Girls- Getting sexually frusterated?

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  • arieltheincredible
    arieltheincredible Posts: 114 Member
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    Ok I am frustrated lol because I don't have someone right next to me to even try to have sex. So i have resulted to porn and my wonderful toys to do the work but i miss actually getting it in. I had a " friend" for awhile and even though the sex was great he would always finish before me. On top of that he was hardly ever willing to go more rounds or help me out so I guess you can say I've been frustrated no matter what lol. Basically what I need and want is a man who can not only keep up but can satisfy me when i need it most!
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
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    I had a " friend" for awhile and even though the sex was great he would always finish before me.

    Sadly, i would even that guy at this point.....
  • arieltheincredible
    arieltheincredible Posts: 114 Member
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    I had a " friend" for awhile and even though the sex was great he would always finish before me.

    Sadly, i would even that guy at this point.....

    Oh girl I would too if he was still in my state lol he is in ny and I'm in az lol.
  • KatieCuth
    KatieCuth Posts: 569 Member
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    In my experience something is wrong... my x (father of my child) once child was conceived he no longer touched me much... I think the first time after my daughter was nearly 4....

    From someone that who hardly keep his hands of me to nothing. You can only imagine what that does to a womens self confidence etc.

    We are no longer together and that is one of the reasons, I used to think to myself look we have a house, we are friends we have a beautiful daughther etc but I was lying... I felt rejected, unattractive and not much like a women... And I was 29 when I had my daughter so having my sex life over in my early 30's was not a option. I knew at the time my partner was not cheating on me unless he was doing it at work (eventually didnt care if he did) but I knew he just didnt want to have sex with me anymore...

    We seperated I am now with another MAN... he considers himself LUCKY... I cant get enough... and the bonus we love each other very very much... If I dont get it at LEAST once a day, he has to make it up the next day LOL! ha ha

    So you need to talk to your husband about this, being tired isnt a good enough excuse!
  • heather7marie
    heather7marie Posts: 506 Member
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    Well... I'm always sexually frustrated, but I suppose that comes with being single. I'm not into one night stands. I've been more sexually frustrated than ever lately though since I lost some weight and have become so physically active. *sigh*
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,692 Member
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    I am! Who isn't getting much of a sex life because your sig other is too busy with school/work/kids? In my case, it's school. I'm the one with a bursting red line to the temp scale lol his seems like is zero. Says he wants too..but he feels tired. :explode:
    If he is really overweight, he may have low testosterone (the horny hormone for men and women).
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,692 Member
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    Just my 2 cents from a guys perspective and what I hear from some of my male friends who are married:
    Trust me ladies, there are many times that you may say something "negative and insensitive" that it really pisses your man off and he'd rather be at work, or out rather than come home and listen to things like, "I do everything around here", "you never help", "my job is harder than yours", "are you an idiot?" Yelling things like "COULD YOU HELP ME!" instead of politely asking, "honey I could use your help" make a difference.
    Just think of Kate and John from TLC. Kate was considered overbearing, but in reality, lots of "moms" I've heard about from my friends are the same way! If you aren't getting any, it may be because you might criticize how "unromantic" he may be.
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
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    Mine is receptive and understanding of my needs, but sometimes we hit dry spells because he gets super tired. Last night was irritating.. the two nights before I was wide awake and ready, and nothing...last night I was super tired but he kept trying and when I gave in, he fell asleep!! Left me awake and unhappy..:grumble:
    I called him on it though and we had a laugh over it. :laugh:
  • maria1113
    maria1113 Posts: 508 Member
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    Well... I'm always sexually frustrated, but I suppose that comes with being single. I'm not into one night stands.
    I'm in the same boat with you. No help anywhere near. And no, there is no one even interested in me so... I just need to try to concentrate on not doing something stupid.
  • shelbyfrootcake
    shelbyfrootcake Posts: 965 Member
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    The only time I'm frustrated is when I'm work.
  • ilookthetype
    ilookthetype Posts: 3,021 Member
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    Well... I'm always sexually frustrated, but I suppose that comes with being single. I'm not into one night stands.
    I'm in the same boat with you. No help anywhere near. And no, there is no one even interested in me so... I just need to try to concentrate on not doing something stupid.

    Ditto!

    My boss asked me a while ago if I had a new boyfriend (true story, it was because i was walking funny from doing walking lunges and was sore, also my boss is my friend so she can ask such things) and I just stared at her and said, "If I had a new boyfriend I wouldn't be in the gym for an hour a day after running for half an hour in the morning. Why do you think I'm ALWAYS at the gym?!" Gotta work off the frustration.
  • StevLL
    StevLL Posts: 921 Member
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    Great thread. Just some insight from a guys perpective. Several factors contribute to low sex-drive. Overweight, poor diet, stress, High Blood Pressure, medication, performance anxiety and the list goes on. DHEA is a cheap & natural Testosterone booster, but looking at the big picture might prove helpful. We get turned off too when we are hurt or angry at a situation or stressed in general and while it can be a stess reliever it can be a stress inducer too. Personal experience was tired and gaining lots of weight, working 60-70 hours a week plus on call put me in what we thought was depression, but after five years and finally going to an MD (ya another male trait we don't go to the doctor enough) found out my pitiutary was seriously defunct. Now on hormone replacment and while I'm not 21 again, I'm in the mood and have energy regularly now. Have your guys get checkups to make sure it is nothing serious before you write him off as "too pooped to pop." :-) Some simple blood tests and life is good again.
  • _beachgirl_
    _beachgirl_ Posts: 3,865 Member
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    My ex hubby sometimes worked 14 hour days, 7 days a week for months at a time, he was tired, but when he tried to use that asan excuse I would let him know I would do all the work!
    The rare occasion that didnt work, I would tell him I would be taking care of myself then. A few moans in, and he would take over!
  • LovingMe19
    LovingMe19 Posts: 380 Member
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    I feel the same way. In the begining of our relationship my husband wasn't satisfied if he didn't get it at least 3 or 4 times a day. Now i'm lucky if I get it a couple times a month. I feel weird, like I shouldn't be this aroused all the time. I've tried everything, lingere, toys, massages, being the aggressor, and 90% of the time I end up being rejected. What a blow to the self esteem. I've considered his hormones being out of whack, so maybe a phone call to the dr might be a good idea. Im sick of hearing, "im too tired" or "Im not in the mood right now."
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
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    Couldn't have said it better myself Mrs. M........Seems that a woman hits her sexual peak later in life and apparently I am sitting at the top and my husband has fallen into an avalanche and gone tumbling down the mountain leaving me standing by myself......toy in hand LOL

    That's just crazy, I can't believe this really happens to women. What is this late sexual peak you speak of that women supposidely hit later in life??? My wife has 5 years on me and still hasn't hit her peak; i don't even think she's started the climb up to that peak and sitting somewhere around the base watching reality TV. Meanwhile I'm ready to say the hell with it and swan dive off the peak cuz it's not worth the frustration.
  • AmberLiscous
    AmberLiscous Posts: 644 Member
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    No sexual frustration here...honestly my husband just came home because he forgot his phone and i had just gotten out of the shower....well the rest is history.....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:
  • turkishmelly
    turkishmelly Posts: 129 Member
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    Women hump the pillow and men *kitten*, and more faping
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
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    .....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

    That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.
  • hroush
    hroush Posts: 2,073 Member
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    That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

    In general ladies, men don't get hints. Just be out with it already!
  • AmberLiscous
    AmberLiscous Posts: 644 Member
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    .....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

    That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

    EXACTLY!!!! My husband knows when i want it (all the time) and i know when he wants it (all the time) :smokin:

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