Deleting friends

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  • carlie_carl
    carlie_carl Posts: 285
    if they are not using the site anyhow its not like they will notice, I wouldnt worry about if you look mean, do whats best for you, even if you have to be mean in situations, I delete negative people off my facebook, I feel mean for it but I dont want negativity in my life (seems arrogant but it can be draining when its constant) so I see no problem with it, good luck and dont worry :)
  • BeachyBecky
    BeachyBecky Posts: 74 Member
    I just deleted a few who don't bother to write or inspire me. Feel free to add me though, I need good supporters. LOL!
  • LeisureRunner
    LeisureRunner Posts: 185
    I delete those that don't log in, that are very negative (not those having a rough time), that say they want to lose weight yet their diary is full of fast food and junk food on a daily basis, or that never bother to comment. I'm not one who wants a ton of friends on here...just a few good ones who motivate me to be the best I can be - and I'll do my best to do the same for them.

    You know what/who works for you.


    ^^^ THIS
  • Z_I_L_L_A
    Z_I_L_L_A Posts: 2,399 Member
    Do any of you ever delete friends on here? I'm considering deleting a few who hardly ever log in, aren't actively losing weight, and just generally are not supportive. What do you think? Is this mean?

    If they aren't active anymore or are not a support friend then yeah delete them. I guess it depends on the circumstances. If they treat it like facebook to them and its all a social thing instead of a support thing then yeah. If they end up with 100's of friends on MFP how could they help support you or you them?
  • skierxjes
    skierxjes Posts: 926 Member
    I give my pals a week to log in. No activity for a week, they're gone unless they post something saying they will be gone for so long.
  • dsjohndrow
    dsjohndrow Posts: 1,820 Member
    Do any of you ever delete friends on here? I'm considering deleting a few who hardly ever log in, aren't actively losing weight, and just generally are not supportive. What do you think? Is this mean?

    I don't bother deleting them.
  • bjfmade
    bjfmade Posts: 543 Member
    I delete when they haven't logged in for a couple weeks. It is my friends list, therefore I make the rules. I will also delete someone that consistently makes horrible food choices and then whines about what they are going to do about it. I do try to send encouraging words, but if it constantly falls on deaf ears, then I am wasting my time.
  • lucentabella
    lucentabella Posts: 114 Member
    I don't know that they would notice, if they're not logging in to MFP. It's your friend's list, so you get the final say in who's on that list. I don't think I'd want to log in everyday and see a friend feed full of "so and so hasn't logged in for X days." That would be distracting from the updates you want to read. Someone can always ask, again, to be your MFP friend. I wouldn't necessarily delete someone for not losing weight. I can understand only wanting to keep those whose goals are similar to yours around you. It helps to keep you focused and provides an empathetic support system.
  • cpow81
    cpow81 Posts: 114
    I am not actively losing weight b/c I made goal last month. I would hate for friends to delete me b/c of that. I am still on supporting everyone and would still like some support during my maintenance period. I don't see anything wrong with that.

    I have only deleted 1 or 2 people due to inactivity or no support. Do what's best for you.
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
    Do what you gotta do.
  • cramernh
    cramernh Posts: 3,335 Member
    Do any of you ever delete friends on here? I'm considering deleting a few who hardly ever log in, aren't actively losing weight, and just generally are not supportive. What do you think? Is this mean?

    Honestly speaking here... life gets in the way for many people. I have this wonderful person in my friend's list who has been gone almost a week dealing with some pretty intense family matters.... Im one of the few that knew about it because she didnt want to be openly public because - well, she has a bunch of strangers on her list that would do exactly what you are doing - making an assumption that they dont care anymore....She is also someone who doesnt care if she gets deleted because if people feel like they have to know every little detail about what she is doing, that gets pretty invasive...

    If someone is going to start doing UNHEALTHY things like fasting, HCG, they confess to actually being anorexic, bulemic or fall into that EDNOS category, I dont want anything to do with them.... I just deleted someone today for coming out and admitting they were fasting - they are up to 26 hours of fasting right now...

    But, if a person who traditionally is on here, doing what they need to do, say an occasional 'hello', thats perfectly fine. But I dont care if they are committed to MFP - its their choice to take a break from it.... and if they run into things that require priority, Im not going to jump the gun and assume they arent committed anymore and just delete them..... Its rather judgemental, in my books.
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    I wouldn't delete people unless they weren't friends or were being rude to me. Some people have things in there lives come up, not everyone can afford internet or the last phone technology. Just food for thought.
  • Articeluvsmemphis
    Articeluvsmemphis Posts: 1,987 Member
    i never delete. recently I've had plenty friends log back in after a hiatus for whatever reason, and that doesn't bother me. so to each his own
  • HardHunk
    HardHunk Posts: 22
    I'm a newbie here, so have not faced deleting friends. But I can recall from facebook, 95% of friends are useless :)
  • PeaceLoveVeggies
    PeaceLoveVeggies Posts: 673 Member
    I wouldn't delete someone just because they aren't actively losing weight, but I have deleted a few here and there who haven't logged on in ages.

    This.
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    I am a active duty military and a mom of two kids. There are things sometimes that take precedence over me getting online and logging calories sometimes I log it on paper or just get so busy I dont have time. Personally speaking it would hurt my feelings extremely if I logged in to find people deleted me because "LIFE" happened. Just saying
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    you can add and then delete me for practice if you want to ;p
  • nakabi
    nakabi Posts: 589 Member
    Do it!!!
  • LeSsOvMe
    LeSsOvMe Posts: 115 Member
    If they are not supportive or active I delete them. I do have a few that I will never delete no matter how long they are inactive. :)
  • Fit4_Life
    Fit4_Life Posts: 828 Member
    HA!

    someone had deleted me, because I wasn't "Logging in" for 5 days.. It was over the holidays. I personally think it's rude...especially within 5 days. Oh well...I didn't care for her anyway. :devil: Not a loss.
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    I purge everyone who skips for 3 days or I find generally annoying for one reason or another.
  • heatherlh83
    heatherlh83 Posts: 76 Member
    Ehh the more the merrier, it's not that serious. I've gone through my list a couple times and deleted a few people who hadn't logged on in months but I wouldn't delete someone for being quiet. I don't need everyone on my list to tell me I'm doing a great job. There are some people who get something out of this by quietly reading other people's posts while they're doing their thing and that's fine with me. I would be more likely to delete someone for being annoying. Even then, I'd probably just hide them from my news feed lol.
  • HugznKiki
    HugznKiki Posts: 170 Member
    Hellz yeah I would delete them like its hot...this is your journey to success and if they are not contributing in the same manner as you are...they are a waste of space!! I also delete complainers who are always filled with excuses and don't even try to succeed. You have to be focused to win this battle and when your surrounded by people who don't support, don't lose weight, and don't eat clean..whats the point?
  • quigonnjae
    quigonnjae Posts: 399
    Not at all .. I do it regularly ..
  • gnikki0
    gnikki0 Posts: 44 Member
    I try to keep people motivated and like the same in return...that's why there is communication and "friends" on MFP! It's your list, don't feel bad!
  • advan031
    advan031 Posts: 25 Member
    I cry every time I get deleted.
  • kardowling
    kardowling Posts: 221 Member
    Nope..they will be back..Oh Yes, they WILL be back. Everyone falls off track sometime and will need help when back. Unconditional!!:smile:
  • kardowling
    kardowling Posts: 221 Member
    Oh, except if they are exhibiting Eating Disorders i.e anorexia, etc. They need more help than I can give. I'll direct them that way and let them know I'm removing them. I feel bad for them, and hope for the best.
  • Fat_Bottomed_Girl
    Fat_Bottomed_Girl Posts: 355 Member
    I'm blonde, so I get confused by too many friends, and I actually try to PAY ATTENTION to what people are up to. I delete if we don't EVER speak or they are not active in posting at all. It's nothing personal, I'm just not into "friend collecting". I don't consider people that I never talk to in real life "friends". -You gotta SAY something!
  • MassiveDelta
    MassiveDelta Posts: 3,271 Member
    A bit choosy, aren't we? Yes it's mean...Why does it matter if they aren't actively losing weight?

    We are the average of the 10 closest relationships we maintain. When you surround yourself with success it promotes success. you absolutely should dump the people that drag you down. However I caution you to make sure they are chronic negative relationships and not just a good relationship that is struggling.
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