Girls- Getting sexually frusterated?

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  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
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    Dam so sorry. . . . I guess Im lucky :happy:

    high five im with you...altho im the more tired one cause of the 19 month old .. my husband could be snoring and all i have to do is give him a nudge, whip out a boob, and game on..


    "whip out the boob" LOL too funny
  • BFab24
    BFab24 Posts: 66
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    I am a little bit different. I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years. We did have sex from about 6 months in till about 2 months ago. But I was raised in a very religious home and my conscience was kicking in. Even though there are times we both want to, we refrain now. Not because I think it's bad or anything but we are choosing to keep it special for us and very possibly wait till we are married to do it again. We are even moving in together and this is still our thought process.

    That being said I don't believe that sex always is the "glue" that holds relationships together. Yes if it is becoming an issue with keeping a couple together it should be addressed. But there are many other ways that a couple can relate to each other and hold the relationship together if it's not a high sex drive time for either person. It's important but not the end all.

    Yes I'm old fashioned and my boyfriend may not be "normal" in guy terms but we make it work for us. To each their own. Make it work for you!

    Hugs :)
  • pammbroo
    pammbroo Posts: 550 Member
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    Toys and a special showerhead baby...must-have's in a single girl's repertoire.....but oh how much fun it is to share!! :wink:
  • RachVR6
    RachVR6 Posts: 3,688 Member
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    I believe him. I know hes not the cheating type. I know he loves me, and i can see it in his eyes. I don't like that as an excuse either, but i have had my moments as well.

    My bf is tired a lot too. I don't fault him for it. :flowerforyou:
  • Amb1976
    Amb1976 Posts: 241 Member
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    im there....guess i should have gotten a younger model.....:laugh: :tongue:
  • nolachick
    nolachick Posts: 3,278 Member
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    My ex was ALWAYS too tired...not interested...could care less. It's not that he was getting it elsewhere, it just was't a priority for him. And honestly it didn't matter what I did, he just wasn't interested in sex. My husband now....he is 44, works 60-80hrs a week and has NEVER been too tired or not interested. We have been together 7 years and still it's almost every night.


    That's how it is with my fiance....we've been together 7 1/2 years and have 2 kids. Even in the beginning it was about once every 1-2 weeks, and then maybe twice every 1-2 months.....now it's.....I can't even remember -- i think something like 3 times since August. He never initiates, wants me to -- but I can't tell you how many times he has turned me down flat no matter what I did. Now, I just can't initiate anymore -- it's too dejecting. We've been over and over, and around and around about this. He'd rather watch porn on his pc and *kitten* in the shower. Whatever.......not sure how long I'll be able to stay in this sexless "marriage."

    wow, i'm not sure how much longer you can live like that either. seems like it won't get better. have u tried going to couples therapy or something to tap into why he is acting this way and why he doesnt enjoy intimacy?
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
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    Dr. Pepper, Southern Comfort, Special K.........
  • pressica
    pressica Posts: 361
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    haa...the guys popping in is cracking me up!!!!

    Yes need to get some soon or else!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :grumble: :explode: :angry: :mad: :sad:
    Of course us guys had to drop in. The title just said "Girls- " it didn't say "Girls Only"
    :laugh:

    I think that a guy's input on this discussion can be helpful. Besides, guys are making this thread way funny. Cheers! :drinker:
  • Amb1976
    Amb1976 Posts: 241 Member
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    im there....guess i should have gotten a younger model.....:laugh: :tongue:

    of course...we're really only home together one day a week...diff shifts...but yeah...mines def higher than his rite now
  • Panda_Jack
    Panda_Jack Posts: 829 Member
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    This thread is the best I've read in a while!
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,411 Member
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    Sharing? Absolutely.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,411 Member
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    Toys and a special showerhead baby...must-have's in a single girl's repertoire.....but oh how much fun it is to share!! :wink:

    Sharing? Absolutely!
  • jenX1174
    jenX1174 Posts: 154
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    My ex was ALWAYS too tired...not interested...could care less. It's not that he was getting it elsewhere, it just was't a priority for him. And honestly it didn't matter what I did, he just wasn't interested in sex. My husband now....he is 44, works 60-80hrs a week and has NEVER been too tired or not interested. We have been together 7 years and still it's almost every night.


    That's how it is with my fiance....we've been together 7 1/2 years and have 2 kids. Even in the beginning it was about once every 1-2 weeks, and then maybe twice every 1-2 months.....now it's.....I can't even remember -- i think something like 3 times since August. He never initiates, wants me to -- but I can't tell you how many times he has turned me down flat no matter what I did. Now, I just can't initiate anymore -- it's too dejecting. We've been over and over, and around and around about this. He'd rather watch porn on his pc and *kitten* in the shower. Whatever.......not sure how long I'll be able to stay in this sexless "marriage."

    wow, i'm not sure how much longer you can live like that either. seems like it won't get better. have u tried going to couples therapy or something to tap into why he is acting this way and why he doesnt enjoy intimacy?


    No, and I don't think it would work anyway, even if I managed by some miracle to get him to go. He admits his sex drive is lower than the normal guy, but he doesn't think it's a problem. He has low testosterone, so sex is non-existent when he's not using his patches, and barely existent even when he is. He doesn't believe sex is the most important thing -- and I disagree -- I feel it's as equally important as other elements of a relationship. He knows how I feel because I've told him. I don't talk to him about it anymore because if I do, he accuses me of keeping track. He also knows how I feel about porn.....again, he doesn't think he has a problem with this and doesn't understand why I do. I don't have a problem w/porn in general -- I like it, in small amounts, and I understand most guys do. I've had boyfriends before who would look at a magazine, watch a video here and there......but never every single day. I've never had a boyfriend who would refuse to make love to me, but then watch porn and go jerk off in the shower. I told him this, too -- but he still thinks I'm making a big deal of it.

    Anyway....for now I'm taking care of me -- my weight I mean, and getting healthy. I'm giving it two more years for when my son graduates high school, and then I can afford a 2 bedroom apartment for me and my daughter. If things haven't gotten better, I'm moving on. I want a man who wants me and has no problem showing me that he does.
  • appleshells
    appleshells Posts: 165
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    Sharing? Absolutely.

    as in swinging???????? Details! LOL
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,411 Member
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    Sharing? Absolutely.

    as in swinging???????? Details! LOL


    I was talking about my guy! :laugh:
  • appleshells
    appleshells Posts: 165
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    lol I thought maybe you were a little freaky deaky!
  • porcelain_doll
    porcelain_doll Posts: 1,005 Member
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    Spike his punch and whisper in his ear a little... or a lot. That might help.

    Seriously, when it comes to this stuff I am on another planet. If I told anyone the last time I'd been intimate with someone, it would be really embarrassing. It'd also make your situation seem much more bearable. But it is also what you are used to, and I won't try to minimize that by any means. If you are used to a certain kind of attention (in the same way that I'm used to no attention), I can see it becoming very frustrating.

    I do watch a lot of Dr. Phil, though. He seems to be able to pump info out of just about anybody. Perhaps give his producers a call?
    Just kidding; I hope you find a solution to this problem. I like to give advice but only if I know it's actually going to be helpful, so I can't offer much to you in this case. Good luck. :flowerforyou:
  • amysj303
    amysj303 Posts: 5,086 Member
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    I think DH is of the quality not quantity, as another poster said. I would like it everyday. I don't know about the glue for a relationship, but I can tell you I am much happier and positive about my marriage and my husband when we are having relations regularly. I was in a relationship before where BF was more interested in porn than me, and I can tell you, the porn doesn't bother me unless I am being neglected in favor it!
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,411 Member
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    I think DH is of the quality not quantity, as another poster said. I would like it everyday. I don't know about the glue for a relationship, but I can tell you I am much happier and positive about my marriage and my husband when we are having relations regularly. I was in a relationship before where BF was more interested in porn than me, and I can tell you, the porn doesn't bother me unless I am being neglected in favor it!

    Porn has it's place and its uses. Too bad some folks get hooked on it and forget how great real live action is.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,411 Member
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    lol I thought maybe you were a little freaky deaky!

    Kinky not Freaky :wink:

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