shot due to the cost. Thank god we qualify for the refund program. It's heartbreaking that I will only be able to give my hubby this one chance at pregnancy. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. We decided this week that after the IVF I would not go back on BC afterwards. I have my tube tied (I only have one) so doc said there's a 1 in 10 chance of getting pregnant again. I swear I would have 3 or 4 with my hubby if I could. I'm also going to talk to her about possibly reversing that tubal ligation to increase the chance so hopefully we will have a little surprise in the next few years. I'm hoping for twins from the IVF but I did read a blog yesterday about having twins and it scared the heck out of me.

AFM AF came today so I'll be going tomorrow for my bloodwork that is required for the refund program. 4/14 can not come soon enough but I'm totally scared out of my pants.

epa422

Well, yes, Karen, unless I spend the entire vacation throwing up. That won't make me very happy. And since the progesterone in the 2ww makes me super nauseous, I fully anticipate being one of the lucky ones who gets all-day sickness. Hopefully not... but we'll see. Then again, I'm sure it's all just wishful thinking anyway. :laugh:

Jessica_Lo

Erica!! You'll be fine and what a story you would have for the kids if that came true.

epa422

Yeah, it will go something like this, "You owe me a vacation, little one!"

It really needs to storm already so that my head will stop hurting so I can workout when I get home. I love Spring! I hate the thunderstorms that come with it. We had a hail storm on Saturday! It's only March!!

Jessica_Lo

I don't think you covered this on my cheat sheet....what's 2ww?

I hope it rains for you too. We get afternoon storms like that too around June. I won't say May. lol

epa422

LOL, I'm sure you get them in May, too. If they're quick, it's not quite that bad for my head. It's when the pressure takes forever to equalize that just kills me. This storm has been building for several hours.

2ww is the two week wait. The time between ovulation and your period. Also known as the luteal phase (LP). The average length is 14 days, hence the reason it's call the two week wait.

Jessica_Lo

O right....I knew that.

MrsHinds7

Mrs. Hinds. I'll be going through IVF next month and I feel you on the expense of it. Luckily we were in a position to save it this year but this will be our one shot due to the cost. Thank god we qualify for the refund program. It's heartbreaking that I will only be able to give my hubby this one chance at pregnancy. I have 2 kids from a previous marriage. We decided this week that after the IVF I would not go back on BC afterwards. I have my tube tied (I only have one) so doc said there's a 1 in 10 chance of getting pregnant again. I swear I would have 3 or 4 with my hubby if I could. I'm also going to talk to her about possibly reversing that tubal ligation to increase the chance so hopefully we will have a little surprise in the next few years. I'm hoping for twins from the IVF but I did read a blog yesterday about having twins and it scared the heck out of me.

I am hoping for twins as well Most people think I'm crazy but I think if I can get two in one shot since its so expensive, it would be worth the extra hard work!! I'll send you some links in a private message. There are a few different organizations that offer grants for IVF so it makes it a lot less-expensive! That way if you want to have more children together later, you might be able to lessen the outrageous expenses!

andreamichelle82

Welcome all newbies! Wow, we have a lot of IVFers. I wish you girls the best of luck! :flowerforyou:

Erica, I HOPE that you have to deal with a LITTLE morning sickness on your vacation! :bigsmile:

Karen, I hope your little boy is feeling better and that whatever it is didn't spread to you and DH!

AFM, I've been pretty stinkin quiet on this board, and I'm not quite sure why. My apologies, I'm going to try to reach and support more. HUGS to all of you ladies! I'm on CD8, and I haven't been o'ing til day 16-17, so I've got a little while I think. I also think we are going to try Sperm Meets Egg Plan/Method this month, just for fun. :laugh: Has anyone else tried this yet? If you don't know what it is, it's very google-able

epa422

Andrea, we tried it for several months, but had trouble since I don't always get +OPKs. I know it has worked for a lot of women.

fitterpam

Courtni - Sorry that you're being referred. I was diagnosed with having problems around your age and am only now just pulled together the fertility clinic money I WILL be a Mommy!!! I hope it's not going to take you all this time of waiting around. Welcome.

Shannon - IVF is expensive, but it sounds like your chances will be above the norm for success. I have been prepping for our IVF for 18 months now - am almost 60lbs down and am ready to rock and roll on this bad boy! Here's hoping that you will soon be rocking & rolling too!! Welcome!

RHOyal T - LOL Not to sound like been there done that with everyone, but.......what can I say? I'm apparently the quintessential infertile woman :P PCOS is such a struggle. If this had been last week, I would be able to tell you that diet and exercise (and Metformin) regulated my cycles tremendously - but alas, I cannot make that statement anymore since I'm now 4 days late (with 0 chance of a BFP on my radar). I only went on the pill last year for a month because my doctor couldnt' handle the flow of me If you know what I mean, he was concerned I'd show anaemic tendencies (3 months at full speed ahead will cause someone to thinkt hat). Welcome

Erica - VACA!!!! I'm sure you and DH will have a fantastic time kicking back on the beach!! And maybe you'll come back with some great news (sometimes a little relax is all we need)....although if AF is due......maybe that's just wishful thinking on my part (BTW, I hadn't yet read your response to Karen.....LOL Great minds think alike and there's a lot of wishful thinking going on in here....) If you don't like the thunderstorms, you can always come up here, we had one HECK of a snowstorm today. it was like a skating rink out there.....So now, instead of taking my wayward pup for a walk, I'm curled up under two blankets on the couch...thinking of warmer weather

Karen - YAY! That is one thing I'm not sure how I'm going to handle. Sick kids (although, I do handle my hubbie quite well and I'm sure your little guy is less whiny then him....LOL)

Jessica - GRRRRR I just want the dang lady to show her face. Lucky you. I have bloodwork to get done on Friday (rechecking all my basics since I did them over 6 months ago at the clinic, plus we have to redo HIV and all that jazz) I'll feel like it's finally starting once all that's done.

Andrea - SMEP IS fun, but if you try this month and it doesn't work, I'd hold off otherwise it gets like work....LOL Every time I'd mention it though DH's little eyes would light up...Is tonight an "on" night???? Cmon, don't give me that...it's an "on" night.......LOL

AFM: I've been sleeping a lot lately - 10 hours a night (which means I'm in bed by 6:30). It's not uncommon for me on the weekends, when I don't get up to an alarm, but weeknight's its pretty rare....I think it's because I started upping the protein and I'm just naturally trying to follow my rhythms.....I'll see how it goes for the rest of the week and then adjust. Work is going to get a whole other kind of stressful starting on Friday - my boss is going away and part of the new promotion was that I have to back him up (Dang, knew there was a catch) so I have a newbie to train this coming week and my project "launches" and I get to deal with all his crap too.......Since the weather is going to be nicer. I'm also going to try and get a quick 30 minute walk in when I get in to the office and try for another one at lunch so even if I get home and want to crash, I'm covered exercise wise. If not, I'll become a workout queen!!!

lukimakamai

Courtni, Shannon, and RHOyalT welcome!

Erica- vacation WHOOHOO! And if you spend the vacation in the bathroom throwing up even a bigger WHOOOOOOOOHOOOOO! :happy: Isn’t that weird that we look forward to the days of throwing up?

Karen- I hope the little one is feeling better!

Off to a family reunion with the in laws tomorrow. It should be fun...my hubby is a little more skeptical than I am. I told him, "It's your family." He replied, "I know, exactly." :laugh:

jalara

Welcome to all the new people, happy to have you!