Pregnancy- July 2011

Rachickidee

My best friend growing up, who is due a week after me just had her baby last night. I am happy for her but definitely a bit jealous.
Well, I need to get ready for my grandpa's funeral. Then I give my LO full permission to grace us with her presence.

LittleSpy

Rachel -- HA! Thanks for that video. It made me want a kitten for half second.

Rachael -- I so know what you mean about the happy/jealous feeling. That's how I feel about you being induced on Monday. :laugh:

In the last 12 hours I've gone from completely sure I would schedule an induction for tomorrow to completely sure I'm going to wait until my appointment on Monday to completely sure I still have absolutely no idea what I want to do. I have a pretty long list of pros and neutrals about induction and almost nothing on my con list yet for some reason I just can't bring myself to call the doctor about it. I don't get me.

By the way, by "induction," I mean the breaking of my water -- my OBs think there's a huge chance pitocin won't even come in to play (though of course there's a chance it will if nothing happens for hours after my water is broken).

ron2282

Maria – sorry you’re having painful contractions.

Rachael – yea for a set date!!!!! I’m so excited for you! Thoughts and prayers for you and your family today, funerals are always rough for me.

Caper – fingers crossed for you GD test, I had mine yesterday. I was told that if there was a problem I’d get a phone call immediately and if everything looked good I wouldn’t find out until my next appointment. So far my phone hasn’t rung, so I’m taking that as a good sign. I’ve never heard before that finding out the gender of baby was against policy.

Anne – sorry about the sub for your classroom. I hope they can find someone before Elise is born so you can get everything worked out. I’m starting to get back pain when I sleep too, the only thing that helps it is if I wedge a big pillow under my back when I’m on my side. The support from the pillow seems to do the trick.

Julie – ugh, so sorry about your appointment. That’s a tough decision to make, and you are NOT a bad mother for considering it!! You need to do what’s best for the both of you.

Danielle - I hope it’s just a bug and not a repeat of the first trimester. My m/s came back for a bit then went away again, hopefully yours doesn’t stick around for long. No cramping after peeing, but lately when I go to the bathroom it feels like my lady part is being pulled apart from the inside……I hope that’s not a contraction and I just have no clue.

Katrina – I agree that your kids are just acting like normal kids. I’m sorry hubby isn’t being more supportive. ::hugs::

Maureen – hope you have a good appointment with lots of progress!

Welcome to all the new mamas!

Hi to everyone I missed.

AnneElise

Danielle- No cramping/contracting after peeing for me yet… mine just get really bad at night when I am laying down to sleep.

Rachel- What that passage says makes perfect sense to me! It has to be doing something! Hmm I never got a pregnancy pillow and I am so glad to the end… may just have to have a couch night soon to see if it helps. That sounds just like my back ache though. Thanks for the laugh can always use one of those.

Julie- It is a hard choice to make… I still waffle in my mind but I know what is best for me so I have to do it. Does your DH have an opinion or is he leaving it up to you?

Rachael- Thinking of you at the funeral! I hope your LO decides to come right after!

Ronya- Glad that you haven’t heard anything from the GD test!

Maria- Any updates?

MisdemeanorM

haha, that cat video is funny! Kittens are so cute... too bad they turn into cats! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

pmaria10

Good Morning Ladies. Today is my due date and no baby yet last night i had a false alarm i was in crazy pain for about an hr then all of a sudden it lifted. I so want to get things rolling my contractions are back to being sporadic there is constant menstral pain and pressure pain down below and I'm pretty sure the rest of my plug came out yesterday. Sry TMI.

I have an appt tomorrow afternoon I'm def going to ask my doc to check me for dilation I'm so anxious to meet my LO.


Welcome to the the new mommies to be!

Julie: Sorry bout the appt I would completely understand if you went ahead with the induction.

Katrina: I'm sorry about your DH I hope he gives you the support you need. *hug*

Maureen: I hope your appt goes very well.

Racheal: Yay for a set date *hug* for the funeral thoughts and prayers your way.

Here's to another day of contractions and menstrual pains I know they just get me closer to my LO so bring on the pain.

LittleSpy

Maria -- Misery loves company so maybe it'll make you feel better to know we're in the same boat as far as cramps and sporadic contractions. I'm so sick of having contractions I could scream. Especially since they're not strong enough to really do anything, apparently.

Anne -- My husband said he supports me in whatever decision I make but it's obvious he's very much in favor of the convenience of induction.

I seriously don't understand what my problem is. If my water broke on it's own right now it would be the exact same situation has having my OB break it in the hospital. It may or may not start my labor and I may or may not end up being chemically induced. There's really no reason for me not the schedule it. I think I just have some unreasonable romantic idea about not choosing my child's birthday or something. I'm driving myself nuts.

Oh I came up with one more con to induction tomorrow -- if I wait to have her on the 16th or after, I'll save $50 on health insurance premiums because I won't start having to pay for hers until August 1st. :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

meokk

Hi Everyone,
Sorry too busy to read since Tuesday and I'm sure I've missed loads

Julie - fill me in - why are you thinking of having your water broken and not just waiting for natural progression?

I'll have time to read back later tonight.....see you later !!!

Oooh - I just noticed I hit the 100 days to go mark !!!!!

kacylaine

Anne - ever noticed how much kleenex is in Drs offices? They're prepared for criers! I cried in front of 3 different doctors already this week.

Rachael - yay for a date! You must be excited!

Julie - good luck at the appointment!

I'm such a stalker :laugh: :laugh:

Ha! You think you're a stalker? Check me out, still lurking! I'm hanging on until all the babies are born from when I started! :bigsmile:

brittonymiller

Hey girls. So sorry I've been MIA. I log on for a second to check and see if any babies have come and to log in exercise. Other than that I'm off pretty quickly.

Maureen- I can't believe that baby isn't here yet! As a due date twin, I would be going crazy if Emma was still in my tummy right now. Hopefully the little one will be here soon so you won't have to get an induction. I say that just because I know you don't want one, but it won't be the end of the world if it has to happen. I realized with my c-section that if you just approach the situation positively, you can still have a very positive birth experience.

Julie- You are almost there! I really thought your baby would be here by now too. With all of those contractions... geeze. You are a trooper! If you want to go through with the induction, I say go ahead. It is what is right for you and your family, not what anyone else thinks. Just make sure you are comfortable with the decision. Don't worry about being a bad mother. Oh my gosh I've had so many of those worries lately. If you give in and let yourself start thinking like that you'll just cry all the time. haha.


Maria- Where is your little one!? Geeze, these babies love to test their mamas' patience. Hope you get to see your precious bundle soon. I'm sorry you're experiencing discomfort.

Things are going well for me. I've had major difficulties with breastfeeding. The lactation consultant at the hospital and the nurses made me think I was doing it right and sent me home. Apparently I wasn't getting her to latch correctly and she ended up destroying my nipples. I'm talking bruises, deep cracks, bleeding. It got so bad that my whole body would just tense up when she got on and I would burst out crying. I told myself in the beginning that it was just me healing from the initial bruising I got when I was learning in the hospital and that maybe the way my nipples looked was normal. NO! If you are in any pain and have any questions, go to a consultant at the first signs. Don't let it get bad. I finally went to a consultant on Monday and she told me it is "to my credit" that I didn't quit because the damage was so severe. She taught me how to get Emma to latch properly and gave me lots of advice for letting myself heal. Good thing is I'm still able to breastfeed during this process. It's just slow healing. Anything I've had that is close to baby blues is related to my breastfeeding issues, so I can't wait to be healed and be able to enjoy the experience.


Julie and Maureen- Don't worry too much about c-sections. I'm not going to lie, it was a scary experience- getting the spinal and knowing that they are cutting into you, but as soon as you hear that baby cry you are on top of the world again. It was like the scariest experience of my life followed immediately by the happiest and most miraculous experience of my life. Everyone is different with healing, but I healed really quickly and didn't need pain meds for more than two days when we got home. Even then I didn't take every dose. I feel like my nipple issues have been much worse than the c-section healing.

Here's a picture of my little sweetie.

brittonymiller

Well what the heck. I resized it, but it's still huge. Sometimes it takes the website while to acknowledge the edit, so I'll wait and see if it fixes itself.

LittleSpy

Victoria -- This is going to be long and probably nonsensical because it's going to a random jumble a lot of the thoughts that are rambling around in my head right now.

I'm positive for strep and I've been having consistent contractions for 5 weeks. The last 1.5 weeks, the contractions have been significantly stronger and more uncomfortable. I'm tired, I'm in pain, I'm using up all of my paid leave because I can't work in my current condition (randomly squealing out uncontrollably in pain is a bit distracting in the office ), and the fact of the matter is there's little to no benefit to her being inside of me anymore. Yes, labor will surely start on it's own in a few days (or not since I've had tons of painful contractions and yet made no progress for over a week) but why bother waiting? What's the real benefit?

As it turns out, I don't put much value into things being "natural" for the sake of being natural at this point. I don't think natural is necessarily better. As your surely know by now, I feel that way about a lot of things. I'm a fan of modern medicine and in my opinion there really aren't any legitimate cons to induction in my situation nor are there any pros to waiting it out.

Now that I'm in this situation and I've looked into it more, I don't understand why people are so adamantly opposed to induction. Even though there's no definite medical reason for me to be induced, there certainly are medical reasons induction would be a plus rather than a negative (antibiotics before my water breaks, me not being exhausted and in pain for who knows how much longer, placenta life, potential cord complications, baby's size, etc). Since my cervix is so "ripe" and far along in the process, induction doesn't even increase my chances for c-section according to the OB I talked to yesterday.
If my water broke on it's own, which it's likely to do at any point according to the 2 doctors who have checked me the last 2 weeks, I'd be in the exact same situation. Except if it breaks on it's own, I'm not in a sterile environment and I haven't had antibiotics, so yeah, there's actual legitimate risk involved in me letting it happen on it's own (even though the risk involved is quite small). On top of small pros on the medical side, there's also comfort and convenience on the side of induction. We can have someone here to take care of our dogs so hubby doesn't have to intermittently leave the hospital. I don't have to have my water break while I'm in bed or sitting on the couch or while I'm grocery shopping. Since I'm already 3cm dilated and fully effaced and I'm positive for strep, my whole plan to labor at home as long as possible is already completely out of the question for me.

Very logically convincing argument. Yet I admit I still have some irrational emotional reservation about induction and that's why I haven't scheduled it. I think I may, though. Because I sat myself down earlier and thought okay, so what if I make it to my appointment on Monday and I have an ultrasound and everything is okay to wait another week or so before they start insisting on inducing me. Am I really going to be okay with that? Using another week of leave from work? Being worthless and incredibly uncomfortable for potentially 11 or 12 more days? On one hand it's like, sure, I can wait it out. On the other hand, um... why? Seriously, am I overlooking something important? I don't consider "it's not natural" to be a legitimate argument against having the doctor break my water.

I very much thought I would be against being induced unless I was a week or more past my due date. Now that it's come up I've realized I honestly don't have a valid argument against it. So now I'm stumped and indecisive and driving myself crazy.

meokk

Wow Jules, sounds like lots of reasons to induce and no real reasons not to. I think I'd get on with it if I were you. :flowerforyou:

Caperfae

Thanks for the well wishes about the GD test but I already know I have it. My doctor ordered to have it done at 24 weeks because of my previous history and my family history. I did the 1 hour thing at 11 AM and by 4 PM my doctor was on the phone telling me my levels were at the point where she isn't even going to bother making me go through the 3-hour test.
I've been pricking my finger for weeks now and my levels aren't horrendous or anything. It's just a huge hassle to have to deal with again.
Not to mention I don't have medical coverage (the only person covered on my husbands coverage at his work is him) ... testing strips are very expensive so I've just been getting them from the Diabetic Clinic, but they only give out strips in packs of 10 so I'm running there every few days because I have to test 3 times per day. Annoying!!

LittleSpy

Brittony -- Emma is so gorgeous!

LittleSpy

Wow Jules, sounds like lots of reasons to induce and no real reasons not to. I think I'd get on with it if I were you. :flowerforyou:

I really do think it's a logical decision and yet I'm still struggling with it. I feel like I'm having a hard time making a decision for no real reason and that's what's so frustrating to me. If I had valid arguments for and against that would be one thing but my argument for makes sense to me while my argument against is purely emotional. I don't know why I'm clinging to the emotional part so much. Then it starts making me think "Well, maybe there's a reason." But honestly, no, there's no reason. Just emotion. Bah! I'm actually starting to wonder if it's some deep seated subconscious me being terrified about her actually being here thing
See? Nuts.
Alright, I'm calling it -- Board hog!

Lleldiranne

Got midterm back this morning. 90% ... definitely better than 78% on the first one. Yay! If the 3rd is more like this one, I'll be sitting well for an A

Thoughts with all of you who are waiting for your babies. Rachael, hope the funeral goes/went well and you can relax and have the baby now

AnneElise

Maria- Sounds like your body is working up towards labor! Your LO will be coming soon. Let us know how your apt goes tomorrow if you make it there!

Julie- Sounds like your mind is saying one thing but you are holding out for some reason These things are very hard to figure out, nobody blames you for not knowing what you want… oh but it better not be for 50 bucks by the way (reading down later) emotional reasons can be legitimate ones too as long as your LO isn’t being hurt by it (and she isn’t).

Victoria- Hi, Happy 100 day mark!

Kacy- Hope things are going well.

Brittony- I was JUST thinking about you this morning and hoping things were going well. Emma is so cute! Breastfeeding is something that I am getting more and more worried about… I hope that it improves for you now that you have gotten more help! How is Emma doing besides that?

Caperfae- So your levels were high or low? Sorry, I just got up from a nap so I am not processing yet haha. Sorry about the insurance as well

So this is non-pregnancy related but I am SO excited it is working. In high school about 5 girls and I were very very close and we really still are. The one I have been close to for the longest times little sister passed away last July 20th (she was rock climbing out west and fell off a cliff). It was a very hard time for me because I had been so close to her as well. That being said my friend sisters passion was biking, she was obsessed. Another friend and myself have been working to organize a charity donation to wheels4life.org (give bikes to people in need in developing countries) and it is working out perfectly. We have gotten some awesome donations and will be able to give a good amount in her name. I am sending a card explaining the project to my friend Anna and her family so they know we are thinking of them. I have been working on it for awhile and so glad it is coming to be.

AnneElise

Julz- great job on the midterm!

pmaria10

Brittony: Emma is such a cutie pie!!

hkystar

Another craptastic apt. I went from 1 fingertip to 1 cm. Thats it. So it looks like Sat is going to be the day. I have to be at the hospital at 7am. I got the feeling from the dr its going to be a LONG day for me.

Her head is not engaged at all (she can move it around as much as she wants still). I felt like we were actually making some good progress but no.

Brittony - she is adorable.

MisdemeanorM

Brittony! What a cutie! Glad your recovery is short and sweet! I'm impressed that you are logging exercise. I have my 6 week tomorrow and haven't started back yet other than the occasional walking. I'm a super whimp when it comes to my period though - i DESPISE pads so I tend to do nothing but sit on the couch and be miserable for how uncomforatble I think they are. :laugh: I finally am more active this week now that the bleeding stopped. If you are a tampon user - know that about 2 weeks in your Dr might let you go to tampons since you don't have the same trauma as a vaginal birth. That was one perk to a C/S for me! Since the little one is in the hospital and the older one is at grandmas I'm thinking that I might have the chance to actually get to the gym a few times in the next couple weeks! I thought about going to spin Saturday, but then i thought that was still a bad idea! :laugh: :laugh: Still bruised down there for sure (mildly... but spin hurts on a normal who-ha day! :laugh: )!

I just mentioned to Dragonfly on the other board - get some lanolin if you don't have some already. Works wonders on the nipples!

MisdemeanorM

I have to admit that I laugh a little (at myself) while reading all the posts about wanting to be induced and be done early - I would have been pretty happy to have him be a week or so late - I would have gotten so much more work done! :laugh: :laugh: (I work well under pressure.)

Ellemenerva

This is just what I was looking for! I just joined MFP about a week ago, so while I'm at work, I dip in and out of some of the threads and I saw this one and it's exactly where my husband and I are at. We've been married for 3 years, living together for just over 1 year and we're now finally ready (as ready as we'll ever be) to have our first baby. It will be my second baby and my husband's first. However, I'm a little *ahem* overweight. I'm 6' tall and I've struggled with my weight my whole life. About 2 years ago, I did the phentermine thing, lost a TON of weight only to pile it all back on and then some, in less than 6 months (those damn Egyptians can COOK!). My son is 7 now and when I was pregnant with him, I had high blood pressure and was bedridden for the last 3 months of the pregnancy. I weighed 280lbs at the height of my pregnancy (10lbs. 9oz of that being baby) and I'm not looking to be there again. It's not healty for me and it's definitely not healthy for the baby.
So, I've decided that I need to get to a healthier weight and learn how to maintain it before we go down the baby road.

P.S. I also tend to overshare and over-explain, so don't be surprised if my posts are novel-esque.

LittleSpy

Mel - Part of my problem is that I can't work while I wait. I feel like I'm wasting so much leave. My supervisor keeps texting me to see how I'm doing and I feel like such a slacker telling her I still have no baby. :laugh:

Anne -- So awesome about your donation efforts!! What a fantastic way to remember and honor someone.

Maureen -- Ugh, I'm sorry about your appointment. The full moon is still on your (our!) side tomorrow. Oh, and guess what -- DOCTORS HAVE NO IDEA WHAT THEY'RE TALKING ABOUT! :laugh: I wasn't supposed to "make it" through last weekend, remember?

Julz -- YAY for an awesome grade on your midterm!! Quite a feat with pregnancy brain (quite a feat without it!).

I THINK I'm letting emotion win today. Trying to make this decision is stressing me out too much so I'm stepping away from it (avoidance is a great coping mechanism of mine :laugh:). And not making a decision today leaves me pretty much stuck until Monday morning unless something happens (labor or an emergency) before then. And if I'm going to wait until Monday morning, I may as well wait until my appointment Monday afternoon. I think labor will happen on its own before then which is why I'm leaving it. I apparently really value the surprise/spontaneity of labor and I just can't bring myself to let my idea of that go so easily. If I'm wrong and nothing happens this weekend then I'll probably elect induction when I go to my appointment on Monday and I'll probably be induced on Tuesday (or maybe not if I feel comfortable with what we learn from the u/s Monday). I'm not too concerned about going a couple days past my due date in terms of the possibility of placenta or cord problems. I hope I'm right or that if a problem does come up I'm able to recognize it. Not a logical decision, but a decision nonetheless.
Now you guys can all laugh heartily when you come back later to read I've scheduled an induction for tomorrow. :laugh:

Caperfae

Had a prenatal this afternoon.
BP is good and I lost 7 lbs. Wicked!!
She wants to see me again next week to monitor my glucose levels which are borderline needing insulin. I can deal with that as long as my BP is staying good I'm happy!

hkystar

I needed an upbeat thing after that apt. My sister finished the photos from my second maternity photo shoot. They were all pics of me and bf together. She did such a good job.

So I updated my profile photo.

MisdemeanorM

Julie - I can understand your "irrational" (not the right word... but...) thought of just waiting. I was really sad to be induced because I (providing I am prepared with work, the boy etc) was really looking forward to the spontaneity of labor. When will it come? Will water break or not? How long can I hold off before going to the hospital? Will my retard hubby try to take a "short cut" to the hospital like he did last time and have me almost try to kill him again when it turns out to NOT be a short cut? Who will win the guessing pool for a due date? How accurate is my "due date"... etc etc. You give some of that up when scheduling.

mukie89

julie- Whatever happens over the weekend keep us updated!! whatever your final decision is is whats meant to be goodluck:flowerforyou:

Katrina- Firstly i admire you for still getting everything done and seemingly overcoming every obstacle thus far. I think if your hubby read what you wrote hed totally understand! hopefully your hubby spends time to reflect on the whole situation like you seem to, might help him realise why the kids act how they do (like you said, normal for their age) and how he can be there for you even more.

Anne- Thats such a generous, kind and loving thing to do. makes me smile that there's people in the world like you

So ive been wondering, what would ya'll consider as being a healthy eating day/ a 'good' eating day? I dont have much to report except that my ex decided to offer his advice and tell me that i should be 'watching the pounds' after viewing my baby bump pics :noway: I held back the "ill kill you", and told him that ive actually been taking good care of myself THANK YOU VERY MUCH. i shouldnt have even responded but i think it always hurts to hear negative comments like that at a time when weight is an obvious thing on my mind

mukie89

Julie - Will my retard hubby try to take a "short cut" to the hospital like he did last time and have me almost try to kill him again when it turns out to NOT be a short cut? Who will win the guessing pool for a due date? How accurate is my "due date"... etc etc. You give some of that up when scheduling.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: ahh you just made my day