Why flirting on MFP is a bad idea..

CallMeMamaBoo

this could be a potentially great place for people to meet....seeking a common healthy lifestyle is a great way to start a relationship BUT I think along this journey it's different for men and women. Women can't feel real sexy with the lights on... and most men don't care until they can't find certain things...even with the light on. Jussayin' Some people (men) might think this place is the perfect pick up site... (who wouldn't with all the half naked pictures you see!)...while some women would rather die a painful death than let their future love interest see them 'less than perfect' in a 'more to love' sorta way... with all that being said....

who the freak cares? let people make their own mistakes...what good is a good lesson without doing something a little dirty along the way?

(I'm married so what would I really know about this anyway?)

RockinHorseRanch

I'm the Ms, these are mine.. I'm looking for Mr. like I said.

Now that...is hot. Ummm, would you settle for Mr Right Now

Have fun lady. There are tons of great people on this site. Life isn't meant to be serious.

Now beer is calling me...

LOL you sound like a sweety, enjoy your drink!:drinker:

mamijujuphat

Ok wait ...so are we talking about flirting or hooking up?..haha...either way to each their own...lol

LaJauna

I run a fairly small dating advice forum, and have three marriages from people who met on the site itself. Plus countless others who dated. One who realized she was at very least bi after meeting another forum member. They didn't sign up to meet someone, just to talk about dating and other off topic things. (My main site is a dating humor site, so some folks only joined for the laughs.) But in the course of reading each other's posts, they realized they had some things in common, started private messaging each other, met in person and fell in love. Similarly, a couple who I'm friends with met on Yahoo Games.

It happens. If I were single, I wouldn't actively LOOK for someone on MFP or any other forum, but I think any way to meet is great. There's certainly nothing wrong with seeing someone's true self with their guard down, as opposed to putting on a front and being on your best behavior like when most people first start dating.

My daughter met the love of her life on My Space. She never in her wildest dreams thought it would work out. They are getting ready to celebrate 4 yrs of marriage in November.

sagisun1969

Oh I know we're all beautiful! That's why we're trying so very hard to change what we look like...



I am beautiful and I want to continue to age gracefully....that's why I'm on here.

vdavis_89

I'm not single, but if I were... I think MFP would be the last place I'd be looking for love!

:laugh:

OMG this literally made me laugh out loud!!

vdavis_89

I met my fiance on myyearbook.com...... totally was not looking for love lol we'll be together for 2 years next weekend

vdavis_89

The Strokes anyone, to Meet Me in the Bathroom?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wZwdMSFbHM

I've been fat, I've been skinny, I've been Goth, 'Mrs. Cleaver', preppie... and through it all, I've been me. Does this mean that my ex-husband, the boyfriends, lovers, friends and family haven't known ME except for when I'm skinny?

I love the pole dancing bunny in your signature lol

chevy88grl

I run a fairly small dating advice forum, and have three marriages from people who met on the site itself. Plus countless others who dated. One who realized she was at very least bi after meeting another forum member. They didn't sign up to meet someone, just to talk about dating and other off topic things. (My main site is a dating humor site, so some folks only joined for the laughs.) But in the course of reading each other's posts, they realized they had some things in common, started private messaging each other, met in person and fell in love. Similarly, a couple who I'm friends with met on Yahoo Games.

It happens. If I were single, I wouldn't actively LOOK for someone on MFP or any other forum, but I think any way to meet is great. There's certainly nothing wrong with seeing someone's true self with their guard down, as opposed to putting on a front and being on your best behavior like when most people first start dating.

My daughter met the love of her life on My Space. She never in her wildest dreams thought it would work out. They are getting ready to celebrate 4 yrs of marriage in November.

I met the love of my life on Yearbook.com. Would I have ever thought I'd meet someone online, fall in love with them and now live with them?

Uh. No.

But. You never know where love will find you. *shrug* To each their own, I say.

LaJauna

Oh I know we're all beautiful! That's why we're trying so very hard to change what we look like...



I am beautiful and I want to continue to age gracefully....that's why I'm on here.

I have been married to the same amazing man for 37+ yrs. I am here to get healthy. At 56 yrs of age I am on the verge of all the diseases of older Americans. I don't want to live my life out of the medicine cabinet.

ziggiezed

Lol, very puzzled?????????????

ebramlett

Hell I like to have a good time and cut up! Call it what you will.

I am not very PC and dont want to be. I think its awesome if someone finds their special someone on here. Way cool!

Now that that has been said, I have a few cold Sammys (Sam Adam Summer Ales ) calling my name! Cheers

wanttogetskinny

Oh I know we're all beautiful! That's why we're trying so very hard to change what we look like...

Well, I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself, but lots of people actually have good confidence and self-esteem. Hopefully you will feel better soon.

Honey,did you miss all of the before and after pictures? that's what this site is all about, making a wonderful change, sorry you didn't understand that.

That's only part of it. There are MANY people here who aren't here to make a change in how they look. Rather they are here to learn how to get fit, how to eat right, to maintain their weight, or *SHOCKER* gain weight. It is NOT all about heavy people getting 'skinny'. And many of those who ARE heavy aren't getting skinny to feel 'better about themselves' but rather because they want to be healthier and avoid health complications.

Yes, many people post pictures....but that is one TINY part of the journey, and for many it's not even one of the important ones.

pmorgan813

I am newly single, and excited about meeting Mr. right and enjoying life. Even though I've noticed some flirty remarkes on this site, It's still reeking with " Forget about dating signs" I have come to the conclusion that it's like "bathroom meet.com" When you're at your worst, trying to recapture the "better you" and you are staring your potential love in the face, Well what's romantic about that! Another way to look at it, we're in a factory being prepped and honed & transformed into wonderful, attractive, beautiful people. Just not done yet. Oh I know we're supposed to be beautiful as we are, I'm just saying...

Do you work for UPS? Well you keep checking out my package...

Do you think guys who use pick up lines think with their d*icks? You do? Well, can you blow my mind then?

Listen, I get what you are saying (and no, I'm not drunk. Yet.) However, given physical appearance is only one small component of attractiveness I don't think there's any point waiting until you reach some mythical, magic goal weight. If you are single you are best off getting flirting quicker than a rat up a drainpipe (pardon the pun.) Perfect practice makes perfect.

And yes. I totally googled "bathroommeet.com"

I so wanted to google "bathroommeet.com" - did you learn anything worth while there?

ebramlett

Ok wait ...so are we talking about flirting or hooking up?..haha...either way to each their own...lol

Awesome! Agreed! hahaha

Summer_Rose

This thread has been an interesting read. I think that some guys, as well as some women may want to hold off a possible relationship until they are in better shape, or just plain feel better about themselves. I know of one MFP guy that would not post his picture until he lost 40 pounds. He was divorced, but just not ready to flirt, or date, or whatever until he got close to his goal. most folks on here are in a coasting mode to better themselves, nothing more.

Elzecat

I am newly single, and excited about meeting Mr. right and enjoying life. Even though I've noticed some flirty remarkes on this site, It's still reeking with " Forget about dating signs" I have come to the conclusion that it's like "bathroom meet.com" When you're at your worst, trying to recapture the "better you" and you are staring your potential love in the face, Well what's romantic about that! Another way to look at it, we're in a factory being prepped and honed & transformed into wonderful, attractive, beautiful people. Just not done yet. Oh I know we're supposed to be beautiful as we are, I'm just saying...

I'm confused.
I can't tell if you're upset that you've been flirted with on MFP but noone's asking you out on a date? Or you're annoyed that you've been flirted with, or not flirted with?

Thus, why I am confused. :huh:

I'm on MFP to get fit and healthy. I don't get your comment about people being here to transform themselves into wonderful attractive people--I already think my friends on here are wonderful attractive people, and I think I'm a wonderful, kind, attractive, smart, friendly, funny person--losing a few pounds isn't going to change that about me. I don't look at MPF as a dating site, but if I happened to click with someone I talked to on here, I would not automatically reject it because that person may have "seen" me at my worst--it would be no different than if I met them anywhere else in my life. It's all about being open to the possibilities.

elsham

Hey if someone wants me as I am now, all my craziness and insecurities and fat and whatnot, that's love man. When I first started this journey a year ago it was totally all about losing weight and looking good for other people. I'd say about 4 months in I said F everything, this is about ME, and stopped caring about how I appeared to others.That was when I started really enjoying every day, having fun, and meeting amazing people b/c I wasn't uptight and so conscious (did I spell that right?) of myself that I couldn't even do anything. Life's too short to wait until you're perfect to start living (says the 20 yr old, but hey, it's true!).

Bathroommeet.com? WTF?! The Strokes have a song called "meet me in the bathroom," does this have anything to do with that?

Promises, something something They'd say THATS OOOOK Long as we can celebraaaate ladidadida MEET ME IN THE BATHROOM THAT'S WHAT SHE SAID!!!! *dances out*



EDIT: sorry to the lady above who mentioned The Strokes. I didn't read through everything before I posted.

_beachgirl_

Damn, if flirting is a bad idea then I am in BIG trouble here.

RockinHorseRanch

I'm confused.
I can't tell if you're upset that you've been flirted with on MFP but noone's asking you out on a date? Or you're annoyed that you've been flirted with, or not flirted with?

Thus, why I am confused. :huh:

I'm on MFP to get fit and healthy. I don't get your comment about people being here to transform themselves into wonderful attractive people--I already think my friends on here are wonderful attractive people, and I think I'm a wonderful, kind, attractive, smart, friendly, funny person--losing a few pounds isn't going to change that about me. I don't look at MPF as a dating site, but if I happened to click with someone I talked to on here, I would not automatically reject it because that person may have "seen" me at my worst--it would be no different than if I met them anywhere else in my life. It's all about being open to the possibilities.
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Now you have me confused.. you said on your profile that you want to; step out from behind the camera for a change and look good in front of it, but now your' saying you're here to get fit and healthy. So I really can't tell if you want to be healthy or just look good in front of the camera. Well I'm guessing it's a combination, so would it be fair to assume it's a combination of events that led the OP to say flirting on MFP is a bad idea?

RockinHorseRanch

Sorry about the last post, the quotes got deleted.. I'm getting tired..:yawn:

RozeGod

I am newly single, and excited about meeting Mr. right and enjoying life. Even though I've noticed some flirty remarkes on this site, It's still reeking with " Forget about dating signs" I have come to the conclusion that it's like "bathroom meet.com" When you're at your worst, trying to recapture the "better you" and you are staring your potential love in the face, Well what's romantic about that! Another way to look at it, we're in a factory being prepped and honed & transformed into wonderful, attractive, beautiful people. Just not done yet. Oh I know we're supposed to be beautiful as we are, I'm just saying...

Do you work for UPS? Well you keep checking out my package...

Do you think guys who use pick up lines think with their d*icks? You do? Well, can you blow my mind then?


HILARIOUS!!


You made me laugh when I wasn't sure it was even possible...thanks!

Listen, I get what you are saying (and no, I'm not drunk. Yet.) However, given physical appearance is only one small component of attractiveness I don't think there's any point waiting until you reach some mythical, magic goal weight. If you are single you are best off getting flirting quicker than a rat up a drainpipe (pardon the pun.) Perfect practice makes perfect.

And yes. I totally googled "bathroommeet.com"

Elzecat

I'm confused.
I can't tell if you're upset that you've been flirted with on MFP but noone's asking you out on a date? Or you're annoyed that you've been flirted with, or not flirted with?

Thus, why I am confused. :huh:

I'm on MFP to get fit and healthy. I don't get your comment about people being here to transform themselves into wonderful attractive people--I already think my friends on here are wonderful attractive people, and I think I'm a wonderful, kind, attractive, smart, friendly, funny person--losing a few pounds isn't going to change that about me. I don't look at MPF as a dating site, but if I happened to click with someone I talked to on here, I would not automatically reject it because that person may have "seen" me at my worst--it would be no different than if I met them anywhere else in my life. It's all about being open to the possibilities.

Now you have me confused.. you said on your profile that you want to; step out from behind the camera for a change and look good in front of it, but now your' saying you're here to get fit and healthy. So I really can't tell if you want to be healthy or just look good in front of the camera. Well I'm guessing it's a combination, so would it be fair to assume it's a combination of events that led the OP to say flirting on MFP is a bad idea?
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Well thanks for reading my profile page I guess lol...I can want to be fit and healthy AND look good both in front of the camera, where I used to hide behind it...it's not an either/or. But originally, yes, I wanted to lose weight...now I am training for a half marathon. Different goals...

But yeah I guess posting that flirting on MFP is a bad idea, means that it was a bad idea for you? not sure what you meant by the whole original post, guess I'm just confused still

amberdaniels

I am married, but I get what you are saying. Before I was married some of the places some people would try to flirt...for that matter even after I was married...I mean really?!?!?!?! Come on...support and encourage me not hit on me! LOL!

TDGee

Funnybunnyboo

oh boy.....this isnt match.com

It's not? I'm outta here in that case. I thought there was something strange about this site.OMFG
NOT MATCH.COM?????
u know wat,done that it's crap,I love to flirt,I love to chat,I love it that people r honest(not like on match.com) I like that we see the worst and the best,I like all the cheekiness!!wats not to like,and if I get into something serious,well is up to me!!!(ps,all double entendres welcome!)
So here is the the best site for all of the above reasons,ya get out wat ya put in!!
Xx

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

MyMakeOver

I flirt alot, but I'm fast.. you probably wont even see it...:bigsmile:

Stephanie08

OK - so thank you ALL for this fantastic Sunday morning reading material :happy:

I laughed :laugh:

I cried :sad:

well I didn't really cry...

I learned some things :noway:

but I REFUSE to google bathroommeet.com for fear that my eyes will probably start bleeding

LittleSpy

Oh I know we're all beautiful! That's why we're trying so very hard to change what we look like...

I'm sure people join MFP for all kinds of reasons but many (most?) of us joined MFP to be healthier, not solely to change our appearance.

albinogorilla

There is no harm in flirting.....we are all grown ups. Plus it is a good vote of confidence to be complimented on your appearance. There are too many pretty girls though and too little time.... sorry if I missed some of you. :-)