Fit For Future Families - March 2011
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Question: Has anyone talked baby names with their husbands? Or already have names picked out?
Asking because my parents wanted to know if we have names picked out. I was like," woo, we havn't been matched and aren't pregnant." The conversation did spur a cassual conversation with my husband and we are miles apart on names. So maybe we should start talking about it...I mean it might actually take us two years to come to an agreement...
What do ya'll think?0 -
Luki - have fun, its always less fun when they are your family....heee hee, DH feels the same way about his family. Names, we've loved a few....we have a thought that we want our children to not have anyone in our immediate circle with the same name. Every time we choose those, someone else names their kids using it (sometimes first AND middle)....LOL So I'm trusting you ladies.......For a girl right now, we're looking at Fiona Grace and for a boy we're looking at Sean Carter. Our last name starts with a D...so I have to be careful that the initials don't make words....LOL SAD, FED, DAD, MAD, POD, SOD, etc......LOL0
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Luki - we have our names picked out - we started talking about it long before we got married. It's always fun to think about
But I think it's common to pick out a name and then change your mind about it later.
Also - it bugs me when someone steals a name. I loved Morgan (for a girl) and a friend took it.... but heck, she was pregnant first so....0 -
Erica...I so hope you are on the beach puking the whole time!!! :bigsmile: Just please don't contaminate the water for our trips this summer! :happy:
Luki, We've had them picked out from very early on. Well I say "them" originally cause I'm hell bent that I'm having twin girls so our original pick was Olivia and Lanie....but then my boys don't really like Lanie so we thought well maybe Melanie and we can call her Lanie. Hubby also likes Alexandria...Lexie for short and I like Elizabeth. So yeah the twin will be Baby B for a while I imagine. lol No boys names we can agree on. He would like him to have some version of my brothers name that passed away but I can't bring myself to name him after him completely. However DH name is Mark and so is my dad and my brother was Justin Mark so I figure we can use Mark and it would cover the 3 of them but only as a middle name. So I can go on and on clearly lol. Sorry.
Anyway AFM going to get my bloodwork done today. I think I have to have all the tests redone so I'm anticipating being pretty weak this afternoon with that and AF sucking me dry. :yawn: I also want to ask about flying throughout this process. DH is from England and we want to go spend a couple of weeks in June but I'm not sure if we can. If IVF works on the first try then I'll be like a month pregnant and I can't remember if we can fly during that time. If it doesn't work the first time then I'm not sure the timing of the second try and if we can go for that long. Well we'll see what she says.
We are one day closer to Friday....finally. 0 -
You can fly until your third trimester and even after with your doctor's permission. If I end up pregnant this cycle or next, I'll be flying.
We have names picked out but only because we have only been able to agree on one boy name and one girl name. LOL Donovan or Zoey, come out, come out wherever you are...0 -
Really? So the first tri doesn't matter? My mom used to say 1st and 3rd was a no go.
Aww I like all of your names!!! I like Abigail too but my GF had it picked out. She's pregnant w a boy so that means Abi is now available?? lol Nah...I wouldn't do that.0 -
Jessica - England would be amazing! I'm a huge fan of the Royals and I wish I could be there for the wedding next month... I'll have to settle for the television though....
I'd be wondering if I could fly too. You never know what is best suited to your body, and I know I'll be super-extra-careful when I finally get pregnant about everything. Walking on ice, uneven ground (balance) flying, feta... I'll be a neurotic freak and terrified that something will go wrong (heck, it has for me in the past).
So DH and I made a decision last night. I'm not sure if you ladies were around early enought to remember, but I'm adopted. Adoption has always been something I'd like to do in my life, since I am so grateful my parents took were there to take me, instead of my dead-beat druggie bio mother. ANYWAY, we decided that we want to have a baby, as well as adopt a child. We spent a long time talking over the details last night, and agree it's what we want to do.
I'm not sure if we would have considered it this early if I had gotten pregnant between June and now, but I'm not and we are. We're going to keep trying (we'll do everything we can, IUI, IVF, etc) but we also want to adopt. Our new family plan is to create one, and choose one (that's just how we say it, we know we don't actually CHOOSE one in Nove Scotia). We agree that we want a child under 5, of our own nationality.
It's a 2 year paperwork process here befor eyou get added to a waitlist. No time like the present! We already called and are waiting for the dates of the next info session the province holds (all adoptions in Nova Scotia are done through the government).
And we'll keep TTC... I'm on CD21 of my 2nd Clomid cycle right now. We'll see what happens!
So that's me... happy Thursday everyone!0 -
Jessica, the first trimester is when you're most likely to experience miscarriage, but they haven't found that flying increases that risk. It's also more likely to exacerbate morning sickness. I would imagine there are quite a few women out there who fly every day without even knowing they were pregnant.
http://www.pregnancytoday.com/articles/healthy-safe-pregnancy/air-travel-while-pregnant-1902/0 -
Jalara, that sounds like an excellent decision. 0
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Erica...thanks for the info. Great article.
Jalara!! That's an amazing decision. I have another friend on MFP too that made that choice and is going through the process now. My hat goes off to you that adopt. I think it's an amazing commitment. :happy: Goodluck on the process.
I went to England for the first time Jan 2010 and I loved it!! I can't wait for my boys to go and we can do all the tourist stuff. I love Will and Kate and so bummed we weren't invited to the wedding. lol0 -
Today is CD33 for me :frown: Going to get provera tonight (fertility clinic gave me 3 cycles worth, in case I needed them before I saw her again. This is my second time in 4 months out of that batch).
Agree with Erica - for most women, it's safe to fly up to Week 28 without your doctor's permission (I had a friend who's hubby was being presented an award in NZ and she was 30 weeks in and her doctor gave her permission but she decided not to go - flight was too long and WHO knows what could have happened). Most women fly in T1 without even knowing they're pregnant - then there are some looking to get in the last hurrah (case in point, the friends having twins - did I mention they just got back from 2 weeks in Spain? She's now 14 weeks along).
Personally, I am doing everything I can to not only bubble wrap the pregnancy when it happens, but being close to my doctors is going to be critical for me. My OB/GYN used to head up the high risk pregnancy unit in Toronto and my fertility specialist will be monitoring me every few days to make sure things go well in the first trimester - so no leaving for me. I was kind of sad actually - my grandparents and aunts and uncles are all congregating in England this summer, along with my immediate family, but unless I want to put IVF on hold until after July.......which I don't, I don't think I'll be going.
Also yesterday my boss asked me to prepare for a 1-2 week business trip to headquarters in the US sometime soon - I'm going to have to do it in April at this point....or early May or put the IVF on hold. I hope I know dates before I go next (April 8). I really do need to do this trip (to meet with vendors and do our team brainstorming sessions), but it can't conflict with the treatments. I'm pretty sure it will be between April 15-May 15, which is essentially when they'll be sorting out my hormones with Clomid/Femara, etc....so should be interesting.
Jalara - most CAS orgs across the country agree with you - adoptions need to happen under 5 years old and need to be "culturally identifiable". Anything out of the norm will need further investigations into your capabilities as a parent (been there, done that). Remember that all adoptions are considered "special needs" whether the child is disabled or not because of the difference in circumstances (bonding issues, bio families, and all that other good stuff that generally isn't the norm in birth families)....It's an absolutely beautiful way to grow your family and I commend you for taking the step. We're probably going to look into it again once we have this one (or two) because I really do see that for us and truth be told, I've always wanted 5 children....LOL I think adoption's going to play an integral role. Just be prepared to hear, "but you're so young" a lot of times. They're also going to ask about the infertility and make sure you've resolved your feelings over it - so just be prepared. There are lots of great government sites out there about the process and the actual stats of available children (you'll be shocked).....I wish a smooth and enjoyable journey on that road though Hoping to be joining you there soon! (BTW, my counsellor from the clinic is also an adoption practisioner - the social worker that does all the background on the families and facilitates the adoption.....LOL we've already decided we'd like to use her to do our homestudy since ours is way out of date) 0 -
Hi ladies! Fun name conversations! I love all the ones you guys have said so far! DH and I are one of those couples who were discussing this long before getting married, too, but we've switched a lot on girls names. My grandfather's name is Jack, which is pretty popular now, but i've always loved it. DH's paternal grandfather's last name is Duval, so we like Jack Duval for a boy. I love the name Lea right now for a girl, and my grandmother's name is Rosemary, so I like Lea Rose for a girl. We also love Quinn and Adelyn, too.
Jessica, I've heard the first trimester, too, but like Erica said, I think it's because you are most prone to miscarriage then, and you might not want to be away from the doctor. But it isn't supposed to cause miscarriage or other issues. How neat that he's from England! Was he already living on this continent when you met?
Jalara, I haven't been around long enough to know you were adopted. One of my coworker's wives was adopted, and she felt the same way you did - wanting to adopt, as she was so appreciative of her adopted parents. They have a little boy, Drew, who is 18 months now and somehow looks like his adpoted dad! I think you guys are making a great decision, and are going in with wonderful attitudes.0 -
Pam...I have all of those concerns too but if we don't go now then I don't know when we will be able to go again. Imagine flying 8 hours with twin babies....or toddlers or 5 year olds. Sheesh. I'm overwhelmed just thinking about it. Plus I wanted to take my boys before the babies are born so we can do things that we might not be able to with the babies but balancing that with the IVF process is a challenge. I don't want to delay it and not knowing which cycle will be successful makes it hard to plan. I was thinking if we don't go now we could always go during Christmas but that would stink cause it's wicked cold and I'd be limited on the time we could spend over there because of the kids school schedule. Ugh...decisions decisions.
Andrea, Yes he was already over here for about 4 years before we started dating.0 -
We picked out names ( Well i did at least) when we got pregnant in Nov. I figured if I had to go threw 9 months of carrying a baby and then who know how long in labor...I would pick the names and he would just agree with me. So for a girl I choose Kallie Elizabeth and call her Kalley Beth and then for a boy Noah Lucas, But a friend of mine named her boy Noah so that name is out. Since I wont be trying for at least 6 months, I think we have time!0
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Welcome Courtni, Shannon, and RHOyalT!
Erica- Yay for vaca!
Karen- I hope your sick boy is feeling better!
Andrea- I tried to do SMEP this month and just couldn't do it for many reasons. 1. DH's Gpa passing away 2. Ovulation Monitor stayed at "low" 3. just not in the mood some nights. :ohwell: Good luck! It takes serious dedication.
Luki- Have fun! I have my DH's Reunion in August.
As for names, we, too, have been talking about names since before we were married. DH really likes Caleb for a boy. We use this whenever we reference a baby or baby plans. Not yet sure on the middle name. We would really like a "J" names so he can be CJ for short, just haven’t found one that I love. I really like Joshua or Jacob, but I think Caleb Jacob sounds funny. Any thoughts? He really doesn't have an opinion on girl names. I have always liked Zoe Mackenzie, but I am starting to really lean towards my mother's middle name Cecelia, CC for short.
Jessica- Hope your blood work goes well and doesn't totally wear you out! England sounds great! I have always wanted to go over there! My SIL (Sister In Law) lives is Bawtry, South Yorkshire, England. (BIL is from there originally) We really hope to go visit her before the end of the summer when they are planning to move back to the States, North Carolina to be exact. She actually just visited a few weeks ago and made the trip with my niece (age 5) and Nephew (almost 2). She made the trip over for my wedding ALONE with both of them and my nephew was only 3 months. Brave, strong woman!
Jalara- Great plan!
AFM.... Not much here.... Went to Zumba last night; great class! Ate too many mini Peanut Butter Cups when I got home. :grumble:
CD 24 Still no O. Calling the Dr today to see when I can get in to get checked out. Last time I made an appointment she was booked for over a month.0 -
Kim: J names: Jeremy, Justin, Jason, Joseph, Jared... Can you tell I'm trying to find a J middle name for a DJ?
Also, my husband's middle name starts with a J and so does his father's. I'm stuck on using my mom's maiden name (starts with a G), but DJ would be pretty cute... 0 -
Joshua is a cute one too. Jacob. Jonathan...but that's my sons name so I'm biased. lol0
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Ok so just reread and you had Joshua and Jacob. Duh...sorry0
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Kim: J names: Jeremy, Justin, Jason, Joseph, Jared... Can you tell I'm trying to find a J middle name for a DJ? Also, my husband's middle name starts with a J and so does his father's. I'm stuck on using my mom's maiden name (starts with a G), but DJ would be pretty cute...
:happy: DJ is CUTE! I keep thinking about Jamison or Jackson0 -
Joshua is a cute one too. Jacob. Jonathan...but that's my sons name so I'm biased. lol
I like Jonathan but, my best friend is Jonathan and so is my cousin. so...that is out:ohwell:0 -
Caleb Jackson is cute, depending on your last name, of course.0
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OoOoO I like Caleb Jackson. That's cute.0
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Caleb Jackson (or Jaxson) Smith0
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I think you have a winner, Kim!0
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I think you have a winner, Kim!0
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I think you have a winner, Kim!
Thanks for the help ladies!! Now I just have to convince DH! LOL0 -
Good luck with that! I have a huge list of names for both boys and girls. Probably at least 30 of each. We could only agree on two. :laugh:0
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Shannon - IVF is expensive, but it sounds like your chances will be above the norm for success. I have been prepping for our IVF for 18 months now - am almost 60lbs down and am ready to rock and roll on this bad boy! Here's hoping that you will soon be rocking & rolling too!! Welcome!
Thanks!! That is awesome!! It's really an inspiration to see that someone else can lose that much weight in preparation for IVF! I have about 60lbs that I want to lose to be in perfect shape for my height and age so I really hope that I am as successful as you!0 -
Jalara, how exciting!! We have discussed adoption as well, but are going to wait a couple of years to try and have one of our own first. I actually found the cutest family for adoption about 6months ago--the kicker, there were 5 kids under 10--haha. I begged the hubby but he thought I was nuts. I thought it would be a fun and exciting adventure but he thought that going from 0 to 5 with varying age groups and a huge jump in the number of mouths to feed was unrealistic. I suppose he was right I realized that I was crazy after my "this really sweet family needs me" high finished and I came back down to earth... but it started the discussion for us. Would yall adopt a baby or are you willing to adopt up to a certain age level? I think I'm open to both and if we were sure we could accomodate and afford it, we talked about being open to sibling groups if it was the right family. But we'll see. We're young so there is plenty of time to see our family unfold over time-- exciting!
Baby names: My husband and I both have strong English (and a little Irish with mine) names, so we thought it would sound nice to continue that with our children. We really like Emma Grace for a girl and Luke William for a boy. The William is actually special because it was the name of my husband's uncle who passed away. I also like Olivia, Lucy, Landon, Carter and some other names... my husband isn't sold on Landon or Carter though...he says they arent "manly" enough. haha.0 -
Baby names: My husband and I both have strong English (and a little Irish with mine) names, so we thought it would sound nice to continue that with our children. We really like Emma Grace for a girl and Luke William for a boy. The William is actually special because it was the name of my husband's uncle who passed away. I also like Olivia, Lucy, Landon, Carter and some other names... my husband isn't sold on Landon or Carter though...he says they arent "manly" enough. haha.
I love Luke! That is our second boy name One of my good friends just had a baby at the end of January named Lucy - so cute!!! 0
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