Fit For Future Families - March 2011

Jessica_Lo

O I like the name Luke William. I told my hubby if it's twins boy and girl they should be Kate and William. lol Sometimes he doesn't know whether to take me serious.

So I asked nurse about the flying and she said it was fine....no this is what she actually said....."That's fine but you'll be pregnant." I literally gasped. She said it so nonchalantly. Kinda caught me off guard. She did say it would be best to go at the end of June rather than at the beginning so we shall see. She said she will need us to come in the first week of June to have the ultrasound to make sure everythings going good. Their so positive. I wonder if they are like that with everyone?

fitterpam

Jessica - I'm sure they are. During my counselling session everytime I talked about my backup plan, she said we wouldn't need it....LOL

AFM: I'm thinking we're going to hold off a month to start the fertility treatments. DH has another SA in May (fingers crossed that the count soars - but the doctor also said, let's hope they don't drop.....TO WHAT? 0?!?!?! We already have made the decision to go with the donor if it's needed). As well my boss gave me May as the potential date for my 1-2 week business trip. Depending on how many clinic visits I need in May (thinking it will be the clomid/femara cycle) it might be that we can start the meds then and then do the procedure in June when I ovulate. That would mean we would have a February/March baby.....ahhhh....baby dreams.....We could hold off and do the trip too, but then we're just delaying...plus we're going to be watching the family dogs...who would care for the puppies if we all go?

Geez somehow, I missed a bunch of other posts....I love Caleb Jackson - it was one of my name combos until DH's cousin named her kid Diego-Caleb....oh well...I agree. It's a great name!!!

jalara

MrsHinds: we would prefer a child under 5, so they are not yet in school. I think we'd like to have time with them before sending them off to school, which can cause a lot of stress for a youngster. Our adoption center (government) says waiting for babies can take years, so it's best not to. I'd like 3 or under myself, so they can get used to us and start to think of us as his/her parents before heading to school.

Pam - so excited the IVF is so close for you!

fitterpam

Also Jalara - I'm not sure if NS is similar (since the province here only handles public adoptions) but generally babies are not available for adoption by the government. Even if a child is brought into care from birth, it takes about 2 years to get them through the system, which is why most public adoptions here are 24 months minimum. If you want some light reading (NOT!!!) read the Hague Convention. Any international adoption into Canada (I had to read it for my local one to) has to sign documents saying that they read and understood the contents of the convention stating that the countries that sign it understand that children in institutional (orphanages) setting are more likely to have behavioural disorders and attachment disorders, especially over the age of 5. It starts talking since it's such a major issue for adoptive parents (think of the mother in the US that sent her adopted son who was adopted at age 8 back on a plane to Russia because she couldn't handle him - That made me sooooooo mad)...also, look into what your maternity leave will be like with adoptive vs. birth. Here it's about 3 months short (which is ridiculous because if anything adoptive parents need at least a year to create strong bonds for their children and research shows that first year to be critical) but because the first 17 weeks of mat leave is actually mat leave and not parental leave, it does apply to adoptions. Also, look at the tax credits. I'm not sure if it's Ontario based or federal, but there is a $10K tax credit available for the year that you adopt your child in case there are any applicable fees that you do have to pay in order to make it work.

The adoption system here is so messed up. Two years ago a committee submitted their findings on 3 years worth of fertility research showing that it costs the province way more money NOT to cover fertility treatments and there are too many children that are no eligible for adoption here and so are resigned to stay in foster care their entire lives. Adoption and Fertility laws need to change here...but the wheels move slowly.

K - done my rant for the night....LOL Leaving for aquafit now Had to change my suit....the other one was HORRIBLE!!! It was one I found and thought it would be a better choice, being a one piece. Considering the back was bagging out (read: I have misplaced my bottom end) there was a whole lot of bulging going on in bad places. Back to my new one again...will have to hold it down most of the class, like normal

kah78

Adoption-way to go Jalara! My hubs and I have talked about that option, and we are open to it, but I think we would wait a while to pursue it. My hubs said that he would need the time to "grieve" not having any more bio-kids....he wouldn't want to bring a child into our family as a substitute for something else. It's a big deal to him to have his genetic material out there in the world. I agree--the world will be a better place with more of his genes out there. I told him if we can't have anymore kids, he can be a sperm donor if he wants. He said he would probably consider it. I don't mind sharing him that way if it helps someone else, as long as I don't have any idea who it is.

Names-well, we've used our boy name. Joshua Stephen. I wanted Joshua--hubs didn't mind it, and Stephen is my dad's name. (Hub's dad already has namesakes, so we didn't feel a need to duplicate.) We didn't settle on it till after he was born though. We had the girl name all ready to go...so of course he was a boy! We don't have any other names picked out now, but Luke (hubs) gets to choose this time...with spousal input, of course. The only thing he is adamate about is that the name does not end in a "K" sound like his does. Our last name starts with a soft K sound, and so everyone always thought his name was Lou because the k in his first name would run into the k at the beginning of his last name. 30-some years of having to over-enunciate his name to have people get it right. Names I like : Caleb, Paul, Tessa, Maya...but I"m not set on anything.

AFM: Got paperwork in the mail today from the Fertility people. Made cookies today for a wedding shower we are going to on Sat--SO HARD NOT TO EAT ANY OF THEM. Stupid white flour. Sigh....

Still wondering if I am going to get the stomach bug that Joshua had. I didn't feel great today...didn't eat much till dinner, but didn't feel horrible. I keep not wanting to go to sleep because that is when the stomach bugs always hit me...in the middle of the night. Ugh. Can't stay awake forever though. Here's hoping he had a bug that my body has already had. I washed everything that could fit into the washer today. Might not help, but at least I FEEL like I've washed out some of the germies.

Weigh in tomorrow morning. Since i didn't eat much today, maybe it'll be a drop. Or maybe I'll have gotten rid of some of that water or whatever that was last week that made me gain 4 lbs. I hope I hope I hope.....

fitterpam

Karen - it's not easy sticking to that promise......but I'm proud that you did!! Good for you!

jalara

Also Jalara - I'm not sure if NS is similar (since the province here only handles public adoptions) but generally babies are not available for adoption by the government. Even if a child is brought into care from birth, it takes about 2 years to get them through the system, which is why most public adoptions here are 24 months minimum. If you want some light reading (NOT!!!) read the Hague Convention. Any international adoption into Canada (I had to read it for my local one to) has to sign documents saying that they read and understood the contents of the convention stating that the countries that sign it understand that children in institutional (orphanages) setting are more likely to have behavioural disorders and attachment disorders, especially over the age of 5. It starts talking since it's such a major issue for adoptive parents (think of the mother in the US that sent her adopted son who was adopted at age 8 back on a plane to Russia because she couldn't handle him - That made me sooooooo mad)...also, look into what your maternity leave will be like with adoptive vs. birth. Here it's about 3 months short (which is ridiculous because if anything adoptive parents need at least a year to create strong bonds for their children and research shows that first year to be critical) but because the first 17 weeks of mat leave is actually mat leave and not parental leave, it does apply to adoptions. Also, look at the tax credits. I'm not sure if it's Ontario based or federal, but there is a $10K tax credit available for the year that you adopt your child in case there are any applicable fees that you do have to pay in order to make it work.

The adoption system here is so messed up. Two years ago a committee submitted their findings on 3 years worth of fertility research showing that it costs the province way more money NOT to cover fertility treatments and there are too many children that are no eligible for adoption here and so are resigned to stay in foster care their entire lives. Adoption and Fertility laws need to change here...but the wheels move slowly.

K - done my rant for the night....LOL Leaving for aquafit now Had to change my suit....the other one was HORRIBLE!!! It was one I found and thought it would be a better choice, being a one piece. Considering the back was bagging out (read: I have misplaced my bottom end) there was a whole lot of bulging going on in bad places. Back to my new one again...will have to hold it down most of the class, like normal

Pam - Thanks for the info on the Hague Convention - I'll look into it. Here in NS they say infants aren't really available as well, so that's not a big deal for us. We just want under 5 and not yet in school, so that we can spend some time with him/her before they go to school. I think it would be funny if we got pregnant soon, then in 2.5 years got a 3 year old - they'd be so close in age!
As for benefits, my husband gets a year from work, and EI is the same across the county (35 weeks). Since I'm not working right now... I get nothing But I'd be staying home anyway so not too concerned about that. And I agree - the woman in the US that sent the child that she didn't want away.... she should be imprisoned for life.

Kah - thanks!

Names - I haven't been really sharing names, but I think I will. Boy: Zachary, Girl: Charlotte (Charlie for short).

MrsHinds7

Jalara, under three sounds like a great plan You still have time to mold them a little. When they're already in school, the behavior problems from their background can really cause a stress on new parents!! You'll have to tell us about the process as you go along! I'm very curious!!!

Has anyone else heard about drinking green tea everyday being good for your fertility? Any thoughts? What about yoga and accupunture?

epa422

Has anyone else heard about drinking green tea everyday being good for your fertility? Any thoughts? What about yoga and accupunture?

Green tea will increase your fertile cervical mucus (CM), but there are some studies about it interfering with folic acid absorption. I usually drink it several hours before taking my prenatal vitamin.

I tried fertility yoga, but it didn't do anything for me.

I've got many friends who combined acupuncture with fertility treatments and it worked splendidly for them.

fitterpam

Jalara - of course - D'oh!! it's Federal, not provincial. The only province that tops up is Quebec - I've heard it can be up to 2 years....YIKES!

MrsHinds - Tried the yoga. I find it similar to regular yoga, so I do it. I've got an appointment with the acupuncturist. Studies show it helps with fertility treatments

jalara

Pam - I'm very interested in how the acupuncture goes - keep us posted! I've been considering it myself.

AMummysLife

Hi ladies. AF started today. Irrationally I am feeling rather betrayed by her.

fitterpam

Aww History......sorry If you think you might have caught the eggie, it`s just a horrible feeling when it doesn`t work.

Jalara - I will. I`m kind of excited. I`m booking my first session for about 8 weeks before the IVF and probably will do a few sessions. We`ll see though...

AMummysLife

Thanks Pam. The problem is I had an implantation dip only a couple of days before. I've had a lot of stress the last few days as well so who knows.

fitterpam

How long have you been temping History? My temp always dips a few days before AF hits.....so I start prepping and the next day it is up again so I get hopeful and then wham. It might not have been an implantation dip... but something normal to you. But stress definitely does funny things to us. Also how long have you been TTC so far?

As for me - two days of going over cals is weighing on my mind pretty heavily. I am also a little stressed that AF has not shown up yet. Going to walk to the pharmacy later today and pick up a round of Provera. I think the YI from a few weeks ago probably messed with my cycle (at least that is what I am hoping - it happened just as my temp rose above coverline from a temperature perspective. I am 100% sure that I am not preggers.....LOL there was no way anything was happening with the YI)

Today will be a better day from an overeating perspective, probably not so good from an undereating one. My DH is working today (his day off and I am apparently not thrilled about that already - it surprised me a little) and I tend to wait until he gets home to eat lunch. Usually on the weekend that is 3pm (not a big deal since I tend to wake up at 10:30 and have breakfast for 11).....but today the training is until 5pm, meaning he will be home for dinner....I will just have to be a big girl and do what I am supposed to without him.....it is just not right!!! LOL

epa422

I agree with Pam, History. I get a dip 3 days before AF shows and then it rebounds again. Lots of women get dips without getting a BFP. Implantation dips were only slightly more likely in BFP charts than in non-BFP charts. The smallest thing can impact temps and the purpose of temping is to see the overall pattern, not individual temps. I sincerely hope you aren't getting implantation dips and then have AF show a few days later. You can see some of my charts here to compare: http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/2df531

AmandaR910

I'd like to join but don't know if I am qualified. I'm losing weight to TTC in September, but I already have kids. If not, don't worry about it.

epa422

We have people who already have kids. You're welcome to join, Amanda!

kah78

I have a kid. If you are trying to TTC, then come on in!!

Today is a day of mindless eating. Hubs has the stomach bug that my son had, and we are going to a baby shower this afternoon (Josh and I, not hubs) I've already pigged out on cookies left over from yesterday's shower (Sunday is a freebie day for my purposes in Lent--however, I think I abused it a bit today) and there will be sweets galore this afternoon. I'm not expecting a wonderful display of willpower, so today, I'm just trying to get through the day as a "single parent" going to a baby shower when I'm having trouble having one right now myself. I expect to eat comfort food. As of 1:12 pm, I have exactly 236 calories left for the day. Ladies and Gentlemen, I think we will be having some food porn tonight in my journal. (Get ready, Pam.)

May everyone else have more willpower than I do today. Tomorrow we'll try this again....

fitterpam

Karen - don't worry - I have food porn for lunch....that's what happens when I'm left to fend for myself....LOL

AmandaR910

Hey everyone.

What workouts are you guys doing??

I'm doing 30 Day Shred (on Day 9) and ChaLEAN Extreme (just finished Day 3 lol).

fitterpam

Hey everyone.

What workouts are you guys doing??

I'm doing 30 Day Shred (on Day 9) and ChaLEAN Extreme (just finished Day 3 lol).

Amanda - right now, I'm being supremely lazy....In the past, I've done 1 day of 30 day shred....LOL and I've watched DH do P90X....but I don't think that counts either. This is a great question and I'm deciding right now that I'm actually going to do the Leslie Sansone that I have tonight. Most of the workout videos kill my back and with a herniated disc I have to be careful. I do enjoy the Wii workouts (Biggest Loser is my current favourite), but I definitely don't keep them up either.....

My current workout schedule actually involves me walking a lot outside and hoping that once the weather gets warmer, I can start doing C25K. Last night, during Earth hour I walked the dogs with my family and jogged the last minute of it. My sister commented that I was really huffing and puffing too much for such a little jog (in the next two hours, I also had an asthma attack that I probably should have gone to the ER for ..... but did my home treatments and my Ventolin).....Need to slowly increase my cardio..

kah78

I tend to rotate between three main exercise "routines"--Leslie Sansone walking videos, Kettleworx, and C25k training. The C25k is on hold till the sun starts coming up earlier again...I won't run in the dark and I can't wait that late in the morning to do it. If I'm on my game when the sun starts coming up earlier, the plan is to rotate Kettleworx and C25k every other day--which would give me 6 workouts, and then have a 7th day to either rest or add in another something, like Leslie Sansone. I haven't worked out the last two days though....my weekends have been really messing with my workout routine lately. So goes life....

Yes, food porn it is. The amount of white flour and sugar in my food diary today is enough to send someone's insulin spiking just by reading it. Tomorrow is a new day. I made it through the baby shower, I did not get any "When will Josh have a baby sister?"-type remarks, which was good, and I did not flush my son down the toilet even though he has been acting like a little troll all day. I suppose I should cut him some slack...he is 2...but I still wanted to flush him down the toilet. My perspective is off, I'm sure--I was not expecting to be "single-parenting" today, and it wiped me out. Plus, I"m in that limbo-land where everyone in my family has had this stomach bug except me....I feel like I'm just waiting for it to hit me. Ugh. We'll see.

Okay, I"m off for an early bedtime...or at least an early jump in bed and read until I want to fall asleep. Have a good night everyone....

fitterpam

LOL Little Troll....I wouldn't flush him I were you...I would think you'd have more work cleaning the mess of the overflowing toilet because of the "clog". Tomorrow's another day.

fitterpam

2011 SW: 241.8

Week 6: 235.2lbs (-2.9lbs)
Week 7: 234.3lbs (-0.9lbs)
Week 8: 236.6lbs (+2.3lbs)
Week 9: 236.3lbs (-0.3lbs)
Week 10: 237.0lbs(+0.7lbs)
Week 11: 236.7lbs (-0.3lbs)
Week 12: 234.4lbs (-2.2lbs)
Week 13: 236.8 lbs (+2.6lbs)

Usually when I gain that kind of weight AF is around the corner. I sure hope so. I haven't started taking the provera yet, but will be today Crappy eating weekend....just really hard to motivate myself. I haven't gone tremendously over cals though, so that really shouldn't be a factor. I also know I can't blame water weight becuase I'm definitely not retaining water in my ankles or wrists. I was looking at them yesterday and there is definition around the bones that just made me stare at them for a while....LOL This week will be better.......

fitterpam

I'm getting the hang of this whole knowing when AF is going to hit........LOL That explains the crappy mood and cravings and crap eating all weekend with no willpower. Only problem.....I knew it was coming, but didn't prepare for it.....stupid purse change.

It's absolutley ridiculous that I'm so happy that it's here (and only a week late, which was about the time, I would have expected YI to set me back)..

Hope everyone else's Monday is as "productive"

epa422

LOL, Pam! Sorry that your purse swap left you unprepared, but I'm glad everything seems to be moving forward.

I had a weekend full of family gatherings and poor food choices... and still managed to lose. That's really bad reinforcement, body!

Jessica_Lo

lol Erica. I've had those same type weekends/weeks and then have it mess with my mind to where I think I can eat like that all the time. Then all of a sudden I'm 4 lbs heavier. UGH. It does mess with your mind!!!

fitterpam

Me too - hence my current condition....LOL But 3.6 lbs in a month is awesome work!!!! Proud of you!!!

kcurtis05

Good morning Ladies! (well at least I hope for you)

Karen, I really hope you are having a better day, and you don't catch that nasty bug!

Amanda, welcome to the group!

Erica, good job on losing!

Pam, I just changed purses this weekend and had to pack for AF today... She still isn't here, but I have "been there, done that" with being unprepared and don't want it to happen this time.

I had a busy weekend of clearing out our bedroom (try moving a king size bed all by yourself!), ripping out the carpet, painting the ceiling, and installing laminate flooring. DH is finishing the floors in the closets, base moldings, and painting the walls a medium/light blue today. I was doing pretty good.....until our late night run to Taco Bell last night at 11:00p! We were starving after the floors; and I lost ALL self-control! As a result, +4.6lbs! :noway: SERIOUSLY!??? I really don't think this is possible! I am two tears away from throwing in the towel! I was 139 in December now I'm at 147! +8lbs in 3 months! :explode:
I'm on CD 28 today and no signs of AF. Who knows what is happening... My shortest cycle is 12 and my longest is 36, so I guess I keep waiting. I made a Dr appointment for next Monday, to see if she has any insight/suggestions.

FML today!