Girls- Getting sexually frusterated?

ebgbjo

Please don`t jump on me (no pun intended) but am curious about something and just want to put this out for discussion.

How many of the ladies here are not satisfied with the outcome of having sex...by that I mean has the guy never learned that sex is not about just him getting finished rather then desiring to please the lady first and foremost.
If that is the case I suspect that there are signals of frustration sent and the guy gets frustrated in turn and eventually shuts down.

Tried this with my husband, telling him what I need, but lately he thinks sex is just about getting to the finish line. Foreplay for him is just asking me "hey, you wanna, you know *wink* wink* " and then putting his hands down my pants- such a turn off. I dont need romance all the time (hey, a little rough housing is a HUGE turn on) but at least take some time to enjoy it. The whole needs to be in a bed at night is a bore too. You would think after many conversations and many turn downs of sex because of the way he asks for it that he would get a clue, but nope!!!

chocolateandvodka

oh the stories i have...

ItsCasey

Please don`t jump on me (no pun intended) but am curious about something and just want to put this out for discussion.

How many of the ladies here are not satisfied with the outcome of having sex...by that I mean has the guy never learned that sex is not about just him getting finished rather then desiring to please the lady first and foremost.
If that is the case I suspect that there are signals of frustration sent and the guy gets frustrated in turn and eventually shuts down.

You would think after many conversations and many turn downs of sex because of the way he asks for it that he would get a clue, but nope!!!

Don't tell him. SHOW him. Men do not do "conversations" or subtlety or reverse psychology when it comes to sex (or anything else, really). Grab him and show him what you want. Multiple times. And when he gets it right, let him know. Eventually, his Pavlovian instincts will kick in.

exercisesucks

Is this.......free?

foodfight247

Wow....certainly one frustrated woman here...

When I was with my ex, everything was great in the bedroom department.... He knew how to please and I certainly learnt to find a number of hot spots on a certain love stick! He loved that - i was the best ever, allegedly! Up until just before we split, we were still finding different hot spots on each other...

Not sure if I'll ever find anyone who could please/service me the way he did.....You never know tho!

juliecat1

Whats sex?? :laugh:

But seriously - what the others said. Get thyself to the toy store! haha

shiggyshane

Wow :smokin:

Libby81

Me I really really need to get some soon:explode: :grumble:

Totally agree there

pumpkinmoccasin

I have an insane libido so I don't take it personally if my DH isn't up for it all the freaking time like I am, lol!

ambermichon

Is he overweight? has he had his testosterone checked? both, when fixed, make things better :-)

foodforfuel

Here is a big tip. When they get home tired from work, DON'T feed them. Just let them know you won't be serving dinner until you get some. I could almost promise you they would rather do that than whip up a meal by themselves!

Libby81

:huh: I'm all left out. Everyone in this thread has someone to "work" me I need to hunt one down first. Easier said than done where I live

brattyworm

You know that toy can only do so much.... Its not meant to replace its meant to enhance. I can't say my husband is any better, but thats mainly cause we have clashing schedules or are half a world a part (literally).

schibs

My wife and I are very "active" and I still can't get enough. lol I quite regularly have to take matters into my own hands, so to speak. Definetly no complaints here.

HollieDoodles

Sorry.... I couldn't read this topic..... I've gone blind!


Does that answer the question?


I think it's time to start dating again. LOL

jlzrdking

I think I am going to go pay my gf a visit after work today :devil:

HollieDoodles

Yeah..... I think my "break from dating" isn't working out as well as I had planned.

Besides, it's a public safety issue at this point. Right? I mean, I'm out there driving a huge SUV and I'm blind right now.

Sissy4EverX3

*raises hand and jumps in the conversation*

I haven't had sex in 2 months. Frankly, I havent had a sex drive in TWO YEARS. I had some ongoing health issues in which surgery last month finally fixed. Less than a week after the surgery, my husband of 10 years got himself arrested and thrown in jail. I filed for divorce. So sex for me isn't comin (no pun intended) any time soon :sad:

NotGoddess

Yes.

lulabellewoowoo

Okay, gotta bump this one as I could only get to page 8 and really MUST work.

AFM, I'm usually the one turning down only because I work at 2 a.m. and am so tired and it is NOT a "sleeping pill" for me. But lately, I'm trying to get over the tired hump and just go for it. I am NEVER disappointed and have an extremely giving, loving hubby. His dad is a doctor and educated his boy well on female anatomy.

arieltheincredible

Ok I am frustrated lol because I don't have someone right next to me to even try to have sex. So i have resulted to porn and my wonderful toys to do the work but i miss actually getting it in. I had a " friend" for awhile and even though the sex was great he would always finish before me. On top of that he was hardly ever willing to go more rounds or help me out so I guess you can say I've been frustrated no matter what lol. Basically what I need and want is a man who can not only keep up but can satisfy me when i need it most!

fbmandy55

I had a " friend" for awhile and even though the sex was great he would always finish before me.

Sadly, i would even that guy at this point.....

arieltheincredible

I had a " friend" for awhile and even though the sex was great he would always finish before me.

Sadly, i would even that guy at this point.....

Oh girl I would too if he was still in my state lol he is in ny and I'm in az lol.

KatieCuth

In my experience something is wrong... my x (father of my child) once child was conceived he no longer touched me much... I think the first time after my daughter was nearly 4....

From someone that who hardly keep his hands of me to nothing. You can only imagine what that does to a womens self confidence etc.

We are no longer together and that is one of the reasons, I used to think to myself look we have a house, we are friends we have a beautiful daughther etc but I was lying... I felt rejected, unattractive and not much like a women... And I was 29 when I had my daughter so having my sex life over in my early 30's was not a option. I knew at the time my partner was not cheating on me unless he was doing it at work (eventually didnt care if he did) but I knew he just didnt want to have sex with me anymore...

We seperated I am now with another MAN... he considers himself LUCKY... I cant get enough... and the bonus we love each other very very much... If I dont get it at LEAST once a day, he has to make it up the next day LOL! ha ha

So you need to talk to your husband about this, being tired isnt a good enough excuse!

heather7marie

Well... I'm always sexually frustrated, but I suppose that comes with being single. I'm not into one night stands. I've been more sexually frustrated than ever lately though since I lost some weight and have become so physically active. *sigh*

ninerbuff

I am! Who isn't getting much of a sex life because your sig other is too busy with school/work/kids? In my case, it's school. I'm the one with a bursting red line to the temp scale lol his seems like is zero. Says he wants too..but he feels tired. :explode:

If he is really overweight, he may have low testosterone (the horny hormone for men and women).

ninerbuff

Just my 2 cents from a guys perspective and what I hear from some of my male friends who are married:
Trust me ladies, there are many times that you may say something "negative and insensitive" that it really pisses your man off and he'd rather be at work, or out rather than come home and listen to things like, "I do everything around here", "you never help", "my job is harder than yours", "are you an idiot?" Yelling things like "COULD YOU HELP ME!" instead of politely asking, "honey I could use your help" make a difference.
Just think of Kate and John from TLC. Kate was considered overbearing, but in reality, lots of "moms" I've heard about from my friends are the same way! If you aren't getting any, it may be because you might criticize how "unromantic" he may be.

Johnnyswife

Mine is receptive and understanding of my needs, but sometimes we hit dry spells because he gets super tired. Last night was irritating.. the two nights before I was wide awake and ready, and nothing...last night I was super tired but he kept trying and when I gave in, he fell asleep!! Left me awake and unhappy..:grumble:
I called him on it though and we had a laugh over it. :laugh:

maria1113

Well... I'm always sexually frustrated, but I suppose that comes with being single. I'm not into one night stands.

I'm in the same boat with you. No help anywhere near. And no, there is no one even interested in me so... I just need to try to concentrate on not doing something stupid.

shelbyfrootcake

The only time I'm frustrated is when I'm work.