Deleting friends

SenoraMacias

Do any of you ever delete friends on here? I'm considering deleting a few who hardly ever log in, aren't actively losing weight, and just generally are not supportive. What do you think? Is this mean?

kater8er

A bit choosy, aren't we? Yes it's mean...Why does it matter if they aren't actively losing weight?

yeahfatty

we're all adults .. atleast according to the website requirements. ;-) .. so no .. well atleast not in my book but maybe i'm just a cold hearted *****, who knows!

thisismynewmindset

I wouldn't delete someone just because they aren't actively losing weight, but I have deleted a few here and there who haven't logged on in ages.

BeautifulScarsWECHANGED

I go through about once a month and delete people who haven't logged on in 3 plus weeks. I keep everybody else.

quitmakingexcuses

Totally not! If you're looking for really motivated people to keep you on track, I don't see the big deal in choosing who is gonna help you through. If you're in it for just friends then who cares?

Becky1971

I don't think it's mean at all. You have to do what's going to motivate you. I delete friends here and facebook, because I don't had them for the purpose of numbers. If there is no interaction then I delete them. I do make exceptions if I know something is going on, or whatever, but if I know that then it means there has been communication.

kell_riley

I delete people who don't log in for over two weeks, but don't if there not loosing.
I've got a few friends I could delete for being unsupportive but I've not done that either.

It's your 'friend' list do what you want! Chances are they won't realise and your not likely to meet them anyway!

Rikki444

Feel free to hit 'delete'.

JeffGDDG

I think you should use MFP however it makes YOU feel comfortable. Delete away if you want, no hard feelings.

mariedingle

I don't think it's mean at all. They obviously aren't really in to this and this is all about supporting and cheering our friends on. I doubt that they'll even notice if you delete them.

getsveltEagain

I go through about once a month and delete people who haven't logged on in 3 plus weeks. I keep everybody else.

I delete friends when they haven't logged on in a certain time frame for multiple times. I have also been know to delete a "friend" for NEVER eating over 1000 calories. These are my personal beliefs about finding commited people who want to make their life healthy. But I don't delete due to a person for not actively losing weight.

kater8er

One time I had a friend who didn't log in for a few weeks and it was bc she had a family emergency! And right as she's trying to get back on the wagon, she logs into MFP and all her friends have deleted her. I don't see the point of deleting. If they're not logging in, you don't have to comment on their stuff, there's nothing to comment on!

femmerides

I go through about once a month and delete people who haven't logged on in 3 plus weeks. I keep everybody else.

that's how i do it.

megz4987

I delete people when they haven't logged in for over a week, attention seekers, whiners, people who aren't losing weight healthily when they requested me for support in recovery and seem to have no interest in actually recovering.

It's your friendslist, you can do with it what you please!

MsQt

This is a support website so that's what we're here to do and if you aren't doing your part then I give you up to 4days to interact with me. After that, you're done and I keep moving because I refuse to stop

JStarnes

Every couple of weeks I delete anybody that hasn't logged in 20+ days.

imgone324

This is your weight-loss & health journey....keep the people around you that motivate and support you and drop those that don't. Add me, I'm on here every day and if I stop you can delete me knowing I had it coming.

stroutman81

I deleted a ton of people in the past so I could accept new ones. MFP used to cap the friend list. They've since gotten rid of it or moved it up... thankfully.

OneBryteSmile

I don't think it's mean at all and I have deleted people for many different reasons. Never because they aren't losing weight though. If someone hasn't logged in for a while I will try to write on their wall and encourage them and give them time to come back. I want people who are committed and motivated on my team and if I feel that someone is not then I have no problem deleting them. If someone adds me as a friend and I find that I am always encouraging and supporting them but never get the same in return, I do eventually delete them.

RMinVA

Do any of you ever delete friends on here? I'm considering deleting a few who hardly ever log in, aren't actively losing weight, and just generally are not supportive. What do you think? Is this mean?

If they haven't been logging in, they probably won't even notice.

beautybrainsbooty

you know what you need chica. Do what works for you BUT the ones you delete might be the very ones that help you in the long run. Food for thought. Be well!

SimplyDeLish

I delete those that don't log in, that are very negative (not those having a rough time), that say they want to lose weight yet their diary is full of fast food and junk food on a daily basis, or that never bother to comment. I'm not one who wants a ton of friends on here...just a few good ones who motivate me to be the best I can be - and I'll do my best to do the same for them.

You know what/who works for you.

KevDaniel

No I don't delete unless they are rude.. but it does no harm to have them on so I usually don't mess with it.

tashjs21

I delete if someone hasn't logged in for months. I try to be understanding of not logging in for days or even weeks as I have had times where life has been hectic and I have fallen off the MFP wagon but may still be doing my thing in Real life.

I have also deleted people that started out as friends but maybe our outlooks or beliefs changed along the way of this journey.

I've been deleted off of people's list so I can tell you, they might notice.

In the end, it is your journey and you have every right to chose the people who motivate you and help you along the way. :drinker:

brewingaz

I'm a deleter. But I've been deleted by many too. I've got no problem cuttin' the list down from time to time. I try to keep my list down to people who either inspire me in some way or another, someone who makes me laugh, or someone who intereacts with me and vice versa.

MissO﹠A

Every now and then, I'll delete someone who has been MIA for 2+ months. More often than not, I'm the one getting deleted. XD

LeeKetty1176

delete away !

Bigpelly8

Delete whomever you choose. I prefer to only have poeple who take this journey as seriosly as I do. If they do not provide the same support and motivation that I do, than it usually doesn't work. As long as they log in consistently, and I don;t see red next to there name, I typically will keep a friend around!! Don;t feel bad if you have to cut someone, sometimes there just isn't a good mix.

_SusieQ_

Do any of you ever delete friends on here? I'm considering deleting a few who hardly ever log in, aren't actively losing weight, and just generally are not supportive. What do you think? Is this mean?

I guess it depends on WHY you have friends on here. I have a Facebook account that is for fun. For ME, I am on MFP for a purpose. I am so grateful for the people I have found on here willing to be my friend. I have picked them or they picked me mostly b/c of a common goal, an inspirational story, or the ability to make me laugh through the process. I have NO problem deleting people that have not logged on in a while or aren't taking this seriously. That is why I signed on here, and that is why I have gathered friends. To help encourage me, motivate me, and i do the same for them, at least I hope they think I do!

AngelsKisses75

It is your program do with it what you will. It sounds to me like you are questioning this a lot. So maybe stop and ask your self how you would want someone to treat you if you were not meeting their needs as a MFP friend. How would you want them to address this situation if the shoe was on the other foot? :flowerforyou: Best of wishes on this journey and with this decision. :drinker: