Why flirting on MFP is a bad idea..
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I'm in who wants to flirt?????? P.S. No DUDES
Aww! C'mon...my pecs..your pecs...
Ok...I can't even joke like that...I think I just threw up in my mouth a lil =/.
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Panda Jack for President!!!!!!
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This covers a lot of it too. If you hate cows with a passion...you don't go hang out on a cow lover forum...and you certainly don't want to date someone from a cow lover forum...because it's a recipe for disaster. However, if you happen to be a member of 'Die Cow Die! - An Online Forum for Those With Cow Aggression Tendancies'...and you meet someone, it could be a recipe for a happy, beef free life.
Get my point? I'm not one to cut off any one part of my life from another...it's all me, and it all works together to make me who I am. If I met someone from this site and we clicked...GREAT! If not, I'm single and I'll have fun meeting people anyway. Worst case I make some great friends, you know?
What Cris said. Totally. I flirt like a mofo. Young, old, fat, skinny, I don't really care.
Flirting makes me feel better, and it makes THEM feel better, so why not? If someone happened to truly click with me, then sure, I'd be willing to see where it went.
P.S. Heeeyyyyy ladies. How you doin?
Yes, I stole the line from Joey. What can I say, it works
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This covers a lot of it too. If you hate cows with a passion...you don't go hang out on a cow lover forum...and you certainly don't want to date someone from a cow lover forum...because it's a recipe for disaster. However, if you happen to be a member of 'Die Cow Die! - An Online Forum for Those With Cow Aggression Tendancies'...and you meet someone, it could be a recipe for a happy, beef free life.
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Honey came in and she caught me red-handed
Creeping with the girl next door
Picture this, now we were both butt-naked
banging on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had
Given her an extra key
All this time she was standing there
She never took her eyes off me....
kk back to the topic... This is the most pointless topic I have ever read. Do what you want people. It's cyberspace. People meet here everyday and find loving, supportive relationships.. isn't that want you want in a relationship anyway?0 -
okay, I laughed my way through all the responses. I am married and happily, but if I was single, I would see nothing wrong with flirting in a friendly way. When the right one comes along does it really matter where it happens. I mean geez, how is flirting with someone on a website designed to get yourself healthy worse than flirting with some random person in a bar. You probably have a better sense of the person here than you do at the bar. If you don't want to be flirted with block or ignore them. And even though I am happily married it still makes me feel good to be checked out. It's human nature to feel pleasure from being admired or have postive attention showered on us0
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:noway: :noway: :noway: :noway: HUH?Honey came in and she caught me red-handed
Creeping with the girl next door
Picture this, now we were both butt-naked
banging on the bathroom floor
How could I forget that I had
Given her an extra key
All this time she was standing there
She never took her eyes off me....0 -
I have not gotten any suggestive PMs from it yet,
Pffffft. That's nothing mate. In the entire time I have been posting here I have NEVER:
1) had a lewd, rude, crude or even deluded PM as a result of a forum post
2) had someone PM me "anonymously" saying my fitness goals are rdiculous and I must eat my young as a result
3) carry over a flaming session from the board on to a PM (chickens)
4) offer me out for a fight for being rude (see 3 above)
5) had a beachbody coach try to sell me Shakeology (no, I am not interested numbnuts)
In fact, in my whole MFP career posters have been nothing but nice, welcoming or complimentary. I get dozens of friend requests every month even though my profile states I don't accept them. I have never experienced such a nice, friendly bunch on a forum before. I feel compelled therefore to say only this:
what the hell is wrong with you people ?!?!?
Ladies - if you are going to pm me at least do me the courtesy of being naked when you do it.
Gents - don't agree with me on anything. It only soups up my massive heid.
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this site is a study in itself....what an effed up bunch of people...0
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this site is a study in itself....what an effed up bunch of people...
I know right? It's like you and I are the only sane people on here. By the way. How you doin'?
On a serious note, niceness is a wonderful trait to have. However, when it become pathological then you have to ask yourself if it niceness at all or or just uncomfortable emotions being repressed. Sometimes it is good to allow yourself to experience the whole range of emotions, be it anger, disappointment, resentment, jealousy whatever. How you then choose to deal with these emotions then dictates your emotional health.
Nobody is nice ALL the time. Neither should you have to be...0 -
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Nobody is nice ALL the time. Neither should you have to be...
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Well said, I'm visualizing a new thread .... Why I don't feel nice today/Why I feel nice today.. can you imagine all the emotions spewing in, It would be a kicker, I just know it!:happy:0 -
Seriously... this is a weightloss/support/fitness site NOT a friggin dating site...
Personally, I think some people have to get a life. I had to delete a few of my friends on this (don't accept males) because these ladies were in the late 30's and 40's and starting up these crued sexual threads/updates on their pages expecting men to oggle at them, write back just as creudly and start a whole "what will u do to my body" kind of thing....like come on they must think they are the next best thing because they have the "cofnidence" to do this on a site....
These are the same women who speak openly about their marriages and children in the next post......
Do these women need to flaunt themselves and portray themselves in this way so that guys will tell them how gorgeous, hot and sexy they are to feel better about themselves?
Each to their own but if your down with that kinda theing then thats fine but NOT ON MFP.... there are girls of 16 on this site and seriously the majority of us are on this for support not do not want to log in and see mature women fluanting themselves openly to men that are obviously on this for that reason...
Google it and find a site that suits ur needs and quit lowering the tone of MFP.......0 -
Seriously... this is a weightloss/support/fitness site NOT a friggin dating site...
Personally, I think some people have to get a life. I had to delete a few of my friends on this (don't accept males) because these ladies were in the late 30's and 40's and starting up these crued sexual threads/updates on their pages expecting men to oggle at them, write back just as creudly and start a whole "what will u do to my body" kind of thing....like come on they must think they are the next best thing because they have the "cofnidence" to do this on a site....
These are the same women who speak openly about their marriages and children in the next post......
Do these women need to flaunt themselves and portray themselves in this way so that guys will tell them how gorgeous, hot and sexy they are to feel better about themselves?
Each to their own but if your down with that kinda theing then thats fine but NOT ON MFP.... there are girls of 16 on this site and seriously the majority of us are on this for support not do not want to log in and see mature women fluanting themselves openly to men that are obviously on this for that reason...
Google it and find a site that suits ur needs and quit lowering the tone of MFP.......
Your picture kinda takes away from your whole post....I have no problem with you having a suggestive picture, I just would have changed it before you got up on your soapbox.0 -
Boom! Roasted.
Your picture kinda takes away from your whole post....I have no problem with you having a suggestive picture, I just would have changed it before you got up on your soapbox.Seriously... this is a weightloss/support/fitness site NOT a friggin dating site...
Do these women need to flaunt themselves and portray themselves in this way so that guys will tell them how gorgeous, hot and sexy they are to feel better about themselves?
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Theres nothing crued about my profile...
1) I dont speak about sex, threesomes, body parts and THEN in the next post speak about my children and husband...
2) I don't flaunt my body parts all over MFP or worse still crop certain body parts for photos
3) I don't accept males so my photos (2 of my face) are for my female friends who also aren't into the creudness
4) I don't flirt with every male friend that adds me
5) I don't start discussions on "fantasys" and let it get to the point of sleezy..
So for you to think my profile picture is "suggestive" then you have a lot to learn........0 -
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MSF:
1) had a lewd, rude, crude or even deluded PM as a result of a forum post
I'll get to work on that then you sexy old goat
Good pointSeaside:
Your picture kinda takes away from your whole post....I have no problem with you having a suggestive picture, I just would have changed it before you got up on your soapbox.
Flirting is fine if it doesn't make the other party uncomfortable, isn't excessively graphic, is posted in the correct threads, is regarded as banter. I'm sometimes guilty of pushing my own ruleset with some of the friends I have on Mfp - but I'm only here most of the time to log my stats, and make light hearted comments. I'm fortunate not to need the support aspects that Mfp can also offer, and I certainly don't think it's a dating site, (think I'd want my money back if it was
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Some people will always take liberties on any site though, so if someone is bothering you, or making inappropriate public remarks - get the mods to handle it, that's what they're for. If that isn't the case, stop belly aching.0 -
I don't think that anyone would suggest that bee-stung lips are raunchy by any means, but I totally understand where seasidebeachgirl is coming from. Let's review:
Seaside states she has no problem with the picture, but would've changed it. I think what we have here is a nomenclature misunderstanding.Do these women need to flaunt themselves and portray themselves in this way so that guys will tell them how gorgeous, hot and sexy they are to feel better about themselves?
'Sexy' and 'raunchy' are not the same thing. 'Sexy' is loosely defined as, 'having sex appeal' whereas 'raunchy' would be loosely defined as 'tasteless' or 'classless.' I could build a Venn diagram of things that are both 'sexy' and 'raunchy,' but I won't waste time (and let's face it...can't think of anything on MFP that hits both).
My own opinion of your stance would involve an idiom regarding riding a tall equine, but I am sure that my opinion doesn't faze you (and I don't expect it to). I love the "stereotypes exist for a reason" argument, but not accepting friend requests on the basis of gender is pretentious at best and, more accurately, sophomoric. I don't care who your pictures are for, but if you are making demographic generalizations then I would counter with, "You have a lot to learn."
By the way, your profile picture *is* sexy. It has sex appeal. That is all.
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I don't think that anyone would suggest that bee-stung lips are raunchy by any means, but I totally understand where seasidebeachgirl is coming from. Let's review:
Seaside states she has no problem with the picture, but would've changed it. I think what we have here is a nomenclature misunderstanding.Do these women need to flaunt themselves and portray themselves in this way so that guys will tell them how gorgeous, hot and sexy they are to feel better about themselves?
'Sexy' and 'raunchy' are not the same thing. 'Sexy' is loosely defined as, 'having sex appeal' whereas 'raunchy' would be loosely defined as 'tasteless' or 'classless.' I could build a Venn diagram of things that are both 'sexy' and 'raunchy,' but I won't waste time (and let's face it...can't think of anything on MFP that hits both).
My own opinion of your stance would involve an idiom regarding riding a tall equine, but I am sure that my opinion doesn't faze you (and I don't expect it to). I love the "stereotypes exist for a reason" argument, but not accepting friend requests on the basis of gender is pretentious at best and, more accurately, sophomoric. I don't care who your pictures are for, but if you are making demographic generalizations then I would counter with, "You have a lot to learn."
By the way, your profile picture *is* sexy. It has sex appeal. That is all.
-wtk
Yeah...what he said...0 -
I think a lot of it may come from just trying to be encouraging and lift people's spirits. If I see someone's lost weight this week, I may throw in a "great job hot stuff" to help make them feel even better about it and keep up that momentum.0
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By the way, your profile picture *is* sexy. It has sex appeal. That is all.
-wtk
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^^^^ Exactly why I don't accept males.... that is all.0 -
By the way, your profile picture *is* sexy. It has sex appeal. That is all.
-wtk
^^^^ Exactly why I don't accept males.... that is all.
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I think it's sexy as hell as well! 0 -
Well said, I'm visualizing a new thread .... Why I don't feel nice today/Why I feel nice today.. can you imagine all the emotions spewing in, It would be a kicker, I just know it
It will tank sweetpea. I guess its part of the "journey" for some people to tap into or confront the dark sides of their characters and accept it is there. Will they do so out in the open? No. Most people seem content to watch the shadows flicker on the walls of the cave....I had to delete a few of my friends on this (don't accept males) because these ladies were in the late 30's and 40's and starting up these crued sexual threads/updates on their pages expecting men to oggle at them, write back just as creudly and start a whole "what will u do to my body" kind of thing...
Names! Give me names! I can do a masterclass in innuendo. By the way. I accept NO ONE. That's how badass I am. I am fed up of being objectified you see...I'll get to work on that then you sexy old goat
Oh Atty you smooth talker. You give me more wood than a double bass.0 -
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some of the friends I have on Mfp
*stomps off*
Thought I was the only one...........0 -
I want a duck billed platypus
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I would never flirt,thats just WRONG WRONG WRONG, but on the other hand nothing beats stalking.0
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To the OP:
Well, no this is not a dating site, but people meet where people gather. If your logic were applied to the rest of the world, we would never be able to date anyone we met through work, or at the grocery store, or at the gym because those aren't "dating sites" either.
Personally, I'm thankful that I am not restricted to bars and church singles groups for meeting new friends. If you don't want to develop a relationship with someone who is being real about themselves, that's your business. But please, stay out of mine.0 -
I would never flirt,thats just WRONG WRONG WRONG, but on the other hand nothing beats stalking.
/sigh
Some people have all the luck - I don't even have one stalker
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