Girls- Getting sexually frusterated?

ilookthetype

Well... I'm always sexually frustrated, but I suppose that comes with being single. I'm not into one night stands.

I'm in the same boat with you. No help anywhere near. And no, there is no one even interested in me so... I just need to try to concentrate on not doing something stupid.

Ditto!

My boss asked me a while ago if I had a new boyfriend (true story, it was because i was walking funny from doing walking lunges and was sore, also my boss is my friend so she can ask such things) and I just stared at her and said, "If I had a new boyfriend I wouldn't be in the gym for an hour a day after running for half an hour in the morning. Why do you think I'm ALWAYS at the gym?!" Gotta work off the frustration.

StevLL

Great thread. Just some insight from a guys perpective. Several factors contribute to low sex-drive. Overweight, poor diet, stress, High Blood Pressure, medication, performance anxiety and the list goes on. DHEA is a cheap & natural Testosterone booster, but looking at the big picture might prove helpful. We get turned off too when we are hurt or angry at a situation or stressed in general and while it can be a stess reliever it can be a stress inducer too. Personal experience was tired and gaining lots of weight, working 60-70 hours a week plus on call put me in what we thought was depression, but after five years and finally going to an MD (ya another male trait we don't go to the doctor enough) found out my pitiutary was seriously defunct. Now on hormone replacment and while I'm not 21 again, I'm in the mood and have energy regularly now. Have your guys get checkups to make sure it is nothing serious before you write him off as "too pooped to pop." :-) Some simple blood tests and life is good again.

_beachgirl_

My ex hubby sometimes worked 14 hour days, 7 days a week for months at a time, he was tired, but when he tried to use that asan excuse I would let him know I would do all the work!
The rare occasion that didnt work, I would tell him I would be taking care of myself then. A few moans in, and he would take over!

LovingMe19

I feel the same way. In the begining of our relationship my husband wasn't satisfied if he didn't get it at least 3 or 4 times a day. Now i'm lucky if I get it a couple times a month. I feel weird, like I shouldn't be this aroused all the time. I've tried everything, lingere, toys, massages, being the aggressor, and 90% of the time I end up being rejected. What a blow to the self esteem. I've considered his hormones being out of whack, so maybe a phone call to the dr might be a good idea. Im sick of hearing, "im too tired" or "Im not in the mood right now."

JNick77

Couldn't have said it better myself Mrs. M........Seems that a woman hits her sexual peak later in life and apparently I am sitting at the top and my husband has fallen into an avalanche and gone tumbling down the mountain leaving me standing by myself......toy in hand LOL

That's just crazy, I can't believe this really happens to women. What is this late sexual peak you speak of that women supposidely hit later in life??? My wife has 5 years on me and still hasn't hit her peak; i don't even think she's started the climb up to that peak and sitting somewhere around the base watching reality TV. Meanwhile I'm ready to say the hell with it and swan dive off the peak cuz it's not worth the frustration.

AmberLiscous

No sexual frustration here...honestly my husband just came home because he forgot his phone and i had just gotten out of the shower....well the rest is history.....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

turkishmelly

Women hump the pillow and men *kitten*, and more faping

JNick77

.....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

hroush

That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

In general ladies, men don't get hints. Just be out with it already!

AmberLiscous

.....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

EXACTLY!!!! My husband knows when i want it (all the time) and i know when he wants it (all the time) :smokin:

JNick77

.....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

EXACTLY!!!! My husband knows when i want it (all the time) and i know when he wants it (all the time) :smokin:

:grumble: SHOWOFF! :bigsmile:

angryguy77

Being tired is not an excuse. I'm 33, I worked 7 days/80 hrs a week last year at a physically demanding job, and not one time did i ever think i was too tired. It's a lame excuse, the word "tired" should be banned from the bedroom. Unless you are looking for a marathon, there is no reason to deny because of tiredness.To me, its the most selfish and hurtful thing a spouse can do.

AmberLiscous

.....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

EXACTLY!!!! My husband knows when i want it (all the time) and i know when he wants it (all the time) :smokin:

:grumble: SHOWOFF! :bigsmile:

JUST SAYIN!!!:devil: :bigsmile:

JNick77

Being tired is not an excuse. I'm 33, I worked 7 days/80 hrs a week last year at a physically demanding job, and not one time did i ever think i was too tired. It's a lame excuse, the word "tired" should be banned from the bedroom. Unless you are looking for a marathon, there is no reason to deny because of tiredness.To me, its the most selfish and hurtful thing a spouse can do.

Ah see mine just says, "don't want to" doesn't even bother with headache, tummyache, or tired excuses. LOL

Johnnyswife

.....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

This is where you need to sit and figure out a signal that your both comfortable with to say, "hey lets go!" I grab..ahem...lower than that to let him know, or do some other stuff he told me ahead of time that he likes. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't. lol

Being tired is not an excuse. I'm 33, I worked 7 days/80 hrs a week last year at a physically demanding job, and not one time did i ever think i was too tired. It's a lame excuse, the word "tired" should be banned from the bedroom. Unless you are looking for a marathon, there is no reason to deny because of tiredness.To me, its the most selfish and hurtful thing a spouse can do.

Well if your trying to stimulate one to get in the mood and nothing is happening, and they are practicaly snoring, than its not an excuse or meant to be hurtful. Just so long as its not done EVERY time you want to have sex. Everyone gets a free pass once in a while. The only time in 4 years that I denied my husband, was after a week of him not giving me ANY attention whatsoever. I made him tell me what was going on and why he was acting the way he did. Ever since than, he's been attentive, except when he's super tired and coming home stressed from his boss and hard job. We made a rule that if he can't at night, he'd better the next morning. lol

lookpretty

you know women just a thought but i see all these pots about hubbies not following a healthy diet would a better diet maybe help THEIR libido, would they feel more energised, are you ladies feeling a healthy craving that they dont because theyre not taking care of themselves?

Libby81

Well... I'm always sexually frustrated, but I suppose that comes with being single. I'm not into one night stands. I've been more sexually frustrated than ever lately though since I lost some weight and have become so physically active. *sigh*

I completely share that pain!! Now I would quite like to show off my new leaner body I have no one to show it too :sad:

LovingMe19

.....maybe be a little more submissive or forceful even......works for me :bigsmile:

That's a good point. Once and a blue moon my wife will ask me why I didn't want to have sex last night. I'm like WTF are you talking about you didn't seem to be in the mood. She'll come back with, well I tried to get your attention. The attention grabber is her putting her hand on my arm. To me that doesn't signal sex, that signals cuddling at most. If you want something go get it, no time for subtlety.

Haha! You KNOW I send strong signals! I'll admit, I get it more often than not, but its always on his terms. He'll have bad weeks, but then out of the blue it'll be everyday for a couple weeks. I guess my issue is not getting it when I try hardest for it lol.

rautaty

My ex was ALWAYS too tired...not interested...could care less. It's not that he was getting it elsewhere, it just was't a priority for him. And honestly it didn't matter what I did, he just wasn't interested in sex. My husband now....he is 44, works 60-80hrs a week and has NEVER been too tired or not interested. We have been together 7 years and still it's almost every night.

That's how it is with my fiance....we've been together 7 1/2 years and have 2 kids. Even in the beginning it was about once every 1-2 weeks, and then maybe twice every 1-2 months.....now it's.....I can't even remember -- i think something like 3 times since August. He never initiates, wants me to -- but I can't tell you how many times he has turned me down flat no matter what I did. Now, I just can't initiate anymore -- it's too dejecting. We've been over and over, and around and around about this. He'd rather watch porn on his pc and *kitten* in the shower. Whatever.......not sure how long I'll be able to stay in this sexless "marriage."

wow, i'm not sure how much longer you can live like that either. seems like it won't get better. have u tried going to couples therapy or something to tap into why he is acting this way and why he doesnt enjoy intimacy?

He is lazy! if he masturbates then he has a sexual drive and a good one, he is just lazy or he manipulates u. Yes, men can manipulate women with sex too, he may be frustrated by smth, or he has sex elsewhere. I'd cheat on him if i was u, sorry, but i understand how frustrating it is for you to have sex once in a few month, and i am sure he understands it too, but he doesn't care. Sex is what makes a relationship intimate and healthy, without that you are just buddies.

Sinisterly

MHMMMM.
But not saying why.

Timshel_

IS their libido as dead as this thread was.

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